Sh*t I Learned From My Divorce

Collaborative divorce; behavioral contract; financial neutral; negotiating with confidence.

If these terms make your head spin, come along with Trish and special guest A.J. Grossman. as A.J. discusses how his firm untangles divorce law in Florida. Explore A.J.'s philosophy of providing a great client experience service as he answer's Trish's question "Why is a Leap Frog Divorce different than any other divorce"?

A.J. received his post-doctorate Master of Laws degree in Dispute Resolution from The Straus Institute at Pepperdine University Law School in Malibu, California.

An accomplished practitioner, A.J. also serves as a guest speaker on a wide variety of topics. Listen along as A.J. describes what a collaborative divorce is and the types of situations that would benefit from this process.

So come along with Trish and A.J. Grossman an entertaining and informative discussion.
 

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“Why is this happening to me and how do I make it stop?”

I’ve lost count of the times someone has said that to me. I used to say it myself…until I learned what coercive control is and what I could do about it.

The insidious coercive pattern of behaviors can turn even the most knowledgeable and independent person into a terrified, self-blaming, victim. 

Coercive control has been running rampant through society for centuries…no one is immune…most just don’t know it’s happening or don’t know what it is and how to stop it.

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Resources:

Divorce Act Amendments Explained: 

(ACEs) Adverse Childhood Experiences explained: 

The Wild Truth: Children Exposed to Domestic Violence – Lundy Bancroft 

Criminalizing Coercive Control in Canada

Ontario parents advocating for 'Keira's Law': it could have prevented alleged Sask. abduction | CBC 

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Reflecting on his 30+ years in private practice and his own personal experience, New York psychologist and psychoanalyst, Dr. Thomas Jordan crafted his book to share what he has learned about love relationships, how to discern what is going wrong and most importantly, what you can do about it.

Despite the name, Dr. Jordan’s book isn’t about love…it focuses on love relationships. We repeat what we know, even if we don’t know we know it. The unhealthy information we learned unconsciously about relationships gets replicated repeatedly in our adult lives. Dr. Jordan talks about our “family of origin” being the primary source of what we learn about love relationships just like it is for everything else we learn throughout our childhood.

Using Dr. Jordan’s “Love Life Psychology” will show you how to analyze your beliefs, behavior and feelings to not only better understand the how, what and whys of your relationships but also to determine the best course of action to make positive changes.
 

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Dr. Thomas Jordan is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst in private practice in New York City.  

He is on the faculty of New York University’s Postdoctoral Program in Psychoanalysis, the author of Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life and founder of the LoveLifeLearningCenter.com.  

Dr. Jordan specializes in the psychological treatment of the unhealthy love life and has been studying and treating them for over 30 years.  

To contact Dr. Jordan or to purchase his book: 

https://facebook.com/Dr.ThomasJordan 

https://www.instagram.com/lovelifelearningcenter/ 

https://twitter.com/LLLearningCtr   

https://www.linkedin.com/in/drthomasjordan/ 

https://lovelifelearningcenter.com 

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Financial abuse with Lisa Zeiderman. What to look for and how to protect yourself.

This week on Sh*t I Learned From My Divorce, we are fortunate to have Lisa Zeiderman on to talk about divorce finances…how to communicate with your lawyer…what you should look for in a lawyer and more! 

Highlights:

Lisa Zeiderman, Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, is a matrimonial attorney, CFL and a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst. She regularly handles complex financial and custody divorce matters for high-net-worth individuals. Named to the Crain’s New York list of Notable Women Attorneys for 2022, a Hudson Valley Best Lawyer in 2022, a 2021 Best Family Law Attorney for Client Satisfaction by the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys, among other awards, Ms. Zeiderman is also a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators and a member of the panel for Attorneys for Children.

 In addition to authoring a well-read blog on Psychology Today, “Legal Matters: Understanding Mental Health Issues as They Apply to Divorce and Child Custody”, Ms. Zeiderman is regularly published in Financial Advisor Magazine, The New York Law Journal and various other publications and quoted on issues ranging from financial empowerment to tax issues to child custody.

Ms. Zeiderman, a Fordham University of Law graduate, also serves as the Vice President of the Board of Savvy Ladies, Inc. and on the board of LIFT, Legal Information for Families Today. 

Website: https://lisazeiderman.com/

Savvy Ladies: Free Financial Education for Women  savvyladies.org

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This week on Sh*t I Learned From My Divorce, once again, Glenda Lux of Lux Psychology popped by to talk about her new creation…Co-parenting College! 

Co-parenting College is an online resource for co-parents where Glenda helps exasperated co-parents "Stay Sane, Wise and Give Your Kids What They Need".  

Co-parenting College offers hands on practical help and information as well as an online course called Difficult Co-Parenting: Advice You Will Not Forget. 

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Glenda Lux is the creator of Co-parenting College, an online resource for co-parents where she helps exasperated co-parents "Stay Sane, Wise and Give Your Kids What They Need".  Co-parenting College offers hands on practical help and information as well as an online course called Difficult Co-Parenting: Advice You Will Not Forget. 

Glenda has been practicing at the intersection of psychology and family law since 2001. She has conducted over 100 court-ordered evaluations and provides divorce-related forensic services including parent coordination, co-parenting counselling, parental fitness evaluations and litigation support. Glenda has been qualified as a parenting expert in both Provincial Court and the Court of King’s Bench.

Glenda has published several peer reviewed articles in this area, and most recently on coercive control and its relevance to families and children and best interest determinations in Canadian family law.

Glenda has completed comprehensive training with the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges, Association of Family and Conciliation Courts and Battered Women's Justice Project on assessing domestic violence in families. Glenda has provided training to family lawyers on domestic violence and has presented at national and international conferences. She also maintains an active blog on several areas related to co-parenting and family law/parenting issues.

Connect with Glenda: luxpsychology.ca

LinkedIn    Glenda Lux | LinkedIn                   Co-Parenting College | LinkedIn

Instagram @lux.psychology • Instagram       @coparentingcollege • Instagram 

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Things I Wish I Knew Before I Dated, Married and Had Kids – Part 1

“How could I have missed the signs? “

“Why did I put up with all of that?” 

“How did I not see that things were only going to get worse?”

I will tell you how you missed the signs, put up with things for so long and didn’t realize things were going to get worse…it’s difficult to see the bad when you are naturally inclined to see the good. Why would you assume that the person you love and is supposed to love you back, is trying to deceive you, manipulate you or control you? It becomes even harder to believe that when you loved one love-bombs you, plays the victim or shames you.

In Part 1 of a 2 part series, I I share with you some real life examples of what red flags can look and sound like so you can go into every relationship with your eyes wide open. Not just your romantic relationships, relationships with family members, your friends and even at work. Coercion is everywhere and can happen to anyone at anytime 

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Over Christmas my household was hit with Covid-19. Battling Covid has delayed the publishing of new episodes along with the launch of my Patreon site.

This is a temporary delay and new episodes will be published. Check back frequently where ever you listen to my podcasts for updates and new episodes.

Thanks,
Trish

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all of our listeners!

Episode 5: Part 3 of Accountability was our last episode for 2022 but we will back with brand new content in 2023, including bonus material that will be available on Patreon in January (dates to be announced on social media). 

We have scheduled some exciting guests from the areas of family law and psychology so remember to subscribe so you don't miss these incredible episodes when they drop!

All of us at Sh*t I Learned From My Divorce would like to extend our utmost gratitude to all of our listeners who take the time to download and listen to our episodes. Your loyalty and interest is very much appreciated and keeps us wanting to produce outstanding content. 

We will be taking a break over the holidays to refresh and prepare for big things in the new year and we hope you are able to do the same. 

From the team at Sh*t I Learned From My Divorce, we wish you nothing but the best for the holiday season and a wonderful start to the new year!

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Everyday another story of disrespect and abuse hits the news.
  

Abuse within families, abuse at the office and abuse within sport…there is no area of life that is left untouched. 

We know this behavior is wrong so why does it happen? What makes people behave this way?

In this episode, retired educator and leadership expert, George Zeigner and I continue where Part 1 left off. We further explore the thought that abusers are made, not born and delve into how one’s childhood shapes future behavior.

What are young people being exposed to?

 What are they being taught about respect for others?

 What type of behavior are they normalizing and celebrating?

George Zeigner is a retired educator and leadership expert 

who spent 43 years in the education business in a variety of 

teaching, coaching, administration and leadership roles. 

During his tenure, George had the privilege of working 

with approximately 15, 000 students, parents, teachers

and administrators. George specializes in teaching others 

how to build relationships and develop leadership expertise, 

but not just in the work world…in your personal lives too. 

George is co-author of the book The Parent Mentor: Recipes 

for Learning and holds an MA in Curriculum and Leadership

Highlights:

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Everyday another story of disrespect and abuse hits the news.
 

Abuse within families, abuse at the office and abuse within sport…there is no area of life that is left untouched. 

We know this behavior is wrong so why does it happen? What makes people behave this way?

In this episode, retired educator and leadership expert, George Zeigner and I continue where Part 1 left off. We further explore the thought that abusers are made, not born and delve into how one’s childhood shapes future behavior.

What are young people being exposed to?

What are they being taught about respect for others?

What type of behavior are they normalizing and celebrating?

George Zeigner is a retired educator and leadership expert 

who spent 43 years in the education business in a variety of 

teaching, coaching, administration and leadership roles. 

During his tenure, George had the privilege of working 

with approximately 15, 000 students, parents, teachers

and administrators. George specializes in teaching others 

how to build relationships and develop leadership expertise, 

but not just in the work world…in your personal lives too. 

George is co-author of the book The Parent Mentor: Recipes 

for Learning and holds an MA in Curriculum and Leadership

Highlights:

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