In this episode, Jamie and Noah define archetypal inflation and describe both severe and mild forms of inflation, including being unconscious in the archetypes of messiah, saint, guru, hero/athlete, mother, and healer.   

0:00 Introduction- quick review of Ego and Spiritualized Ego 

2:15 What is archetypal inflation? 

5:05 The grandiosity of archetypal inflation 

9:19 Archetypal inflation as a cliche and scripted way of being in the world 

10:03 Archetypal inflation and psychosis 

18:00 Loss of groundedness 

19:05 Subtler expressions of archetypal inflation 

26:10 The archetypal inflation of the Puer 

30:32 Other archetypes- goddess, hero, athlete, healer 

32:19 Mob mentality, gangs, and cults 

34:11 Where Jamie and Noah have confronted potential for inflation 

37:12 Takeaways  

Resources:  

Spiritual Emergency by Stanislof Grof: https://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-Emergency-Personal-Transformation-Becomes/dp/B08WVGH56F

In this episode, Noah and Jamie discuss the concept of the “spiritualized” ego, or the ego that has been identified with being spiritual and showing up in the world in a spiritual way.  The traps of the spiritualized ego are discussed, as well as how one begins to see this phenomenon in themselves and others.   

Show Notes:   

0:00 Introduction 

4:30 The Nature and Function of the Ego 

10:00 Is Ego Death a Thing?  

12:00 Ego Dissolution  

17:00 Ego Identification 

19:09 The Mansion of the Ego 

34:45 How do we know if we have a spiritualized ego? 

40:20 Feeding spirituality to the ego 

55:50 Name changes- pros and cons 

1:02:49 Selfies- meditating and suffering 

1:17:24 Fear of the Dark 1:22:46 “Wake up!” 

1:26:13 How to work with a spiritualized ego  

Resources:  

Being Ram Dass- https://shop.ramdass.org/products/being-ram-dass 

Spiritual Bypassing by Robert Augustus Masters https://www.robertmasters.com/book/spiritual-bypassing/

Eyes Wide Open by Mariana Caplan https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003X27LD6/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1

Ep. 8

In this episode, Noah and Jamie examine the archetypes of the puer (divine child/inner child) and the senex (old man/elder) to see how these archetypes can influence our lives unconsciously and wreak havoc on our relationships and our lives.

Show Notes:

2:19 What is the Puer/Puella-Senex/Crone split?

13:44 How the Puer complex begins

17:35 Being caught in the middle of the poles

21:50 Puer development and Senex parenting

26:50 How Noah found his rejected Puer

30:35 Shadow Puer dynamics

33:40 Shadow Senex

36:40 When Jamie became a crone

38:38 Which archetype is more prevalent in the collective now

45:15 Living the “provisional life” and the Peter Pan story

49:40 Point Break and the Puer/Senex tension

51:40 How the Puer can actually kill you

54:08 Problems with being caught in the Senex

1:04:00 How to begin integrating these two archetypes

1:08:15 Puer and Senex and America’s presidents

1:13:25 Daily Practices for healing these complexes

Resources:

https://untamedbook.com

https://www.amazon.com/Puer-Aeternus-Psychological-Struggle-Childhood/dp/0938434012

n this episode, Noah and Jamie discuss several key attitudes (and associated behaviors) of healthy, conscious relationships.   

Show Notes:   

1:08 Assuming your partner has the best of intentions until they prove otherwise 

3:49 Not taking things personally 

8:24 People are doing the best they can 

12:32 Allowing your partner to change 

34:00 Dealing with projection and feeling triggered 

36:58 How therapy helps  

42:30 When therapy and honesty become weapons 

27:00 Avoiding venting  

51:06 Allowing for differences of opinion

In this episode, Jamie and Noah break down the mechanics of projection and the concepts of shadow work and archetypes.  They discuss how projection manifests in relationships, what kind of havoc that can wreak, and how to begin to make the shadow conscious.  

Chapters: 

0:00 Introduction 

1:30 Why projection is natural and fundamental to human life  

5:43 The Theater of Projection 

12:58 Wearing Karmic Lenses

20:20 The Shadow as smudges on the film or lens  

22:32 What shadow work looks like in relationships 

26:14 How the shadow is created 

35:50 What may block our shadow work 

37:00 Jamie and Noah debate whether or not shadow work must be painful 

39:40 How to withdraw the projection of the shadow 

41:29 How to know when it actually IS the other person’s responsibility vs. our projection playing out  

43:20 Projection of Archetypes 

48:20 Projection dynamics in romantic partnerships  

56:34 Why we need humility to cope with this inner work  

1:01:12 Mother and Father Complexes and how to become conscious of them

In this episode, Jamie and Noah discuss the 5 love languages and how our preferences for love may reveal to us our shadow or unconscious projections onto our partners.  They also discuss the difference between healthy use of love languages and the way we may unnecessarily burden our partners with meeting inner needs that may really need to be met internally.

Chapters:

0:00 Introduction

2:06 What are Love Languages?

3:00 Conditional Love

4:55 How love languages can actually be “need” languages

7:45 How conditional love is different from the experience of unconditional love

13:20 What is actually happening when we “fall” in love

25:20 When do love languages become a problem?

27:07 Why do love language preferences change?

29:35 Love in its organic form

35:50 Risk of not exploring the shadow motivations for LL preference

37:48 Physical touch as a love language

41:50 Being a super-giver

46:14 Settling

48:30 The self-discovery process

52:15 Words of Affirmation

1:03:42 Acts of Service

1:11:42 Gift Giving

1:18:49 Physical Touch

1:21:33 Quality Time

Resources:

https://www.5lovelanguages.com

In this episode, Noah and Jamie discuss a concept called “bids for connection,” coined by the Gottman Institute, and tease apart what makes something a bid for connection vs. a bid for attention or pulling on another person’s energy.

Chapters:

0:00 Introduction

2:35 Defining Bids for Attention vs. Connection

5:30 Energy Pulling and neediness

10:50 How to make healthy bids

20:15 Why people make unhealthy bids

25:00 Codependency and bids

33:55 The problem with venting and how this is often an unhealthy bid

38:50 Projecting our needs outside of us

40:30 Do we really need anyone?

42:00 The importance of inner resources

44:15 Enjoying being taken care of

47:32 Patterns of making unhealthy bids

56:30 Love Languages and unconscious bids

58:40 Trauma bonding bids

Resources:

https://www.gottman.com

https://www.5lovelanguages.com

In this episode, Jamie and Noah discuss how conflict or tension in a relationship can give many opportunities for healing and growth on a personal level as well as within the relationship.  Embracing the differences in how we communicate within these tense moments can open us up to new ways of being in the world.  Also discussed are some practical ways to keep conflicts civil and help both parties to feel safe, respected, and cared for, even when things are getting hot.   

Chapters:  

0:00 Introduction 

0:45 What to do when you are triggered 

7:05 Ego reactivity= no productivity 

8:31 What to do when you are no longer being productive 

13:20 The strategy of letter writing as an intermediary tool  

15:40 Why being right is a dead end  17:00 What is needed for productive conversation  

22:38 Stepping out of ego  

36:38 How to be more present with each other during times of stress

Here is the beginning of the relationship class!

In this first episode, Noah and Jamie discuss what makes conscious relationship dynamics unique from typical relationship dynamics. They also list the strategies they used to become more conscious, including how they stopped lying to themselves about what they wanted and needed in relationships, and how they got better at communicating what those wants and needs were.

Chapters:

0:00 Introduction

0:21 Purpose of this podcast

3:54 The “sordid” past

5:08 Allowing each other to be free to be themselves

9:30 Their shared desire to see each other fully and know the truth

15:02 Letting the romantic “story” of relationship go

18:39 Lying about wants and needs and how to move into integrity with yourself

21:26 How lies can be projections and why we need to withdraw those projections

30:52 How telling the truth requires courage and clarity

34:59 Why lying can be temporarily helpful

36:21 What is needed to begin to seek the truth and heal

44:22 How Noah and Jamie support one another differently in each other’s search for the truth

49:09 How differences in personality help and support the relationship and each other’s healing process