Well dang. Ya'll slipped into the DM's on Instagram and asked a couple of questions about my previous episode from a couple of days ago. PSA: We've Got Sex and Desire All Wrong. This will a be short episode to answer a couple of those questions. And shout out to my friend's husband for his message.

I have a friend who listened to it and made her husband listen to the episode and he actually reached out to me on Instagram! So cool, right? This is what he said:

He said, "that he and his wife are listening to the Mind the Gap book in Audible and that the book makes him mad because reading it before now would’ve save so much heartache between him and his wife regarding their sex life.”

"You have given me hope that we can repair this and that he is committed to doing the work, learning and taking better care of our relationship and especially my wife. Thank you for the recommendation.”

They have been married for 25 years.

WHAT? You guys! I am so FREAKING happy. I feel good about being able to share my story to help others. It is an honor to be able to be a part of people's lives and help them make changes. As I walk my path, I invite you to come along and learn, heal and grow with me. I am honored to have this interaction with my friend's husband. Event he men are listening and wanting to grow.

Today I answer these two questions:

Question 1: "So, you're saying I'm normal? I'm NORMAL?!"

Question 2: "Can you have both responsive and spontaneous desire? I feel like that I am really spontaneous on vacation but get responsive when I get home. Is this normal?"

We can give a lot of thought to what we dont want. The list can be long. But have you given thought to what you DO want? For me, I hadn't. Not until this past year. And while it's been a new way of thinking for me, it's been a path that I am curious about and an learning to stay on as I find more of myself. I am finding that as I meet more of myself, I am becoming more aware of what it is that I want and how I want my life to look. Being complacent, living on autopilot and past patterns and conditionings are not where its at for me. I share a few things that I want in my life on today's chat. xx

I just had a great conversation with some friends via zoom…a check in of sorts to see how we’re all doing and what our goals are for this month. 

We got on the topic of healing and growth as we often do and I told them that I have been reflecting on something that I can finally put into words and I wanted to share them with you.

Healing opens you up. Like, all the way. It cracks you wide open.

I’ve noticed that my healing journey has led me to more compassion, empathy and to being more kind. To myself and definitely towards others. I have noticed that I feel a different kind of love towards others. A deep intimacy that is blossoming in a way that I have never, ever experienced before. It can feel uncomfortable and scary at times because I’ve never been in this place before and instead of pushing it away (like I have done in the past), I am really leaning into it. I am curious about it. And the more curious I am, the more I have opened. The more I soften.

It’s been a beautiful thing to experience and witness in myself. I look forward to more growth and softening. More intimacy and healing as I walk this path.

Blossom on, love.

Well, this one gets personal and was out of my comfort zone to share, but we don't let fear stop us around here! Today I take about some things I used to do before I began my healing journey. The shame that accompanies the looking back on the person you used to be can be hard face, repair and walk away from, but it can be done. I aim to choose to fill that space with love, forgiveness, compassion and accountability It does make the healing and growth a little bit easier. I ramble in this episode, but that is OK. I am here for the ramblings, reflections and saying what I need to say. I hope you can take something away from this chat as you continue your walk. Also, forgive yourself. Love yourself. Honor yourself for showing up anyway, even when it's hard to do. xx