Pastor Joey and Pastor Rob discuss the equal but different gender roles in a biblical marriage. Yesterday they discuss wives... today is the husbands' turn.
The command for husbands is to love their wives.
Ephesians 5:25 (NLT) For husbands, this means love (agapao) your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.
A. The standard is for a husband to love his wife the way Christ loved His bride (The Church).
• Christ’s love was a sacrificial love.
Ephesians 5:25 (NLT) . . . love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.
o Sacrificial love gives because the recipient needs it, not because they deserve it.
Romans 5:8 (NIV84) But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
o A husband is commanded to love his wife sacrificially because it is his assigned role and function and the example that Christ set. It is ultimately a decision.
Four Practical Ways to Love Your Wife as Christ Loved the Church:
o Put her needs before your own needs.
Sacrificial love surrenders its own preferences for another.
• Christ’s love was a sanctifying love. (to make holy)
Ephesians 5:26 (NIV84) to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,
o Sanctifying love in marriage forgives and does not hold grudges.
Ephesians 4:32 (NIV84) Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
o Sanctifying love in marriage will encourage intellectual, emotional and spiritual growth.
Is your wife more like Christ because she is married to you, or in spite of you?
• Christ’s love was a caring love.
Ephesians 5:28 (NIV84) In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
o A husband should love his wife because she is a part of him, because the two are one.
What does it mean to submit? To give oneself up to somebody.
What does it mean to love? To give oneself up for somebody.