Sextras

This week we have a lovely guest, Mary, joining us to talk all things mental health and being single in lockdown. We begin the episode by hearing from what our listeners think the best part of single life is.

We then dive into Mary's experience with being single, and having never been in an established relationship at 21. Some people think being single is lonely, but we discuss how sometimes being single is better as you can do some self-reflection, focus on your mental health and discovering what you want from a relationship. Mary explains that, while she's slightly bitter that covid began as she was ready to begin dating, she's grateful that she's single during lockdown, as maintaining a long distance relationship would be extremely difficult. She also tells us about how being single during covid has been difficult, and how she thinks her mental health would be affected by being in a relationship.

We conclude that of course it's difficult to be single sometimes, especially during covid-19, when you can't get the intimacy (both physical and emotional) you need for your well-being, but that ultimately it's being single is best if you don't feel as if you're able to be in a relationship because of your mental health.

Thank you so much to Mary for joining us, we hope you enjoy the episode! You can find Mary on Instagram @mazza.h99 and TikTok @mazza.h, and you can find more of us on:

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Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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In this week's episode we ask if you can be friends with your ex. We begin by hearing from some of our listeners' opinion on if exes can be friends, if they're friends with any of their exes, if they'd be okay with their significant other being friends with an ex, or if their significant other minds if they're friends with their ex.

We then move on to explaining how we came to be friends with our exes, and what to do if your ex wants to stay friends and you don't. There are often so many reasons not to stay friends- they're your ex for a reason, after all (!)- but sometimes losing someone from your life forever is unnecessary and not worth it. Of course there are wrong reasons to stay friends with someone you dated, like you still secretly have feelings for them and you're hoping they'll change their minds and regret dumping you, but we truly believe, after some time and reflection, exes can be friends. You probably can't be friends straight after a breakup, though. We wouldn't recommend that (from personal experience). And you definitely, definitely, can't be friends with someone you love. We also discuss how we feel about our boyfriends being friends with an ex, and if it's ok for them to be friends with their ex-lovers, even if they don't have feelings for them.

If you're going through a break up, we really feel for you. We know how difficult it can be, but maybe you'll get a friend out of it eventually! Just don't stay friends with them and lie to yourself about not having feelings for them, and you'll be fine!

We hope you enjoyed the episode, we love making this podcast for you! If there's anything you'd like to see, any advice you'd like, please do reach out and make any recommendations you might have.

You can find us on:

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Happy new year!!! If you're listening to this- congratulations on making it to 2021 baby- I can't believe we did it. Let's hope the new year brings the end of the pandemic and a lot lot more joy and freedom than 2020. We hope everyone had a wonderful holiday and celebrated new years safely, and you're all wrapped up at home working on your new year's resolutions.

Even though starting the new year doesn't mean you have to set goals for yourself we think it's always important to be do some self reflection. It's easy to look back and be critical of what you achieved during the year, but maybe setting small goals for yourself like how you want to improve your relationships or something you want to explore in your sex life, like a new kink, will be more realistic than deciding you're going to cut out sugar forever! We encourage you set intentions if you will, or rather just resolutions you can keep.

In this week's episode we discuss what we want from 2020 in our careers, relationships and sex lives, from learning to integrate exercise into our routine to wanting to have a threesome, and also hear our listeners' resolutions.

We wish you all a happy 2021 and we can't wait to spend it with you and see you next Tuesday!

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Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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We have finally made it to the final week of 2020. There is no beautiful, poetic, amazing way to bring up everything that has happened during 2020, and we by no means try to do that. We know that this year has brought challenges, pain, struggle in a way we have never in our lifetimes seen before, and in all of that, there is a lot of room for growth. Being quarantined and staying home for most of the year provided us, and people all over the world, with nothing but time to really think. Lockdown has forced people into really thinking about their priorities and what they want, and if anything we hope all this time to yourself has given people time to think, and maybe even learn. For this week's segment we ask our listeners what they learned this year, with answers ranging from valuing themselves to missing your job. We relate a lot with some of the answers, and talk about how in our own ways we've learnt to say fuck it and be happy. We tell you some of our best lessons learnt, from believing more in our own abilities, to learning how to really dress up for ourselves and not for others. All in all, we pat ourselves (and you guys too!) on the back for really just doing our best even though this year has been hard.

We wanted to share some of our 2020 favourites and what really got us through the year, from TV shows, to Podcasts, to books, which will all be available to find in our website. We hope you can find something positive to say about the year, even if only small!

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In this week's episode, we take you through our experience as bisexual girls. We talk about the first times we ever heard of the term 'bisexual' and how we first started identifying with it, or questioning our sexuality. The bisexual identity can be difficult to come to terms with because often you are left in a limbo, of not being 'straight enough', nor 'gay enough'. This can bring forward a lot of confusion, we share how we often have felt like impostors, how maybe we are just saying we like girls for attention, and similar internalised biphobic tendencies.

Since we have both been in relationships with men, we speak about how that can be difficult when identifying with our bisexuality, how the 'gay world' and the 'straight world' seem to fail to coexist sometimes, and how someone who is part of both, it can sometimes feel like the world doesn't have a place for bisexuals.

We talk about how dating men and women can feel so different, and how lucky bisexuals are that we get to experience both and whether we fear 'missing out' on dating girls or dating guys once we settle down with one person.

Ultimately, we complain about all the hard stuff that comes along with being bisexual, yet we both agree we would not want it any other way.

Love the way you are! No matter who you love. We love you.

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We're joined this week by the lovely Pup Anarchy (aka Amir) who talks to us about kinks and how to pay attention to what you really want, whether that's during sex or just in your day-to-day life.

We begin with a segment where we hear what the kinkiest thing our listeners have ever done is, ranging from peeing on someone to smelling people's underwear. Amir then tells us about his job as a shaman, and how he found out what kinks he's into (spoiler...he's into puppy play). He tells us how his work and his sex life are similar in that he has to pay close attention to what he really wants, making sure he knows what sort of energy he expects to receive from his interactions with others. We also dive into the BDSM community and what kind of space it provides people with kinks, as well as aftercare, with Amir teaching us about how submissives and dominants are really not that different when it comes down to it.

We hope you enjoy this episode! You can find Amir on instagram @anarchy_flow7777,

And you can find more of us on:

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Website: sextraspodcast.com

We now have stickers! We'll be giving one away every week to our favourite submission for the segment. Keep an eye out on instagram to see when we post the prompts for the segments, and you can also submit your stories anonymously through our website.

Don't forget to review, rate, subscribe and share our podcast if you enjoy! See you next Tuesday.

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Why do we have such high expectations of our romantic partners and not of our friends? Do we just have a deeper connection with our significant others than with our friends or are our expectations setting us up for failure?

In this episode we discuss whether expectations are good or bad, where they come from, and what they tell us about our relationship. We begin with our segment where we hear what our listeners expect from their significant others but not from their friends. We try to unpack how expectations have hurt or disappointed us, as well as wondering what to do when expectations in relationships lead to resentment.

Sometimes we place more meaning on our relationships than our friendships because we love and care about someone, but communicating your (frankly sometimes impossible to meet) expectations can help both parties clarify the reality of the situation.

What are your expectations? We suggest trying to understand where they come from and compromising with your partner to find a level of happiness and understanding.

If you enjoy this episode please leave us a review, rate us, subscribe, and share with everyone you know!

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www.sextraspodcast.com

See you next Tuesday!

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Original Music by Sacha Puttnam

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In this episode we have a lovely guest, Matilda, telling us all about her fairy-tale-like experience with falling for her friend and moving to another country to be with him after spending only ten days as an 'item'. We begin the episode with a segment where we ask our listeners about their craziest one night stands, also sharing ours. Matilda then moves on to how she and her boyfriend met; how she realised she had feelings for him and what it was like when they first kissed. We discuss the changes in going from friends to lovers, and what it was like saying 'I love you.' We're shocked with how certain she was- enough to then move half way across the world to be with him. She tells us what moving during coronavirus was like, the difficulties she faced, and having to tell her family she was going to be moving to France. Ultimately, she says, being in quarantine together really solidified their relationship and their feelings for one another.

We end the episode with a brief discussion about the differences between sleeping with someone you have feelings for versus a one night stand, and how intimacy and closeness can make sex that much more special. We're so happy for Matilda and we wish her so much luck in love- and to all the rest of our listeners negotiating love during COVID-19, we hope this story brought you some joy and optimism!

(We know not everyone can be with their loved ones right now, check out our episodes 'Sex, Love, and COVID-19'; 'Sanity, Love, and COVID-19' and 'Does Distance Make the Heart Grow Fonder?' for more.)

We hope you enjoyed the episode, as always don't forget to subscribe, rate, review and share, and we'll see you next Tuesday!

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Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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The coronavirus pandemic has restructured the world as we knew it, with restrictions on who we can interact with safely, and how we can interact safely, many people have been pushed into a very strange kind of isolation. In the UK we're in the middle of our second lockdown, and more curfews and restrictions are being introduced worldwide every day. Not to mention all the people that have lost their lives or loved ones, and all the people that have lost their jobs. Life is always unpredictable, but we have never experienced unpredictability like this. There is so much uncertainty that has come with the pandemic: about when we will return to ‘normal’; about when you’ll get to see someone again; whether you are infecting or harming people you love; or whether someone or something is worth all the time apart.

We understand, and so this week we wanted to sit down and update our previous COVID-19 episode (Sex, Love and COVID-19), as well as outline, through your submissions, a diverse range of experiences and coping mechanisms. We asked, ‘What have you been doing to look after yourself during the pandemic?’: from making the bed to listening to wise Buddhist monks, we shared some of your self care tips. We also asked how many people’s mental health has been affected, with the majority admitting that it had been affected negatively. Lastly, we get an update on what everyone's dating lives have looked like during the pandemic, from long distance relationships, to break ups, to sexting, nudes, and difficult marriages. Sex and relationships have been hard during the pandemic, particularly in lockdown, and we wanted to get an update on what they look like now versus before.

We ultimately discuss how people have changed during the pandemic and how we have seen ourselves change. We celebrate our listeners' achievements and remind everyone that even though lockdown can make life feel very monotonous it’s important to take a look at what has been going on and what we have actually achieved, and congratulate ourselves and our listeners for having the strength and patience to take this experience in and remind everyone that it’s okay not to be okay.

Let us know what you’ve been doing to stay sane during the pandemic!

You can find us on:

Website: www.sextraspodcast.com

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Email: [email protected]

Don't forget to rate, review, subscribe and share, and we'll see you next Tuesday!

Produced by Mabel Productions

Original Music by Sacha Puttnam

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It's normal to feel nervous about introducing your girlfriend or boyfriend to your family. Sometimes they don't get on, or your parents don't approve of the person you're dating, and sometimes you scare your partner by suggesting they should be introduced 'too soon'. But it doesn't necessarily have to be a big deal, even if your family (and your partner) are extremely important to you.

We begin the episode with our segment where we ask you guys 'What's something you would hate for your significant other's family to know about you?,' agreeing it's probably not the best idea to discuss anything related to your sex life or how many drugs you do around your s/o's family. We discuss what we wouldn't want our significant others' families to know about us, like our religious views, being bisexual, and the fact that we have a podcast where we talk about sex and relationships (we would die if they listened).

We then move on to talking about the results to the polls we asked our instagram followers, with people saying it is a big deal to introduce your significant other to your family; it's important for them to like you and it's important for your family to like them. Our followers voted that it's also not important for someone you're dating to be close with their family, and we discuss what those situations would look like, such as your partner not telling you a family secret or not helping you to feel involved with their family when visiting.

Overall, we conclude all of these questions depend on the type of person you want to date. We both want to feel involved in our partners' lives and past lives, so it's important for us to feel close with their families, but we also discuss what we would do if that wasn't the case (try and convince them to change their minds.)

Let us know your thoughts and tell us your stories about your s/o's family.

You can find us on:

Instagram: @sextraspodcast

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Email: [email protected]

Don't forget to rate, review, subscribe and share, and we'll see you next Tuesday!

Produced by Mable Productions

Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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