How should we react when a partner is unable to maintain an erection?

This episode of Sex Is Medicine answers listeners' questions about:

• Navigating psychosomatic ED as a couple
• The impact of aging on sex and the best remedies for addressing vaginal dryness, thinning tissues, and low libido
• Are Throatgasms a thing?
• How to find your pelvic floor muscles
• The use of fantasy to recover from porn addiction

Sit back, relax, and enjoy this week’s episode of Sex Is Medicine Reboot!

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It's not often we get the opportunity to speak to living legends!  

Join us for a conversation about Reproductive Justice with Loretta J Ross and Marlene Gerber -two prominent leaders in the social justice movement.

ABORTION AND REPRODUCTIVE JUSTICE: An Essential Guide for Resistance, by Marlene Gerber Fried and Loretta J. Ross, emphasizes that the right to have and raise children is as essential for reproductive choice as the right not to.

This critical approach—originating in Black feminism—provides grounding for radical abortion advocacy. Calling on us to join in, the book highlights abortion stories from individuals and organizations who are putting this analysis into action on the front lines, in the United States and beyond.

By linking abortion rights to broader social justice initiatives, including Black Lives Matter, immigrant and refugee rights, disability justice, and LGBTQ+ rights, the authors expand the conversation at a critical moment.

In this episode of Sex Is Medicine, we discuss:

• Why "reproductive justice" goes beyond abortion rights to include the right to parent
• - How this framework changes the conversation.
• - The connections between abortion access and broader social justice movements, including:
• - Black Lives Matter
• - Immigrant rights
• - Disability Justice
• - LGBTQ+ rights
• - Stories of activists and organizations on the front lines, and what they teach about building an inclusive, intersectional movement for the future.

About Our Guests
Marlene Gerber Fried is Professor Emerita of Philosophy at Hampshire College and cofounder of the National Network of Abortion Funds.

Loretta J. Ross is a MacArthur Fellow, Associate Professor of Women and Gender at Smith 1111 FRANKLIN ST OAKLAND, CA 94607 • UCPRESS.EDU
College, and cofounder of SisterSong Women of Color Reproductive Health Collective. They are coauthors, with Jael Silliman and Elena Gutiérrez, of Undivided Rights: Women of Color Organize for Reproductive Justice. Abortion and Reproductive Justice: An Essential Guide for Resistance (University
of California Press, 9/9/25).

By weaving together personal stories, historical analysis, and movement strategy, they expand the conversation and show how abortion rights are deeply connected to racial, economic, LGBTQ+, and immigrant Justice.



Learn more about this episode at https://holisticsexologyinstitute.com/?p=2187



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Beyond The Clitoris: A Dissertation On Female Pleasure Zones

There is a concerning phenomenon in the field of sexology involving the emergence of a nearly militant insistence that the clitoris is the ONLY source of female orgasm.

This viewpoint not only dismisses the lived experiences of millions of women but is also simply anatomically incorrect.

While the clitoris and its surrounding structures are indeed extraordinary, they are not the only sources of orgasm. Orgasms can vary significantly and can originate from various parts of the body, the brain, and even the energy body.

After over a decade of teaching people how to expand their orgasmic capacity, we've discovered that orgasms come in many variations, influenced by a broad range of factors—physical, psychological, emotional, intellectual, and energetic. 


In this episode of Sex Is Medicine, Devi and Alaina explore the many types of orgasmic pleasure that do not originate from the CUV complex, such as:

• - Cervical and uterine orgasms
• - P-spot orgasms
• - Anal orgasms
• - Breast and nipple orgasms
• - Orgasms from stimulation of the skin, ears, or feet
• - "Throatgasms"
• - Exercise-induced orgasms or coregasms
  

Tune in for a Ph. D. level dissertation on Female Pleasure Zones

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This is a true story of coercion, manipulation, and abuse….

What happens when sexual healers engage in acts of sexual harm? 

Who can you turn to when an organization's leadership lacks a genuine interest in accountability?

In this episode of Sex Is Medicine, Devi speaks with ISTA survivor advocate, Cara Cordoni, to explore how "sex-positive, trauma-informed" communities can sometimes function as high-control groups that cause harm to those they claim to serve.

In this episode, Cara shares her experience of participating in several levels of ISTA training, the coercion, manipulation, and abuse she witnessed personally and vicariously, multiple survivor stories, and the results of her 2-year attempt to facilitate change within the heart of the ISTA organization.

Find out:

• How ISTA uses the promise of healing, liberation, and "conscious" sexuality to attract students and clients.

• Validated reports of sexual harm filed against ISTA from 18 countries spanning back to 2008

• The troubling patterns of manipulation, neglect of participants in distress, financial exploitation, and the misuse of "trauma-informed" language without implementing actual trauma-informed practices.

• The 2-year attempt at mediation with ISTA that ended with defending actions that many considered rape, victim blaming, denial, and positioned themselves as victims rather than addressing the documented patterns of harm from numerous survivor reports.

• How ISTA's so-called "accountability process" ultimately harmed survivors further

• Red flags to watch for before joining trainings: lack of established lineage (teachers creating content without drawing from recognized traditions), spiritual bypassing, pressure to disregard boundaries in the name of "growth," financial exploitation, unclear processes for reporting concerns, and whether criticism is welcomed or punished.

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Would you like to master the art of separating your orgasm from your ejaculation?

Would you like to become a multi-orgasmic man, but don't know where to begin?

Are you looking for guidance about how to practice semen retention and non-ejaculatory orgasms safely, but don't know who to trust?

What would it be worth to you to have access to over 27 years of combined expertise in the art, practice, and skill of safe and effective semen retention methods?

Well, here we are, serving it up to you on a silver platter!

Join Devi and Alaina for this episode of Sex Is Medicine and find out the answers to:

• How and why you can practice "the million dollar point" safely and effectively.
• Why retrograde ejaculation is not as common as you think
• How to relieve chronic tension in your pelvic floor
• How to RELAX into your multi-orgasmic potential
• Why it's okay to fantasize during self-pleasure

They also discuss the importance of morning BJ's to maintain relationship satisfaction ;-)

In honor of #NoNutNovember, Devi and Alaina are dedicating this episode to all of their fabulous Ejaculation Mastery for Men students to celebrate your success!

Here’s to you guys! We’re so proud of you!



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The topic of polyamory seems to be everywhere these days. From articles in The Atlantic
describing it as the ruling class's latest fad, to the controversy surrounding Aubrey Marcus and “radical monogamy” (essentially polygamy), polyamory is highly present in the media right now.

But is polyamory really a new trend? Is it even new at all? Or is it a way of relating that predates colonialism and recalls a time when humans were less isolated and more communal?

In this week’s episode of Sex Is Medicine, Devi and Alaina speak with somatic relationship coach Mel Cassidy about their new book, Radical Relating: A Queer and Polyamory-Informed Guide to Love Beyond the Myth of Monogamy

Described as a provocative, trauma-informed guide to post-monogamy, this book helps readers build liberated relationships rooted in empowerment, equity, and authenticity.

Join Devi, Alaina, and Mel for an in-depth conversation about the myths and misrepresentations of polyamory and how to navigate non-monogamy from a “woke” perspective.

In this episode, we will:
- Deconstruct myths and misrepresentations surrounding polyamory
- Explore the difference between polyamory and polyfuckery
- Learn how and why the nuclear family was created (and how it does NOT reflect our human history)
- Uncover how and why the nuclear family model creates suffering for families and communities
- Highlight toxic approaches to non-monogamy that perpetuate patriarchy and white supremacy culture
- Understand the role of queerness in non-monogamy

And so much more!

About Mel Cassidy
Mel Cassidy is a somatic relationship coach committed to the path of liberatory love and rewilding intimacy. They specialize in working with queer and questioning humans (and those who love them), exploring post-monogamous relationships—with a focus on polyamory, solo polyamory, and relationship anarchy.

They are of Irish, Greek, and Romani descent and have lived in 3 countries, across 3 continents. They currently live in British Columbia, Canada, and work with clients and students worldwide. Their first book, Radical Relating: A Queer and Polyamory-Informed Guide to Love Beyond the Myth of Monogamy, is published by North Atlantic Books.

Find them on Instagram/Facebook/Substack/Insight Timer @radicalrelating or visit radicalrelating.ca


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Is it possible for women to have orgasms from breast and/or nipple stimulation?

The short answer is yes! And here's why...

Studies have determined that there is, in fact, a neural link between the nipple and the clitoris. Stimulation of the nipples activates the same sensory area of the brain associated with the genitals.

Stimulation of the nipples activates:
Your Brain -Stimulating the nipples activates both the chest area and the genital sensory cortex in the brain.

Your Hormones - Nipple stimulation also triggers the release of oxytocin, a hormone that can cause uterine contractions, which may contribute to sensations in the genital area.

Your Pleasure - Research involving women who have undergone a hysterectomy (removal of the uterus) suggests a direct neural link, as the genital sensory cortex is still activated during nipple stimulation, even without the uterus being involved.

This neural connection provides a neurological basis for why nipple stimulation can enhance sexual arousal, lubrication, and orgasm for many women.

Listen to the full episode for our step-by-step guide to activating breast orgasms using Pleasure as Medicine.


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Erospirituality: Ancestral Remembering for Embodied Liberation with Mx. Lena Queen

Join Devi and Alaina for a deeply regenerative conversation about Erotic Liberation through Erospirituality with licensed, integrative somatic sex therapist, Mx.Lena Queen

In this episode of Sex Is Medicine, learn about:

• The Indigenous Roots of Erospirituality  
• Erotic Liberation as a radical, embodied state of being 
• Erotic intelligence as a path to navigate love, desire, intimacy, and erotic power
• Reclaiming Embodied Intelligence to connect and integrate body, mind, spirit, and sex
• The importance of Decolonizing Eros
• How Healing the Erotic Self heals the WHOLE Self

About our guest:
Mx. Lena Queen, LCSW, M.Ed. (Queen/they) is a licensed integrative somatic sex therapist, certified hypnotherapist, energy worker, TEDx Speaker, and Bliss breathwork facilitator.

With over 23 years of personal and professional healing experience, they are an erotic liberation author, and creator of the erotic intelligence workbook and self-paced wellness plans, the 6-week erotic embodiment healing intensive, Healing The Erotic Self (HTES), in addition to the 5-weekSHIFT Somatic Healing Intensive, and founder of the non-profit healing and SHIFT Somatic Healing Intensive, and founder of the non-profit healing and learning space, Erospirituality Centre.

Centering Black erotic liberation, Queen uses the erotic to help trauma survivors and healthcare professionals create embodied safety and self-trust to heal and create healthy relationships. Mx. Queen is a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) and an AASECT-approved continuing education (CE)

• Learn more about Mx. Lena Queen at https://www.erospirituality.com/
• Attend Lena’s upcoming events - https://www.erospirituality.com/store
• Download Healing The Erotic Self Workbook - Healingtheeroticself.com
• Connect with Mx. Lena Queen on Instagram @sistasexologist

Resources:

1. Erospirituality Sex, ecology, evolution - https://mikmawarchives.ca/documents/erospirituality-sex-ecology-evolution-%E2%80%93-the-ontopoetics-of-soul
2. The African Roots of Tantra - https://www.tantradharmacenter.com/african-roots-of-tantra

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Your cervix is PORTAL into ENLIGHTENMENT!
 
In Tantric Buddhism, the cervix is the bottom end of the Uma Channel (aka Shushumna Nadi, aka Central Channel).

In the genital reflexology system associated with Taoist sexual teachings, the cervix is the “heart point,” and stimulation of this zone can catalyze deep emotional release and opening.

Your cervix is one of the few organs of the body to boast triple innervation, with the hypogastric, pelvic, and vagus nerves all contributing pressure-sensitive pathways to this 3rogenous zone. In fact, your cervix is even MORE densely innervated than your clitoris!

Directly stimulating the cervix allows you to “hack” into the vagal pathway, inducing all the vagal benefits of increased immune system function, improved physical and emotional health, greater resilience to stressors and triggers, and deep feelings of relaxation and well-being.

Your pleasure is a gateway to health, wealth, and longevity, and you DESERVE to know, understand, and explore this!

In this episode of Sex Is Medicine Reboot, Devi and Alaina answer questions about pain and pleasure in the cervix.

Find out the answers to:

• Why your cervix hurts during sex
• Is it possible to have a cervical orgasm when you have an IUD?
• The keys to cervical pleasure during deep penetration
• How cervical orgasms may change after having children

One of the ways we can resist oppression and access our POWER is through embodied Pleasure and Connection! 

Click Here to join Devi and Alaina (and the IHS Team) on November 4th at 7 pm EST, for a conversation about the Power of Pleasure and how YOU can become part of the RESISTANCE!

 

***References for WSC - https://www.whitesupremacyculture.info/


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Premature ejaculation (PE) is a sexual issue that affects approximately 1 in 3 men aged 18 to 59 in North America. It occurs when ejaculation happens sooner than desired during sexual activity. PE is considered the most common sexual disorder among men and can lead to depression, low self-confidence, erectile dysfunction, and relationship problems.

Conventional definitions describe premature ejaculation as a sexual dysfunction characterized by ejaculation that "always or nearly always occurs before or within 1 minute of penetration" and the inability to delay ejaculation in nearly all instances of intercourse. This often results in stress, frustration, and sometimes avoidance of sexual intimacy.

Many men and their partners believe they have PE if they cannot last more than a few minutes, and we agree with this perspective! We define premature ejaculation as having little to no control over when or if one ejaculates. In short, if you consistently ejaculate before you want to, it becomes an issue for both you and your partner.

Fortunately, PE is one of the more straightforward sexual dysfunctions to address, provided you understand the underlying causes and have effective methods to tackle it.

This episode of Sex Is Medicine outlines:

• The definition of PE and how to know if you have it
• Common causes of PE
• Pros vs Cons of conventional remedies for PE 
• Holistic methods to last longer and how they work
• Curing PE naturally and safely 

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