#258

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how can someone have high self-esteem but low self-worth??! today’s guest is dr. marisa g. franco— a psychologist, author, professor, and friendship expert. she writes about how to build relationships with yourself and others for psychology today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications like the new york times, the telegraph, and vice.

in this episode, we continue last week’s conversation on self-worth and relationships. this time, we’re focused on the internal factors behind self-worth, such as your emotions, identity, and more!

we talk about:

2:11 why it can be easier to validate someone else's feelings instead of our own

3:28 the two different types of self-esteem (& which one leads to better relationships)

5:04 how to process your emotions to improve your self-worth

7:10 why gaining self-worth can change your life for the better

8:26 ways we reinforce our insecurities without even realizing

12:58 pushing back against our own (& other people's!) insecurities

16:08 misconceptions about self-worth

17:06 if gen z struggles with self-worth more than other generations

mentioned:

• dr. franco’s previous episode (https://shepersistedpodcast.com/episodes/ep113?rq=franco)

• dr. franco’s instagram (https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco/)

• dr. franco’s website (https://drmarisagfranco.com/)

• pre-order worth (https://drmarisagfranco.com/worth-the-book/)

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#257

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why do some people struggle to accept love?? today’s guest is dr. marisa g. franco— a psychologist, author, professor, and friendship expert. she writes about how to build relationships with yourself and others for psychology today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications like the new york times, the telegraph, and vice.

in this episode, we talk about how our self-worth impacts our ability to love ourselves– and receive love from others. 

we talk about:

01:38 how self-worth and relationships are tied together

05:16 how you can be loved but not feel loved

06:16 how memories become the database of your self-worth

08:50 external vs. internal validation

10:10 how to rewrite the memories that shaped you

14:20 supporting someone who can't accept your love

15:38 low self-worth and feeling misunderstood

18:46 how i found 1% of hope in recovery

20:50 what we get wrong about attachment styles

26:02 the one thing to take away from this episode

mentioned:

• dr. franco’s previous episode

• dr. franco’s instagram

• dr. franco’s website

• pre-order worth

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#256

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wanna know what over a decade of therapy, a psychology degree, and my own podcast have taught me about mental health?! in this solo episode, i’m breaking down the key takeaways that i’ve learned throughout my mental health journey.

in honor of it being mental health awareness month, i’m condensing everything i’ve learned from receiving intensive mental health care and years of dbt therapy as a suicidally depressed teenager– combined with my psychology education at upenn and my experience creating this very podcast– to make your 12-step guide to maintaining your mental health.

by the end of this episode, you’ll know all the mental health tips + tricks i wish i’d known when i was struggling!

i talk about:

• why avoidance is impacting your mental health 

• how to start getting better at recognizing your emotions

• my mantra for dealing with conflict more effectively

• relationship changes + how to navigate them 

• the power of secondary emotions 

• effective ways to reach your goals + stabilize your mental health

• a mental health quote that changed my life

• an underrated aspect of managing your mental health 

• whether we can use our mental health to predict our futures

• the mindset that was stopping me from building a life worth living

• how distraction can actually save lives

• what i learned in therapy that changed my self-esteem forever

mentioned: 

• atomic habits

• dr. blaise aguirre episode

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#255

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if your mental health is getting worse, but asking for help feels like too much, this episode is for YOU. 

in this solo episode, i explain why so many of us can be reluctant to open up about our mental health before breaking down the techniques you can try to be more vulnerable. 

by the end of this episode, you’ll learn how to lower your anxiety around asking for help– because vulnerability is the key to recovery! 

i talk about:

• why i didn’t ask for help when my mental health started struggling

• how our environment + upbringing shape our mental health 

• the impact of depression on our self worth + anxiety

• using exposure therapy to try actually being vulnerable 

• a communication technique that helped me open up to my parents

• easier ways you can practice being vulnerable on a regular basis

• choosing the right people to share with + setting clear expectations

mentioned:

• ep.254 (why they’re not getting help)

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#254

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how do you help someone who’s struggling with depression??

in this solo episode, i answer a mom's question on how she can best support her son with his depression. i explain how my mental health journey taught me what the best– and worst!– ways are to be there for someone who’s depressed– and three conversation ideas you can try out.  

whether you’re a parent, sibling, or friend, this advice can apply to anyone who wants to be a support system for their loved one.

i talk about:

• what to do if someone you care about is feeling hopeless

• why encouragement can be invalidating when you’re depressed

• do’s + don’ts for supporting someone who’s depressed

• using dbt diary cards to validate 

• the best ways to offer advice to someone with depression 

• how depression + anger are linked

• three ways to make someone feel less alone

mentioned:

• ep.209 maddy ellberger

• ep.156 diary cards

• ep.248 diary cards

• ep.215 caroline fleck

• validation by caroline fleck

• mclean 3east

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when i think about a major turning point in my mental health journey, this one conversation is truly what kickstarted my recovery. 

in this solo episode, i break down the moment in intensive mental health treatment that changed my outlook on mental health recovery, what led me to being hospitalized for my mental health in the first place, & how i began to recover from severe depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation. 

if you are on the fence about whether to ask for help with your mental health (or have a loved one in that exact spot), this episode details when i was in the exact same spot: i explain how i went from not believing i could get better to feeling hopeful that i could recover & build a life worth living. 

i talk about:

• why i needed intensive mental health treatment 

• the question my doctor asked me that changed my life

• how i almost got turned away from my mental health treatment 

• dbt wise mind & how that impacted my journey

• my biggest fears going into a residential mental health facility 

• being vulnerable when you’re getting mental health care

• the mindset i had going into getting residential mental health care

mentioned:

• dr. blaise aguirre ep.

• mclean 3east

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#252

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are you a chronic emotional over-invester?! in this solo episode, i explain how a simple mental health mantra transformed my mentality around emotional boundaries and even lowered my anxiety!

by the end of this episode, you’ll know how to stop the emotional over-involvement and start prioritizing your mental health. 

i talk about:

• the mental health mantra that’s changed my life 

• why stress can actually be good for you?!

• 3 questions to ask yourself if you’re emotionally over-investing

• if you’re problem-solving or just being anxious?

• influencing vs. controlling as anxiety responses  

• times you might be over-involving yourself emotionally

• how to lower your anxiety + set emotional boundaries in your relationships 

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#251

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why is the college experience SO different for our generation??! today’s guest is dr. scott barry kaufman— a psychologist, coach, professor, keynote speaker, and best-selling author who is passionate about helping all kinds of minds live a creative, fulfilling, and self-actualized life. he is a professor of psychology at columbia university and host of the psychology podcast, which has received over 30 million downloads worldwide. 

in this episode, we break down why gen z students are having such a unique college experience– and what that means for our mental health.

we talk about:

• if college students are struggling more with their mental health than ever

• college students ten years ago versus today

• pros + cons of ai use in college 

• what good leadership looks like to our generation 

• whether standardized tests really matter

• paths outside of a traditional four-year college

mentioned:

• dr. kaufman’s instagram

• dr. kaufman’s website

• dr. kaufman’s newest book

• the psychology podcast

• center for human potential

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#250

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are you tired of constantly choosing between your mental health versus everything else on your plate?! in this solo episode, i answer a listener’s question that a LOT of college students and postgrads struggle with: how do you prioritize success while still taking care of your mental health? 

by sharing some of my favorite mental health tips and routines, this episode can serve as your template for how to optimize your mental health without sacrificing your goals. 

i talk about:

• the mental health misconception so many of us have  

• one of the biggest lessons i’ve learned in my mental health journey

• why so many people struggle with mental health in college + as a postgrad

• a mental health mantra that i live by 

• daily routines that i swear by to maintain my mental health

• how to take a mental health audit of your life

• figuring out if you’re about to have a mental health crisis 

• ways to keep your mental health consistent (even if your life isn’t!)

mentioned: 

• prioritizing your relationships

• finding your dream career

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#249

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if you struggle with panic attacks and haven’t found a way to stop them, this episode will change that completely! in this solo episode, i share my psychology-backed hack to end 100% of your panic attacks.

by the end of this episode, you’ll have a mental health skill in your toolbox designed for curbing every panic attack– no matter how much anxiety you’re facing.

i talk about:

• a dbt skill that stops all panic attacks

• why this skill works better than other panic attack hacks 

• what’s really happening in our bodies during a panic attack 

• the science behind stopping a panic attack 

• how to use this panic attack skill wherever you go 

• other scenarios you can try out this skill in (including helping a loved one!)

mentioned: 

• dbt tipp skill 

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