Devora Krasnianski speaks with Penina Flug, LCSW who delves into the topic of setting up the marriage for success with Penina Flug, LCSW. Penina is passionate about helping young couples set up for success from their dating experiences and also importantly through premarital and early marital education. In this conversation, we spoke about how to date for a successful marriage, the mindsets to have and the conversations and experiences to have while dating.
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(This series is funded by a grant from the New York City DOVE initiative recommended by Council Member Rita Joseph)
To reach Penina Flug, LCSW
Website: https://peninafluglcsw.com/
Episodes mentioned in the talk:
Marriage Readiness series: https://adaiad.org/shidduch-u/marriage-ready-episodes/
3:57 The power of pre-marital education
5:04 What should be the focus in the dating process
7:04 The importance of having support and guidance through dating
10:27 What's a healthy relationship? ABCs? Acceptance, belonging, comfort and safety
13:17 What to do when there are concerns or doubts about the shidduch
15:28 Take care of issues before starting shidduchim
16:19 Anxiety during engagement
19:02 Talk about marriage when dating
20:41 Spending time with each other’s families when dating
22:05 Sharing difficult topics on a date
24:00 Things we wish people knew before they got married
29:13 Have some disagreements when dating (emotional safety)
30:59 Talk about premarital education and getting support
32:19 Should someone discuss concerns with their parents
35:09 Premarital education should be standard
37:49 Topics that some daters don’t talk about
42:04 Working with a dating coach
46:58 Final thoughts
48:29 Q: Should I share about previous relationships while dating?