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By Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFTSociety & CultureHealth & FitnessMental HealthEducationSelf-ImprovementRelationships
ShrinkChicks episodes
- How To Get Better with Confrontation
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are covering a highly requested topic: confrontation and how to get more comfortable with it! They start by normalizing how challenging confrontation can be. They share questions to ask yourself like what does confrontation mean to you and what does it look like for you, historically? Then they answer your questions about why confrontation can be so scary, what to do if you freeze or blackout during a confrontation, different ways to approach confrontation, how to decipher between when to confront and when to let it go, and why assertive people can be harder to confront. Emmalee and Jen share strategies for confrontation, remind you that it's okay to cry, and give you direct tips on how to bring up something that you've been putting off for a long time. The episode concludes with a Dear Em & Jen about "therapizing" your partner. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!
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41 min - Creating Your Chosen Family
Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about chosen family. They discuss popular sayings like "blood is thicker than water" and "you only get one (insert family member here)" and why these don't apply to everyone. They explain that it's not all or nothing; a chosen family doesn't require the absence of a biological family. Emmalee and Jen answer your questions about finding and creating a chosen family, how to not feel like you're betraying your biological family by having a chosen one, grieving the fact that your biological family can't be there for you or support you in certain ways, and so much more! The episode ends with a Dear Em & Jen about navigating the wedding planning process with divorced parents and how it brings back a flood of emotions from childhood. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!
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38 min - Rewind: Carrying The Mental Load
Today on ShrinkChicks, Em and Jen are practicing what they preach by resting and taking the week off from a new episode. They don't want to leave you all hanging of course, so they're re-releasing one of their most listened-to episodes: Carrying The Mental Load. Emmalee and Jen break down the term "mental load," which is also known as cognitive labor. They discuss gender roles and how the mental load has historically fallen on women, the over-functioning/under-functioning dynamic in relationships and what it might look like, why the mental load falls onto the person who cares more, being the default parent, what to do when you feel like you’re the only one who knows how to do it "right," and so much more. Dear Em & Jen answers a listener's question about constantly having to remind her partner to help around the house. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! Emmalee and Jen will be back with a new episode next week!
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A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
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40 min - How Your History Alters Your Brain
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are honored to be joined by Juliane Taylor Shore, LMFT, LPC, SEP. Jules is a therapist specializing in trauma recovery, interpersonal neurobiology, and couples work and she shares her incredible knowledge with us all today! The episode begins with Jules explaining how to use neurobiology as a basis to understand ourselves and our triggers. She shares how trauma - and our own histories - can alter the brain, how our brain systems are sometimes in conflict, the science behind why self-compassion is more successful than self-criticism, rage as a bid for connection, and so much more! Jules teaches us how to work toward creating a pause between what we feel and what we do as well as shares tangible tools to have more productive communication within our relationships. She even does a live example of an exercise she practices with Emmalee! You do not want to miss this insightful and important episode!
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Juliane's Podcast: Why Does My Partner?
Juliane's Website
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A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
Apostrophe: Get your first visit for only $5 at apostrophe.com/SHRINKCHICKS when you use our code SHRINKCHICKS
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50 min - Improving Communication in Your Relationship
Today on ShrinkChicks Emmalee and Jen are communicating about communicating! They discuss how to improve communication in your relationship(s), identifying your specific pain points when communicating, being the external processor or the internal processor, the difference between honesty and being harsh, asserting your needs vs. being controlling, what to do when you're having the same fight or disagreement over and over again, and effective communication strategies! The episode ends with a Dear Em & Jen about moving back in with your parents as an adult. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!
Feelings Wheel Sticker mentioned in the episode!
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Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg
A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
Apostrophe: Get your first visit for only $5 at apostrophe.com/SHRINKCHICKS when you use our code SHRINKCHICKS
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41 min - How to Break-Up with Your Therapist & More
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are answering all of your questions about therapy! They discuss why they each chose this career, where to start when looking for a therapist, how to break up with your therapist & find a new one, how to know if you've found the right therapist, how to make the most of your sessions, and why it can be hard to be fully honest with your therapist. Emmalee and Jen also read some of your therapist horror stories that leave them shook. The episode wraps with a Dear Em & Jen about changing careers to become a therapist. Tune in for some Therapy 101 and tangible tips to get started on your therapeutic journey!
Get Matched With One of Our Therapists!
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Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg
A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
Apostrophe: Get your first visit for only $5 at apostrophe.com/SHRINKCHICKS when you use our code SHRINKCHICKS
The Farmer's Dog: Get 50% off your first box of fresh, healthy food plus free shipping at thefarmersdog.com/shrinkchicks !
Athletic Greens: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SHRINK !
Athena Club: go to athenaclub.com and use promo code SHRINKCHICKS today and you’ll get 25% off your first order!
Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks to get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order!
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Shopify: Take your business to the next level by signing up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks
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46 min - How To Stop Taking Sh*t Personally
Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are covering one of the most requested topics: taking things personally. The episode kicks off with the new intro segment question: how did Em and Jen meet their partners? They then get into the topic and explain where taking things personally may stem from, times when we are more prone to taking things personally, sensitivity to rejection, and how to work toward taking things less personally. They answer your questions about constructive criticism, feeling like other people's moods are our fault, getting out of the habit of mind reading, and so much more! The episode ends with a Dear Em & Jen about building self-worth and confidence. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!
Get Matched With One of Our Therapists!
ShrinkChicks on Instagram
Our new Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!!
SHRINKCHICKS MERCH
Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg
A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
Apostrophe: Get your first visit for only $5 at apostrophe.com/SHRINKCHICKS when you use our code SHRINKCHICKS
The Farmer's Dog: Get 50% off your first box of fresh, healthy food plus free shipping at thefarmersdog.com/shrinkchicks !
Athletic Greens: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SHRINK !
Athena Club: go to athenaclub.com and use promo code SHRINKCHICKS today and you’ll get 25% off your first order!
Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks to get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order!
Miracle Sheets: Go to trymiracle.com/shrinkchicks and use the
code SHRINKCHICKS to claim your free 3 piece towel set and save over 40% off!
Shopify: Take your business to the next level by signing up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks
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41 min - What To Do When Resentment Builds
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are diving into the topic of resentment and how it can be connected to unmet expectations, feelings of unfairness or imbalance, and asking for what we need. They first explain the emotion of resentment, where it can come from, and how they each know when resentment is building for them, personally. Emmalee and Jen then answer your questions about why it can be easier to stew in the resentment than ask for what you need, the discomfort of confronting, if resentment can be solved by expressing your needs, how to become more assertive, assertiveness vs. aggression, and displacing resentment onto others. The episode ends with a Dear Em & Jen about balancing time between friends/roommates and a significant other. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!
Get Matched With One of Our Therapists!
ShrinkChicks on Instagram
Our new Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!!
SHRINKCHICKS MERCH
Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg
A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
Apostrophe: Get your first visit for only $5 at apostrophe.com/SHRINKCHICKS when you use our code SHRINKCHICKS
The Farmer's Dog: Get 50% off your first box of fresh, healthy food plus free shipping at thefarmersdog.com/shrinkchicks !
Athletic Greens: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SHRINK !
Athena Club: go to athenaclub.com and use promo code SHRINKCHICKS today and you’ll get 25% off your first order!
Miracle Sheets: Go to trymiracle.com/shrinkchicks and use the
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Shopify: Take your business to the next level by signing up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
41 min - Why It's So Hard to Give Ourselves Compassion
On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are covering one of their favorite topics: self-compassion. They are thrilled to sit down with Dr. Kristin Neff, the self-compassion pioneer and expert. Dr. Neff was one of the first to research self-compassion about 20 years ago and shares many of her incredible findings with us all today. Dr. Neff defines self-compassion at the start of the episode and explains how culturally and evolutionarily, self-compassion can be challenging to give to ourselves. Ahead of the episode recording, Emmalee and Jen asked their listeners why it's hard to give yourself compassion, and they share some of the answers with Dr. Neff for her to comment on. Dr. Neff shares about barriers to overcome in order to give ourselves self-compassion, why no one has to earn the right to compassion, the #1 block to self-compassion, where to start in giving yourself compassion, self-indulgence vs. self-compassion, and perfectionism as it relates to compassion. She answers some of your questions and also calls some BS about self-compassion making you "weak." Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!
Dr. Kristin Neff's Website
Self-Compassion Book by Kristin Neff, Ph.D.
Fierce Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff, Ph.D.
Get Matched With One of Our Therapists!
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Our new Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!!
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Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg
A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
Apostrophe: Get your first visit for only $5 at apostrophe.com/SHRINKCHICKS when you use our code SHRINKCHICKS
The Farmer's Dog: Get 50% off your first box of fresh, healthy food plus free shipping at thefarmersdog.com/shrinkchicks !
Athletic Greens: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SHRINK !
Athena Club: go to athenaclub.com and use promo code SHRINKCHICKS today and you’ll get 25% off your first order!
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See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
46 min - Navigating Complicated Relationships with Our Parents
Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen dig into the topic of complicated relationships with our parents/caregivers. They start the episode off with a hilarious story about Emmalee's version of a "lovie" when she was young. Hint: it was not a blanket or a stuffed animal. They then define the term enmeshment as it relates to our family of origin, talk about the difference between a close knit family and an enmeshed family, and touch on the (sometimes maladaptive) patterns that get passed down from generation to generation. Emmalee and Jen answer listener questions about emotionally immature parents, being a parent's "therapist" or confidant, accepting who our parents are & the grief that can come with that, setting and shifting boundaries as our familial relationships evolve, the guilt and other uncomfortable emotions that can arise when setting boundaries with parents, and so much more! The episode wraps with a Dear Em & Jen question about the complicated relationship that can develop with a parent after the other parent has passed. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!
Get Matched With One of Our Therapists!
ShrinkChicks on Instagram
Our new Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!!
SHRINKCHICKS MERCH
Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg
A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
The Farmer's Dog: Get 50% off your first box of fresh, healthy food plus free shipping at thefarmersdog.com/shrinkchicks !
Athletic Greens: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SHRINK !
Athena Club: go to athenaclub.com and use promo code SHRINKCHICKS today and you’ll get 25% off your first order!
Miracle Sheets: Go to trymiracle.com/shrinkchicks and use the
code SHRINKCHICKS to claim your free 3 piece towel set and save over 40% off!
Shopify: Take your business to the next level by signing up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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About ShrinkChicks
From the publisher's feed
Emmalee Bierly, LMFT and Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT, owners and co-founders of The Therapy Group (@thetherapygrp), bring you the ShrinkChicks Podcast. ShrinkChicks is on a mission to make therapy and…
therapeutic topics more relatable and accessible. Each Monday, Emmalee and Jen will explore different mental health topics and invite you to sit in on their insight, humor, and knowledge, leaving the psychobabble behind.