Men are told to carry the sky in silence. To endure without complaint. To “man up.” But the numbers tell a different story: suicide remains the leading cause of death for men under 50 in the UK, over half of men admit ignoring worrying health issues, and nearly a quarter say they would never seek professional mental health support. The cost of this silence is staggering—mental ill health drains an estimated £300 billion from England’s economy each year.

In this mythic, survivor-led episode, Toren Ylfa dismantles the seductive promise of EMDR therapy: that trauma can be “resolved,” “cleared,” or even “removed.” With fierce clarity and ADHD-informed nuance, they explore how EMDR’s linear model clashes with nonlinear memory, emotional intensity, and the lived reality of neurodivergent survivors.

From the clinical risks to the cultural gaslighting, this episode challenges the idea that healing means forgetting—and offers a powerful alternative: survivor-led clarity, agency, and remembrance with fire.

Whether you’ve been offered EMDR, felt erased by its framing, or are seeking therapies that honor your rhythm, this episode is a call to reclaim your story.

🜛 We don’t do tidy here. We do mythic. We do clarity that burns.

Sources:

https://www.simplypsychology.org/dangers-of-emdr-therapy.html

https://www.restorativeintegrations.com/blog/7-pros-and-cons-of-emdr-therapy-explained-by-a-therapist

https://www.verywellmind.com/dangers-of-emdr-therapy-8426081

https://www.additudemag.com/emdr-therapy-eye-movement-desensitization-trauma-adhd/

https://www.relationalpsych.group/articles/can-emdr-treat-adhd

On today's Episode we go over the recent Scotus Case on Conversion Therapy: Chiles v. Salazar.

Before suicide was a diagnosis, it was a decision. In ancient Rome, it was a philosophical exit—Seneca drank poison with dignity. In Japan, seppuku was ritualized honor. These weren’t cries for help. They were statements of control, of legacy, of defiance. Then came the church. Suicide became sin. A crime against God. Bodies denied burial. Families shamed. That shift didn’t just change theology—it rewrote the social contract. Pain became taboo. Death became punishment. And the people most in need of compassion were cast out.

We inherited that silence. And we’re still paying for it.

Evidence provided

Section 1: Suicide Across Cultures: Understanding the variation and complexity of the suicidal process across ethnicities and cultures | Oxford AcademicCultural and Societal Influences on Suicide Rates - iResearchNet

History of suicide - Wikipedia

Section 2:

Rethinking suicide prevention: from prediction to understanding | BJPsych International | Cambridge CoreChapter 1. Suicide Risk Assessment | Psychiatry Online

Suicide is the second leading cause of death for ages 15-34 in the U.S.

Section 3:

Breaking the stigma around seeking help | Papyrus

Financial difficulty and suicide: the numbers - Money and Mental Health

World Suicide Prevention Day: Stigma, Stress, and Silence

Section 4:

Suicide

Why people self-harm - NHSSection 5:

Suicide prevention in England: 5-year cross-sector strategy - GOV.UK

Suicide prevention policy - House of Commons Library

Suicide

Opening Invocation (Tone: Mythic, Defiant, Intimate)

“Before we name the wound, we name the armor. Before we speak of suicide, we speak of survival.

This is not a soft episode. It’s a scalpel.

For every neurodivergent soul who was called lazy, dramatic, or broken—this is for you. For every survivor who wore perfectionism like chainmail, who learned to smile with a clenched jaw this is for you.

We don’t start with healing. We start with the battlefield.

Welcome to The Quiet Rebellion. Let’s name the armor.”

This is The Quiet Rebellion.

We gather here—not in silence, but in defiance. Beneath the edge lies a truth too many fears to name. A truth wrapped in stigma, buried in shame, and whispered only when it’s too late. Suicide is not a failure of strength. It is a consequence of isolation, of systems that punish pain, of cultures that criminalize vulnerability. Today, we do not flinch. We do not sanitize. We do not look away.

We trace the evolution of suicide from ritual to repression, from silence to strategy. We name the myths. We challenge the frameworks. We listen to the echoes of those who’ve stood at the brink—and those who’ve returned. This episode is not a warning. It is a reckoning. You are not alone. You are not broken. You are not beyond saving. This is The Quiet Rebellion. And today, we speak from beneath the edge.

1. Historical & Cultural Shifts in Suicide

Evidence:

Suicide Across Cultures: Understanding the variation and complexity of the suicidal process across ethnicities and cultures | Oxford Academic

Cultural and Societal Influences on Suicide Rates - iResearchNet

History of suicide - Wikipedia

2. Suicide Prediction & Risk Assessment Why It FailsEvidence:

Rethinking suicide prevention: from prediction to understanding | BJPsych International | Cambridge Core

Chapter 1. Suicide Risk Assessment | Psychiatry Online

Suicide - National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH)3. Stigma, Silence & Systemic Barriers

Evidence:

Breaking the stigma around seeking help | PapyrusWorld Suicide Prevention Day: Stigma, Stress, and Silence

Adapting to Stigma, Resilience and Systemic Barriers: Lived Experiences of Adolescents and Young Adults With Mental Illness - Nwedu - 2025 - Mental Illness - Wiley Online Library

4. Self-Harm vs. Suicide Crucial DistinctionsEvidence:

World Suicide Prevention Day: Knowing the difference between self-harm and suicidal behaviourWHO Results Report 2024-2025

Why people self-harm - NHS

5. Prevention That Works

Evidence:

Suicide prevention strategy for England: 2023 to 2028 - GOV.UK

Suicide prevention policy - House of Commons Library

One in 100 deaths is by suicide

Welcome to The Quiet Rebellion.

Today, we speak of rituals, not the kind found in textbooks, but the ones carved into our bones. This episode is personal. I’m neurodivergent. I’ve masked, fragmented, and rebuilt myself more times than I can count.

And I’m joined by Jolene Ironside, a therapist whose work lives at the intersection of neurodivergence, trauma, and systemic reform. This is not a safe space; it’s a sacred one.

About — Divergent LifeDivergent Life

What we covered:

🔮Neurodivergence as Sacred Variation🕯️Trauma as Both Wound and Signal

⚔️Systemic Change as Ritual and Rebellion

Welcome to The Quiet Rebellion, where silence speaks, stories heal, and truth refuses to stay buried.

In our first episode, we peel back the layers of performance, protection, and persona. The Mask and the Mirror explores the tension between who we show the world and who we are when no one’s watching. Through personal reflection, mythic metaphor, and raw conversation, we confront the masks we wear to survive—and the mirrors that demand we see ourselves clearly.

This isn’t just a podcast. It’s a reckoning. A sanctuary for the defiant, the tender, and the quietly radical.

Step into the rebellion.

This is not just a podcast—it’s a sanctuary for the unheard, a reckoning for the silenced, and a rallying cry for those who move through the world with quiet fire. The Quiet Rebellion begins here: where mental health meets myth, where stories become spells, and where vulnerability is a weapon, not a weakness.

🎙️ Hosted by Toren, a voice forged in truth and defiance.

🔮Featuring raw conversations, guest-driven stories, and unflinching honesty.

⚔️ For the misfits, the advocates, and the ones who never stopped fighting.

This trailer is your invitation.

The rebellion is quiet—but it’s never passive.

Launching September 17th on all major platforms. Subscribe now and be ready.