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https://www.adaiad.org/shidduch-u⁠ ⁠

[email protected]⁠

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(This series is funded by a grant from the New York City DOVE initiative recommended by Council Member Rita Joseph)

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To reach Frannie Teitelbaum, LCSW

Call: 917-494-4993

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06:25 Why are there so many people who are not yet married

10:17 The shidduch system is broken

15:15 The expectations that people have make dating more difficult

17:57 If you want to get married, you’ll get married

18:13 Separate wants and needs

19:27 Get to know yourself

21:01 Some good things about getting married when older

27:37 Marrying someone who is not as emotionally evolved as you

34:17 What are wants and what are needs

38:20 Putting ‘externals’ on the list of wants or needs

42:52 How to support an older single

45:20 What the community can do

47:23 How money/income is impacting shidduchim

51:44 Q: Should woman be advised to downplay her intelligence or financial success

57:07 Don’t hide aspects of yourself when dating

59:25 The daters set the tone of what kind of person they’ll attract

1:00:42 Character is the most important thing to look for

1:01:22 Wrap up

Devora Krasnianski speaks with Penina Flug, LCSW who delves into the topic of setting up the marriage for success with Penina Flug, LCSW. Penina is passionate about helping young couples set up for success from their dating experiences and also importantly through premarital and early marital education. In this conversation, we spoke about how to date for a successful marriage, the mindsets to have and the conversations and experiences to have while dating.

Adai Ad:

https://www.adaiad.org/shidduch-u⁠ ⁠

To reach MASK: www.maskparents.org

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To reach Penina Flug, LCSW

Website: https://peninafluglcsw.com/

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Episodes mentioned in the talk:

Marriage Readiness series: https://adaiad.org/shidduch-u/marriage-ready-episodes/

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Devora Krasnianski speaks with Prof. Naomi Klapper who delves into the reasons behind people's anxiety when dating and how it impacts their dating. Prof. Klapper describes that heightened anxiety diminishes the attachment hormones that bring people closer together. Furthermore, anxiety impairs our cognitive abilities, making it difficult for us to be fully present in a relationship or make important decisions. Therefore, it is crucial to address anxiety in order to foster meaningful relationships.

During the discussion, Professor Klapper also shared some effective strategies for managing anxiety. This episode is significant for all individuals who are dating, even if they do not experience severe anxiety.

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https://www.maskparents.org

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To reach Prof Naomi Klapper

Website: https://www.klappertherapy.com

Email: [email protected]

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4:08 What is dating anxiety?

https://www.maskparents.org/

Devora Krasnianski speaks with Elena Chasser, LCSW about Boundaries and Dating. When we talk about boundaries in dating, we are talking about balance and respect. And we unpack that in this conversation. Elana shares 5 types of boundaries that might come up in dating – what respecting those boundaries looks like and what crossing might feel like. And sometimes, it’s very nuanced.

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To reach Elana Chasser, LSCW 

Website: https://elanachasser.com/

Phone: 516-489-2652  

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1:13 How are we defining boundaries? 

2:26 Boundaries in dating: 5 key aspects 

3:15 Verbal boundaries 

6:30 Physical boundaries 

12:35 Emotional boundaries 

14:34 Relational boundaries 

19:24 Gaslighting and love-bombing 

24:02 Paying attention to what might be going on 

27:51 Behavioral boundaries 

34:02 Respect differences 

37:27 Getting someone else’s perspective and support 

40:30 Mistakes sometimes happen during dating 

42:44 Do you see that you have grown together (even a little bit) 

44:59 Move at the pace of the slower one 

50:08 Why some people have a hard time opening up 52:22 Wrapping up

Devora Krasnianski speaks with Dr. Avigail Margolis about the importance of building the relationship during dating. We covered how relationships are built, and the importance of having difficult conversations and what to do before, during and after those conversations. Lots of practical insights and tips throughout.

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Phone: +1 (347) 946-0981

0:00 intro

4:13 Why it's important to think about building the relationship during dating

7:36 How difficult conversations can build the relationship

15:39 What to do if want to say no to a relationship

18:53 Alcohol on a date

23:31 Tips for staying calm on a date

25:28 Planning the date so you are more prepared to have difficult conversations

28:18 Tune in to how you feel when and after having difficult conversations

31:57 How do you know that you are in a good relationship

33:38 Seeing each other in other contexts and social settings

41:37 Have some ‘real life’ experiences together

45:28 Having conversations together about the relationship

49:59 Women can plan dates (and take a lead) too

52:11 Before committing to marriage, talk about yourselves as a couple

57:09 Final thoughts

Devora Krasnianski speaks with C. Rochel Duchman, a dating coach about dating. We cover the types of conversations to have, how to move forward when dating gets stuck, and the role of the shachan. And lots more.  

Devora Krasnianski speaks with Dr. Shana Frydman, executive director of Shalom Task Force about noticing red flags during dating. We spoke about negative markers and positive markers to look out for, the importance of curiosity and having conversations even if uncomfortable.

Devora Krasnianski speaks with Eliezer Schwadron, LCSW about some fundamental mindsets and tools for marriage. (This talk is addressing men.)  We spoke about communication, curiosity, acceptance, self-awareness and much more.  

https://www.adaiad.org/shidduch-u 

(This series is funded by a grant from the New York City DOVE initiative recommended by Council Member Rita Joseph)