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On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Em and Jen sit down with one of their dear friends, fellow therapist, and talented author, Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT! Liz is the author of I Want This to Work and has a new book available for pre-order now: Til' Stress Do Us Part: How to Heal The #1 Issue in Our Relationships. Emmalee and Jen start the episode off by asking Liz where the inspiration to write her new book came from. Then, they discuss how to navigate stress within our relationships, regulating ourselves when feeling activated, why defending a family member over your partner can be detrimental to your relationship, tips on connecting with your partner when life feels crazy (skipping the typical therapeutic advice), and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: There is no intro for today's episode - join us right away for the content!

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are celebrating 10 years in business together by dedicating the episode to all that they've learned so far! They discuss their journey, the ways their lives have been enriched by one another, things they would change, hard decisions they had to make, and the transition away from pleasing people. Emmalee and Jen answer your questions about what they've learned from one another, what they're most proud of the other person for, how they've changed as therapists, and their top 3 moments of vindication for any haters. They end the episode with their advice to new therapists and a Dear Em and Jen about the things that seemed like a good idea and turned out not to be. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: There is no intro for today's episode - join us right away for the content!

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On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are discussing the information overload we all experience on a daily basis and how to move toward more conscious consumption of media, the news, etc. They answer your questions about social media's role in the overwhelm, the "shoulds" and comparison culture, how to create boundaries with consumption, parenting social media accounts that make us feel like we're failing, social media therapists vs. social media "therapists," why seeing content on TikTok/Reels doesn't lead to lasting change, why it's so easy to believe what we read on the Internet, and so much more! The episode ends with a Dear Em and Jen about social media comparison as a new mom. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 5 minutes into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by Kara Loewentheil, host of the internationally top-ranked podcast Unf*ck Your Brain and author of the new book Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets in Your Head and How to Get It Out. Kara shares tangible steps to change our thought patterns and address the "brain gap" so many of us experience when considering our conscious thoughts vs. societal expectations/conditioning. Kara answers questions about managing other people's opinions about us, connecting our worth to external factors, why positive thinking doesn't work, what society teaches us as women and how to start unlearning those lessons, and so much more! Tune in to hear what Kara is calling BS on and to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: There is no intro for today's episode - tune in right away for the content!

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On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee is taking you on her fertility journey. The episode begins with Em's story and all the highs and lows that have come with it thus far. She talks about her recurrent miscarriage diagnosis, her misdiagnosis of PCOS, and her two recent egg retrieval experiences. Then, Jen asks Em all of your questions, such as advice for those freezing their eggs alone, what has been most helpful when Em's feeling overwhelmed by the process, how best to support a friend going through infertility, how to respond to advice like "just relax and it will happen" when experiencing infertility, handling the jealousy and envy that creeps in when others around you are getting pregnant, and so much more! Tune in for an honest, vulnerable, and important conversation! PS: Fast forward to around 4:15 into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

Emmalee's Book Recs:

1. The Trying Game by Amy Klein

2. Infreakinfertility by Melanie Dale

3. It Starts with the Egg by Rebecca Fett

4. Fat and Fertile by Nicola Salmon

5. Spirit Babies by Walter Makichen

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In light of the holiday weekend, today's episode is a re-release of one of Emmalee and Jen's favorites. They want to model what they often share, which is the importance of resting and taking breaks in order to continue to show up as the best versions of themselves. In the episode, Emmalee and Jen talk all about change and why it can be so challenging and scary! They share how they each process change and why it works for them. Then, they discuss how to move through the fear of change, the loss of control that comes with change, why we need time to adjust to change, and why even positive change can be difficult. Emmalee and Jen dig into topics like why it's natural for us to miss the old versions of ourselves, the "grass is always greener" mentality, why there isn't always a "right" decision, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are myth-busting the idea of unconditional love. They explain the difference between conditional and unconditional love and which kinds of relationships fall into either category. Then, they answer the #1 listener question: can love be unconditional in romantic relationships? Plus, they dive deeper into the way we put unconditional love on a pedestal as a society. Em and Jen discuss the grief process in accepting the reality that our parent's love is conditional, deep love vs. unconditional love, what normal martial hatred means, and normalizing the postpartum experience. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 8:15 into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are teaching you how to build distress tolerance skills. They start the episode by explaining what distress tolerance is and where the concept comes from. Emmalee and Jen discuss the relationship between acceptance of reality and its effect on distress. They answer your questions about discomfort from other people's distress, releasing control, tangible self-soothing tips for when distress arises, how to know if you have too much distress tolerance, feeling discomfort and doing it anyway, the anxiety feedback loop, and so much more! The episode concludes with a Dear Em & Jen about ADHD symptoms and how to handle criticism of those symptoms. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 4 minutes into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen explain the concept of differentiation. This term is woven through the work they do and they're here to explain it in a digestible, relatable way. Emmalee and Jen list some questions to help determine if you’re differentiated and share which of the questions they resonate with most. Then, they discuss how differentiation relates to codependency and cut-off, enmeshment vs. closeness, and separating your emotions from someone else’s. Em and Jen answer your questions about navigating a partner's fierce loyalty to their family, separating society's expectations from what you want, and absorbing a partner's emotions. Plus, a powerful Dear Em & Jen question! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 7 minutes into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are thrilled to welcome back one of their favorite guests, Emily Nagoski! Emily is a sex and stress educator, researcher, activist, and an award-winning author, who has a brand new book: Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections! They discuss themes of Come Together by exploring topics such as spontaneous vs. responsive desire, how couples sustain sexual connection in long-term relationships, the concept of the "Emotional Floor Plan," and how to cultivate pleasure-favorable spaces. Emily explains the #1 thing that people don’t want when it comes to sex from her research, and the radical idea she holds for our world. Plus, Emily shares her experience writing a book about sex while simultaneously having zero interest in sex and how she used her own work for support. Tune in to find out what she is calling BS on and to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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Book Emily mentions in the episode: Magnificent Sex

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