She Handled It! with Arwen Becker

On a daily basis, Tia Glover found herself defending her appearance at her boarding school when she was just 8 years old. She was surrounded by girls that weren't of the same race or from the same background, and she always felt like she stood out like a sore thumb. It happened so often that she didn't even know she was dealing with feelings of rejection as they took root.

Now, Tia runs a full-service image and style coaching business in Washington, D.C., where she's helped clients of all backgrounds project and improve their image. Raised in England and Nigeria with a background in law and psychology, she has a deep understanding of the fact that a positive first impression gives people much-needed confidence and positions them to achieve great success.

Today, Tia joins the podcast to talk about the gifts (and curses) parents leave their children with, finding acceptance in simply being yourself, and the power of truly understanding self-worth.

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God Morning - Natalie Lauren

Pearls of Wisdom

• Children are watching us like hawks so be clear about what we show them.
• Never place your value in somebody else's hands.
• Pay yourself first, save more than you spend, and make good decisions.
• If you wouldn't have bought something at full price, then you don't need it when it's on sale.

Show Notes

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When Cody Foster was a junior in college, his mom called one morning and told him that his grandma was losing her café, and that she was going to declare bankruptcy. She was 64 years old, divorced, and was about to lose her sole source of income for the last three decades.

This sent Cody on a quest to better understand money, which then led him to found Advisors Excel in Topeka, Kansas. Advisors Excel has grown from three founders to over 650 employees since 2005, working tirelessly to help the best financial advisors get even better. He is also the founder of AIM Strategies, where he uses his passion and knowledge for real estate and development to help others grow their businesses.

Today, Cody joins the podcast to talk about how he first became interested in learning about money, how his mission is to make sure that what happened to his grandmother never happens to anybody that he cares about again, and the power of creating lasting success in people's lives.

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Lecrae - Fear

Pearls of Wisdom

• Be very aware and thoughtful about what you're putting into your mind.
• Always pay yourself first. Automate and start saving money, as life inevitably gets tougher when you don't.
• Live debt-free as much as you can.

Show Notes

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A fun day almost ended in tragedy when Arwen Becker's teenage boys were pulled out to sea by a riptide on a deserted beach in Costa Rica. When her husband Randy noticed that they had drifted too far from the shore, he started furiously waiving for them to come in, completely unaware of the level of danger they were in.

For a brief moment, Easton's screams for help cut through the deafening waves and Randy knew something was terribly wrong. In an instant, he sprinted into the water and swam as fast he could to get out to them.

Even though Arwen's sons are decent swimmers, neither of them had ever dealt with a rip current like this before. Her oldest son Ashton was able to stay with his younger brother and help keep his head above the water until Randy arrived. After many anxious minutes, the whole family was safely back on the shore with the help of two strangers who also jumped in to help.

In this episode, Arwen shares the story of the family vacation that nearly ended in tragedy, and the lessons that the whole family learned that day. She also reminds us that life is full of risks, but our lives are meant to be lived and enjoyed.

Pearls of Wisdom

• Life is full of risks, but we still have to live our lives and enjoy the time we have.
• Don't let guilt prevent you from moving forward. Beating ourselves up doesn't solve anything.
• The value in getting life and term insurance while you're young and healthy.

Show Notes

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When Kymberlee Weil left the stage after her first improv performance, she told her comedy troop that she wouldn't be back and apologized. She thought she bombed because even her best friend wasn't laughing. When the night was over, she told her husband she was retiring from improv, and that comedy performance simply wasn't for her.

Thankfully, her best friend assured her after the show that she was hilarious and she had nothing to worry about. That night, she learned an important lesson – you can't control your audience's face.

Since then, Kymberlee has trained hundreds of TEDx speakers, improv performers, and international speakers at StorytellingSchool.com, where she teaches people how to use high-stakes, short-form storytelling to expand their influence. She's an NCAA Woman of the Year, a 4th degree black belt, an MBA, an author of multiple books, and the founder of an award-winning software development and licensing company.

Today, Kymberlee and Arwen discuss how improv can teach people how to power through failure, how the stories we tell ourselves impact who we are and who we become, and how the lessons Kymberlee learned in improv (and with her own coach) have helped her empower storytellers of all kinds.

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Eminem - Lose Yourself

Pearls of Wisdom

• We can't control our audience's face or their reactions.
• We can always challenge ourselves to tell better stories. The more interesting the story is, the more fun it is not just to deliver it, but to hear it.
• Just do it, be it and don't overthink it. Make a choice and own it.
• Appreciate your money and save it for a purpose.

Show Notes

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While working 80+ hours each week, Kelly Lynn Adams' body was literally breaking down. The red flags were there, but she wasn't listening. When her body finally gave way, her doctor had no choice but to send her to the ER due to severe dehydration, fever and malnutrition. She spent the next two days in the hospital on an IV.

For the next two and a half months, all she could do was sleep. She was utterly exhausted. She developed a few chronic illnesses during that time, however they turned out to be a huge blessing. They taught her to listen to the warning signs and to slow down and truly enjoy life.

Kelly is a certified executive leadership life coach, speaker, and the creator of the Perfectly Imperfect podcast. She's spent over 14 years in corporate America working for brands like Gucci, Kenneth Cole, and Bed Bath & Beyond, and helps high achieving women manage their mindset, maximize their time, and monetize their businesses. She activates leaders, giving them the power to redefine and step into their next level of success without struggle or stress.

In today's conversation, Kelly reminds us of what can happen when we're on the verge of physical and mental burnout, why we need to listen to the warnings that so many of us ignore, and the beauty found when women support other women.

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Pharrell Williams - Happy

Pearls of Wisdom

• If we keep our minds open and listen, the universe will give you lessons.
• Slow down - even if you're only moving one percent slower than yesterday.
• Take baby steps because over time those little steps compile and compound.
• We are creative beings that can create money and success with the proper mindset.

Show Notes

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Rakel Chafir was 8 months pregnant with her second child and the height of her fitness and coaching career, when one morning she woke up and realized she had completely lost her voice. The vocal polyps that had emerged left her with one option for treatment during her pregnancy – no talking whatsoever, until she could have the surgery she needed several months later. Unable to work or communicate, Rakel and her family relunctantly moved to back to Florence where she would recover from surgery and a year of vocal therapy to regain her voice.

Rakel is a high-performance coach and a world leading body confidence expert who helps women over 40 release the emotional and physical weight that keeps them from experiencing massive success. She's the author of the bestseller Free Your Body: 7 Steps to Get the Body You Desire and the Freedom You Deserve. She's also the creator of Fuel - The Body Resilience Training, a high-intensity body and mind practice created in collaboration with an international team of clinical psychologists and neuroscientists.

Today, Rakel joins Arwen for a conversation about how losing her voice helped her learn what truly mattered - and how this experience changed her life. They talk about the power of reframing, the relief that comes with facing fears, how to let go of emotional weight and the need to control everything, and truly love life.

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Andra Day - Rise Up

Pearls of Wisdom

• Listen to your body and intuition before making a financial decision.
• Change your mindset. Don't force things to happen – but allow them to happen instead.
• Be present, show up in your responsibility, take space, and own it.

Show Notes

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At 10 years old, Arwen Becker was thrilled to have the very rare opportunity to jump off the high dive after swimming practice. As she waited on the top step for her teammate to jump, she lost her footing and fell onto the concrete 15 feet below. The entire swimming class screamed in horror at her crumpled up body lying on the floor.

In the middle of the chaos, Arwen was amazed to discover that she didn't break her leg or hit her head. However, she quickly realized by what she saw, that her wrist was obliterated. As paramedics prepped her for the ride to the hospital in an ambulance, she wondered if the joy of the moment was worth the risk to her athletic career.

Today, Arwen shares some of the lessons she learned from this experience and reminds us about the inherent risks in everything that gives us joy in life - and all the ways life can prove that the risks are certainly worth it.

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Sia - Chandelier

Pearls of Wisdom

• Vulnerability is never a bad thing.
• If you always play it safe, you'll never feel the exhilaration of accomplishing something you're scared of.
• Throw your ego out the window and experience what it's like to be playful.
• Everyone needs an end of life plan, no matter who you are or what you do.

Show Notes

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On the day that 40-year-old Wendy Posillico was ready to undergo her in vitro fertilization (IVF) procedure, she was stunned when the doctor asked if she had considered finding an egg donor. Heartbroken and devastated by his doubt in the viability of her own eggs, she asked his top RN, "Why am I doing this if he doesn't think I can do it?"

Thankfully, the nurse gave Wendy some great advice and simply said, "Don't listen to him." That advice turned out to be monumental as it led to her biggest and most favorite blessing, her beautiful daughter Josephine June.

Wendy is an coach for athletes, parents, and business people. She helps her clients navigate periods of transition, instigate their souls, disrupt their norms, and connect with who they are. As a former Class A LPGA teaching professional, Wendy traveled with Hall of Famer Betsy King, where she quickly became involved with the Golf Fore Africa foundation. She has served on the board of directors for clean water initiatives since 2009, and has had a myriad of accomplishments along that journey of her own discovery.

In this episode, Wendy talks about the significant negativity she faced in deciding to have a child on her own, without a man in her life, the difficulty surrounding IVF, and the importance of finding people who believe in you especially on an unconventional journey.

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Pearls of Wisdom

• Pay attention to your inner voice and take action when you have no answers.
• Find the people who believe in you and support you.
• Create an environment that empowers you.
• We are all leaders and our job is to be real

Show Notes

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After losing his 15-year-old daughter to suicide, Eric Hodgdon found himself screaming, "Oh my god, Zoi, I'm so sorry. I cannot believe that I did not help you in some way." Suddenly, it felt as if Zoi was sitting next to him. She said, "Dad, cut it out. I'm okay." He froze, said, "Oh, my god. She's right. She is okay now."

You would never know that Eric has walked through a massive, devastating life experience – or that it was this trauma that set him on a path to where he is and what he does today. He has a joy for life, and a very kind and loving spirit. As a coach, author, and speaker, Eric has trained thousands of people to navigate the worst setbacks that can happen to us all.

In today's episode, Eric shares his journey of grief and how he found a way to get back up after losing his daughter Zoi, what he learned from this traumatic experience, and how he teaches others that no one needs to walk alone.

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Fleetwood Mac - Don't Stop

Pearls of Wisdom

• Survival is not the end game. It's part of the process, but not where you stop.
• How it's okay to live your life and honor your loved one at the same time.
• Always remember to own what's going on, and not let it own you.

Show Notes

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When Kelsey Chapman was diagnosed with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), she understood that her feelings wouldn't go away just because she wanted them to. She needed to work ruthlessly to address this problem and set extreme boundaries. Why? Without them, she'd go back to feeling every wall in her house before going to bed and actively living in irrational fears.

Kelsey is an author, podcaster, and personal cheerleader to women building their dream lives and businesses. She launched her own brand in 2015, and conquered her fears by leaning on the shoulders of incredible mentors who helped her jump from dreamer to doer. She shifted her old perspectives and mindsets, discovered how to execute her vision, and became the CEO and leader she is today.

In this episode, Kelsey is speaking with Arwen about conquering her obsessive thoughts, the ongoing process of managing intrusive thoughts, and why it's possible, even with OCD to turn your wildest dreams into reality.

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Hillsong UNITED - Rhythms of Grace

Pearls of Wisdom

• How the rituals that seem like they keep us safe can become dangerous coping mechanisms.
• Why taking things that hurt you in the past and using them to help others who are struggling with the same issues is a beautiful thing.
• Remember that you don't have to struggle alone.
• Why setting boundaries in your personal and business life is so important.

Show Notes

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