What if the reason you're always overwhelmed isn’t because you’re doing life wrong—but because you’re following a plan that was never made for you? In this episode of Self-Conscious, Chrissy sits down with Kendra Adachi, bestselling author of THE PLAN: Manage Your Time Like a Lazy Genius, to dismantle the hustle, perfectionism, and guilt so many women carry when it comes to managing time, energy, and expectations.

Chrissy opens up about her own internalized pressure to “do it all,” her fear of being seen as lazy, and how small acts of presence—like saying yes to her kids' invitation to play outside—can feel more meaningful than any perfect plan.

Key Takeaways:

1. Start with what matters to you right now—not a fantasy future—and build small, sustainable actions from that place.
2. Let go of the myth of being behind: your life doesn’t need a “catch-up plan,” it needs compassion.
3. Energy, not time, should guide how you plan your day—honor your body and your bandwidth.
4. The five-step Lazy Genius Method (prioritize, essentialize, organize, personalize, systemize) can help you solve real problems without burning out.
5. Small things aren’t just enough—they are the point.

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Chrissy is joined by Gabby Bernstein, the New York Times bestselling author of Super Attractor, to discuss how manifestation can change your life. Gabby explains how aligning your thoughts, emotions, and energy with the universe can help you attract abundance and joy. She dives into practical tools for raising your emotional and energetic frequency to create the life you truly want. Chrissy and Gabby explore how manifestation isn't just a mystical concept but a practical tool for anyone seeking fulfillment.

Super Attractor is now available on Audible and Amazon. 

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In this episode, Holly Whitaker, bestselling author of Quit Like a Woman, joins Chrissy to help rethink our relationship with alcohol. Drawing from her Audible Original 30 Days to a New Relationship with Alcohol, Whitaker introduces a compassionate approach that meets listeners wherever they are on their sobriety journey—without pushing for total abstinence. Together, they dive deep into the emotional and spiritual roots of addiction, offering empowering strategies to break free from dependency and reclaim personal freedom.

30 Days to a New Relationship with Alcohol is now available on Audible and Amazon.

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Chrissy chats with Mel Robbins, bestselling author, podcast host and motivational speaker, to discuss her Let Them Theory, which encourages individuals to stop trying to control others and focus on their own responses. Robbins shares strategies for setting boundaries, reducing stress, and reclaiming power in relationships by letting people be who they are.

The Let Them Theory is now available on Audible and Amazon.

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What if there were a blueprint for understanding your energy, your purpose, and the way you’re wired to make decisions? In this episode of Self-Conscious, Chrissy dives into the world of Human Design with Erin Claire Jones, author of How Do You Choose?. Part astrology, part personality map, Human Design blends ancient wisdom and modern science to reveal how you're built to move through the world—with more clarity, energy, and ease. 

Erin walks Chrissy through her own chart, uncovering why decision-making feels so fraught, why burnout happens even when you love what you do, and how knowing your ""type"" can unlock a powerful sense of permission. 

Key Takeaways:

1. How to look up your Human Design type and what each of the five core types reveals about your energy and purpose.

2. Why some people are wired to make fast, instinctive decisions—and others (like Chrissy) need time to feel into the right choice.

3. The power of asking yes/no questions to access your gut instincts and avoid decision fatigue.

4. How understanding your ""authority"" and ""strategy"" can help you stop second-guessing yourself and start trusting your inner signals.

5. Why syncing with your natural energy cycles—rather than forcing constant output—leads to more aligned, satisfying work and relationships.

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Is your relentless ambition actually a trauma response? In this emotional and eye-opening episode of Self-Conscious, Chrissy sits down with executive coach and author Amina AlTai to unpack the hidden forces that drive us to chase success — even when it’s hurting us. Amina, author of The Ambition Trap, introduces a powerful framework that helps us understand the difference between painful ambition, which is rooted in fear, people-pleasing, and inherited wounds, and purposeful ambition, which flows from alignment, joy, and self-worth.

Chrissy opens up about her own relationship with ambition, shame, and comparison—and why saying no still feels like failure. This conversation will meet you where you are—and help you find your way back to yourself.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

1. How to identify the five core wounds that drive painful ambition—and the self-sabotaging patterns they create.
2. A five-part framework to assess whether an opportunity truly aligns with your values, gifts, and needs.
3. Why saying no isn’t a failure—it’s a form of nervous system regulation and self-respect.
4. How to tell the difference between hustle that’s healing and hustle that’s harming you.
5. A guided exercise to reconnect with your younger self and begin rewriting the story of what you deserve.

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Jefferson Fisher, a Texas trial lawyer, viral communication coach, and author of The Next Conversation, joins Self-Conscious to break down how to have hard conversations without spiraling. Whether it’s with your partner, your parent, or your boss, Jefferson offers a step-by-step framework to help you speak clearly, stay grounded, and protect your relationships in the process.

Chrissy brings her own real-world struggles with confrontation into the mix, making this episode feel like a vulnerable, high-impact workshop in real time.

Key Takeaways:

1. Use a three-step formula—state the topic, define the goal, and ask for buy-in—to structure any difficult conversation.
2. Avoid triggering phrases like “we need to talk” and instead open with direct, neutral language.
3. Practice Jefferson’s “conversational breath” to reset your nervous system before you respond.
4. Lowering your voice in tense moments invites the other person to meet you in calm, not conflict.
5. When things escalate, pause and ask intentional questions like “Can you say that again?” to shift the power dynamic.\

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This week on Self-Conscious, Chrissy sits down with bestselling author Chris Guillebeau to talk about a problem that almost everyone feels—but few people know how to name: time anxiety. In his new book, of the same name, Guillebeau explores the emotional side of our relationship with time—why we constantly feel behind, guilty for resting, and stressed by the pressure to make every second count. This conversation will help you reclaim your time—not by doing more, but by thinking about it differently.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• What time anxiety is and why it affects so many of us
• How to spot your own “internal time rules”
• Why productivity culture leaves us feeling empty

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In a deeply vulnerable conversation with therapist and KC Davis, author of Who Deserves Your Love, Chrissy opens up about the emotional complexity of her relationship with her mom: the years of silence, the heartbreaking attempts to reconnect, and the weight of carrying unmet needs into adulthood. It's not about blame—it’s about honesty, grief, and the quiet hope that healing might still be possible.

Together, Chrissy and KC explore what it means to love someone who can’t always love you back the way you need - and how to stop losing yourself in the process. 

Key Takeaways

- How to tell the difference between a hard relationship and an unsafe one

- What real boundaries look like—and why they’re not about control

- Why “being the good daughter” sometimes means betraying yourself

- How to grieve the parent you wish you had while still showing up for the one you do

- Simple tools to regulate your nervous system in the middle of emotional overwhelm

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On this wildly relatable episode of Self-Conscious, clinical psychologist and Good Inside author Dr. Becky Kennedy sits down with Chrissy to talk about what parenting really demands of us—not just as moms and dads, but as humans still healing ourselves.

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