The reality is you already know what you're doing.

You can see the pattern clearly. You've journaled about it, talked it through with your therapist and your best friend, and maybe even built a whole career helping other people with it. And yet, you're still stuck in it.

Self-sabotage doesn't look the same for everyone, and that's part of why it's so easy to miss in yourself. 

For some people, it's procrastination, and for others, it's perfectionism, people-pleasing, saying yes when every cell in your body is screaming no. 

Some people overfunction until they burn out, and some people get so close to the thing they say they want and then find a reason to back away.

If it’s repeated in your life, it’s not random, it’s rooted. It's a subconscious mind that learned, at some point, that it wasn't safe to have the thing you're reaching for now.

This week, I’m revisiting a conversation with Safiya about self-sabotage. We talk about where these patterns come from, why they can feel so hard to shift, and what it looks like to get to the root instead of just managing the surface-level symptoms.

If you’ve ever had that uncomfortable thought, “I know exactly what I need to do, and I still can’t make myself do it,” this episode will resonate

What You'll Learn:

• Why self-sabotage is almost always self-protection, and what your nervous system is actually trying to do when it gets in your way.
• Why the experiences you had long before you could articulate them are still making decisions for you now.
• What hypnosis actually does to help you access and shift those deeper layers, not just the behavior you can see.
• Why sustainable change has never been about pushing harder.

Resources and Links

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
• Apply to be coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Hang out with me on Instagram and Facebook

Your Next Steps:

Subscribe, rate, and leave a review so more people find this conversation.

And if you know someone who is smart, self-aware, and still somehow stuck, forward this episode.

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This week’s episode is part two of the Shift Your Story, Change Your Life podcast anniversary Ask Me Anything series, and this conversation gets more personal. 

In part one, we talked more about life, relationships, family dynamics, and the messy human things so many of us are navigating behind the scenes. 

In this episode, we shift into deeper questions about my own journey, my business, the beliefs I’ve had to work hard to change, and what I most want people to understand about hypnotherapy and subconscious work.

This episode is for you if you have ever felt like the strong one, the over-functioner, the one who always has to hold it all together. 

It is for you if you have ever wondered why you still feel stuck in a pattern you logically understand. 

And it is for you if you want a more honest, behind-the-scenes conversation about healing, helping people, and the beliefs that shape the way we live and work.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• My honest thoughts on becoming a coach or entering the helping space
• Why being great at helping people is not the same as knowing how to run a business
• The belief that shaped so much of my life and what it took to start changing it
• What hypnotherapy has taught me about why people do what they do
• Why compassion and accountability have to exist together
• Why insight, awareness, and “knowing better” are often not enough
• What I wish more people understood about hypnotherapy and subconscious work

Resources and Links

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
• Apply to be coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Hang out with me on Instagram and Facebook

Your Next Steps

If this episode resonated, subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or send it to someone who is interested in healing, subconscious work, or the deeper patterns that shape how we live and work.

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This week, I’m sharing Part 1 of a special Ask Me Anything episode to celebrate one full year of the podcast.

I invited listeners to send in the kinds of questions they would ask if we were sitting down together over coffee or tea, and the questions that came in were thoughtful, honest, and deeply real. 

This episode opens up conversation around things so many women carry quietly but live with every day, like people pleasing, family dynamics, boundaries, high-functioning anxiety, survival mode, parenting, political differences, and why slowing down can feel so uncomfortable even when you know you need it.

In this conversation, I answer questions about how to start standing up for yourself when speaking up did not feel safe growing up, how to navigate people pleasing with people who are used to you over-functioning for them, and how to protect your peace when political differences with family members start to feel exhausting or unproductive. 

We also talk about what may really be going on when someone looks highly capable on the outside but is living with constant internal pressure, overthinking, and anxiety underneath it all.

This episode is for anyone who has ever found themselves carrying more than they can explain, struggling to slow down, questioning whether their drive is healthy or survival-based, or trying to understand the deeper roots of the patterns that keep showing up in relationships and everyday life. It is an honest conversation about what these patterns are often connected to underneath the surface, and why healing them is about so much more than just trying harder or doing better.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• How to begin standing up for yourself when speaking up did not feel safe growing up
• Why people pleasing can feel especially hard to shift when others are used to you over-functioning for them
• How to handle political differences with family members without getting pulled into draining conversations
• What may actually be happening when kids or loved ones bring you problems, reject your guidance, and turn their frustration back onto you
• Why so many women with high-functioning anxiety do not even realize anxiety is what they are dealing with
• How to tell the difference between healthy drive and survival mode
• Why slowing down can feel deeply uncomfortable, even when you know you need rest
• How nervous system patterns formed earlier in life can continue shaping your relationships, voice, boundaries, and sense of safety now

Resources and Links

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
• Apply to be coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Hang out with me on Instagram and Facebook

Your Next Steps

If this episode resonated, subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or send it to someone who has been carrying a lot and may need this conversation too. And stay tuned for Part 2, where I’ll be answering even more of your questions, including some more personal ones about my journey, my business, hypnotherapy, and what I believe now.

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The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.

This week, I’m joining Jamie on the Managing Mental Health Podcast for a grounded an honest conversation about hypnotherapy, subconscious healing, and why so many people stay stuck in the same patterns even when they understand them logically.

Jamie, a fellow mental health professional, came into this conversation openly skeptical of hypnotherapy, which made this such an important episode. 

We talk about the difference between stage hypnosis and therapeutic hypnotherapy, what hypnosis actually feels like, and why so many people can talk about their trauma, patterns, and struggles for years but still feel like something deeper has not shifted.

I also share more of my own story in this episode, including how I came to hypnotherapy after years as a traditionally trained talk therapist, and how my own RTT sessions helped me break through something I had been carrying since childhood. 

We explore how subconscious beliefs like I’m not safe or I’m not enough can quietly shape our relationships, our visibility, our anxiety, our money patterns, and our ability to fully receive the life we want.

This episode is for anyone who has ever been curious about hypnotherapy, skeptical of it, or frustrated that insight, willpower, and self-awareness have not fully changed the thing that keeps repeating. It is a powerful conversation about what happens when we stop only managing symptoms and start getting to the subconscious root.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• How I went from traditional talk therapy into RTT hypnotherapy after my own life-changing experience
• The difference between stage hypnosis and therapeutic hypnotherapy
• What hypnosis actually feels like, and why it is not mind control
• Why people can know better consciously and still keep repeating the same patterns
• How subconscious beliefs formed through trauma or repeated life experiences shape relationships, money, visibility, and self-sabotage
• Why issues like anxiety, perfectionism, depression, and chronic stuckness often have deeper roots than we realize
• How hypnotherapy helps uncover the real reason behind a pattern instead of only addressing the surface behavior
• Why safety is such a huge part of healing, and what it means to help the subconscious mind recognize that the danger is no longer happening
• The importance of screening and why hypnotherapy is not appropriate for everyone

Resources and Links

• Listen to the full episode on Managing Mental Health Podcast on YouTube
• Connect with Jamie on Instagram
• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
• Apply to be coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Hang out with me on Instagram and Facebook

Your Next Steps

If this episode resonated, subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or send it to someone who has been curious about hypnotherapy but still has questions. And if you have ever felt frustrated that insight alone has not changed the pattern, this conversation may help you understand why.

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The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.

This week’s episode is a deep conversation about identity, what it actually is, how it gets formed, how it shapes the way you think, choose, show up, and move through your life, and why so many people stay stuck even when they consciously want something different.

This episode explores what happens when your conscious mind says you want a new relationship, a healthier life, a thriving business, or a different way of being, but your subconscious identity is still organized around rejection, survival, fear, or who you had to be in the past. That tension is where so much self-sabotage begins because some part of you still does not believe it belongs to you yet.

They also talk about the strange and disorienting middle space of an identity shift, when the old version of you no longer fits, but the new version is not fully formed yet. It is a powerful conversation about the discomfort of becoming, the in-between space where certainty falls away, and what it looks like to let yourself change without rushing to define who you are too quickly.

If you have ever felt frustrated that your habits are not changing fast enough, confused about why you keep slipping back into old patterns, or aware that the life you want requires a different version of you than the one you have been living from, this episode will likely hit home.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• How identity is different from personality, habits, goals, or mindset
• How identity gets shaped by old stories, emotional experiences, roles, and survival patterns
• Why people can consciously want something new while still feeling pulled back into old ways of being
• What an identity mismatch is and how it can create pressure, collapse, and self-sabotage
• Why growth often feels strange, disorienting, and unclear before it feels empowering
• How to recognize when you are in the middle of an identity shift
• Why hypnotherapy can help shift identity at the root instead of just trying to force surface-level change

Resources and Links

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
• Apply to be coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Hang out with me on Instagram and Facebook

Your Next Steps

If this episode resonated, subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or send it to someone who knows they are no longer who they used to be, but is still learning how to trust who they are becoming.

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The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.

This week’s hypnocoaching session is with a woman who came in thinking she had a money problem.

On the surface, that made sense. Her business was not where she wanted it to be, financial pressure had been building for a long time, and there was a real ache underneath it all, the kind that comes from wondering when life is finally going to feel less heavy. 

But as we moved through the session, it became clear that what was happening was not just about money. Money was simply the place where something much deeper had landed.

This episode is a really honest look at how financial struggle can become wrapped around identity, grief, love, survival, and the longing to be cared for. 

It is also a powerful reminder that healing is not always about forcing yourself to do better. Sometimes it begins by understanding why a part of you has been holding on so tightly in the first place, and what becomes possible when that part is finally given a different job.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• How financial stress can become tied to trauma, care, and identity
• Why what looks like a money block may actually be a protective pattern
• The subconscious conflict between wanting financial freedom and rejecting the idea that worth is measured by money
• How hypnosis helps uncover the real role a pattern has been playing
• What began to shift when she stopped judging herself and started understanding the deeper function of the struggle
• The move from survival choices into more grounded, conscious choices around money

Resources and Links

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
• Apply to be coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Hang out with me on Instagram and Facebook

Your Next Steps

If this episode resonated, send it to someone who has been carrying shame around money, feeling stuck in survival mode, or quietly wondering whether their struggle with finances is about more than finances at all.

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The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.

What if the stories you were taught about money, success, and security were never actually designed to make you feel safe?

In this week’s episode, I sit down with money coach and wealth strategist Jill Emanuel to talk about the money beliefs we inherit, the debt cycles so many people silently live in, and what it really takes to create lasting financial change.

Jill shares how she grew up believing that success meant getting the degree, earning six figures, and using credit cards when money was tight, only to find herself stuck in patterns that looked normal on the outside but felt anything but secure.

She opens up about the turning point that changed everything, how shame shaped her identity around money, and how small, consistent shifts helped her move from financial chaos into a completely different relationship with herself, her marriage, and her future.

We also talk about the connection between practical money tools and deeper inner work, and why real change often requires both.

What You’ll Learn

• The money beliefs Jill grew up carrying
• How shame keeps people stuck in debt cycles
• Why identity shifts matter in financial healing
• The connection between practical action and deeper inner work

Connect with Jill

• Website: moneycoachjill.com
• Instagram: @moneycoachjill

Resources and Links

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
• Apply to be coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Hang out with me on Instagram and Facebook

Your Next Steps

If this episode resonates with you, subscribe, rate, and leave a review.

And if you know someone who feels stuck in shame, debt, or old stories around money, share this episode with them.

Sometimes one honest conversation can change the way you see your whole life.

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Disclaimer:

The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.

This week’s hypnocoaching session is with a woman who has spent much of her life feeling distracted, bored, and restless, someone who has followed the pull toward movement, change, travel, new opportunities, and new beginnings, again and again.

What looks on the surface like a focus issue is actually tied to a much deeper pattern. She shares how, since she was young, she has struggled to stay with one thing for too long, often feeling pulled toward the next subject, the next place, the next chapter, even while recognizing that other people seem to build a steadier kind of life.

On paper, this pattern has given her a rich, expansive life. She has learned languages, lived in different places, explored the world, and created experiences many people only dream about.

But behind the scenes, that same restless energy has also made it hard to stay. To root. To build stability without feeling trapped. To remain in one job, one place, or one season long enough for peace to feel safe.

This episode is a powerful look at what happens when you realize your distraction, boredom, and restlessness are not proof that something is wrong with you. They may be proof that a part of you has been working very hard for a very long time to make sure you never feel trapped again, and what becomes possible when that same energy is given a new role.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• How her lifelong pattern of distraction, boredom, and restlessness has shaped jobs, relationships, and major life choices
• Why this pattern has been both a gift and a source of pain in her life
• How hypnosis helps us locate and dialogue with protective parts instead of trying to overpower them
• Why stability can feel boring or unbearable when your nervous system has been wired for movement
• How to honor a part of yourself that once protected you, without letting it keep running the show forever

Resources and Links

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
• Apply to be coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Hang out with me on Instagram and Facebook

Your Next Steps

If this episode resonated, subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or send it to a friend who is always looking for the next thing, but might really be longing to feel safe enough to stay.

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The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.

In this episode, Safiya and I talk about overthinking in a way most people never do as a strategy your system learned a long time ago to try to keep you safe.

We get into the kind of overthinking that doesn’t actually help you make a decision or solve a problem. It’s the kind that loops and causes you to replay what you said, with 500 outcomes, and still leaves you feeling tight in your chest and unsettled in your body.

Because most of the time, you’re not actually chasing the perfect answer, you’re chasing a feeling of safety.

And when certainty isn’t available, especially when other people are involved, your mind tries to earn that safety by thinking harder. So it keeps the loop open, keeps scanning, keeps searching for the one thought that will finally let you exhale… and it never quite finds it.

We also talk about the cost of living in your head: the low-grade fight-or-flight that becomes your “normal,” the exhaustion that doesn’t match what’s actually going on in your life, and the shame-story that makes you feel like there’s something wrong with you.

What You’ll Learn

• How to tell the difference between honest problem-solving and spiraling
• Why overthinking is rarely just a thought issue, it’s a safety issue
• The kinds of situations that tend to light up overthinking, especially when other people’s reactions are involved
• Why closing the loop in your head doesn’t always work when what you really want is certainty (and nobody can give you that)
• Why calm can actually feel suspicious if your system is used to waiting for the other shoe to drop
• How overthinking shows up in your body, and what that’s trying to tell you
• How shame and self-judgment keep the overthinking cycle going
• Practical tools to give your brain somewhere to put all that noise: worst-case scenario work, brain dumps, and having someone help you hear yourself think
• How hypnotherapy can help you work underneath the thoughts, where the pattern actually lives

Resources & Links:

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to schedule your Connection Call
• Learn more or apply to be coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Connect with me on Instagram & Facebook

Your Next Steps

If this episode helped you see your overthinking with a little more understanding and a little less self-blame, it would mean a lot if you’d subscribe, rate, and leave a review. It helps more people find these conversations.

And if someone in your world is constantly in their head, replaying conversations, waiting for the text back, and exhausted by the mental load, send this their way.

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This hypnocoaching session is with a woman who has done big things in her life, but money is still the place where she quietly holds back.

She’s been the power behind the throne, helped create success, even had a project nominated for an Emmy… and yet she’s under-earned for years. Not because she’s confused or unskilled, but because somewhere inside, it still doesn’t feel fully safe to shine and get paid like it.

In hypnosis, we talk to the part that learned early on that being visible, praised, or “too successful” could threaten belonging, especially in a family that mocked or minimized people who “got ahead.”

Once we actually listen to it, the pattern around money makes sense. Under-earning isn’t laziness or confusion; it’s loyalty to an old family rule. 

If you’ve ever looked at your life and thought, “There is no logical reason my income is this small,” or noticed you pull back right before things really take off, this episode will likely land for you.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• How “being the power behind the throne” can feel safer than owning your success
• The family messaging around “don’t get a swelled head” / “don’t get too big for your britches”
• The way a protective part shows up in her solar plexus with a witchy, trickster energy
• Why under-earning can be a nervous system strategy to stay loyal and “acceptable”
• The Emmy nomination moment that should have felt exciting… and instead triggered deep imposter syndrome
• What happens when we stop trying to kill the part and instead give it a new job
• A real-time integration that feels like shedding an old skin, not becoming a fake new self
• A reparenting moment with her younger self, and a powerful “give it back” to where those beliefs started

Resources & Links:

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to schedule your Connection Call
• Learn more or apply to be coached on the podcast: shiftyourstorypodcast.com
• Connect with me on Instagram & Facebook

Your Next Step

If this episode resonated, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review so more people can find this work. And send this to the friend who is clearly brilliant, deeply under-earning, and pretending it’s “no big deal.”

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Disclaimer:

The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.