Episode Summary
In this podcast Perry answers REAL questions that you've submitted to perrynoble.com/ask about singleness, sex and dating! In this month's episode, Perry answers the following questions:
1) I'm trying to date, but it seems that every time I ask a lady out (even just for coffee), she falls off the face of the earth and I never see her again. How can I get over my fear of asking ladies out for fear that I will never see them again? Obviously, I must be asking in the wrong way. What is the correct way to ask a lady out? Pointers please.
2) In dating, how do you make/keep Christ first but also need/want another human being but not make them your lifeline?
3) What is the best way to argue? I am emotional, he is not.
4) My ex boyfriend and I broke up almost 1 year ago. My heart has changed to desire God more than I desire my ex but I still want and hope to be with him again one day. I know if we delight in The Lord he will give us the desires of our heart, but I don't know if my desires are of my flesh or are placed in my heart from Him. What am I doing wrong? Are the desires of my heart of my flesh and do I need to give up hope and move on? Or do I need to be patient in my love for him?
5) How do you manage the tension of wanting to do life together but not wanting to pretend you are married?
6) If while getting to know a girl and she is being hard on you based on what other guys have done to her in the past but you have shown her time and time again that you are not like the guys from her past, how should you handle that situation?
7) Regarding post traumatic stress from past sexual abuse, how can one best love and serve their spouse?
8) What is one thing you wish you could've told yourself when you were dating Lucretia?
Episode Resources
Perry is writing a book on being single, relationships and dating scheduled to release later in 2016 and he would LOVE to know what questions you have as a single person, or wish you would've asked before you got married. Just send in your question at perrynoble.com/ask!
Episode Quotes
I wasn’t stalking her, I was asking her. There’s a difference. — Perry Noble
When you're dating, get to know them! Don’t be in such a rush. — Stacey Tarrant
If I make someone my lifeline, my sorrows multiply astronomically. — Stacey Tarrant
It’s really easy to fall into the trap of allowing another person to be your lifeline. — Perry Noble
It’s a daily battle to keep Jesus on the throne of my heart. — Stacey Tarrant
One of the things I wish that every couple did before they got married was the DISC Personality test. — Perry Noble
The best way to argue is to understand the purpose of the argument is to settle it not to win it. — Perry Noble
So many people use I’m emotional as an excuse to actually say I’m sinful. — Perry Noble
Fight for the relationship, not in the relationship. — Perry Noble
The only way you’re going to get clarification is through clear and direct communication. — Perry Noble
The problem is, when we’re ambiguous in a relationship, it robs that relationship of authenticity and the ability to thrive. — Perry Noble
Before you are actually married, you don’t owe each other anything. — Meredith Knox
The ring is a serious thing. — Perry Noble
The Bible says there’s a season and time for everything. Embrace the season that you’re in. — Stacey Tarrant
For as long as you both shall live is a long time. — Meredith Knox
If she says she needs time, give her time. If she says she needs space, give her space. — Perry Noble
If you give me 50% of the information, there’s a 0% chance I can help you make a great decision because I don’t know everything. — Perry Noble
If you’re not completely honest with the counselor, the pastor, the friend, it’s never going to work. — Perry Nobl…
