March 24, 2024

Shame & Doing It All: Who Am I If I Am Not This?

1 hour 12 minutes

It will come as no surprise I've known Jessica Meisner for 14 years when you listen to our episode. Such a powerful conversation - with a little silly bonus talk at the end - that we all need to reflect on.

Some of the key takeaways included:

Where the narrative comes from that we need to be something for everyone

The pendulum swing Jessica took after she burnt out on trying to be everything for everyone

The interplay between feeling stuck in “being everything” but also striving to control everything

The protective role of trying to control everything

What leads us to be resentful of others and how sometimes it is not a “them” problem

The lightbulb moment Jessica had in our conversation that is one of the truest realizations for all of us

What not asking for what you need actually says about you

Where that need to be needed comes from

The difference between needing or choosing the people in your life

The 1-liner my mother-in-law said that felt like I got drop-kicked in the gut

The key questions I ask myself whenever I get stuck in those spaces of resentment and frustration

The different types of boredom and why we need to be bored to thrive

More about Jes:

"I am so many things all at once. A mother, wife, boss, friend, sister, daughter. But also, just "me" and that one takes some work. "Me" I don't know all of yet. I have spent my adult life raising children and fixing problems for everyone. Currently, I am passionate about defining "me" to myself and no one else. I am making choices that are mine and maybe a little selfish, but could we redefine that word? Maybe selfish doesn't have to be so bad?"

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