Sh*t I Learned From My Divorce

Everyday another story of disrespect and abuse hits the news. Abuse within families, abuse at the office and abuse within sport…there is no area of life that is left untouched. 

We know this behavior is wrong so why does it happen? What makes people behave this way?

In this episode, retired educator and leadership expert, George Zeigner and I explore the thought that abusers are made, not born and delve into how one’s childhood shapes future behavior.

What are young people being exposed to?

What are they being taught about respect for others?

What type of behavior are they normalizing and celebrating?

George Zeigner is a retired educator and leadership expert 

who spent 43 years in the education business in a variety of 

teaching, coaching, administration and leadership roles. 

During his tenure, George had the privilege of working 

with approximately 15, 000 students, parents, teachers

and administrators. George specializes in teaching others 

how to build relationships and develop leadership expertise, 

but not just in the work world…in your personal lives too. 

George is co-author of the book The Parent Mentor: Recipes 

for Learning and holds an MA in Curriculum and Leadership

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Glenda Lux, a Registered Psychologist is on the show today to talk about the good, the bad and the really bad aspects of co-parenting - Part 2.

Glenda’s extensive experience in co-parenting counselling, parent coordination, parental fitness evaluations and litigation support gives her a unique insight into what can go wrong and what can go right with coparenting. 

In this episode we dissect what good co-parenting looks like, what some of the first steps should be when co-parenting communication breaks down and what to do when co-parenting just isn’t going to work.

Glenda believes that successful co-parenting is about both parents being stakeholders in the safety and well-being of their child. 

Glenda Lux has been practicing at the intersection of psychology and family law since 2001. She has conducted over 100 court-ordered evaluations and provides divorce-related forensic services including parent coordination, co-parenting counselling, parental fitness evaluations and litigation support. Glenda has been qualified as a parenting expert in both Provincial Court and the Court of King’s Bench.

Glenda has published several peer reviewed articles in this area, and most recently on coercive control and its relevance to families and children and best interest determinations in Canadian family law.  

Glenda has completed comprehensive training with the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges, Association of Family and Conciliation Courts and Battered Women's Justice Project on assessing domestic violence in families. Glenda has provided training to family lawyers on domestic violence and has presented at national and international conferences. She also maintains an active blog on several areas related to co-parenting and family law/parenting issues

Connect with Glenda:  https://www.luxpsychology.ca

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Glenda Lux, a Registered Psychologist is on the show today to talk about the good, the bad and the really bad aspects of co-parenting. 

Glenda’s extensive experience in co-parenting counselling, parent coordination, parental fitness evaluations and litigation support gives her a unique insight into what can go wrong and what can go right with coparenting. 

In this episode we dissect what good co-parenting looks like, what some of the first steps should be when co-parenting communication breaks down and what to do when co-parenting just isn’t going to work.

Glenda believes that successful co-parenting is about both parents being stakeholders in the safety and well-being of their child. 

Glenda Lux has been practicing at the intersection of psychology and family law since 2001. She has conducted over 100 court-ordered evaluations and provides divorce-related forensic services including parent coordination, co-parenting counselling, parental fitness evaluations and litigation support. Glenda has been qualified as a parenting expert in both Provincial Court and the Court of King’s Bench.

Glenda has published several peer reviewed articles in this area, and most recently on coercive control and its relevance to families and children and best interest determinations in Canadian family law.  

Glenda has completed comprehensive training with the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges, Association of Family and Conciliation Courts and Battered Women's Justice Project on assessing domestic violence in families. Glenda has provided training to family lawyers on domestic violence and has presented at national and international conferences. She also maintains an active blog on several areas related to co-parenting and family law/parenting issues

Connect with Glenda:  https://www.luxpsychology.ca

Join My Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/inhumanpod for special perks like VIP access to monthly live Q&A sessions. 

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It is time for summer vacation. We will be back with new episodes in a few weeks. Until then, enjoy the remaining days of summer. 

If you want to know if someone is a good parent, don’t look at the child’s behavior…look at the parent’s behavior.

Highlights:

·         What Canada’s Divorce says Judges need to consider when making parenting decisions.

·         Typical behaviors of parents ‘behaving badly’

·         The effects of these ‘bad behaviors’ on kids

·         Strategies on how to address these ‘bad behaviors’

Resources

Canada’s Divorce Act

https://laws-lois.justice.gc.ca/eng/acts/D-3.4/  

Divorce Act amendments explained: 

https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/fl-df/cfl-mdf/dace-clde/index.html

Please leave a rating and review if you enjoy my podcast!

Follow me on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Linkedin. 

Submit topic suggestions or listener stories on my website https://www.trishguise.com/

If you want to know if someone is a good parent, don’t look at the child’s behavior…look at the parent’s behavior.

Highlights:

·         What Canada’s Divorce says Judges need to consider when making parenting decisions.

·         Typical behaviors of parents ‘behaving badly’

·         The effects of these ‘bad behaviors’ on kids

·         Strategies on how to address these ‘bad behaviors’

Resources

Canada’s Divorce Act: https://laws-lois.justice.gc.ca/eng/acts/D-3.4/  

Divorce Act amendments explained: https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/fl-df/cfl-mdf/dace-clde/index.html

Please leave a rating and review if you enjoy my podcast!

Follow me on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Linkedin. 

Submit topic suggestions or listener stories on my website https://www.trishguise.com/

--- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/inhumanpodcast/support 

I’m getting divorced, where do I start?

Should I get a lawyer right away? Can I do some of this myself?

How do we tell the kids about the divorce?

Will I have to go back to work?

How am I going to support myself and the kids?

What do we do about the house, the cars, my business?

Should I tell my family and friends? 

These are just a few of the litany of questions that runs through everyone’s mind when they are getting divorced. It is a daunting task and one that is terrifying to do alone.

In this episode, I will discuss many of the typical issues you can expect and will share some tips on how to mitigate the pain and anxiety throughout it all.

Let’s get started!

When you were little and someone asked you what you wanted to be when you grew up, did you ever say Divorced? 

I sure didn’t and I imagine you didn’t either…but here we are. 

I’m sure I learned more during my 12 year divorce and co-parenting nightmare then I did the entire 6 years I spent in university. I’m sure you will agree but we tend to learn more from what we do wrong (our ‘failures’ or ‘mistakes’) then from what we do right (our ‘wins’ or ‘successes’)…at least that’s what I keep telling myself.

I’ve learned so much about life, relationships, parenting, divorce, calming the mind and emotional regulation that I just couldn’t keep it to myself. 

This very first episode of Sh*t I Learned From My Divorce is for anyone going through a separation or divorce and their supporters.