Single Sounds

Katie welcomes Jamie Johnston, founder of dating app, Mattr, to discuss his mission of encouraging authenticity in online dating. Jamie shares how his personal dating struggles with ADHD led him to create an app focused on personality over aesthetics. He details Mattr's features like honest bio sections, and limited daily matches that aim to facilitate more genuine connections. Jamie also examines the addictive nature of traditional apps and how Mattr offers an alternative approach centred around user mental health. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS 

BEST MOMENTS

"I lived that problem and now I'm starting the solution."

"We want you to be vulnerable. We want you to be open and we want you to get your cards on the table."

"If we get this right for neurodiverse people, we're going to get it right for neurotypical people anyway, because the things they hate, you hate."

"48% of dating app users open the app as the last thing they do before they go to sleep"

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Mattr website

Mattr Instagram

ABOUT THE HOST

Katie McNamara - London.

I started Single Sounds to create a new fun method of dating as I felt that there is now little variety with how to meet people. I absolutely love podcasts and believe in the strong sense of self you can get from them so I thought it was perfect for a dating medium.

As I like to say this podcast is for people who have too much personality for a dating app.

CONTACT METHOD -

Linktree - https://linktr.ee/singlesounds 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlesounds/ 

[email protected]

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Katie Mc interviews Anais, a holistic women's coach about how to use tarot, breathwork, meditation, and manifesting to heal from heartbreak and attract your dream relationship. Anais shares her inspiring personal transformation story and how she helps women blossom into confident, fulfilled versions of themselves who can achieve anything they desire. Listen to gain insights into manifesting anything you want through self-love practices and tools that create radical positive change.

KEY TAKEAWAYS 

BEST MOMENTS

"Your joy and your happiness is your birth right. It cannot pass you by."

"When trauma happens, there's a lot of selective memory. So, a lot of the things that had happened to me, I had forgotten."

"I want you to know that no matter what you can create your life, you can change everything."

"It's important to allow the other person to be who they really are and accept them."

"I woke up in my fucking mansion with the love of my life and he is just the best."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Anais Instagram to join her world!

ABOUT THE HOST

Katie McNamara - London.

I started Single Sounds to create a new fun method of dating as I felt that there is now little variety with how to meet people. I absolutely love podcasts and believe in the strong sense of self you can get from them so I thought it was perfect for a dating medium.

As I like to say this podcast is for people who have too much personality for a dating app.

CONTACT METHOD -

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlesounds/ 

[email protected]

Linktree - https://linktr.ee/singlesounds 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is a bonus episode to Episode 97 where Anais takes us through a 5-minute breathwork session to switch up your mood. Please listen to this whenever you feel you need it - I'll be listening whenever I want to relax and go to sleep! The second half of the episode is Katie's live tarot reading where she asks Anais what she needs to do to attract her dream relationship and the cards give answers.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

DESCRIPTION

Katie interviews dating expert and 'most swiped right man on Tinder,' Stefan Pierre Tomlin, to get his tips on creating the ultimate dating app profile to attract more matches. They discuss the best apps to use, ideal photos, clever prompts, and opening lines. Stefan even reviews Katie's Hinge profile, giving constructive feedback on her pictures and prompts to stand out. With Stefan's insider advice on capturing attention, transitioning from the app to real life, and understanding the male perspective, listeners will feel empowered to refresh their profiles for dating success in 2024.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

·      Use bright, vibrant photos with you as the sole focus, showcase hobbies/interests. Pics should tell a magazine-worthy story about you.

·      Tinder has the widest reach, don't restrict yourself to "posh" apps. Write a funny, short bio.

·      Video call before meeting IRL to confirm identity and assess character/compatibility.

·      Saying "hey" first takes confidence as a guy. Women should sometimes initiate the conversation.

·      Reply to something specific in their profile/pics to start chatting, not just "hey."

·      Get them off the app by asking for WhatsApp or number after a few messages to get meeting IRL.

·      Use Tinder Plus to change locations to areas where your perfect partner would hang out.

·      No all selfies or group pics where people have to guess who you are.

BEST MOMENTS

"For a guy to say hey, that is a big thing, like, you don’t just say hey to every match."

"So the bio should be like funny, short, snappy. You shouldn’t be like writing a book."

"Because normally you just don't say anything and you wait for them to write to you."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Stefan Pierre Tomlin Instagram

Celebrity love coach website

ABOUT THE GUEST

Stefan Pierre Tomlin is a British model and social media/Tv personality, he is 33 years old and was born in Greenwich South London, UK. He gained fame for being dubbed “the most swiped-right man on Tinder” in 2017, after receiving more than 14,000 matches on the dating app.

Tomlin started his career as a model in 2011 when he was signed by Select Model Management. Since then, he has modeled for various brands and campaigns, including ASOS, Calvin Klein, Dior, Burberry, Dsquared and boohooMAN. He has also appeared in publications such as GQ, Attitude, and Men’s Health.

Apart from modeling, Tomlin has also gained a significant following on social media platforms. He has appeared on 12 Mainstream TV shows. He is particularly active on Instagram, where he posts lifestyle content, including photos of his travels, fitness routine, and fashion. He has more than 500K followers on the platform.

Tomlin also offers personalised coaching packages to help you navigate your love life and find the relationship you truly deserve. During the sessions, you’ll work together to identify your specific challenges and develop strategies to overcome them. You’ll explore your values, beliefs, and relationship patterns to help you gain a deeper understanding of yourself and what you want in a partner. Throughout the coaching relationship, Tomlin will be there to provide support, guidance, and accountability as you work towards your relationship goals. His coaching style is compassionate, non-judgmental, and focused on empowering you to take control of your love life.

ABOUT THE HOST

Katie McNamara - London.

 I started Single Sounds to create a new fun method of dating as I felt that there is now little variety with how to meet people. I absolutely love podcasts and believe in the strong sense of self you can get from them so I thought it was perfect for a dating medium.

As I like to say this podcast is for people who have too much personality for a dating app.

Katie Mc's Instagram

CONTACT METHOD -

Linktree - https://linktr.ee/singlesounds 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlesounds/ 

[email protected]

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

DESCRIPTION 

In this episode, Katie invites the "Queen of Breakups" Rosie Wilby to share her wisdom on surviving and even thriving after a breakup. Covering everything from the seven key reasons relationships end to handling the aftermath with friends and family, Rosie provides comfort, science-backed advice, and plenty of wry wit. You'll learn why the sadness comes in waves, the mental tricks to stop feeling so terrible, and how to set boundaries with your inner circle so they can actually help (not hinder!) your healing. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS 

BEST MOMENTS

"I actually went straight over to a friend's house. I rang her. It was really late at night and she was like, we are getting on a flight at 4am, but just come."

"I found the writing out the cons really helpful... it's called a negative reappraisal strategy. When you look at the negatives...that clear-sightedness about the reasons why it was not the right person for you."

"Be selfish. It's a great time to look after yourself and it's a great time to do that because you are thinking very inward about what do I want to do, how do I now fill my time."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Read The Breakup Monologues book

Rosie Wilby website

ABOUT THE GUEST

Rosie Wilby is an award-winning comedian, author, speaker and the creator of global hit podcast and book The Breakup Monologues. She has appeared many times on BBC Radio 4 programmes including Woman’s Hour, Loose Ends, Saturday Live and Four Thought, on TV programmes including Good Morning Britain and at major festivals including Latitude and Glastonbury. Her first book Is Monogamy Dead? was shortlisted for the Diva Literary Awards 2017, longlisted for the Polari First Book Prize 2018 and followed her TEDx talk of the same name.

Her acclaimed trilogy of solo shows investigating the psychology of love began with The Science of Sex and ended with The Conscious Uncoupling, which toured to venues including London's Southbank Centre and was shortlisted for Funny Women Best Show. Nicknamed 'the lesbian Louis Theroux', Rosie loves to use humour to unpack difficult questions about modern life and spread awareness of more conscious ways of beginning, maintaining and ending human relationships. She presents radio shows for the BBC, Virgin Radio and Resonance FM, writes for publications including The Guardian, Sunday Times , Cosmo, Stylist and New Statesman and speaks about relationships, resilience and reinvention at conferences and corporate events. 

ABOUT THE HOST

Katie McNamara - London.

I started Single Sounds to create a new fun method of dating as I felt that there is now little variety with how to meet people. I absolutely love podcasts and believe in the strong sense of self you can get from them so I thought it was perfect for a dating medium.

As I like to say this podcast is for people who have too much personality for a dating app.

CONTACT METHOD -

Linktree - https://linktr.ee/singlesounds 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlesounds/ 

[email protected]

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

DESCRIPTION 

Katie is kicking off her exciting "How To" December series with very special LGBTQ+ dating expert guest Eden Heath, host of Queer Love Stories. Eden shares his insightful 7 levels of dating, from casual dating and sex, through milestones like exclusivity and meeting friends and family, to eventually getting the coveted official partner status. They discuss the differences in dating by location, the importance of positive representation for LGBTQ+ love stories and relationships, dealing with breakups and introducing partners to friends and family. Eden also shares his best dating advice - throw yourself into love feet first, and you don't need someone else to do the things you want to do.

KEY TAKEAWAYS 

BEST MOMENTS

"I never thought that love was possible for me. We never saw it because we never saw it in the media."

"Don't be afraid to get your heart broken - you're gonna get hurt but it's worth it."

"Just book the plane ticket, go see the film, have the coffee, read the book - don't wait."

"There are always opportunities facing you every day - whether in love, work or money."

"You level up your choices of who you're looking for because of what you've learned."

ABOUT THE GUEST

Eden Heath is an LGBTQ+ dating expert, podcast host and lifelong hopeless romantic. As the driving force behind the "Queer Love Stories" podcast, Eden embraces the role of a storyteller, creating a space to explore the intricacies of love – from heartwarming romances to the nurturing bonds of friendship, family ties, and the transformative power of self-love. Through his captivating conversations, he encourages listeners to find inspiration, connection, and hope within the diverse tales of love he shares.

Follow Eden and Queer Love Stories on Instagram.

Queer Love Stories is a podcast which gives members of the LGBTQ+ community the opportunity to share positive love stories to inspire others. All stories may contain a struggle but fundamentally have an overarching feeling of positivity which will show it's possible to make successful, lasting and deep connections within the LGBTQ+ community.

Listen here: https://linktr.ee/itsedenheath

ABOUT THE HOST

Katie McNamara - London.

I started Single Sounds to create a new fun method of dating as I felt that there is now little variety with how to meet people. I absolutely love podcasts and believe in the strong sense of self you can get from them so I thought it was perfect for a dating medium.

As I like to say this podcast is for people who have too much personality for a dating app.

CONTACT METHOD -

Linktree - https://linktr.ee/singlesounds 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlesounds/ 

[email protected]

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Katie Mc is back with the final guest of her Northern November series, before moving into the expert "how-to" advice series in December. This week she's back in Manchester, chatting to a girl looking for an honest connection who can see past her blonde hair. We hear a tale of Tinder tricks in Ibiza, find out her bizarre coping mechanisms, and get spooked by a surprise visitor mid-interview. With talk of insane races, icks over 'dusty boys', and a stalker showing up on her doorstep, it's certainly an entertaining episode!

KEY TAKEAWAYS 

BEST MOMENTS

"The golden rule to that is, it doesn't matter what a guy's type is, if there's an attractive ginger, then she takes the win."

"I literally just brushed it off and went on a date the next day with someone else. I was like, it'll be fine, it'll be fine."

"If you're ready to sing Taylor Swift at the top of your lungs, then my friend has got blank space, and she will write your name, baby."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

To date, this character contact the podcast on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/singlesounds/

Katie McNamara: https://www.instagram.com/katiee.mcnamara/

ABOUT THE HOST

Katie McNamara - London.

I started Single Sounds to create a new fun method of dating as I felt that there is now little variety with how to meet people. I absolutely love podcasts and believe in the strong sense of self you can get from them so I thought it was perfect for a dating medium.

As I like to say this podcast is for people who have too much personality for a dating app.

CONTACT METHOD -

Linktree - https://linktr.ee/singlesounds 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlesounds/ 

[email protected]

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's guest is the third episode of the Northern November series. Katie interviews a lively 27-year-old who has lived an exciting international life. Having already lived in five countries, this well-travelled romantic knows what she wants. Get ready for tales of adventures like visiting a nudist spa in Berlin and experiencing a dead rat being left in her car! Beyond the chaos, this ambitious single has so many short-term obsessions and interests it would be impossible to get bored with her. She’s looking for someone fun, outgoing and eager to integrate friend groups. An ideal partner would also share her love of adventures, from last-minute trips to playing chess.

KEY TAKEAWAYS 

BEST MOMENTS

"I've been on dates and made dates play chess, but I actually think it's a really good sign of whether someone's open to trying something with you."

"I'm very impulsive. I get these, like, short-term obsessions...I quit my job a few months ago and I was looking for what I was gonna do next and I was like, I'm gonna go to Africa."

"If you really want to win her over, a cup of tea in bed, but once she's woken up. Now, final warning, if you're lucky enough to tie this incredible girl down, you'll have to buy her a sausage dog."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

To date, this character contact the podcast on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/singlesounds/

Katie McNamara: https://www.instagram.com/katiee.mcnamara/

ABOUT THE HOST

Katie McNamara - London.

I started Single Sounds to create a new fun method of dating as I felt that there is now little variety with how to meet people. I absolutely love podcasts and believe in the strong sense of self you can get from them so I thought it was perfect for a dating medium.

As I like to say this podcast is for people who have too much personality for a dating app.

CONTACT METHOD -

Linktree - https://linktr.ee/singlesounds 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlesounds/ 

[email protected]

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is the second guest in Katie’s Northern November series where she chats to a pharmacy manager who has a great voice but also awards himself for being the most annoying person. He doesn’t like losing arguments but loves a healthy debate and readily admits his love for sleeping in pyjamas. He shares some of his best and bad dating stories and what you see is what you get as he is brutally honest about his own worst traits.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

·      He likes hearing others' opinions and is always up for debate but readily admits that his opinion is rarely wrong.

·      He doesn’t like messaging too much, he prefers a phone call.

·      The award he thinks he would win would be for being the most annoying, it’s something he embraces and enjoys, and it’s how he entertains himself!

·      A big ick for him is open-toe shoes and when people in heels do a little skip/run when crossing the road.

BEST MOMENTS

“Chivalry is not dead!”

“I suppose I’m quite stubborn”

“If you date this man expect to receive many texts that just don’t make sense”

“He’s kind, thoughtful and will always look after you”

VALUABLE RESOURCES

To date, this character contact the podcast on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/singlesounds/

Katie McNamara: https://www.instagram.com/katiee.mcnamara/

ABOUT THE HOST

Katie McNamara - London.

I started Single Sounds to create a new fun method of dating as I felt that there is now little variety with how to meet people. I absolutely love podcasts and believe in the strong sense of self you can get from them so I thought it was perfect for a dating medium.

As I like to say this podcast is for people who have too much personality for a dating app.

CONTACT METHOD -

Linktree - https://linktr.ee/singlesounds 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlesounds/ 

[email protected]

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's energetic guest kicks off Northern November in true Mancunian style. She is so welcoming and friendly which was the general vibe I got from all my guests and the general population of Manchester – everyone was so happy to talk to you and help you out! She is looking for the perfect mix of chaos and peace in a future partner. Her ideal man would be a combination of Mason Mount and Harry Styles with an accent. She is not short of opinions on topics ranging from dolphins to discussing how frequently you should wash your bumhole. If you take her on a date be aware she loves a pint of Guinness and jager bombs just make sure you don’t fall in the canal after the date! 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

BEST MOMENTS

"I have a dolphin tattoo because keep your enemies closer."

“The Simpsons has predicted so many things, they get it right!”

“She loves football, a pint with the boys and you’ll most likely see her in trainers with no or

little make-up”

VALUABLE RESOURCES

To date, this character contact the podcast on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/singlesounds/

Or via email - [email protected]

ABOUT THE HOST

Katie McNamara - London.

I started Single Sounds to create a new fun method of dating as I felt that there is now little variety with how to meet people. I absolutely love podcasts and believe in the strong sense of self you can get from them so I thought it was perfect for a dating medium.

As I like to say this podcast is for people who have too much personality for a dating app.

Katie McNamara: https://www.instagram.com/katiee.mcnamara/

CONTACT METHOD -

Linktree - https://linktr.ee/singlesounds 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlesounds/ 

[email protected]

Advertising is represented by AudioPlus: [email protected]

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices