Ever met someone who seems like the perfect gentleman—polite, considerate, always saying the “right” things—yet something just feels…off? In this episode, we’re unpacking the Nice Guy trope: what it really means, why some "nice guys" aren't as nice as they seem, and how this pattern plays out in relationships.

We’ll explore:✨ The difference between genuine kindness and transactional niceness✨ How resentment builds when “niceness” comes with expectations✨ The impact of the Nice Guy mentality on dating, self-worth, and emotional growth✨ How to spot and break free from unhealthy dynamics

If you've ever been frustrated by the “But I’m such a nice guy!” argument—or felt guilty for not being attracted to someone who checks all the "nice" boxes—this one's for you. Let’s get into it! 

Instagram: ⁠Self_Worth_Renaissance⁠

Email: [email protected]

Have you ever had a gut feeling about something—but ignored it—only to realize later that your intuition was right? Your inner wisdom is always speaking to you, but are you listening? In this episode, we’re diving deep into what intuition really is, how to recognize it, and how to strengthen it so you can make aligned, confident decisions in every area of life.

You’ll learn:✨ The science behind intuition and how it works✨ Common blocks that keep you from trusting yourself✨ Simple practices to develop and strengthen your intuitive abilities

Whether you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or just want to deepen your self-trust, this episode will help you tune into your inner guidance and make choices that truly align with you.

Today on the Self Worth Renaissance, Kirsten Van Wingerden, MA, LMHC interviews Layla Jasper, MSW, LSWAIC. Layla is a multi passionate licensed therapist, dancer, and facilitator dedicated to nurturing connection through movement and healing. As a queer, non-binary, and neurodivergent somatic therapist, Layla draws on personal and professional insights to foster connection, confidence, and presence in others through embodiment. Known for their dynamic performances that blend and embrace an array of styles including acro, heels, chair, roller skates, burlesque, hip hop, belly dance, and twerk, Layla uses their diverse skill set to create whimsical experiences.

In this episode today, we discuss how dance healed trauma that Layla carried with her through her life and how dance can help us create a more attuned and embodied living experience - cultivating safety within our bodies. 

Want to work with Layla?⁠ Check out her Website here⁠

⁠Layla's Instagram⁠

⁠Self Worth Renaissance Instagram

Your past doesn’t have to define your future. In this episode of Self-Worth Renaissance, we explore the profound impact of childhood trauma and how it can shape your sense of self. But here’s the truth: your worth is not tied to the wounds of your past.

We’ll discuss how trauma affects your identity, the negative core beliefs it can create, and, most importantly, how to break free from those limiting narratives. Through practical tools and empowering insights, we’ll help you begin the journey of reclaiming your self-worth, rewriting your story, and stepping into the life you deserve.

It’s time to heal, grow, and realize that you are more than your experiences—you are inherently worthy. Tune in and let’s start breaking free together.

*Please Note that this is not a replacement for therapy and does not constitute mental health care* 

Clinician Work Referenced in This Episode: 

⁠Dr. Frank Anderson⁠

⁠Esther Perel⁠

⁠Dr. Gabor Mate⁠

If you or someone you know needs help: 

⁠DVSAS⁠

⁠988 Helpline

In this episode of Self-Worth Renaissance, we explore the dynamics of codependence in romantic relationships. Codependence often starts with the desire to care for a partner but can lead to unhealthy patterns where one’s identity and self-worth become tied to the relationship.

Join us as we discuss the signs of codependence, its root causes, and how it impacts both partners. We’ll share practical steps to break free from these patterns, including setting boundaries, cultivating self-worth, and fostering balanced, fulfilling relationships.

If you’ve ever felt like you lose yourself in relationships or struggle to find balance, this episode is for you. Let’s embark on a journey towards healthier connections and self-empowerment.

Show Notes:

SAMHSA: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/helplines/national-helpline

DVSAS: https://www.thehotline.org/

Melodie Beattie's Work on Codependence: https://www.melodybeattie.com/ 

Pia Mellody's Work on Codependence: https://www.amazon.com/Facing-Codependence-Where-Comes-Sabotages/dp/0062505890

Teri Cole's Work on Codependence: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Too-Much-Breaking-High-Functioning-Codependency/dp/1649631863/ref=asc_df_1649631863?mcid=dc940a5319aa31af96f48b035b12fc8e&hvocijid=1600958986103269954-1649631863-&hvexpln=73&tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=721245378154&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=1600958986103269954&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9192381&hvtargid=pla-2281435181418&psc=1

In a world that often equates success with external achievements, it’s easy to get caught up in chasing goals that don’t truly fulfill us. In this episode of Self-Worth Renaissance, we’re shifting the narrative by exploring how to redefine success on your own terms.

Join us as we unpack the difference between a life that looks good on the outside and one that feels good from the inside. You’ll learn how to align your goals with your values, set personal definitions of success, and create a life that brings genuine joy and satisfaction.

If you’re ready to stop measuring your worth by others' standards and start living a life that feels authentic and fulfilling, this episode is for you. Let’s make 2025 the year of living for yourself.

As the year comes to a close, it’s time to reflect on what’s been holding us back and make room for growth. In this empowering episode, we’re uncovering the five things you need to leave behind in 2024 to elevate your self-worth and step into 2025 with confidence.

From toxic comparisons to people-pleasing, over-apologizing, and even letting go of relationships that no longer serve you, we’ll break down how these habits impact your self-esteem and how to release them for good.

Get ready to shift your mindset, prioritize yourself, and embrace a life where you fully recognize your worth. Tune in to discover how to leave behind what no longer serves you and create space for the self-worth renaissance you deserve.

Do you ever feel like your harshest critic is the voice inside your own head? In this episode of Self-Worth Renaissance, we’ll tackle the inner critic that keeps you stuck in cycles of self-doubt and insecurity.

You’ll learn how to identify negative self-talk, reframe those thoughts, and replace them with empowering beliefs. Through practical exercises and real-life examples, we’ll help you shift from self-criticism to self-compassion.

It’s time to stop tearing yourself down and start building yourself up. Let’s rewrite the script together.

Do you struggle with saying no or worry about letting others down when you set limits? Boundaries aren’t about keeping people out—they’re about protecting your energy and honoring your self-worth.

In this episode of Self-Worth Renaissance, we’re diving into the powerful connection between boundaries and self-respect. You’ll learn how to identify where boundaries are needed, communicate them confidently, and handle the guilt that often comes with putting yourself first.

It’s time to stop feeling like boundaries are selfish and start seeing them as a radical act of self-love. 🎧 Tune in and take the first step toward living life on your terms!

Do you ever find yourself scrolling through social media, comparing your life to someone else’s highlight reel? The comparison trap is real, and it’s one of the quickest ways to erode your self-worth.

In this episode of Self-Worth Renaissance, we’re unpacking why we compare ourselves to others, how it impacts our confidence, and, most importantly, how to break free from this cycle of negativity.

You’ll learn practical strategies to shift your mindset, embrace gratitude, and focus on your unique journey. It’s time to stop measuring your worth against someone else’s life and start celebrating your own.

🎧 Tune in and let’s break free together!