In this episode of She’s Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee dive into the reality of modern motherhood, partnership, and the constant mental load that comes with trying to “do it all.” From working moms to stay-at-home moms, they unpack the invisible expectations, the guilt that follows every choice, and the impossible standard of being everything to everyone.
They talk openly about intimacy in long-term relationships, the struggle of balancing career and parenting, and the emotional weight of never feeling fully “caught up” at home or work. The conversation moves between personal stories and honest reflections on divorce, marriage, identity, and what it really means to be present.
At the heart of it all is one message: no matter what path you choose—working, staying home, or somewhere in between—you’re still not done figuring it out, evolving, and redefining what success and motherhood look like for you.
0:00 – 1:18 – Exhaustion, intimacy, and introduction to motherhood realities + hosts
1:18 – 4:14 – Mom guilt: real vs taught + expectations vs reality of motherhood
4:14 – 8:50 – Working mom vs stay-at-home mom + mental load and identity
8:50 – 12:32 – Parenting styles, judgment, and “I could never do that” comparisons
12:32 – 18:23 – Identity pressure, sacrifice, and the reality of doing everything imperfectly
18:23 – 24:20 – Mental overload, social media comparison, and constant judgment
24:20 – 30:11 – Career gaps, missed opportunities, and long-term trade-offs
30:11 – 38:20 – “She’s Not Done” mindset + emotional load in relationships and divorce dynamics
38:20 – end – Redefining guilt, presence, family life, and what quality time really means
Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done.
xxx Andrea & Kouelee
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