Self Belief Unsquashed

By Trisha Lewis

Welcome to Self Belief Unsquashed, the podcast that takes you on a liberating journey to bring your whole self to the surface. Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert—let’s face it, you’re... more

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January 14, 2025 176: Unlocking Hidden Perspectives: A Journey of Self-Discovery
In this episode of "Self-Belief Unsquashed," Trisha Lewis encourages listeners to explore shifts in perspective that can lead to profound self-discovery. Through personal anecdotes and thoughtful reflections, Trisha highlights the transformative power of viewing ourselves through different lenses. She shares a heartwarming story of reconnecting with an old friend and how it provided surprising insights into her own identity, challenging long-held beliefs about herself.
This episode invites you to break free from stagnant thinking patterns and embrace new perspectives, whether from longstanding relationships or fresh connections. By staying curious, open-minded, and receptive to the viewpoints of others, you unlock the potential for personal growth and self-awareness. Join Trisha in her mission to unsquash self-belief and experience a broader understanding of who you are.
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18min
January 01, 2025 175: Dare to Try: Embrace the Green Eggs and Ham Challenge
Join me for an inspiring episode of Self-Belief Unsquashed as we kick off 2025 with the exciting Green Eggs and Ham Challenge. Inspired by Dr. Seuss, this episode encourages listeners to conquer one fear this year by trying something new and outside their comfort zone. Discover how taking small steps can lead to significant personal growth and unexpected joy.
Listen to personal stories of overcoming challenges and finding new passions, like climbing and forming meaningful friendships, reminding us that great experiences often arise from the unknown. This year, embrace curiosity and courage, and see where the Green Eggs and Ham Challenge can take you.
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14min
November 09, 2024 174: Emotional Flooding: When Tears Take Over
Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed by your emotions? Do you feel like a softie when you well up in the middle of a work meeting or social event for seemingly small reasons? Do you suppress or release your crying?

Let's put 'crying' on the forensics table. Not just any old crying - 'emotional crying'.

A little look at the science of crying and a real story to illustrate the potential embarrassment (and learning opportunities) of unbid and out of proportion 'emotional crying'. Those waves of feeling that hit you without warning and quickly flood you - if you let them.

Is there a way to stop the tears? Do you need to? Are you being over-reactive or simply human?

This is not a sad listen. This is about building a better relationship with your emotions. Real stories, some brain/body stuff, and practical tips to try.

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Research for further investigation:

How Stuff Works - How Crying Works.

The Relationship of Gender Roles and Beliefs to Crying in an International Sample.

More 'Unsquashing' resources and links - go to my website.

Follow me on Medium for all sorts of 'human' stories around the topic of 'self-squashing'.
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21min
October 29, 2024 173: Is it stupid to feel like and impostor?
This episode explores the complexities of imposter syndrome, a feeling of inadequacy despite evidence of success. We delve into the idea that instead of viewing imposter syndrome as solely a negative experience, you can reframe it as a catalyst for growth and learning. Could the feeling act as a motivator to push past comfort zones, embrace vulnerability, and acquire new knowledge. We consider the importance of self-awareness, a growth mindset, and finding supportive communities to overcome the debilitating aspects of imposter syndrome and harness its potential for positive change.

REFERENCES
The first quote is from:
The importance of stupidity in scientific research - Martin A. Schwartz
Books:
Mindset - Carol Dweck
Think Again - Adam Grant
Dunning-Kruger Effect

TEDx - Beware the Self Squashing Prophecy
Book - The Mystery of the Squashed Self
Coaching and more on 'unsquashing' - my website.

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18min
October 08, 2024 172: The Torture of Talking to Strangers
Ever been at a social event on your own and with loads of strangers - wedding, awards ceremony, business networking - and felt suffocated by self-consciousness - the kind that leaves you mute and convinced that everyone is looking at the way you hold your knife and fork - that sort of thing? I have! This episode explores the symptoms, drivers and then offers some very good tips to stop the torture!

References:
You Learn by Living - by Eleanor Roosevelt
Letters to a Young Artist - by Anna Deavere Smith
The Spotlight Effect
More on 'Self Squashing' -
TEDx - Beware the Self Squashing Prophecy
Book - The Mystery of the Squashed Self
Resources and links at trishalewis.com
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22min
September 25, 2024 171: Feeling like you Don't Fit In.
That self generated feeling of being an outsider when with a group of people - familiar? New word - 'self-outsidering'. What are the symptons and drivers of this unhelpful self-squashing feeling - and what reframes and actions might help.
The 'self' part of this is the key! You are doing it to yourself. Something has triggered this 'outsider' feeling - what might it be? What are the FIBs that are holding you back - fears, illusions and baggage. Your host shares a couple of personal anecdotes - briefly - that might resonate ... or surprise!
REFERENCES
Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman
How Emotions are Made by Lisa Feldman Barrett
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More on 'unsquashing' - have a look at my website.
The Mystery of the Squashed Self - Self-help book with a difference! Beware the self squashing prophecy - TEDx
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25min
September 03, 2024 170: Breathe Life into your Writing. Guest Bee Higgins.
You want to stand out with more confident, heart-led copy and content. You want to delve into your creative mindset - but a host of fears, illusions and bits of baggage - hold you back.
My guest Bee Higgins gets it! She feels it herself and she has tons of experience and expertise in creative writing. Bee is a messaging mentor who doesn't offer top tip templates for writing success - she offers insights and practical ideas on putting more of your own personality into your writing without getting squashed by comparisonitis and generic advice.
Just listening to her gentle wisdom will inspire you!
If you want to connect more with Bee - LinkedIn Instagram
More about 'unsquashing'? Head to my website - links to my book, TEDx and other resources.
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34min
August 22, 2024 169: Standing out while Fitting in
This episode explores the tension between wanting to make and impact and wanting to conform to the norm. Is it possible to do both? What are the symptoms of too much blending in or even too much standing out - when you are not coming from a place of 'you-ness'?
As always we look at the symptoms, drivers and then possible solutions to try out. As always I refer to a book or two and some areas that you might want to explore more - if you like a good rabbit hole like me.
References for this episode: Book - A Fraction of the Whole by Stand Toltz
Book - A Life of One's Own by Marion Milner
Theories: Impression Management
Social Identity
I also refer to my book and TEDx talk Book: The Mystery of the Squashed Self TEDx: Beware the Self Squashing Prophecy
More resources at www.trishalewis.com
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18min
August 04, 2024 168. We all make Mistakes
Do you have a recurring flush of embarrasement or even shame well after you have done something stupid? Do you dwell on the stuff you messed up on? Do you worry too much about what people think about you?
Welcome to another episode that explores the human stuff - the stuff that can sometimes hold you back and stop your JIG - joy, impact and growth!
The potential to self-sabotage is in us all - and dwelling on the things that didn't go so well or maybe just felt like a way bigger issue than it actually was.. well that could have you falling down the self-squashing, self-doubt spiral! We look at the symptoms, drivers and then reframe actions.
Quotes from a great book - Chatter - Ethan Kross - https://amzn.eu/d/2G7fpZX
More on Self-Squashing on my website https://www.trishalewis.com/ where you will find links to the TEDx talk and my book - all exploring this variant of Imposter Syndrome - Self-Squashing.
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17min
July 23, 2024 167: Dare to be Disliked
Time to explore a very human fear - fear of rejection. Can you really protect yourself from being disliked? What are the symptoms of this fear? What drives this fear? Time to name and reframe - and make sure this classic 'self-squasher' isn't holding you back.

Inspired by this book:
The Courage to be Disliked - by Ichiro Kishimi and FUmitake Koga
Also referenced:
The Presentation of Self in Every Day Life - Erving Goffman
Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself - Jo Dispenza
Research - 'The Liking Gap' - Erica Boothby and colleagues 2018.

My book - The Mystery of the Squashed Self
My TEDx - Beware the Self Squashing Prophecy
Links and more - trishalewis.com
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16min

FAQs about Self Belief Unsquashed:

How many episodes does Self Belief Unsquashed have?

The podcast currently has 192 episodes available.