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Have you ever reacted so intensely to someone sneaking up behind you that people laughed or told you to "calm down"? That hypersensitive startle reflex isn't an overreaction—it's your body's trauma response working exactly as designed.

Drawing from personal experience, I dive deep into why certain "harmless pranks" can trigger full-blown nervous system meltdowns for people with trauma histories. When someone with PTSD jumps at a small noise or unexpected touch, their body isn't just being jumpy—it's reliving past danger. The science is clear: trauma doesn't just live in our memories; it's encoded in our physiology, creating a hypervigilant state that keeps us constantly scanning for threats.

What most people don't see is the aftermath—the racing heart that won't slow down, the tightness in the chest, the shaking hands, and the hours it takes to truly recover from what others dismiss as "just a joke." I share five practical, science-backed techniques to help regulate your nervous system after being triggered, from intentional breathing patterns to grounding exercises that bring you back to the present moment. For those who love someone with trauma, simple adjustments like announcing yourself before entering a room can make a world of difference in helping them feel safe.

This episode goes beyond just understanding reactions—it's about creating environments where healing can happen. Because respecting someone's trauma responses isn't about being overly sensitive; it's about basic human kindness and valuing their healing journey more than a momentary laugh. Share this with someone who needs to hear it, and remember: your reactions aren't wrong—they're your body trying to keep you safe.

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Have you ever felt completely drained after certain conversations or interactions? That pit in your stomach when specific names appear on your phone? You're not alone. Today's powerful conversation tackles one of life's most challenging yet liberating lessons: protecting your energy isn't selfish—it's essential self-respect.

Drawing from my personal journey as a recovering codependent, I share the transformative moment sitting in my car after yet another depleting interaction when I realized I was betraying myself by constantly overextending for others. We've been sold the false narrative that being constantly available makes us good people, when in reality, it often leads to resentment, exhaustion, and disconnection from our authentic selves.

This episode offers practical guidance on identifying your energy leaks, setting boundaries without guilt, and handling the inevitable pushback when you start prioritizing your wellbeing. Learn the difference between healthy boundaries (filters, not walls) and using "protecting my energy" as an excuse to avoid growth. Discover why simple phrases like "That doesn't work for me" require no further explanation, and why not everyone deserves unlimited access to your life.

The most valuable lesson? Boundaries should make you feel lighter, not smaller. Your energy determines how much of yourself you get to keep—and you're absolutely worth keeping. Whether you're struggling with people-pleasing tendencies or simply feeling overwhelmed, this episode provides the permission and practical tools to reclaim your peace. Save this episode, share it with friends who need this message, and subscribe so you don't miss our ongoing conversation about authentic growth and courage.

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Have you ever felt that heart-pounding, palm-sweating sensation when facing something that scares you? That feeling that whispers "who do you think you are?" right when you're about to take a risk? Welcome to the debut episode of She Lost It, where we dive deep into understanding how fear works as our compass, not our stop sign.

Standing in front of the mirror four years ago, I barely recognized myself. Years of people-pleasing and playing small had buried my dreams under layers of self-doubt and worry about others' opinions. But that day, something shifted. Not because I suddenly became brave – I was terrified – but because a tiny voice whispered: "What if you try anyway?"

This podcast was born from that question. Recording this first episode with shaking hands and a nervous stomach, I'm sharing the revelation that transformed my relationship with fear: you don't overcome fear before taking action; you develop courage because of action. Fear isn't the problem; staying stuck because of it is.

Through personal stories and practical strategies – from naming your specific fears to celebrating imperfect progress – we explore how to break free from paralysis. I share the seven words that became my mantra ("Feel the fear and build it anyway") and offer three powerful techniques to move forward despite uncertainty. When that microphone appeared under my Christmas tree with the note "Everything is a dream until you make it real," I knew it was time to stop running.

Whether you're contemplating a career change, a difficult conversation, or any dream that won't leave you alone, this episode offers a compassionate nudge toward that first step. Subscribe to join our community of courageous builders who are learning to recognize fear not as the enemy, but as an invitation to grow beyond what we thought possible.

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Ever wondered why you can't stop at just one bite, even when you promised yourself you would? The answer might be more complex than lacking willpower. 

Food addiction is the socially acceptable dependency no one wants to acknowledge. Ultra-processed foods trigger the same dopamine pathways as addictive substances, creating powerful neurological responses that feel impossible to resist. For those with ADHD, anxiety disorders, or trauma histories, these effects are even more pronounced—our brains are literally wired differently, setting us up for struggles that diet culture simplifies as "just eat less."

After years trapped in the exhausting binge-restrict cycle—emotional trigger, mindless eating, crushing shame, extreme restriction, repeat—I discovered that breaking free required healing, not dieting. By addressing the underlying neurological and emotional drivers, finding alternative dopamine sources, and confronting the shame that perpetuated my cycles, I finally found a sustainable path forward.

The most challenging aspect of food addiction? Unlike other substances, we can't simply abstain. We must learn to coexist with our "drug of choice" while society continues pushing it on us at every turn. Those well-meaning "food pushers" who insist "just one won't hurt" don't realize they're essentially telling a recovering addict to "just have one hit." Setting boundaries around food isn't about deprivation—it's about protecting your healing.

If any of this resonates with you, please know you're not broken. Your brain is responding exactly as it was designed to, especially if you're navigating ADHD, anxiety, or past trauma. Freedom is possible when you approach recovery with curiosity instead of judgment, find healthier dopamine sources, and reach out for support. Subscribe to continue this conversation—because talking about the hard things is how we heal.

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What happens when you finally decide to lose everything that's been weighing you down? Not just physical weight, but the emotional baggage, trauma, fear, shame, guilt, people-pleasing, and stories you've been hauling around like bricks on your back? 

Welcome to She Lost It, where I'm getting vulnerable about my journey from rock bottom to rebuilding. Four years ago, my life was a complete mess—anxiety, debt, food addiction, a failing marriage, and the crushing weight of everyone else's expectations. I was fumbling through adulthood and motherhood, failing miserably at it all. Then something clicked. I decided it was time to lose it all, and that decision became my lifeline.

This podcast is your coffee date with a friend who's been there. Someone who'll listen without judgment as you navigate your own messy middle. Each episode offers practical guidance for finding your voice again (or maybe for the first time), stepping into your purpose, and creating a life that's not just good but extraordinary—even when things get messy. You'll hear real stories happening in real time, sometimes shocking truths, but always authentic conversations that remind you that you're not alone.

Consider this your permission slip to let go of what no longer serves you and level up into the person you're meant to be. Ready to lose what's holding you back and find what's been waiting for you all along? Hit follow, subscribe, share with friends who might need this message too, and let's start this beautiful journey together.