Shame. Pain. Uncertainty. Alli Patterson, an author and teaching pastor at Crossroads Church, believes there are too many people today struggling to understand what it truly means to have a deep, healthy, and transformative relationship with Jesus.

"I have just seen too many people, when trouble hits...they figure out then, 'Oh, I wasn't really connected to Jesus ... I wasn't really grounded on anything," she told hosts Brittni and Richard De La Mora. "I just have such a burden for that."

Alli is out with a new book, "How to Stay Standing: 3 Essential Practices for Building a Faith That Lasts." On this episode of "Let's Talk Purity," she shares her own story of growing up the "classic good kid," meeting Jesus at age 16 — and then making some diabolical decisions in her 20s. Those choices, she said, "burned to the ground almost everything in my life."

Suddenly, Alli's marriage and career were in shambles and she was forced to go on a journey, recognizing the way she lived her life — based on the world's standards — was unfulfilling.

"I did it the way the world said to do it, and I fell apart anyway," Alli said.

Listen to her powerful story and journey.

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