Shift Changer Podcast

This is part 2 of Shift Change to Embrace Grief & Hope After Infancy Loss. If this is a sensitive topic for you, this might be an episode to listen to later. Today, October 15th is Pregnancy and Infancy Loss Awareness so I wanted to share my story and my friend, Nika's story. Nika was pregnant earlier this year with no complications then all of a sudden started experiencing pain, went into labor at 21 weeks with their beautiful little girl, June, who then went to be with the Lord. This is a story of many women, and as we share - we are with you, we remember our little blessings that is in Heaven. Your pain is real. Your loss is real. Your pain is not wasted. Your tears are accounted for by Jesus who sees you, hears you, and loves you. I pray you are blessed by Nika's powerful story.

This episode is dedicated to June Simpson 1/27/2020 and all the angels in Heaven.

This episodes Sticky Note Quote is: "Way maker, miracle worker, promise keeper, light in the darkness, my God, that is Who You are."

SHIFT | CHANGE ANCRONYM:

S - Self care & self compassion. Being kind to yourself and your partner during this time of grief.

H - Help. Accept help from others and to tell those who love you what you need. Your people are glad to help you!

I -  Identify the many layers of your loss and challenges of your grief, but also identify the good.

F - Find inner peace. Engaging in mindful practices of peace. Nika used the Calm app.

T - Things. Do things that make you feel close to your baby. Being outside was something that brought Nika closer to her baby.

Connect with the Nika on Facebook: Nika Simpson

If you are struggling with your loss, I encourage you to connect with The National Share here or call (1-800-821-6819) or email them ([email protected]).  Another great resource is Butterfly Baskets and they have an Etsy story to send anyone a gift who's experienced an infancy loss. Lastly, is Through The Heart for support and education.

Or to connect with me or have a prayer request, email me: [email protected]

Stay connected www.instagram.com/Revive.Her or visit my shop: www.ShopPalomaBlanca.com

Have a story that inspired change by you or someone else? I would love to share it!

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Shift happens! We get the opportunity to BE THE CHANGE!

This is a 2 part episode of the subject: Pregnancy and Infancy Loss. If this is a sensitive topic for you, this might be an episode to listen to later. Today, October 15th is Pregnancy and Infancy Loss Awareness so I wanted to share my story and my friend, Nika's story. Nika was pregnant earlier this year with no complications then all of a sudden started experiencing pain, went into labor at 21 weeks with their beautiful little girl, June, who then went to be with the Lord. This is a story of many women, and as we share - we are with you, we remember our little blessings that is in Heaven. Your pain is real. Your loss is real. Your pain is not wasted. Your tears are accounted for by Jesus who sees you, hears you, and loves you. I pray you are blessed by Nika's powerful story.

This episode is dedicated to June Simpson 1/27/2020 and all the angels in Heaven. 

This episodes Sticky Note Quote is: "Way maker, miracle worker, promise keeper, light in the darkness, my God, that is Who You are."

SHIFT | CHANGE ANCRONYM:

S - Self care & self compassion. Being kind to yourself and your partner during this time of grief.

H - Help. Accept help from others and to tell those who love you what you need. Your people are glad to help you!

I -  Identify the many layers of your loss and challenges of your grief, but also identify the good.

F - Find inner peace. Engaging in mindful practices of peace. Nika used the Calm app.

T - Things. Do things that make you feel close to your baby. Being outside was something that brought Nika closer to her baby.

If you are struggling with your loss, I encourage you to connect with The National Share here or call (1-800-821-6819) or email them ([email protected]).  Another great resource is Butterfly Baskets and they have an Etsy story to send anyone a gift who's experienced an infancy loss. Lastly, is Through The Heart for support and education.

Connect with the Nika on Facebook: Nika Simpson

Or to connect with me or have a prayer request, email me: [email protected] 

Stay connected www.instagram.com/Revive.Her or visit my shop: www.ShopPalomaBlanca.com

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What do you think when you think of the word "Frontline?" The word is commonly used in military talk describing those soldiers in the front of the line in battle; those closest to the enemy. 2020 made that term common knowledge when the frontline of doctors, nurses, pathologist, microbiologist, respiratory therapist, and medical professionals of the like responded to help those fighting COVID-19. I also believe it was a call to action for Believers to get on the frontlines in prayer against the enemy in spiritual warfare (Eph. 6:12).

In this episode, we are talking about Shift Changing to Frontline Prayers. I believe 2020 is a call for the sons and daughters of Christ to rise up and pray for our world. On this episode, I sit with my mom to talk about that and get her perspective.

This episodes Sticky Note Quote is from 2 Chronicles 7:14, "If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from Heaven, and I will forgive their sins and heal their land."

SHIFT | CHANGE ANCRONYM:

S - Surrender yourself in prayer.

H - Humble yourself in prayer.

I -  me, myself, & I and no one else needs to surrender and humble yourself to God. 

F - Faith in God during your prayer time.

T - Trust in God that in time, He will answer your prayers.

Connect with the my mama on Instagram: @Momma50

To connect with me or have a prayer request, email me: [email protected]

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On this episode of SCP, I am joined by my dad, Mikel Arnold to talk about kindness! My pops is a great handyman, hard worker, and loves to serve people. Both of my parents enjoy serving others, but my dad's willing & readiness is notable. One day when we were talking I noticed that his acts of kindness are not random at all. Rather, they were all intentional. Then I started to think that as followers of Jesus we should be intentional in our giving by seeking out ways to give daily, like my dad. Now, there will be moments of randomness, but for the Believer, we should be intentional in our acts of kindness towards others. I mean it is a part of the fruit of the spirit, so kindness should be what describes those who love Jesus. If it's not, ask the Lord to help you with being more intentional in acts of kindness. I believe that starts with preparedness in your mind and heart, as well as flexibility in your day for God to use you.

This episodes sticky note quote is, "I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me. Philippians 4:13"

SHIFT | CHANGE ANCRONYM:

S - Soul Stirring. There needs to be a stirring of your soul to serve God before you start serving people.

H - Habits.  Being intentional in your acts of kindness has to start with your habits. If it's not one of your habits to give, you might not be as consistent. 

I - Internal trials. Turn your internal trials into opportunities to serve others.

F - Faith. Build up your faith and trust in God. 

T - Time. Take time out of your life to help others.

Start your intentional giving NOW even while in quarantine! Get creative as Hebrews 10:24-25 says in the Message Translation. Write a card, make a card, send food, make a care package, and have fun being intentional in your giving. Thank you for listening!

Connect with my pops on Instagram: @ArnoldMikel 

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On this episode of SCP, I am joined by my husband, Joshua Curteman. He's a Navy Veteran, lover of all things outdoors especially fishing & bow hunting, he's an incredible father, a hard & excellent worker, very disciplined and he's my best friend. In this rare moment in time that he's home, I ask him to share about purpose. What's rare about this is on December 1st, 2019, he was unemployed and he's been off ever since the recording until now as I type up this description on 8/31/2020. I don't know what it was, but I had enough discernment to know that God was up to something from my unemployment in 2018 and now his in 2019. I had a hunch that just like myself, my husband would struggle with knowing his purpose outside of his job. It's cultural to be defined by what we do and the amount of money we have in the bank, and now this it's gone. Who are you outside of work? Without titles or "doing something" - what is your purpose? So, after randomly finding an extra copy of "The Purposed Drive Life" by Rick Warren at a thrift store for $2, we both invested 40 days to search that out. That does not make going through the last 10 months living on our savings easy. It does, however, keep our focus that "we are convinced that every detail of our lives is continually woven together to fit into God's perfect plan (who is deeply concerned for us) of bringing good into our lives, for we are His lover who have been called to fulfill His designed purpose." Romans 8:28 *Side note: Josh was not brought up in church so having him talk about God in this manner is still new for me and is a testimony of God's faithfulness to answer my prayers. I hope it encourages women out there to keep praying for your husbands heart to know God and follow Him. I specifically prayed for 10 year, "God encounter Josh" and I believe this is the encounter I have been praying for. Don't give up wives and spouses. Single women, pray that your husband knows the Lord and encounters him now in Jesus name. 

This episodes sticky note quote is, "I once saw coincidence where I now see confirmation (from God)."

SHIFT | CHANGE ANCRONYM:

S - Share your feelings with others. Sustained inner change requires accountability.

H - Have the courage to recognize your flaws and address them.

I - Inspire others. People are watching anyways - give them something to cheer on!

F - Find your purpose now. If ever there was a time, it's NOW! It's what keeps you going when you're ready to quit. 

T - Trust in God and His Word. This takes time and practice especially for those who did not grow up trusting the Lord like Josh. 

He's currently still looking for a job in the oil and gas industry, and if it were not for applying the Dave Ramsey's Total Money Makeover into our lives 2 years ago we might have had a different story. I know God will provide for him a job soon as He is faithful! Thank you for listening.

Connect with Josh on Instagram: @JoshJCurt or [email protected]

Shift happens! Be the change and inspire others to be Shift Changers with you!

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DISCLAIMER: Due to COVID, we've had to orchestrate Zoom recordings rather than in person. Our connection on this episode was patchy despite our efforts. We proceeded and didn't let that stop us. We still hope you enjoy!

On June 13th, 2020, our little store, Paloma Blanca, will be one! We wanted to come alongside the struggling and strong Believers and provide financial assistance to women & children who cannot help themselves. God lead us to partner with the Rosas and their organization, Love Bought International. An orphanage in Soacha, Colombia. Mike is a father, traveling evangelist, the chaplain to the Houston Rockets, and a Leadership Coach through Revolutionary Living. Lidiette, his beautiful bride is a loving mother to three gorgeous babies, a minister of the Gospel, and the other heartbeat behind Love Bought. She's also vital in keeping #allthethings running. The call of God came to Mike at the age of 16 while watching a commercial that sparked the fire in his heart for the people of Colombia. In 2007, they started a soup kitchen feeding children and now have a home for the children. Love Bought is their offering to the Lord. Their passion is fueled by James 1:27 that says, "Pure and true religion in the sight of God means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you." 

This episodes sticky note quote is, "You must change with the times unless we're big enough to change the times."

SHIFT | CHANGE ANCRONYM:

S - Seek the Lord. What comes from the Lord, He will sustain. If it comes from you, it will be sustained by your works.

H - Hear His voice. Don't just pray, stay in that moment and wait for the Lord to speak to you.

I - Identify the plan. Lidiette prays, "God gives us the blueprint." What is His plan? Ask for it and wait for it.

F - Fast and pray. The enemy would love nothing more than to keep you blind, stuck, and immovable towards the purpose God has on your life. Fasting and praying sets intention and is your request for clarity and confidence on your next move. Cry out to God and hold your peace. "The Lord Himself will fight for you. Just stay calm (quiet in another translation)." Exodus 14:14

T - Take Action! This is the last step. Don't be impulsive and skip before seeking the Lord, hearing from Him, fasting, and praying. Once you've done those steps, it's time to take action!

Where are they now: they NEED prayer. The Colombian government is preventing Love Bought from caring for the children. Will you join in prayer with my family, with Paloma Blanca, and the Rosas for breakthrough for these precious children? We look forward to a praise report soon this year from The Rosas on obtaining custody of the children. 

Connect with the Rosas on Instagram: @MikeRosas and @LoveBought or go to www.LoveBought.com

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In this episode, I sit down with my friend, Valerie Ellis, who is a wife, mother, non-profit grant writer, memory maker, avid book reader, children's book author, and co-author to the blog, Our Everyday Parables. We talk about how being intentional in our parenting can create moments that are educational, creative, memorable, and the building blocks for growing our children's faith. Each of us as parents are facing different trials and tragedies, but regardless, we are all seen and known by Jesus. Leaning into Him will give us the guidance to parent our children in their unique way. These intentional moments in parenting starts with prayer and practice.

Sticky note quote: "Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, I will try again tomorrow.” Mary Anne Radmacher

How do you shift change to intentional parenting? Valerie uses the acronym SHIFT to describe how this can be done by giving us Simple Honest Ideas For Teaching:

S - Simple. The most memorable moments are ones that are kept simple. It doesn’t have to be this grand thing. Look at moments together or failed attempts as moment makers. You may not feel like you’re a good teacher and like church has it covered, but your kids want to hear from you. They want to know what is important to you and about your faith. You won’t always get it right, but remember, courage is the quiet voice that says, “I will try again tomorrow.” Plus, it’s not all up to us. God cares about our children way more than we ever could. "His love for them is great and His compassion never fails. They are new every morning. Great is His faithfulness." Lamentations 3:22-23

H - Honest. By honest I mean, authentic, and that starts with cultivating your own relationship with God—leaning on God and learning about him. Honest also speaks to sharing your own ups and downs (in ways that are age appropriate of course). I can’t speak for all kids, but my oldest has a little authenticity radar. He’s never said it to me, but I get the feeling he sometimes—not always--thinks: "Mom and Dad are just teaching me this because they want me to act a certain way or because they are supposed to." When I share something about my very own personal faith walk, he seems to let his guard down a bit more. He sees me as more of a fellow Christ-seeker and less of mom who is always trying to make him do what’s good for him.

I - Ideas For Teaching - aka Thriving! It’s not all about information going from you to your kid, which is kind of implied in the word teaching. It’s about growing together and about them cultivating their own relationship with God. And of course, as our brothers and sisters in Christ, we can learn from them too. They are a valuable part of our Christian community. It's about teaching by your example and the examples of others, and them thriving as they grow alongside you.

Connect with Valerie on Instagram: @IamValerieEllis and @OurEverydayParables or go to www.OurEverydayParables.com

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I heard a quote once that said, "Times of stress or trouble reveal your true colors." The Bible speaks about this in Luke 6:44-45 [paraphrased] that says, "Every tree will be revealed by the quality of fruit that it produces. Figs or grapes are not picked off thorn trees. People are known this way (like trees). Every man produces good out of the goodness stored in them and if you have evil stored up in you - it will come out. For the overflow of what you store in your heart will be seen by the fruit you produce and it will be heard in your words. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of" and then eventually it is seen in your actions. If you and I are trees growing to bear fruit - what are we feeding ourselves now? Kindness, generosity, selflessness, self control, etc. What you feed yourself will be the fruit you produce in every season. The following verses talk about how fools don't follow this practice and stumble. Ahhh, but you are no fool, my friend if you are listening to this podcast with Lily Rodriguez, owner of Lily Bakes. She shares with us her struggles during this pandemic, and how through a flour drought she gave anyways...to me and many others with her delicious cookies and cupcakes! In a crisis, she showed her true colors, the good fruit of her heart of generosity, and her faith in Jesus. 

I was so moved by her generosity that I had to share her story with you! It was vital for me to have her on as proof that even in troubles when we have an inclination to hold on and store up for "our 4 and no more", thus, close minded to generosity - when you shift change to generosity God will open up the windows of Heaven for a blessing that you cannot contain (Malachi 3:10)! He's not into keeping a scoreboard or you scratch my back - I'll scratch your back system in His giving. Nope. He is gracious to give to us all the time, but when we give to others - He is extravagant to give back to us in response.

Sticky note quote: "You can never out give God." 

S - Stand firm in God even in the tough times -> Don't be swayed to fall apart, play the victim, panic, or worry when things don't pan out. Remember God's promises and stand on them.

H - Hope for what you cannot see (faith) and put action to it -> Keep baking, keep producing, keep creating, keep working. God's got you!

I - Impact others by searching for that one person you can bless. -> Keep an eye and an ear out for that person you can bless and say, "I got you!"

F - Focus on the fruit and ask for the rest. -> Don't stop baking, producing, or creating because of a missing ingredient. Ask God for what you need. You have not because you ask not! Talk to Him and then reach out to your circle of trust. 

T - Thank God for the blessings and repeat! -> When He exceeds your expectations, Thank Him for what He's provided and repeat the cycle! Be a blessing to others around you by your giving!

Connect with Lily on Instagram: @Lilybakes.tx and order your next delicious treat for your next occasion! You will not be disappointed! 

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Katherine "Kat" Blanco and I met on Instagram and instantly hit it off! I loved her heart, passion, and love for people. We opened up about major stuff on DM's and I knew I had to her on the podcast because she has an amazing perspective on life. This episodes sticky note quote is: "Forgiveness is not only for the other person, but it's for you. It's one the greatest expression of self care and self love." Quote by Kat. A parallel quote by Miguel Ruiz "Forgiveness is an act of self love and respect." Forgiveness is an action and it serves us well when we live it out. It's also how others, especially our children learn and grow as we role model what forgiveness looks like.  

S.H.I.F.T. takeaway:

S: Surrender your unmet expectations, the perfect picture of an apology or remorse, or how your life should be right now. Surrender your pride to God and His will. Knowing that He is in control, covers your blind side, protects your heart, and has plans to prosper you and not hurt you. Find your strength in surrender as you trust God.

H: Honor God with your obedience to forgive whether you like it or not. Honor yourself with the opportunity to let it go whether they deserve it or not. Honoring God and yourself is the most beautiful mature and honest moment you can experience in life. Honoring God and yourself with how much work and determination you put into bouncing back from those unforgivable moments in your life so that you can continue living a life of freedom.

I: "I am reason enough" - In any case relating to forgiveness, "I" (you) am reason enough to forgive the other person. Don't worry about whoever hurt you, what they're doing with their life, how sorry they were or were not, if they learned from it or if they are still doing the same thing. It's not about them. The lesson is for you to learn to move past the hurt, to continue to live life, to feel remorse, to shift change to a better way of living - It's about you and You are enough reason to forgive.

F: Find what works for you in forgiving. Also, find a balance based on the situation and season. It may take a week, months, or years, but choose to not let unforgiveness go unsettled. Release yourself from unforgiveness and in turn, the other person as well.

T: Take the "L" - Take the loss, the lesson and the low road. You're not a loser. When you take the lesson, you are stronger and wiser. It is the road less traveled, but you can't lose if you learn, grow, and move from it! It's a sign of grace and maturity.

Connect with Kat here on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kat_blanco/

If you're interested in knowing more or if God is calling you to Shift Change to Forgiveness and would like to listen to the Podcast I referenced, Nothing Is Wasted Ministries - go to https://www.nothingiswasted.com/ or find it on iTunes. If you've struggled with unforgiveness and would like to know about the course I took called Freedom - you can visit https://freedom.churchofthehighlands.com/ and find a small group near you to do it with here: https://www.churchofthehighlands.com/groups 

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Why shift to Missions? Because in life, we are called to love and impact others! My amazing friend and former nursing coworker, Jessica will share about the shift in her life that lead her heart along the path to become a missionary. The sticky note quote for this episode is: "Don't worry about anything, but pray about everything. Ask God for what you need and thank Him for all He has done. Then you will experience God's peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-8  Jess, talks about her "YES (period)" to God, to His purpose, and assignment. Jesus gave His best, "YES" - what is He calling YOU to say YES to? Visit www.JamilynHull.com to hear about her incredible life and how her "YES" changed Jessica's life, my life, and I pray it can change yours. 

S.H.I.F.T. takeaway:

Service - when you don't know what to do or where to go, start serving where you are.

Healthy habits + relationships - while you are in the waiting for the job, that relationship, the diagnosis, this pandemic to end, your next assignment, be mindful of your habits and relationships that may push you towards or pull you away from God and His calling/purpose for you.

Introspection - if your situation isn't changing, God may be trying to change something in you.

Fight - for yourself and others. Fight the urge to give up or give in. If you don't quit, YOU WIN!

Trust in God - He knows you, He loves you, He cares about you and the things you care about. You demonstrate your trust by resting in Him and on His promises. 

Don't worry about anything, pray about everything, and give God your best "YES!"

Connect with Jessica here on Instagram @j_brownie to follow Brown's Anatomy, Wednesday Morning Wisdom, her extremely attractive dog, DASH, III @DashIGMODEL, and all things JB! 

If you're interested in knowing more or if God is calling you to Shift to Missions (local and global), a great resource and organization is M3 (Mobilizing Medical Missions) by Dr. Paul Osteen. M3 holds a conference every year at Lakewood Church. Go to www.M3Missions.com to get connected now! To know more about how the organization Jessica referenced or to donate, visit www.KenyaRelief.org

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