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  • Getting Over Your Ex: A Breakup Recovery Guide for Highly Sensitive Women ( with Sarah Curnoles)

    Breakups can be especially challenging for highly sensitive people, whose nervous systems are deeply attuned to connection and co-regulation. In this episode, Elizabeth sits down with breakup recovery coach Sarah Curnoles to explore why healing from heartbreak is essential before jumping back into dating.

    Sarah shares her own powerful breakup story and the process she now uses to help clients move from heartbreak to healing. Together, they discuss nervous system regulation, emotional processing, reclaiming personal power, letting go of obsession with an ex, and creating a future that feels even more exciting than the one that was lost. If you're struggling to move on from a breakup—or wondering whether you're truly ready to date again—this conversation offers hope, practical tools, and a roadmap for recovery.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    • Why highly sensitive people often experience breakups more intensely
    • The role of nervous system regulation in heartbreak recovery
    • How to tell the difference between processing feelings and overthinking them
    • Signs you're genuinely moving on from an ex
    • Why a breakup doesn't mean a relationship was a failure
    • How to stop seeing your ex as the only source of love, connection, or happiness
    • The importance of reclaiming your power and creating an exciting vision for your future
    • Why healing before dating again can help you create healthier relationships
    • Connect with Sarah:

      Free breakthrough call scheduling link: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=13002720&appointmentType=2184073

      Website: https://sarahcurnoles.com/

      Sarah's meetup group (where she hangs most often!): https://www.meetup.com/breakup-and-divorce-support/?eventOrigin=your_groups

      https://www.instagram.com/sarahcurnoles/

      💗 Want my free guide “5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid”? Access it HERE

      💗 Got a dating or relationship question for me? Tell me a bit about your journey — I read every message. Reach out anytime at [email protected]

      💗 Ready to call in your true love? Book a free 1-hour discovery call HERE

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      36 min
    • 5 Questions to Ask on a First Date (with Chai Benson)

      In this episode, Elizabeth sits down with therapist Chai Benson to talk about how to assess someone on a first date—before you get emotionally invested or waste your time. They break down the key questions to ask, how to spot red and green flags early, and why dating with intention is essential (especially for highly sensitive women). If you’ve ever found yourself caught up in chemistry without clarity, this episode will help you date with more discernment and confidence.

      Show Notes
      • Why assessing a first date matters (and saves you time + energy)
      • How to decide who is even worth going on a date with
      • The importance of knowing what you want before dating
      • The 5 key questions to ask on a first date
      • How to tell if someone is truly seeing you
      • Work-life balance and what it reveals about relationship potential
      • Leadership vs. go-with-the-flow dynamics in dating
      • Why talking about past relationships is actually a good thing
      • How someone handles conflict (and why it matters early)
      • Red flags to watch for (incongruence, blame, dismissiveness)
      • Green flags to look for (self-awareness, curiosity, emotional presence)
      • How to avoid getting lost in fantasy and stay grounded in reality
      • What “true love” really means—and how to recognize it
      • Links for Chai Benson: 

        Private therapy practice website: LBCTherapy.Services

        Marigold's website: MarigoldMM.org

        IG: @marigoldm_m

        💗 Want my free guide “5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid”? Access it HERE

        💗 Got a dating or relationship question for me? Tell me a bit about your journey — I read every message. Reach out anytime at [email protected]

        💗 Ready to call in your true love? Book a free 1-hour discovery call HERE

        💗 Follow me on social media

        • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElizabethRaveCoaching/
        • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethravelovecoach/
        • My artwork (Instagram): https://www.instagram.com/elizabethraveart

         

         

        1 hr 5 min
      • Somatic Healing for Unstable Relationship Patterns (with Lisa Manca)

        n this episode, Elizabeth is joined by dance therapist and attachment specialist Lisa Manca to explore how attachment wounds live in the body—and why you can’t think your way into secure love. If you find yourself stuck in anxious, avoidant, or on-again/off-again relationship patterns, this conversation offers a powerful somatic approach to healing. Learn how to reconnect with your body, regulate your nervous system, and begin creating more secure, grounded relationships.

        This conversation covers how attachment styles form and show up in dating, especially through anxious, avoidant, and disorganized patterns. Elizabeth and Lisa explore why romantic relationships tend to activate these wounds more than friendships, and why insight alone isn’t enough to create change. They dive into how emotions and trauma are stored in the body, how somatic healing supports nervous system regulation, and how to begin feeling emotions without shutting down or overthinking. You’ll also learn simple, practical ways to check in with your body—especially while dating—and start shifting toward more secure, grounded love.

        Lisa's website: https://www.lisamanca.com/

         

        💗 Want my free guide “5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid”? Access it HERE

        💗 Got a dating or relationship question for me? Tell me a bit about your journey — I read every message. Reach out anytime at [email protected]

        💗 Ready to call in your true love? Book a free 1-hour discovery call HERE

        💗 Follow me on social media

        • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElizabethRaveCoaching/
        • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethravelovecoach/
        • My artwork (Instagram): https://www.instagram.com/elizabethraveart

         

         

        41 min
      • Because Your Body Knows: Cycle Syncing for Love & Attraction (with Amy Dave)

        If dating has ever felt draining, inconsistent, or harder than it “should” be… this might be the missing piece.

        In this episode, I’m joined by women’s wellness coach Amy Dave to explore how your menstrual cycle influences your energy, mood, confidence, and even your attraction—and how aligning your dating life with your body can make everything feel more natural and easeful.

        We talk about how to work with your cycle instead of forcing yourself into the same approach every week—so you can show up feeling more magnetic, intuitive, and fully yourself.

        ✨ Inside this episode:

        • How each phase of your cycle affects your desire to socialize, date, and connect
        • When to go out vs. stay in (and why it matters more than you think)
        • Why forcing yourself to date at the “wrong” time can backfire
        • How to approach intimacy in a way that feels aligned and natural
        • A more intuitive, body-led approach to creating your love life
        • If you’re a highly sensitive, intuitive woman who’s tired of pushing through and ready for dating to feel softer, more aligned, and more you… this episode will open your eyes to a whole new way of approaching love.

          Because your body already knows. 💛

          Resources for Amy Dave:

          Free Guide Live a Life Without PMS: https://subscribepage.io/LifewithoutPMS

          Website: https://thewealthofwellness.com/

          Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thewealthofwellnessllc

          Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thewealthofwellnessllc/

          YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCffJG3_0TXTbXRb4aFVo1Mw

          Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-incredible-mom-life/id1789854849

           

          💗 Want my free guide “5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid”? Access it HERE

          💗 Got a dating or relationship question for me? Tell me a bit about your journey — I read every message. Reach out anytime at [email protected]

          💗 Ready to call in your true love? Book a free 1-hour discovery call HERE

          💗 Follow me on social media

          • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElizabethRaveCoaching/
          • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethravelovecoach/
          • My artwork (Instagram): https://www.instagram.com/elizabethraveart

           

           

          34 min
        • When a Heart-Led Woman Wants More Than a Comfortable Life

          Many women don’t struggle with knowing what they want — they struggle with giving themselves permission to want more than a comfortable life.

          In this episode, Elizabeth explores what it truly means to live a heart-led life, especially for highly sensitive women whose nervous systems are finely tuned not just for safety, but for meaning, depth, and aliveness. Being heart-led isn’t about chasing perfection or fantasy — it’s about listening to the deep internal signals that tell you when something matters, even when honoring them requires change.

          Blending personal reflection, nervous system insight, and emerging research on the intelligence of the heart and gut, Elizabeth shares why comfort alone is often not enough for heart-led women — and why ignoring that truth can quietly erode fulfillment over time.

          This episode also includes a personal update on Elizabeth’s own heart-led pivot, including her decision to return to graduate school to complete her Marriage and Family Therapy degree, and what it means to trust your inner guidance even when it doesn’t match the plan you thought you’d follow.

          If you’re sensitive, self-aware, and yearning for a life — and love — that feels deeply right rather than merely stable, this episode is an invitation to listen more closely to your heart.

          In this episode, we explore:

          • Why many women aren’t confused about what they want — they’re conflicted about wanting more
          • The difference between being highly sensitive and being heart-led
          • Why comfort and safety aren’t always enough for fulfillment
          • How the heart and gut function as sources of real physiological intelligence
          • What it means to “follow your heart” beyond metaphor or wishful thinking
          • Why heart-led women often feel compelled to make changes when something feels off
          • The cost of negotiating away your deeper desires
          • Elizabeth’s personal heart-led pivot and what it’s teaching her about trust and timing
          • How living heart-led applies not just to dating, but to your entire life

          Key Takeaway:
          A heart-led life isn’t always the most comfortable — but it’s the one that allows you to feel fully alive.

           

          References:

          References reflect current research on the gut–brain axis, heart–brain communication, and autonomic nervous system regulation.

          Mayer, E. A. (2016). The Mind-Gut Connection: How the Hidden Conversation Within Our Bodies Impacts Our Mood, Our Choices, and Our Overall Health. HarperWave.

          McCraty, R., Atkinson, M., Tomasino, D., & Bradley, R. T. (2009). The coherent heart: Heart–brain interactions, psychophysiological coherence, and the emergence of system-wide order. Integral Review, 5(2), 10–115.

          💗 Want my free guide “5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid”? Access it HERE

          💗 Got a dating or relationship question for me? Tell me a bit about your journey — I read every message. Reach out anytime at [email protected]

          💗 Ready to call in your true love? Book a free 1-hour discovery call HERE

          💗 Follow me on social media

          • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElizabethRaveCoaching/
          • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethravelovecoach/
          • My artwork (Instagram): https://www.instagram.com/elizabethraveart

           

           

          7 min
        • From Guarded to Open-Hearted: The Inner Safety You Need for Love (with Kari Azuma)

          In this episode of Seeking True Love, I’m joined by nervous system guide and somatic leadership coach Kari Azuma to talk about what it really means to feel safe in your own body—especially as a highly sensitive woman.

          Kari shares her story of birth trauma, postpartum anxiety, and realizing that traditional “push harder” coaching was quietly asking her to abandon herself. We explore how your early “safety map” gets formed, why control and perfectionism can keep love at arm’s length, and how nervous system work becomes the foundation for real intimacy, resilience, and true love.

          You’ll hear about:

          Nature as the ultimate regulation tool (and why “go touch grass” is real advice)

          A simple practice: soften, soothe, allow

          The power of acknowledging your stress instead of shaming your sensitivity

          How nervous system healing helps you keep your heart open in love, without losing your boundaries

          If you’re a highly sensitive, heart-led woman who wants deep love and a regulated, grounded life, this conversation will give you both insight and practical tools.

          Resources for Kari Azuma:

          Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stories/kariazuma/

          Nervous System Foundations Course: https://live.kariazuma.com/nervous-system-foundations-2025

           

          💗 Want my free guide “5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid”? Access it HERE

          💗 Got a dating or relationship question for me? Tell me a bit about your journey — I read every message. Reach out anytime at [email protected]

          💗 Ready to call in your true love? Book a free 1-hour discovery call HERE

          💗 Follow me on social media

          • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElizabethRaveCoaching/
          • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethravelovecoach/
          • My artwork (Instagram): https://www.instagram.com/elizabethraveart

           

           

          52 min
        • Stop Fixing Yourself: You’re Ready for Love Exactly as You Are

          In this solo episode, Elizabeth speaks directly to sensitive, heart-led women who keep postponing love because they believe they need to “fix” something first. Maybe you’ve told yourself you need to lose weight, make more money, get your life together, or clear the chaos before you can date.

          But here’s the truth: none of that is what makes you ready.

          Elizabeth unpacks the hidden pattern beneath these excuses — the belief that you’re somehow “too much,” “not enough,” or fundamentally unlovable as you are right now. This belief keeps countless highly sensitive women out of relationships, not because they aren’t ready, but because they’re avoiding intimacy without realizing it.

          You’ll hear:

          ✨ Why your life will never be perfectly put together — and why that’s not a barrier to love
          ✨ How HSP conditioning creates a “too much / not enough” identity loop
          ✨ Real examples of women in messy, imperfect circumstances who are deeply loved
          ✨ Why readiness has nothing to do with weight, money, healing, or productivity
          ✨ The ONE belief that must shift for you to receive unconditional love
          ✨ Why your soulmate will love you exactly as you are — not after a makeover, a milestone, or a transformation

          If you desire a relationship, that desire is your sign: you are ready.
          Love doesn’t require perfection — it requires openness.

          And you deserve extraordinary love now, in the beautiful messiness of your real life.

          💗 Want my free guide “5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid”? Access it HERE

          💗 Got a dating or relationship question for me? Tell me a bit about your journey — I read every message. Reach out anytime at [email protected]

          💗 Ready to call in your true love? Book a free 1-hour discovery call HERE

          💗 Follow me on social media

          • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElizabethRaveCoaching/
          • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethravelovecoach/
          • My artwork (Instagram): https://www.instagram.com/elizabethraveart

           

           

          8 min
        • True Love Is a Valid Dream: For Working Moms Who Want It All (with Alicia Grantham)

          In this episode of Seeking True Love, I’m joined by coach Alicia Grantham of Lavender and Lemons Coaching to talk about something so many heart-led women quietly struggle with:

          👉 What if I want it all—true love, kids, and a fulfilling career—and it’s “too much”?
          👉 What if love is the dream that keeps getting shoved to the bottom of the drawer?

          Alicia works with ambitious, full-time working moms who feel like they’ve checked all the boxes… and still don’t feel deeply fulfilled. Together, we explore how easy it is—especially for sensitive, high-achieving women and moms—to sacrifice our romantic dreams in the name of being “responsible,” “independent,” or a “good mom.”

          We also unpack the cultural messages that say wanting true love is “needy” or “desperate,” and why your longing for partnership is actually a valid, deeply human dream—not something to be ashamed of or push away.

          About Alicia

          Alicia Grantham is a wife, mom of two, dog mom to a lively Labradoodle, and the founder of Lavender and Lemons Coaching. After more than a decade climbing the corporate ladder as a CPA, she realized that checking all the boxes still left her unfulfilled. She traded survival mode for a life fueled by purpose, freedom, and joy.

          Now she helps ambitious full-time working moms reconnect with who they are beyond “employee” and “mom,” reignite the dreams they’ve put on the back burner, and take bold steps toward a life they genuinely love. She’s living proof that you can pack the lunchbox, crush it at work, and chase your big dreams.

          Resources for Alicia Grantham:

          • Alicia's Podcast: The Mom's Got This... Mostly Podcast
          •  The Working Mom’s Guide To Vision Boarding With Purpose: https://lavenderandlemonscoaching.com/guide
          • Instagram: @a.s.grantham
          • TikTok: @lavender_lemons_coaching
          • Want to know more about working with me?: Work With Me - Coaching Details  

           

          💗 Want my free guide “5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid”? Access it HERE

          💗 Got a dating or relationship question for me? Tell me a bit about your journey — I read every message. Reach out anytime at [email protected]

          💗 Ready to call in your true love? Book a free 1-hour discovery call HERE

          💗 Follow me on social media

          • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElizabethRaveCoaching/
          • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethravelovecoach/
          • My artwork (Instagram): https://www.instagram.com/elizabethraveart

           

           

          46 min
        • Intuition or Anxiety? Learning to Trust Yourself (with Erica Vargas)

          Episode theme: How do you know if it’s your intuition or your anxiety talking—especially in dating? In this heart-opening conversation, Elizabeth and guest Erica Vargas (Singles & Relationships Expert; somatic/linguistic coach & certified breathwork facilitator) unpack what true intuitive clarity feels like for HSP women and how safety, turn-on, and honest communication create genuinely aligned love.

          You’ll learn:

          • The simplest tell: Intuition speaks in statements. Anxiety speaks in questions.
          • Why HSPs often override their intuition (and how to stop).
          • How breathwork helps your body switch from fight/flight into calm, clear knowing.
          • “Cool girl” traps (e.g., pretending 4 days of silence is fine) and what to say instead.
          • Using turn-on and body cues as real-time guidance (even when he’s “perfect on paper”).
          • Boundaries that create safety without drama—and how men actually value your intuition.
          • Why true love feels like I’m safe to be fully me (not just “checking boxes”).

          Key moments:

          • Elizabeth’s breathwork story: reclaiming art + opening to true love.
          • Erica’s framework: body signals, subconscious patterns, and energy/spirit.
          • The texting example: swapping panic for a clear, turn-on-based request.
          • Personal vs. universal intuition (and why your read may differ from your friend’s).
          • Owning sensitivity as a superpower (and defending it with grace).
          • What is true love? Safety, presence, and two people who both feel they got “the better deal.”

          Connect with Erica Vargas:

          • Website: www.breathmindspiritshine.com
          • Instagram: @ericaovargas
          • Tik tok @ericavargas111

          💗 Want my free guide “5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid”? Access it HERE

          💗 Got a dating or relationship question for me? Tell me a bit about your journey — I read every message. Reach out anytime at [email protected]

          💗 Ready to call in your true love? Book a free 1-hour discovery call HERE

          💗 Follow me on social media

          • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElizabethRaveCoaching/
          • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethravelovecoach/
          • My artwork (Instagram): https://www.instagram.com/elizabethraveart

           

           

          1 hr
        • Why Some HSPs Give Up on Love

          Have you ever sworn off dating, convinced real love just isn’t meant for you? In this heartfelt solo episode, Elizabeth Rave unpacks why so many highly sensitive people lose hope in love—and how to reignite your faith in partnership without abandoning your peace.
          You’ll discover:

          • The key differences between choosing singleness and giving up on love
          • Why heartbreak cuts so deeply for HSPs and how to rebuild self-trust
          • How to stop chasing the roller-coaster of intense "passion" and find peaceful, nourishing love
          • Ways to design a relationship that actually honors your nervous system

          References/Resources:

          The Highly Sensitive Person in Love by Dr. Elaine Aron

          💗 Want my free guide “5 Dating Mistakes Every Highly Sensitive Woman Should Avoid”? Access it HERE

          💗 Got a dating or relationship question for me? Tell me a bit about your journey — I read every message. Reach out anytime at [email protected]

          💗 Ready to call in your true love? Book a free 1-hour discovery call HERE

          💗 Follow me on social media

          • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElizabethRaveCoaching/
          • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethravelovecoach/
          • My artwork (Instagram): https://www.instagram.com/elizabethraveart

           

           

          18 min

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