When you hear poverty mindset you probably think broke. It is not that.

This week we get into the poverty mindset, and it has almost nothing to do with your bank account. It is scarcity. And once you see it, you see it everywhere. In your relationships. In your confidence. In your dreams. In whether you actually let the people around you support you.

Teresa is still learning this one in real time too. She was driving home from a custody pickup studying it the whole way there and back. So this is not us preaching from a stage. It is two friends working it out out loud.

We get into the scarcity statements women say without even noticing (I can't afford that, I don't have enough time, that's not for people like me), why fear is really just false evidence appearing real, and the thing almost nobody admits: we are not scared of failing. We are scared of becoming the woman we have been praying to be.

Sit with this one after you listen. Where in your life are you settling because you believe there is not enough?

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You keep calling yourself lazy. But what if you're not lazy at all? What if you're just tired in a way sleep can't fix?

In this episode, Teresa and Shakeisha get honest about the lie so many women were handed: that your worth is tied to how much you produce. So you keep going. And going. Until your body finally makes the decision your mind refused to.

Shakeisha shares the surgery that forced her to stop, and how she realized she'd been confusing discipline with abandoning herself. Teresa talks about the moment everything starts feeling like an emergency, and what that's really telling her.

They get into the signs you're burned out and not lazy, the guilt that shows up the second you sit down, and why rest is not a reward you earn after the list is done. Rest is part of becoming her.

If you've been running on fumes and calling it commitment, this one is for you.

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You're not lazy. You're not behind. You've been in survival mode so long you forgot there was another way to live.

In the first real episode of Self Love Chats, Teresa and Shakeisha break down what survival mode actually is, why it keeps you stuck, and what it looks like to start walking out of it. Not the bubble bath version. The honest one.

We talk about why you can't stay consistent when you're just trying to get through the day, why rest feels impossible, and the small shifts that helped us stop surviving and start actually living.

This is a self love, money mindset, and personal growth podcast for women who are tired of running on empty and ready to choose themselves. We're two friends who clawed our way out of survival mode, and we're still becoming her, right alongside you.

If you've been feeling stuck, exhausted, and meant for more, this one is for you.

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Welcome to Self Love Chats. This is the podcast where choosing yourself stops being a someday and becomes a today.

We are Teresa and Shakeisha, two friends who clawed our way out of survival mode and are still becoming her, right alongside you. We have been having these conversations since 2021. On the phone, on the couch, voice notes back and forth, talking through the real stuff. One day we realized other women needed to be in this conversation too. So here we are.

We are not therapists. We are not gurus on a mountaintop who have it all figured out. Teresa brings the mindset and identity side, the work of getting out of survival mode and building a life on purpose. Shakeisha brings the body and energy side, the breath work, mirror work, tapping, and movement that make the shift real instead of just an idea you understood for a day.

This is not the bubble bath version of self love. We love a bubble bath. But real self love is bigger than that. It is being honest about where you are. It is choosing yourself even when it is uncomfortable. It is learning to stop abandoning yourself in your relationships, in your work, in your own head.

Every week we take one real life challenge, the stuff you are actually dealing with, and we answer one question. What does self love look like right here. People pleasing, self sabotage, money, body changes, motherhood, burnout, starting over. And not just talking about it. The actual practices to shift it.

This show is for the ambitious woman who knows she wants more, or just wants something different than what she has right now, and does not know where to start. If you are tired of surviving and ready to start becoming, pull up a seat. You are one of us now.

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