Personal coaching is a booming but also very unregulated industry, which means that it attracts a lot of so-called coaches or mentors who might not be qualified to practice what they preach—and in the process, they can end up doing some real harm. I’m speaking from my own recent and less-than-positive experience participating in someone else’s program where I felt the systems, coaching and community didn’t deliver on what was promised.

So for this episode, I’m providing you with five questions you should ask yourself before committing to working with a coach -whether it’s 1:1 or in a group program or course. In addition, I elaborate on the importance of showing up and explain how a good investment helped improve my relationship with money. 

I’m opening up a new cohort for my Ascend Mastermind, which starts April 1! If you’re an ambitious female entrepreneur or high level professional who is ready to uplevel your health and well-being (mental, emotional, physical) so you can reach your professional and personal goals (and be happy doing it), this Mastermind is the perfect opportunity for you. You’ll get to work with, be held accountable by, and find support among like-minded women as you ascend. Check out the details here: www.kellytravis.net/ascend 

The Finer Details of This Episode:

1. Is this coach/mentor/business a promoter, or are they getting results?
2. Is this coach actually qualified in some way to help or lead people?
3. Does this coach allow you a safe space to feel vulnerable or uncomfortable?
4. Is the coach able to accept being wrong from time to time?
5. Why do you want to work with this coach and/or program in particular?

ALSO: check out my private Facebook group —> The Goal Getters Club. This week I’m hosting a free workshop “How to Relieve Anxiety” and you can catch the replay there. Join us here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/goalgettersclubkellythealth

Quotes:

“I really believe that as coaches we have a responsibility to continuously do the work on ourselves.”

“I’m not for everyone, and not everyone is for me.”

“Masterminds are filled with people that are reminding you of how far you’ve come and where you can go.”

“Opportunities will open up when you say ‘yes’ to playing a bigger game.”

Show Links:

Healthy High Performer, episode 12: Level Up Your Community for Health and Success - http://healthyhighperformer.libsyn.com/level-up-your-community-for-health-and-success

Ascend Mastermind - https://www.kellytravis.net/ascend

7 Things Your Evening Routine Should Include - https://kellythealth.lpages.co/nightly-routine-guide/

The Goal Getters Club Facebook group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/goalgettersclubkellythealth

Ready to take your work a bit deeper? Schedule a call with me to discuss ways we can work together. www.kellytravis.net/discovery

Between the newest cohort of my Ascend Mastermind and my one-on-one clients, I’ve recently been getting a lot of questions about the ins and outs of coaching. I want to impress that coaching is more than just talk—it’s thoughtful action that you carry out to achieve the change you desire and push through resistance when it comes up. It’s about changing the stories we’ve been unknowingly telling ourselves for a long time. 

In this episode, I walk you through my own coaching process, help you identify the entrenched beliefs that hold you back, and ask  you questions that you can explore right away. If you’ve already been doing the work, changing your habits and rethinking your mindset, this episode will take you even deeper and truly challenge you.

I’m also happy to announce that I’m opening up a new cohort for my Ascend Mastermind! If you’re a high achieving entrepreneur or high level professional who is ready to uplevel your health and well-being (mental, emotional, physical) so you can reach your professional and personal goals (and be happy doing it), this Mastermind is the perfect opportunity for you. You’ll get to work with, be held accountable by, and find support among like-minded women as you ascend. Check out the details here: www.kellytravis.net/ascend 

The Finer Details of This Episode:

- Why there’s more action to coaching than you might think there is.

- The reason playing it safe and waiting for the right moment is never going to pay off the way you think it will.

- How we get trapped in self-defeating cycles of victimhood—and what you can do to break free of yours.

- What are some of the “patterns” that keep us stuck in a rut?

- How the stories we tell ourselves influence the behaviors that keep us coming back to unhealthy living.

- Why shutting out negative emotions is actually a missed opportunity.

- Lastly: challenging the deep-seated beliefs that lead to shame and indecision.

Quotes:

“There’s more work to this if you want lasting change.”

“It’s always going to be scary because change is scary!”

“Comparing your race with someone else’s will always make you feel like you aren’t further along.”

“What stories do I tell myself that create my behaviors right now?”

“If we don’t do the deeper work, then we either stay stuck or we don’t follow through.”

“It’s not you failing, it’s just not having all of the tools to get it done.”

Show Links:

Ascend Mastermind - https://www.kellytravis.net/ascend

Ready to take your work a bit deeper? Schedule a call with me to discuss ways we can work together. www.kellytravis.net/discovery

Self-care is an important tool in improving overall health and well-being so you can show up your best in you career and life. It allows us to take some time out, recharge, and create the space we need to show up with more energy, focus and clarity. BUT, we don’t all have a great relationship with it. If we misuse self-care and end up relying on it as a way of shutting out our problems OR avoid it because we don’t feel deserving of it -  it can keep us from improving our health and reaching new levels of success. 

We want to be able to use self-care effectively. So for this episode, I break down what self care is (and isn’t), discuss why so many of us resist taking part in self-care practices (and/or use them in unhealthy ways), and explain what I believe needs to happen FIRST in order to be able to engage in truly healthy self-care, 

I’m also happy to announce that I’m opening up a new cohort for my Ascend Mastermind! If you’re a high achieving entrepreneur or high level professional who is ready to uplevel your health and well-being (mental, emotional, physical) so you can reach your professional and personal goals (and be happy doing it), this Mastermind is the perfect opportunity for you. You’ll get to work with, be held accountable by, and find support among like-minded women as you ascend. Check out the details here: www.kellytravis.net/ascend

The Finer Details of This Episode:

- What’s your current approach to self-care: resist it or go all-in?

- Looking at how self-care is defined in different ways.

- What doesn’t count as self-care, and what you should try to focus on first when caring for yourself.

- When what we think is self-care turns into simply numbing or ignoring the pain we’re feeling.

- Reveal why the intention behind our self-care practices is a clue as to whether we’re using it in a healthy way (or not). 

- The strange way our own brains will try to keep us from engaging in self-care.

- I break down the only form of self-care that truly reduces your stress and anxiety.

- Consider overcoming your fears rather than trying to punch them in the face.

Quotes:

“[Self-care] is not about adding more to your to-do list.”

“You put on your own mask first so that you can help others around you.”

“None of it will work if you don’t start with what’s happening in your head and your heart.”

“Self-care, in theory, should be something that refuels us rather than takes from us.”

“The ‘why’ of self-care matters way more than the action.”

“It’s not about changing a behavior—it’s about getting to the emotional layer that is causing the behavior.”

Show Links:

Ascend Mastermind - https://www.kellytravis.net/ascend

Ready to take your work a bit deeper? Schedule a call with me to discuss ways we can work together. www.kellytravis.net/discovery

What if the vision or life you have in mind for yourself doesn’t line up with what friends, family or even society expect from you? Do you stay comfortable and keep checking off all of the boxes on the list of what you *should do*, or do you venture off in another direction because it actually makes you happy, In today’s episode, I’m discussing what happens when we choose to go after goals or live a bit *unconventionally*. I help you break away from the idea that there’s only one right way to do things, challenge you to start asking yourself why you’re choosing things in your life and teach you the secret for dealing with the doubts that may creep in if you opt to do things differently.

Next week, I will be premiering a new workshop, Second Month. February is often when people start to fall behind on their New Year’s goals, so it’s the perfect time to work with other women and me to keep yourself on track. I promise to help you reach your goals and gain confidence even if you’ve given up or decided to change what you want to achieve. The workshop will be held online at February 13 at 4PM PST/7PM EST. Sign up here: https://kelly-travis.mykajabi.com/month-2

The Finer Details of This Episode:

- How my own experiences taught me that it’s okay if everything doesn’t go as planned.

- What questions you should—and probably shouldn’t—ask people who choose a less conventional path in life.

- Accepting that doing something out of the norm can and will feel a little isolating—and how to find strength in others who’ve chosen the less-travelled path.

- Overcoming the doubts people may plant in your head by reframing them as challenges.

Quotes:

“I have been the happiest in the last five [years] when I have not been following any one type of expectation.”

“I found myself recognizing that I was chasing other people’s goals and not my own.”

“You’ve gotta own your choice and not apologize for it!”

“I don’t have expectations beyond just being happy.”

Show Links:

Ready to take your work a bit deeper? Schedule a call with me to discuss ways we can work together. www.kellytravis.net/discovery

Lindsay Bryan-Podvin is a financial therapist—the first in the state of Michigan! As the owner and founder of Mind Money Balance, she works with couples to help eliminate tension over money. Lindsay began her career working in mental health treatment and advocacy, and through observing her clients’ struggles with money she found her calling helping couples achieve balance in their checkbooks and their relationships.

In this episode, Lindsay discusses her own financial highs and lows, compares compromise and collaboration using the “orange analogy,”and explains why you should go on a “money date” with your partner. She also details her new six-month group consulting course, which you can learn more about by signing up to her mailing list at https://www.mindmoneybalance.com/links.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

- How Lindsay developed financially healthy thinking while she was growing up.

- Lindsay’s “eye-opening moment” when she realized that a job wouldn’t always be there for her.

- Pushing back against the idea that there’s only one right way to manage your personal finance.

- Lindsay explains what makes her brand of financial therapy stand out from the competition’s.

- What’s the difference between compromise and collaboration?

- How some couples have benefitted from Lindsay’s financial therapy.

- Why it's important to set a firm boundary between your personal and professional life.

- Lindsay gives us a sneak peek at her upcoming book, The Financial Anxiety Solution and explains why you should pre-order it before February 18.

Quotes:

“The numbers, in my work, do not come first.”

“Even when we’re getting into the numbers, we’re making sure we’re coming at it from a values-based place.”

“We try to create one goal that works for both of them.”

“We get so caught up in assets being monetary that we forget that there are other things that are really important in a relationship.”

“They can really stand in the relationship that they’ve envisioned for themselves that they hadn’t quite been living.”

“I do not settle by compromising my sleep.”

“I’m really dedicated to making sure I take care of myself so that I can constantly be up-levelling my business and my health.”

Guest Links:

Mind Money Balance - https://www.mindmoneybalance.com/

Show Links:

Ready to take your work a bit deeper? Schedule a call with me to discuss ways we can work together. www.kellytravis.net/discovery

This week’s solo episode with yours truly is a conversation I’ve actually wanted to have for a couple of months: Creating a “morning routine” that works for you (not someone else). With all the “experts” sharing the routines required for success, it’s easy to think you aren’t doing enough. Right? I’m here to say it isn’t all realistic AND it’s up to you to decide what you need to set yourself up for a good day. 

In this episode, I give you a different perspective on how you can best start off your day, share my own list of three morning non-negotiables, and perhaps most important, I discuss what NOT to do right after you wake up. Plus, since so much of success lies in the preparation, I’ve shared a list of how you can get a head start on your good morning the night before!

The Finer Details of This Episode:

- Do the experts have good advice? Yes. But you should still go with what works best for you.

- As with many other things in life, consistency is key to a successful morning routine.

- No, you do NOT need to wake up at the crack of dawn—but you should be getting up at the same time every day.

- Try not to skimp out on sleep for the sake of getting in early morning exercise.

- What I do to set my intentions for the day ahead of me.

- Starting your day off right with lots of water, a good tongue-scrape and actually making your bed.

- Why I push back on the impulse to check my email first thing in the morning.

Quotes:

“You have to listen and decide what is best for you.”

“The best way you spend your morning is completely up to you.”

“It’s not too late to make this a habit.”

“When you drink water on an empty stomach, you actually flush out those harmful toxins.”

“When we complete something or achieve something we get that hit of dopamine.”

“You can give yourself a half hour to an hour in the morning without being completely responsive.”

Show Links:

7 Things Your Evening Routine Should Include - https://kellythealth.lpages.co/nightly-routine-guide/

Ready to take your work a bit deeper? Schedule a call with me to discuss ways we can work together. www.kellytravis.net/discovery

I met today’s guest, Clancy Harrison, at the first Mastermind I invested in for my business and myself. Clancy is a registered dietitian, TEDx speaker and food justice advocate. A self-described “recovered food elitist,” she has founded three anti-hunger programs and created the Food Dignity Project, which works to make healthy food more accessible to underprivileged people.

Clancy lives with her family in Pennsylvania, and in the course of her personal and professional journeys she’s had firsthand experience with the doubting questions that flare up whenever we try to ascend to the next level. Nevertheless, she’s been able to stay in alignment with her values through her work. In this episode, she discusses the relationship between poverty and nutrition, reveals how she was able to be confident on the world stage, and delves into her “Say No” Year.

Ready to take your work a bit deeper? Schedule a call with me to discuss ways we can work together --> http://www.kellytravis.net/discovery

The Finer Details of This Episode:

- Clancy explains how she came to work with an underprivileged population and how the experience dispelled a lot of her misconceptions about unhealthy eaters.

- The moment that shifted Clancy’s perspective on foods she had been labeling as “bad”.

- Explaining why some don't ask for help when they’re unable to afford better quality food.

- Clancy’s advice for parents who are unable to keep up with the financial demands of healthy food choices.

- What Clancy did to build confidence when she was pursuing this new undertaking.

- Clancy relates her validating experience attending the World Youth Forum in Egypt.

- What she does to keep every aspect of her life, personal and professional, in equilibrium.

- How does Clancy practice self-care?

- What’s next for Clancy?

Quotes:

“A voice inside of me said ‘It’s not my place to judge. Jump in and do it’.”

“How do we start bringing more dignity to food access?”

“If we’re not having these conversations in our own home, how are we going to address it as a society?”

“My purpose is greater than my fear.”

“I went with so much fear and I came home with so much love.”

“Listen and understand someone else’s story without judgment.”

Show Links:

Clancy’s homepage - https://clancyharrison.com/

Ready to take your work a bit deeper? Schedule a call with me to discuss ways we can work together --> http://www.kellytravis.net/discovery

We’re now a week into 2020 and odds are that you, like yours truly, have been bombarded by no shortage of “New Year, New You” advertising, marketing and social media. If you’re feeling guilty about not having immediately started in on your 2020 goals, drop the shame sis! Acclimating yourself to your goals rather than throwing yourself at them from the get-go means you will find a balance that works well for you without quickly burning yourself out.

To explain how this can work for you, I’m expanding on last week’s discussion about New Year’s resolutions and relating my own current process for pursuing and achieving my goals. In this short and sweet episode, I reveal what I uncovered during my own reflections on 2019, remind you that this goal-oriented process is gradual and more than a little bit messy, and describe the kind of equilibrium I want to build for myself this year.

Ready to take your work a bit deeper? Schedule a call with me to discuss ways we can work together. www.kellytravis.net/ascend10

The Finer Details of This Episode:

- Accepting that you won’t find clarity until you start in on your goals—and even then, it’s going to be messy!

- Why I feel at ease with the very concept of “ease.”

- Which values do I still hold very near and dear to my heart?

Quotes:

“You don’t have to push right away!”

“I’m trying to balance the effort with the ease.”

“It’s okay to not wanna go hard at the beginning of the year.”

“I don’t want you to place your worth in being busy.”

Show Links:

Ready to take your work a bit deeper? Schedule a call with me to discuss ways we can work together. www.kellytravis.net/ascend10

We made it, friends. It’s a New Year, and a new decade to boot! It’s a fresh start and an opportunity to eliminate bad habits and internalize healthier routines. At this point, you’re probably expecting me to list my own New Year’s resolutions, when it comes to the New Year I like to focus on goals! In my experience, making a big promise to yourself at the start of a New Year without any real plan or consideration of practicality means you have little chance of sticking to it.

So for this episode, I outline out seven steps for crafting manageable goals that will last you the whole year and not just until your initial burst of New Year’s energy lapses. I also reveal how I help my sons craft their own goals, discuss how you can figure out what you value most, and explain why you should make a point of writing your goals down and sharing your progress with a trusted friend.

If you love what this podcast offers and find you’re wanting more, my new She Doesn’t Settle Academy is the ultimate extension of the show. We’re really getting things going next week, so if you want to take things to the next level, be sure to sign up for the membership at https://kelly-travis.mykajabi.com/sds-academy so you can work with a community of badass women like yourself.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

- Looking at the “grim” statistics for how many people actually stick with their New Year’s resolutions.

- Why is it so difficult to stick to resolutions—and why goals make for a much more applicable alternative.

- First things first: look back on the year that has just ended and take the time to consider both your successes and your failures.

- How I help my boys reflect on their own 2019 and what they’ve accomplished.

- Figure out what your ideal end goal is so you can reverse-engineer the best path to it.

- Identify your three core values so you can clarify what’s important to you and why.

- What do health and well-being specifically mean to you?

- Be honest with yourself about how you’ll need to change your lifestyle to accommodate for your goals.

- View your temporary setbacks as learning opportunities rather than failures.

- Don’t underestimate the power of a buddy system when it comes to sticking to your goals.

Quotes:

“Resolutions are much easier to make than to keep.”

“If we can reflect back, we learn, we create opportunities, and we identify what was most important to us.”

“Get as clear as you can about the outcome you want to achieve.”

“The more specific you get when creating your goals, the more likely it is you’ll accomplish them.”

“We need to work with our brain so that it works for us.”

Show Links:

join the She Doesn’t Settle Academy and become a founding member before January 6th: https://kelly-travis.mykajabi.com/sds-academy

The holidays are finally here. Regardless of what or if you celebrate at this time of year, the final week of December can be a LOT. You might be feeling relief, or you could very well be overwhelmed by chaos—or you could be feeling both! Feelings can be strange like that. Due to losses in my own life, the holiday season is definitely a difficult time of year for me, and so I know firsthand how this week can be a little too much. Thankfully, I’ve internalized a handful of important lessons and techniques that keep me level-headed during Yuletide.

So as my Christmas present to you faithful listeners this year, I want to ease your anxiety and help you enjoy where you’re at right now. To this end, I have five key tips for keeping yourself mentally in balance, including remembering the importance of being present, taking the time to engage with others, and recognizing that our emotions are complex and contradictory, especially at this time of year.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

- I relate the Herculean task of making sure my kids saw Santa this year.

- Acknowledge how you’re feeling and it’s normal to feel happy and sad at the same time.

- Stay away from social media that risks triggering you and take the time to engage the people you’re actually with.

- Keep your holiday expectations realistic and don’t build up an ideal in your head of how they will pan out, just in case.

- Be present in the moment and enjoy the good things—big and small—that happen for you this season.

- Take a breather when you need to and create some space for yourself.

- COMING UP NEXT: I help you change your perspective on the New Year.

Quotes:

“I want you to just really acknowledge how you want to feel, and that way you can do the work that’s required to make that happen.”

“If you’re just looking for some permission to slow the F down, I’m giving it to you, sister.”

“We have to have a contrast of emotions in order to feel.”

“Give yourself permission to step away.”

“We have a choice in how we move through this last week and I think it’s important to acknowledge how we want to feel.”

Show Links:

6 Strategies for Scaling Down Stress In Your Life -  http://healthyhighperformer.libsyn.com/6-strategies-for-scaling-down-stress-in-your-life

Schedule a call to learn about two coaching program options, including the newest one - She Doesn’t Settle Academy -https://kelly-travis.mykajabi.com/sds-academy