This week, I sat down with my friend Shannon Whaley to talk about something a lot of us carry without realizing it, the stories we were told when we were young, and how they quietly shape the way we love, work, and trust ourselves as adults.

Shannon grew up hearing a message that followed her well into her 30s: “You’re not smart.”

And even though she went on to get multiple degrees, certifications, and build a successful business, that old story kept showing up in her relationships, her choices, and especially in the moments when she ignored her intuition.

In this episode, we talk about:

• What it’s like growing up in chaos
• Why she stayed in relationships she knew weren’t right
• How addiction and escaping played into the bigger story
• Getting sober at 34 and rebuilding her entire life
• The difference between hustle and survival
• The identity shifts that helped her trust herself again

Shannon also shares the practices that grounded her, journaling, visioning, inner child work, and how she slowly built a life that actually feels like hers, not the one she was programmed to believe she was limited to.

If you've ever carried an old belief about yourself, or felt like you were living out a story someone else wrote, this conversation will hit home.

• How one sentence can shape decades of behavior
• Why so many of us override our intuition
• How trauma shows up in high-achievers
• What it looks like to start over
• The role of identity work in real healing
• How Shannon built an anti-hustle, aligned life

• Download your Anti-Hustle Business Checklist here: https://shannonwhaley.myflodesk.com/checklist
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshannonwhaley/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shannonkwhaley/
• Anti-Hustle Business Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-anti-hustle-business-podcast/id1762374185
• Website: shannonwhaley.com

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
• Learn more or apply to be a guest or coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Connect with me on Instagram & Facebook: @theallyrose

If this episode resonates, subscribe, rate, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs the reminder that they’re allowed to rewrite their story, too.

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In this solo episode, I’m diving into the real side of gratitude.

Not the fluffy “write three things in your journal” version, or the pressure-filled “just be grateful” advice.

But the subconscious, neurological, and deeply human layers of gratitude, especially for those who grew up in chaos, survival mode, or environments where softening never felt safe.

We explore why gratitude often feels fake, irritating, or out of reach, and why your nervous system might actually resist it. You will learn how real gratitude, the kind you feel in your body rather than think in your head, creates micro moments of safety that your subconscious uses to rewire old patterns.

Then we go deeper into future gratitude, the practice of feeling grateful for the life you are creating before it arrives, and why your brain responds to imagined emotions with the same intensity as real ones. This is where identity shifting happens.

What You Will Learn:

• Why gratitude often feels fake, forced, or unavailable, and why that is normal
• The subconscious reason your brain resists gratitude when you are in survival mode
• The difference between present and future gratitude
• How gratitude regulates the nervous system on a physiological level
• Why your brain cannot tell the difference between real and imagined emotions
• Simple ways to start practicing both types of gratitude (present and future) today

Resources and Links

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
• Learn more or apply to be coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Connect with Ally on Instagram & Facebook: @theallyrose

Your Next Steps

If this episode resonated, make sure to subscribe, rate, and leave a review. It helps more people find this work.

And if you know someone who struggles with gratitude, feels guilty for not being “more grateful,” or lives in constant survival mode, send them this episode.

It might help them understand that their struggle with gratitude is a subconscious protection pattern, and like all patterns, it can be rewired.

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The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.

In this week’s hypnocoaching session, you’ll meet Nicki, a kind, self-aware woman who has spent most of her life trying to be understood.

She doesn’t just explain things; she overexplains them. In texts. In conversations. In moments of conflict.

As we go deeper into the session, we discover where this pattern began: a childhood moment when love felt conditional and peace depended on keeping others calm. The part of her that learned to justify everything wasn’t wrong. It was protecting her from being rejected, blamed, or left alone.

But what once kept her safe is now keeping her small, and in this session, that part finally gets to rest.

• The real reason we overexplain and what we’re actually trying to protect
• How childhood conditioning trains your nervous system to equate safety with control
• Why some parts of you can’t relax, even when life finally feels calm
• What it means to give that part a new role rooted in reflection, not justification
• How to integrate your younger self so you feel whole, grounded, and free

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
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If this episode hit home, subscribe, rate, and leave a review.

And if you know someone who can’t stop explaining themselves, even when they don’t owe anyone an explanation, share this episode with them.

Because sometimes overexplaining isn’t overthinking. It’s overprotecting. A child’s way of saying, “If I can make sense to them, maybe I’ll be safe.”

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The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.

In this episode, Safiya and I unpack one of the most exhausting and misunderstood patterns so many of us carry: the deep, subconscious pull to keep everyone else comfortable, even when it costs us our own peace.

We explore how people-pleasing isn’t really about being nice, it’s about safety. When your nervous system learns that harmony equals survival, saying “yes” becomes a reflex, not a choice.

Together, we talk about the childhood experiences, family dynamics, and cultural conditioning that train us to equate approval with worth and rejection with danger. We also explore how this pattern becomes part of our identity, the helper, the fixer, the easygoing one, and what it actually looks like to heal without swinging to the other extreme of being detached or cold.

From the physical exhaustion that comes from managing everyone’s emotions, to the quiet resentment that builds when you abandon your own needs, this conversation will help you understand why people-pleasing runs so deep, and how to start finding safety in simply being yourself.

What You’ll Learn

• Why people-pleasing is less about kindness and more about safety
• How early family and cultural dynamics shape approval-seeking behavior
• The difference between genuine generosity and self-abandonment
• How your subconscious links safety to control and emotional regulation
• What it means to care without losing yourself in the process
• Small, practical ways to start feeling safe saying “no”

Resources & Links

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
• Learn more or apply to be coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Connect with Ally on Instagram & Facebook: @theallyrose

Your Next Steps

If this episode resonated, subscribe, rate, and leave a review.

And if you know someone who feels like they’re carrying the weight of everyone else’s emotions, send them this episode. It might help them see that their people-pleasing isn’t who they are, it’s just a safety story. And that story can be rewritten.

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The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.

What if transformation wasn’t about pushing harder, but about becoming the person who no longer needs to?

In this week’s episode, I sit down with Greg Fearon, creator of The Million Dollar Body Method, to explore how identity, not discipline, shapes every result we create in health, business, and life.

Greg shares what it was like growing up in London as the child of Jamaican immigrants, and how stories about money, success, and worth shaped his path long before he became a personal trainer and nutrition coach. We talk about the subconscious stories women carry about rest, responsibility, and deservingness, and why so many of us mistake exhaustion for achievement.

Greg’s work is rooted in what he calls The Superhero Identity Method, helping women build a vision of who they want to become, then align their daily choices with that future self. Because lasting change doesn’t come from more willpower. It comes from rewriting the story of who you believe yourself to be.

What You’ll Learn

• Why information and discipline alone don’t create transformation
• How identity shapes your health, energy, and self-worth
• The hidden story behind “I don’t have time”
• Why rest is a leadership skill, not a luxury
• How to align your daily habits with your future self

Connect with Greg

• Grab Greg's 7-Day Meal Guide: https://bit.ly/7Daymealguide
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/greg_fearon/
• Website: https://www.gregfearon.co.uk/

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
• Learn more or apply to be a guest or coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Connect with me on Instagram & Facebook: @theallyrose

Your Next Steps

If this episode speaks to you, take a moment to check in with your body today.

Not with judgment, with curiosity.

Ask yourself: What version of me would make this next choice?

Would she rest? Move? Nourish? Breathe?

Because every workout, every meal, every breath is a conversation between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming.

If this conversation helped you rethink your approach to health, subscribe, rate, and leave a review, and share it with someone ready to build strength from the inside out.

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In this week’s hypnocoaching session, you’ll meet Yvette, a money mindset coach who helps women shift their beliefs around wealth, except when it comes to her own business.

Money flows to her easily in every other area of life, yet in business, it feels like a grind. No matter what she tries, something invisible seems to block the flow.

As we go deeper into the session, we discover where that block began: a childhood moment that taught her success and being “too much” could make her unlovable. The same part of her that’s been protecting her from disappointment has also been protecting her from ease.

This session isn’t about forcing abundance; it’s about making safety the foundation of success. Because once your nervous system feels safe receiving, ease becomes the new normal.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• How “good girl” conditioning shapes your relationship with money
• Why ease can feel unsafe when struggle once meant safety
• The deeper fear behind charging for your gifts
• What happens when guilt and worthiness get tangled
• How to rewire your subconscious to allow both impact and income

Resources & Links

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
• Apply to be coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Hang out with me on Instagram and Facebook

Your Next Steps

If this episode resonated, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review.

And if you know someone who keeps giving, grinding, and overdelivering, yet still struggles to receive, share this episode with them.

Because sometimes the struggle isn’t self-sabotage. It’s a subconscious promise you made long ago, to stay small so you’d stay safe.

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© 2025 Ally Rose | All Rights Reserved

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The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.

In this episode, Safiya and I dive into one of the most misunderstood patterns in high achievers: the subconscious drive to get it “just right” as a way to feel in control, worthy, and safe.

We explore how perfectionism isn’t really about doing things perfectly. It’s about protection. When you grow up learning that love or stability depended on being good, quiet, or high-performing, your subconscious mind learns to equate “getting it right” with survival.

Together, we unpack how perfectionism can look like strength, ambition, or discipline on the surface, while underneath it’s fueled by fear of rejection, failure, or disappointing others.

From family dynamics and cultural conditioning to the nervous system’s response to mistakes, this conversation shines light on how deeply perfectionism is wired into our stories and how to begin rewriting it so you can rest, release control, and live with more ease.

What You’ll Learn

• Why perfectionism is more about safety than high standards
• How early family and cultural messages shape perfectionistic behavior
• The connection between control, chaos, and childhood survival strategies
• The link between perfectionism, burnout, and nervous system dysregulation
• How perfectionism hides behind “high achievement” in business and relationships
• What it takes to feel safe enough to let go of control and still trust yourself

Resources & Links

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
• Learn more or apply to be coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Connect with Ally on Instagram & Facebook: @theallyrose

If this episode resonated with you, make sure to subscribe, rate, and leave a review.

And if you know someone who’s stuck in the endless loop of “never enough,” send them this episode. It might help them see that their perfectionism is an old safety story, and that story can be rewritten.

🎙️ The Shift Your Story Podcast

© 2025 Ally Rose | All Rights Reserved

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The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.

In this week’s hypnocoaching session, you’ll meet Jagoda, a coach who’s built her business on helping others heal, but finds herself stuck when it comes to showing up online. She writes posts, rewrites them five times, and then never hits publish.

On the surface, it looks like procrastination. But underneath is something much deeper: a part of her that’s terrified of being fully seen.

As we go under hypnosis, we uncover where that fear began. This session isn’t about pushing past fear. It’s about understanding its purpose.

Because sometimes the part that keeps you hidden isn’t trying to sabotage your success, it’s trying to keep you safe until you trust yourself enough to step forward again.

And that’s the moment everything shifts.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• How childhood shame can evolve into visibility blocks
• The real reason fear of judgment keeps us silent
• What your inner protector is trying to teach you
• Why strategy won’t help until self-trust feels safe
• How to start showing up from authenticity, not armor

Resources & Links

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
• Apply to be coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Hang out with me on Instagram and Facebook

If this episode resonated, subscribe, rate, and leave a review.

And if you know someone who keeps holding back, rewriting, hesitating, hiding, share this with them.

Sometimes the fear isn’t the problem. It’s the message you’ve been missing underneath it.

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© 2025 Ally Rose | All Rights Reserved

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Disclaimer:

The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.

What if the questions you ask yourself matter more than the answers you chase?

In this week’s episode, I sit down with my co-host and friend, Safiya Robinson, to explore how curiosity and small steps can shift the deepest stories we carry.

Safiya shares what it was like growing up in Barbados, the beauty, the bonds, and the silent beliefs she didn’t even know she was carrying. From feeling like she didn’t fit in, to questioning whether people truly cared for her, to realizing later in life that many of those stories weren’t true at all.

Along the way, Safiya discovered the power of asking different questions and taking small, doable steps. Questions like: What if I was wrong about myself? What else could be possible? And steps like finishing a blog post, writing a book, or daring to send an email that opened a door.

This conversation is a reminder that change doesn’t come from knowing all the answers. It comes from staying curious, asking expansive questions, and taking one small step at a time.

What You’ll Learn

• How small experiments build self-trust
• Why asking different questions can unlock new possibilities
• The hidden weight of childhood beliefs (and how to release them)
• Why there’s no such thing as a “proper adult”

Connect with Safiya

Website: www.writingblackjoy.com

The Writing Black Joy Podcast: 

• Apple Podcasts
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Resources & Links

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
• Learn more or apply to be a guest or coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Connect with me on Instagram & Facebook: @theallyrose

Your Next Steps

If this episode resonates with you, subscribe, rate, and leave a review.

And if you know someone who feels stuck in old stories or unsure of their next steps, share this episode with them.

Sometimes one honest story is all it takes to shift your own.

🎙️ The Shift Your Story Podcast

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Disclaimer:

The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.

What if the reason you keep pulling back isn’t because you’re inconsistent, but because a part of you learned that connection wasn’t safe?

In this week’s hypnocoaching session, you’ll hear from someone who’s been caught in the push-pull of showing up and then shutting down. She’d pour her heart into creating, sharing, giving… only to retreat when it all felt too exposing.

On the outside, it looked like a lack of follow-through. But underneath was a little girl who once got told, “Don’t get too big for your boots.” A child who learned that shining too brightly came with ridicule, and that the safest way to protect herself was to hold back.

This session isn’t about forcing consistency or hustling harder. It’s about seeing the truth: the parts of us that block connection aren’t trying to sabotage us. They’re trying to protect us.

And when we finally understand what they’ve been guarding us from, connection stops feeling dangerous and starts feeling possible.

• The childhood moment that shaped a lifelong pattern of pulling back

• Why disconnection can feel safer than being seen

• How overgiving and self-sacrifice masquerade as love

• What shifts when you listen to your patterns instead of fighting them

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call

• Apply to be coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com

• Hang out with me on Instagram & Facebook: @theallyrose

If this episode resonates, subscribe, rate, and leave a review.

And if you know someone who’s been wrestling with that push-pull between wanting to connect and feeling safer alone, share this with them.

Sometimes the shift begins when you hear someone else put words to what you’ve been carrying.

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© 2025 Ally Rose | All Rights Reserved

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Disclaimer:

The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.