Most of us were never taught how to love ourselves... and yet, it’s the foundation of every healthy relationship we’ll ever have. In this week’s conversation, Rick and Clancy sit down with relationship coach Chaya Garcia to talk about what self-love really looks like in the empty nest years, how it shapes the way we date, and why it’s never too late to grow in connection.

Chaya shares real, practical wisdom on dating again, spotting early red flags, and what it means to build stability instead of chasing “synchronicity.” She also gets honest about addiction, codependency, and the importance of giving both yourself and your partner grace. Whether you’re re-entering the dating world or trying to deepen a long-term marriage, this one will make you rethink how you show up for yourself first.

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CHAPTERS
0:00 Intro
1:00 Why we rarely talk about dating in the empty nest
1:53 Love starts with the self
3:10 What to watch for on a first date
5:00 Stability over synchronicity
6:20 How self-love shapes who we attract
7:45 The difference between healthy and unhealthy people
10:00 Addiction and disconnection in modern life
11:03 Talking to your parents or kids about dating
15:30 Building connection in long-term relationships
17:40 Why we were never taught to love ourselves
19:23 Forgiveness, trauma, and true healing
22:58 Grace and goals for growth
25:38 Chaya’s book and podcast
27:30 Wrap-up

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