Dale’s beautiful, raw story of his own anger and despair is a story I’m hearing from many of you in different versions these days. And I’m feeling it myself. As many of you know, this past Tuesday someone carved swastikas and white nationalist slogans into the wooden front doors of our sister church, 4th Universalist in Manhattan. They had recently declared themselves a sanctuary for immigrants and refugees. The hatred is hitting so close to home. In my case, it’s literally close to home. I live four blocks from that church on the upper west side. I also work out in the gym at our local JCC and my kids take a swim class there. There have been two bomb threats this year. A friend of mine is from Surinam. She has lived in the U.S. for 17 years, raised four kids here, paid taxes, but overstayed her visa and so she is illegal. She and her kids are terrified of being deported – probably even more terrified than they need to be because of the climate of panic. And of course, we here at First U had our Black Lives Matter banners stolen repeatedly and vandalized this fall.
As your minister, as a mother, as a friend, and as a person, it all makes me feel angry and scared and I’m guessing you feel something similar. We see all these things and the circles of horror only expand outward: we feel the onslaught of bad to worse news; the surreal daily cocktails of truth, truthiness, and lies; the daily eruption of new controversies, new outrages, new unfairness. Some of us feel these things so deeply that it makes our blood boil. We live with this churning anger and negativity that sometimes feels like it could swallow us whole. It feels overwhelming. It ruins our date nights. We don’t know what to tell our kids. It feels like the whole world has gone mad.
What’s a spiritual response to all this? What are we to do? In addition to continuing to protest and call congress people and organize and stand up for the values of our faith... In addition to all that, I would say, in a word, compassion. First we need the awareness that for some of us, especially minorities, especially people of color, none of this is all that new. They’ve been subjected to hatred and violence for hundreds of years. There is something to the Derrick Bell quote that Dale mentioned about the “permanence” of racism. Racism is not new and it’s not going away any time soon. And that could be said of all forms of injustice. Discrimination against transgender youth certainly didn’t start last week. We, and our ancestors, have found ourselves on all sides of these issues. Some of us own 401Ks that are invested in promoting the causes that we then take to the streets to protest against. It’s more complicated than we’re right and they’re wrong. Nobody’s hands have ever been clean. For some of us in this room the world has never felt safe. We need compassion for those of us who have been fighting this fight because we had no choice for decades.
And then we need compassion for those whom we “other.” Bear in mind that with most of these recent expressions – the swastikas, the bomb threats, the banner vandalism – it’s not even the government doing these things – this is the people. Probably not wealthy people. Probably not privileged people. Probably desperate, angry, but ordinary people. These are people who feel like their world is being taken away from them. And they’ve been falsely led to believe that they can get it back. And we’ve played a role in humiliating and alienating them. You can imagine the rage of someone who feels like we nice, educated liberals care deeply enough about a Muslim from Syria to hide them in our church but don’t give a flying you-know-what about his dad who lost his coal job in Pennsylvania after working hard his whole life and now has nothing. We need compassion for those who feel that the world is leaving them in the dust and who, in some cases, are right.
And we need compassion for ourselves.