SHE SPEAKS SHE HEALS Podcast with Doctor Shannon

Today I show you how to take control of your thoughts so you can receive what you say you desire.

Today's episode is somewhat of an extension of yesterday's EPISODE 143: Stop Trying To Own Their Opinions

Frank Outlaw wrote, "Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions, they become habits. Watch your habits, they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

But where do your thoughts come from?

Your beliefs.

Are you conscious of the beliefs that are guiding you to your destiny?

Today I'll help you begin the process of uncovering and discovering them so you can decide which beliefs FIT in your life, and which one's do not.

Are you ready to try on a NEW BELIEF?

Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)

TODAY'S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:

What is your most dominant thought on a daily basis?

Ask your heart to show you where that thought is coming from.

Be open to receiving what your heart's going to show you.

You get to choose which beliefs stay, and which ones must go.

Then try on a NEW BELIEF today, my dear!

Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.

Please come over to WomenSippingOnLife.com for some free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets…and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING.

I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY.

xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life's work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.

A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast…

Intro/Outro done by Uni V. SOL

Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)

Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com)

Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)

Do you think about what others are thinking about you? You're about to learn some TRUTHS that'll set you FREE...while adding incredible value to your life, and the lives of others.

It's an ongoing topic of discussion in my S.O.L. DATE SISTERHOOD, as well as with my coaching clients, and all the coaching I do.

It's the topic of worrying about what others think about YOU.

You're so concerned about what "THEY" are thinking about YOU…but is it possible that YOU'RE actually thinking that about YOURSELF (at some level?)

Yes, it's true!

OWN IT, my dear!

Stop trying to own everyone else's opinions about you.

Instead, OWN YOURS.

What would that look like for you?

What would your life look like for you to own your own opinion?

The 4 Levels of OPINION OWNERSHIP Are…

1. No ownership.

It's like you're homeless…and you feel helpless.

You don't own your opinion, nor do you own your responsibility.

There's no work. And I've got news for you…It doesn't work!

Everyone's opinion of YOU is important. Or so it seems.

2. Renting.

Think of it as leasing…or is it "pLEASING"…

People pleasing.

That's right, you're a genuine (although inauthentic) People Pleaser.

You try to please everyone, while not really pleasing anyone…especially yourself.

You also try to own everyone else's opinion of YOU.

You blame them for thinking about you in the way that they do, when honestly…YOU are the one who BELIEVES these things about you (at some level.)

OWN IT, MY DEAR!

3. Own/Occupy.

When you own your own business…and you're not in others' business.

You finally own the fact that others' opinions of you are none of your business, and you don't make it your business.

You can think of this as a new form of "entrepreneurialism."

4. Own/Landlord.

YOU'RE PAID FOR YOUR OPINION.

You own your opinion of YOU.

You don't blame others' opinions of you on them. You own your OWN opinions of YOU.

Others' opinions of you are not your business.

Your opinion of you is your business.

And now, others actually ask (or pay) for your opinion.

You can think of this as the ultimate form of ENTREPRENEURIALISM.

You care more about people, and what they care about, then caring about their opinion of YOU.

You help them to believe in themselves by sharing the TRUTH with them.

Imagine what this would look and feel like in your life…

Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)

TODAY'S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:

Where right now in your life are you worrying about what others are thinking, or saying, about you?

How are YOU doing that to YOU?

Own it.

Make a commitment to YOU and owning your opinion of you.

Whatever opinion you have of yourself, ask:

"Is it true?"

If so, keep it.

If not, let it and YOU go…

Set yourself free today, my dear.

Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.

Please come over to WomenSippingOnLife.com for some free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets…and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING.

I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY.

xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life's work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.

A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast…

Intro/Outro done by Uni V. SOL

Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)

Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com)

Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)

Have you ever fallen in love with an idea or the idea of someone, only to be disappointed? In today's S.O.L. Story I show you what french fries have to do with it...and what to do about it.

Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)

TODAY'S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:

What is it that you're craving?

What is it that you're seeking?

Why are you seeking it?

Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.

Please come over to WomenSippingOnLife.com for some free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets…and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING.

I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY.

xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life's work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.

A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast…

Intro/Outro done by Uni V. SOL

Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)

Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com)

Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)

Today I share a S.O.L. Story that'll give you new perspective on what to do when you feel overwhelmed, scared, and want to give up.

Is it surrender or giving up? Surrender or defeat? Surrender or quitting?

They may look the same from the outside, but are very different on the inside.

And they have completely different outcomes.

Surrender is letting go of what you're resisting. It's letting go of the struggle.

Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)

TODAY'S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:

Where is it time for you to get your hands up?

Be encouraged. You're not alone.

There's a power within you that's greater than the power without you.

Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.

Please come over to WomenSippingOnLife.com for some free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets…and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING.

I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY.

xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life's work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.

A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast…

Intro/Outro done by Uni V. SOL

Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)

Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com)

Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)

Today I give you a 3-Step Evaluation process to assess, revive, restore, resuscitate, and resurrect your dreams. If you've ever felt like your dreams have died, fizzled, been forgotten, or you no longer believe it's possible for you to live the life of your dreams…I've got great news for you! There's a way to bring your dreams back to life.

How?

No different than doing C.P.R. on the human body.

When I learned how to do C.P.R. I was told to assess the A.B.C.s...

A: Airway B: Breath C: Circulation

It's time to assess your dream's A.B.C.s...and begin some C.P.R.

Where have your dreams gone unconcsious?

What's blocking you from your dreams?

What dream of yours feels as though it's died?

1. Remove the interference. Open the airway. Open up.

Are you able to receive the life you've been given?

Is the "airway" to your dreams blocked?

Becoming CONSCIOUS will help remove the interference, and open up life to your dreams.

2. Take in your inspiration.

BREATHE by remembering what inspires you.

Breathe in the breath of your life by fully acknowledging and receiving your PURPOSE.

3. Allow your heart to beat life into your dreams.

Are you giving your heart permission to lead you and circulate your purpose?

For every 15 inspirations, there must be at least two heart beats. (CORRECTION: It's 15 heart beats and 2 breaths...or perhaps 30:2...yes, it's time for a C.P.R. refresher course!)

It's the heart that pumps life into what inspires you.

Even though your dreams may look differently than you once thought they did, they can still be RECYCLED and RECOGNIZED.

Restore and resurrect your dreams today, my dear.

Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)

TODAY'S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:

Are you willing to get CONSCIOUS, own your PURPOSE, and recognize your dreams — even if they've been recycled and look a little different than you first imagined?

Are you willing to receive them?

Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.

Please come over to WomenSippingOnLife.com for some free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets…and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING.

I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY.

xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life's work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.

A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast…

Intro/Outro done by Uni V. SOL

Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)

Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com)

Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)

Today I teach you 3 things you can do to begin winning with — and within — yourself.

If you're battling with yourself, you'll always end up on the losing end. There are no two ways about it.

You're either ON your team or you're NOT.

If you're NOT, then you're against yourself…and you're fighting a losing battle. No one wins, especially YOU.

Stop fighting. Stop battling yourself.

Today's the day you can stop this, and WIN.

You may have heard of the old saying of, "get out of your own way."

I don't agree with this.

This whole idea that you need to be fixed, you're broken, you're missing something, or need someone to complete you, you need to be better, work more, work harder, or whatever it is that you're telling yourself...etc....is simply NOT the whole truth.

It's not about being better or best.

It's about Being Excellent Starting Today.

You be. You start. You keep going. Today.

Make a decision. Then take action.

Decisions do. Commitment continues.

Stop trying to fix yourself.

Stop trying to be someone or something else.

Stop trying.

Stop working against yourself, and work WITH yourself.

It's not about YOU being in the way. It's about you BEING the way.

That's right, YOU are the way. It's not that you need to get out of your way. Instead, you must allow yourself to become the way.

Isn't that freeing?

You don't need more SELF-HELP. You don't need to help yourself.

Stop working against yourself. Stop battling yourself.

Stop TRYING to help yourself, and simply be yourself.

Care for yourself.

When you care for yourself, you won't care about all these other things that DON'T MATTER.

YOU matter.

What must you do in order to stop battling yourself?

Here are 3 things you can begin doing today...

1. Forgive yourself.

For the past. For the present. For the future.

This may sound easier said than done. However, it's easier done than said.

It's absolutely easier done than NOT DONE.

Face it. YOU are the ONLY person that's been with you from the beginning, and must be with you until the end. So you might as well get along.

Release yourself to be who you are.

Be the way.

Meet yourself where you are today.

Letting go of the YOU that you were yesterday, and embracing who you are today, by forgiving yourself.

Recognize yourself today, and release yourself into becoming who you are today and tomorrow.

2. Make a decision (and commitment) to be your best friend.

No matter what.

Love yourself.

Pursue YOU.

REMIND yourself AND ROMANCE yourself.

Womance yourself as any great girlfriend — Bestie — would do.

Be your BEST GIRLFRIEND.

Romance your own life.

3. Free your inner Warrior Princess and unleash your creative power by allowing your dreams and desires to express themselves.

Allow HER to express herself.

REMEMBER who you are AND REMIND yourself by listening to your heart's desire, your creative nature, your Warrior Princess within you.

She's your incredible, passionate, powerful little girl that's showing up as the most divine, brilliant being — the woman that you are today.

Stop battling yourself, and start building yourself from the inside, out.

Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)

TODAY'S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:

1. Write yourself a letter of forgiveness.

2. Introduce yourself to yourself, like you're meeting for the very first time.

Hi, I am__________________________.

Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.

Please come over to WomenSippingOnLife.com for some free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets…and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING.

I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY.

xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life's work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.

A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast…

Intro/Outro done by Uni V. SOL

Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)

Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com)

Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)

Today I uncover the real problems behind your commitments, or lack thereof.

First of all, it's not a commitment issue.

It's a decision issue.

You have more choices and options than you think you do.

The problem is, you think you don't.

But…

You do.

The other problem is, even though you do have choices, you're not exercising your power to choose.

THAT'S RIGHT. YOU HAVE POWER.

Although, the only way to access it is by making a decision.

Yes, there's a decision that must be made.

Without decisions, there are no commitments...and there is no power.

Are you willing today to make the necessary decisions to begin living the life that you say you desire?

The choice is yours, my dear.

Are you committed?

Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)

TODAY'S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:

Take a look at your life right now…where is it that you need or desire to make a decision?

Write it down with power and declaration.

Take at least one action step in that direction.

Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.

Please come over to WomenSippingOnLife.com for some free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets…and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING.

I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY.

xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life's work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.

A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast…

Intro/Outro done by Uni V. SOL

Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)

Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com)

Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)

Today I teach you how to begin creating a life you love. It starts with a D.A.T.E.

D. Decision A. Action T. Time E. Engagement

Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)

TODAY'S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:

Write down your desire.

Then write D.A.T.E….

D- What decision are you making? A- What action are you taking? T- What time are you doing it or creating for it? E- Are you willing to commit to FULL ENGAGEMENT with your DATE?

Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.

Please come over to WomenSippingOnLife.com for some free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets…and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING.

I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY.

xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life's work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.

A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast…

Intro/Outro done by Uni V. SOL

Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)

Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com)

Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)

In today's episode I share a few lessons I learned about business and life — on the beach — while on vacation in Mexico.

Lesson #1: Don't give yourself away.

Lesson #2: Show up and follow though.

Which leads me to these questions...

Are you giving yourself away?

Are you valuing yourself, and your time, at less than what it's worth?

If you're giving your time, talents, or yourself away...OR decreasing your own value because you don't know your worth…STOP doing that.

Please don't be a Yolanda.

Are you showing up for the opportunities that are available to you…including the ones YOU'RE creating?

If not, why not?

Are you a Yolanda?

If so, why are you doing this to yourself?

And the bigger question is, are you willing to STOP doing this today?

Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)

TODAY'S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:

1. Where are you devaluing yourself and your time?

2. Where are you NOT showing up in your life?

Don't be a Yolanda.

Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.

Please come over to WomenSippingOnLife.com for some free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets…and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING.

I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY.

xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life's work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.

A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast…

Intro/Outro done by Uni V. SOL

Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)

Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com)

Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)

If you're like most humans, you may have bought into the deception of perfection. Today I'll help you identify where you are, and how to get out of the prison of perfection.

Have you ever found yourself saying, "Hey, I'm not perfect. I'm only human?"

OR…

You've sacrificed progress for the illusion of perfection?

First of all, what's perfect got to do with it, anyway?

Secondly, why are you using "perfect" as your desired destination, which becomes an excuse?

What does "perfect" mean to you?

Seriously, how do you define "perfect?"

In the traditional way that most people think of it, perfection is really an illusion.

Not only is it an illusion, but it's become a prison for a lot of people.

So how do you get out?

Start by redefining PERFECT.

To me, the true definition of perfect is: TRUTH.

Good, bad, ugly…if it's the TRUTH, it's PERFECT.

Why?

Because when you know the truth, it'll set you free.

The so-called illusion of perfection takes many prisoners.

Don't be fooled. Don't be one of them.

Not sure if you're using "perfect" as an excuse?

If you're in either of these two camps, then you're definitely using it as an excuse. (As most of us humans do at times.)

A: Oftentimes you say things like, "I'm human. I'm not perfect."

You're using it as a reason to NOT grow or learn. You're using it to give yourself an "excuse" to stay the same.

Quite simply, it's a cop out.

B: You don't do certain things because you fear that you won't do it perfectly.

You hold back. You hide. You sacrifice progress because of your idea of perfection. When you do this, you stay stuck where you are.

Is it possible that you're striving for something that you haven't even clearly identified?

Do you even know what "perfect" is?

Again, I'd ask you to take a look at how you define "PERFECT."

It's time to bust out of the DECEPTION + PRISON OF PERFECTION, and trade it for the FREEDOM OF TRUTH.

Stop blaming everything on perfect. Either NOT being perfect or trying to be perfect.

It's time to start the process of progress and prosperity.

Let go of the IDEA of PERFECTION.

Stop using perfect as an excuse.

Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.)

TODAY'S SACRED S.O.L. STEP:

1. How do YOU define PERFECT? Perhaps it's time to redefine it.

2. Are you holding back in any area of your life because you're trying to do IT perfectly or not learning, growing, or advancing because you're using "perfect" as an excuse to stay where you are?

Write that down, and make a commitment today to stop using PERFECT as an excuse.

I'd love to invite you to DATE YOUR S.O.L. with me, and other S.O.L. DATE SISTERS from around the globe. We meet LIVE on Tuesday evenings (via videoconferencing) from 7:00-8:00 pm (Central Time.) You can accept your FREE invitation by SAVING YOUR DATE HERE. soldateyourself.com

Thank you for being here, and allowing me to sip on life with you.

Please come over to WomenSippingOnLife.com for some free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets…and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING.

I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY.

xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life's work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME.

A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast…

Intro/Outro done by Uni V. SOL

Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com)

Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com)

Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)