Singleness, Sex, and Dating Podcast

By Perry NobleChristianity

Singleness, Sex, and Dating Podcast episodes

June 26, 2016 8 Reasons Why You Can’t Get A Date or Get Married
Episode Summary
One of the biggest frustrations among singles is NOT being able to get a date, here are EIGHT reasons to consider why you may not be dating…
1. It’s not time!!!
2. You want to get married more than you want to walk with Jesus!
3. You are bitter!
4. You struggle with impurity!
5. You are trying too hard!!!
6. You are finding your identity in who you date (or if you can get a date) more than you are in a relationship with Jesus!
7. You are willing to compromise in order to go out with someone! If you are a follower of Jesus Christ then compromise can never be a consideration!!!
8. Especially if you are a dude…you are not responsible financially!!!

Episode Resources

Episode Quotes
One of the worst things you could do as a single person is spend so much time evaluating other people and not actually evaluating yourself. — Perry Noble
A person can be so in love with the idea of getting married so much so that their walk with Jesus will suffer. — Perry Noble
Run hard after Jesus and look to your right and to your left and if the person you want to pursue or that is pursuing you is beside you in that run, then they’re probably the one — Perry Noble
You’ve got to ask God for brokenness rather than bitterness so that the bitterness in your life can be healed. — Perry Noble
Getting married, we’re supposed to be better together, not bitter together. — Perry Noble
Self control is a gift given to us by the Holy Spirit — Perry Noble
You can be sexually involved with someone and not be intimate with them. — Perry Noble
Sex without intimacy leads to destruction every single time. — Perry Noble
There's a difference between pursuing and stalking. — Perry Noble
Girls, if you have to consistently throw yourself at a man, that's not the man you need to be with. — Perry Noble
The person that you find your identity in- anyone other than Jesus- they’re ultimately going to let you down. Not because they’re mean. It's just because they're human. — Perry Noble
If you're a follower of Christ them compromise can never be a consideration. — Perry Noble
There’s no such thing as missionary dating. — Perry Noble
If you feel like you have to compromise before the relationship, after the relationship begins there will be nothing but compromise. — Perry Noble
If you want to find a wife, the best thing you can do today is do whatever it takes to get our of debt. — Perry Noble
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14 min
May 31, 2016 Are You Dating The Right One? 10 Things To Consider
Episode Summary
Perry teaches through these 10 things to consider to see if you are dating the right one:
1. They are not willing to fight for purity.
2. If they are trying to get me to compromise what God’s word says so clearly.
3. If you are always defending him/her to the people who know you, love you and love Jesus.
4. If you find yourself not wanting to talk about him/her in front of the people in your life that you KNOW may disapprove of the relationship for some reason.
5. If you know the relationships isn’t really going anywhere but you don’t want to break up because doing so would cause you to be insecure because you have allowed yourself to be identified by who you are dating rather than who you are in Christ.
6. You find out they are lying to you.
7. If you cannot confront them about issues without them losing their temper.
8. If you discover they are unfaithful to you.
9. If something about them drives you insane but you convince yourself that after you get married, that problem will go away.
10. If the Lord has specifically spoken to you and instructed you to end the relationship because you can’t or you won’t because you don’t want to hurt them or fear that if you end the relationship then you won’t have a chance at another one.

Episode Resources

Episode Quotes
If people aren’t willing to fight for purity before they’re married, there’s a greater chance they won’t fight for it after they’re married. — Perry Noble
Purity is a fight. — Perry Noble
It is totally possible to love Jesus and at the same time have to fight for purity. — Perry Noble
You can fight better in community than you can alone. — Perry Noble
Compromise can never be a consideration if you want a setup for a healthy marriage. — Perry Noble
No one has EVER been fixed by compromise. — Perry Noble
If the relationship isn't going anywhere, a conversation is needed. — Perry Noble
If they lie to you when you're dating, it's a pattern in their life, and they will lie to you when you're married. — Perry Noble
A guy that loses his temper all the time is not someone you'll be able to trust with your heart or with your children. — Perry Noble
A woman that cannot control her emotions is not submitted to the Holy Spirit of God. — Perry Noble
If you find out that they're cheating on you, you do not need to date them. You're better than that. — Perry Noble
Marriage is a magnifier. — Perry Noble
It wasn’t that she was a bad girl or I was a bad guy. We just were not BEST for each other. — Perry Noble
Obedience is never easy, but it’s always right. — Perry Noble
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20 min
April 24, 2016 Perry Answers YOUR Questions About Singleness, Sex and Dating - Part 14
Episode Summary
In this podcast Perry answers REAL questions that you've submitted to perrynoble.com/ask about singleness, sex and dating! In this month's episode, Perry answers the following questions:
1) I'm trying to date, but it seems that every time I ask a lady out (even just for coffee), she falls off the face of the earth and I never see her again. How can I get over my fear of asking ladies out for fear that I will never see them again? Obviously, I must be asking in the wrong way. What is the correct way to ask a lady out? Pointers please.
2) In dating, how do you make/keep Christ first but also need/want another human being but not make them your lifeline?
3) What is the best way to argue? I am emotional, he is not.
4) My ex boyfriend and I broke up almost 1 year ago. My heart has changed to desire God more than I desire my ex but I still want and hope to be with him again one day. I know if we delight in The Lord he will give us the desires of our heart, but I don't know if my desires are of my flesh or are placed in my heart from Him. What am I doing wrong? Are the desires of my heart of my flesh and do I need to give up hope and move on? Or do I need to be patient in my love for him?
5) How do you manage the tension of wanting to do life together but not wanting to pretend you are married?
6) If while getting to know a girl and she is being hard on you based on what other guys have done to her in the past but you have shown her time and time again that you are not like the guys from her past, how should you handle that situation?
7) Regarding post traumatic stress from past sexual abuse, how can one best love and serve their spouse?
8) What is one thing you wish you could've told yourself when you were dating Lucretia?
Episode Resources
Perry is writing a book on being single, relationships and dating scheduled to release later in 2016 and he would LOVE to know what questions you have as a single person, or wish you would've asked before you got married. Just send in your question at perrynoble.com/ask!
Episode Quotes
I wasn’t stalking her, I was asking her. There’s a difference. — Perry Noble
When you're dating, get to know them! Don’t be in such a rush. — Stacey Tarrant
If I make someone my lifeline, my sorrows multiply astronomically. — Stacey Tarrant
It’s really easy to fall into the trap of allowing another person to be your lifeline. — Perry Noble
It’s a daily battle to keep Jesus on the throne of my heart. — Stacey Tarrant
One of the things I wish that every couple did before they got married was the DISC Personality test. — Perry Noble
The best way to argue is to understand the purpose of the argument is to settle it not to win it. — Perry Noble
So many people use I’m emotional as an excuse to actually say I’m sinful. — Perry Noble
Fight for the relationship, not in the relationship. — Perry Noble
The only way you’re going to get clarification is through clear and direct communication. — Perry Noble
The problem is, when we’re ambiguous in a relationship, it robs that relationship of authenticity and the ability to thrive. — Perry Noble
Before you are actually married, you don’t owe each other anything. — Meredith Knox
The ring is a serious thing. — Perry Noble
The Bible says there’s a season and time for everything. Embrace the season that you’re in. — Stacey Tarrant
For as long as you both shall live is a long time. — Meredith Knox
If she says she needs time, give her time. If she says she needs space, give her space. — Perry Noble
If you give me 50% of the information, there’s a 0% chance I can help you make a great decision because I don’t know everything. — Perry Noble
If you’re not completely honest with the counselor, the pastor, the friend, it’s never going to work. — Perry Nobl…
20 min
February 28, 2016 Perry Answers YOUR Questions About Singleness, Sex and Dating - Part 12
Episode Summary
In this podcast Perry answers REAL questions that you've submitted to perrynoble.com/ask about singleness, sex and dating! In this month's episode, Perry answers the following questions:
1. RC from SC asks: Do you think it's wrong to work for and/or go to places like Hooters?
2. Kira from NC asks: What are the real roles in a relationship for each partner? Do the man and the woman have different roles?
3. Bryn from the United Kingdom writes: Pastor P, after listening to your podcast I decided I wanted to stand up emotionally, and sat down with the girl I've had feelings for to let her know how I felt. We are good friends and while she didn't give me feedback on how she felt I get the sense she feels the same way but finds the idea of relationships intimidating. How do I pursue her in a Godly way that makes her feel cared for without being pressured, while trying to grow emotionally myself?
4. Tori in SC asks: I have been struggling with singleness especially with it being "engagement season." How do you cope with the loneliness? And how do you know if you are being called to singleness?
5. Grace in Washington writes: As a kid growing up in church, I feel like I was taught that the best way to honor God was to avoid dating relationships altogether. Now as a college student, I am beginning a relationship with a godly man, and even though I like him, I sometimes struggle to let him pursue me because for so long I have believed that godliness and romance are opposed to one another (unless you're married.) What practical advice would you have for me as I try to pursue a TRUE biblical view of romance within the context of this new relationship?
6. Christian in SD asks: How do I know which girl to pursue? There are two really awesome godly girls at my church. Girl #1 I have liked for about 5 years - I have asked her out a couple of times, but she has shot me down both times. Girl #2 seems a little flirty with me, but I don't think I could be all in to a relationship with her due to my feelings for girl #1. Do I just not take no for an answer from girl #1 or do I pursue girl #2 and hope my other feelings diminish?
7. Tyler from SC asks: Is it wrong to masterbate if you are married and you think about your wife/husband when you do it? As long as it doesn't interfere with your intimate time together?
8. BONUS FOR TIME Unknown in Ohio: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. During our relationship we have messed up sexually. We've talked about not doing it again but it just keeps happening again and again. I'm tired of feeling guilty… What should I do? The thought of breaking up with him gets me excited because I won't have to feel guilty about sexually sinning but it also worries me because what if I never get to date again? Should I just keep trying to work things out?
Episode Resources
Perry is writing a book on being single, relationships and dating scheduled to release later in 2016 and he would LOVE to know what questions you have as a single person, or wish you would've asked before you got married. Just send in your question at perrynoble.com/ask and he may answer it in his book!
Episode Quotes
The guy is the leader, the girl is the challenge. — Perry Noble
If the dude is passive, you need to pass on him. — Perry Noble
The roles may reverse for a season, but if it’s not a season, then the relationship gets really sick. — Perry Noble
If God has put the desire in your heart to get married one day, you’re not called to singleness. — Perry Noble
You know you're called to be single when you don’t deal with that loneliness anymore. — Perry Noble
The backup girl is never God’s best for you. — Perry Noble
Until girl #2 becomes girl #1 you can’t commit to her. — Perry Noble
You need to stay with w…
19 min
February 14, 2016 Perry Answers Your Questions About Singleness, Sex and Dating - Part 11
Episode Summary
In this podcast Perry answers REAL questions that you've submitted to perrynoble.com/ask about singleness, sex and dating! In this month's episode, Perry answers the following questions:
1) Ken in Virginia: I met this girl who I felt that I have great chemistry with but is not a Christian. Is continuing a relationship with her as friends in hope that she becomes a Christian okay? It almost feels selfish.
2) Michael from California writes: I have been dating a great girl for a while now. I have always heard the saying "You just know" when talking about the time to pop the question. Is this true, how will I really know when I am ready or the time is right?
3) Becca from North Carolina asks: What do you do if you are dating someone and you're not sure you should be dating? I'm just not sure how physically attracted I am to him. Does the physical really matter? Will my attraction for his character and love for Jesus transfer over to the physical?
4) Stacey from California asks: What is the difference between being led in a relationship and being controlled? My parents always brought me up to be independent and my partner's parents brought him up to lead which is causing some friction. A close family friend was abused in her marriage, I am always on the lookout for warning signs but I don't know if I'm just being overly sensitive.
5) Denise from SC writes: I can't get over having an abortion when I was 21 and it bothers me to the point I can't have a relationship with anyone.
6) Elizabeth from South Carolina writes: I was in a 3 yr. relationship with my ex and we had a baby. Things didn't work out between us and I sometimes feel betrayed by him for not trying hard enough. Now I feel like I have trust/commitment issues that won't let me move on. How can I help myself let go of anger or resentment and not have it affect healthy relationships in my life?
7) Kate from KS writes: Why does it feel as though God is holding out or being passive when it comes to my heart and desires? I have encouraged and cheered on friend after friend, wedding after wedding and now baby after baby, around me. It’s like God didn't plan someone for me... I know He does things in his own time but I'm discouraged because of what feels like God's passivity...
RAPID FIRE QUESTIONS:
Q: There’s a guy, he thinks you’re attractive what should he do?
Q: What if you are the girl and you get asked and you aren’t feeling it?
Q: You have the first date with the guy, you’re uncertain about how you feel about them, should you go on another?
Q: What if it’s a second date, and he tries to hold your hand and you aren’t feeling it
Q: How soon is too soon when bringing up the DTR?
Episode Resources
Perry is writing a book on being single, relationships and dating scheduled to release later in 2016 and he would LOVE to know what questions you have as a single person, or wish you would've asked before you got married. Just send in your question at perrynoble.com/ask and he may answer it in his book!
Episode Quotes
God wants the absolute best for you. Period. — Perry Noble
Guys- you can def be her friend, BUT you can’t be her friend with your own agenda. — Perry Noble
A girl doesn't want to feel like a project — Perry Noble
The only way to know that you're with the one, is you actually marry them. — Perry Noble
Once you've married them they become "the one". — Perry Noble
If they’re not fun, they’re not the one. — Perry Noble
Being the leader doesn't mean you always get your way — Perry Noble
Being the leader means you often go last — Perry Noble
If someone has to declare they are the leader, they aren't the leader — Perry Noble
Guys- if you're trying to lead from posision "I'm the man", you're not the leader — Perry Noble
Men lead and women challeng…
31 min
December 28, 2015 Perry Answers YOUR Questions About Singleness, Sex and Dating - Part 10
Episode Summary
In this podcast Perry answers REAL questions that you've submitted to perrynoble.com/ask about singleness, sex and dating! In this month's episode, Perry answers the following questions:
1) "I frequently get asked'"when are you gonna start dating?' and even at times get made fun of by some family members for being single. I'm in a point in my life where I know God has called me to serve my church community and be single but at times find myself really upset and frustrated cause of the hassle that being single has brought me. How do I deal with my family when they ask me 'when are you going to start dating someone?'" - Stephen from California
2) "How do you know when it is the right time, to ask the woman that you like to take the relationship to the next level?" - Dorsey from New York
3) "What do you think about large age differences in dating/marriage? I seem to get along best with women much younger than I am. Thanks" - Robert from South Carolina
4) "Recently I was pursued by a great godly guy. After a few months of dating he said that he just wasn't ready to commit, maybe we were better as friends, and he just didn't have that emotional spark with me that he has had in previous relationships. I believe that 'spark' is sometimes lust or shallow infatuation...do you agree? Do you feel butterflies are necessary?" - Anonymous
5) "If you're dating someone who truly loves The Lord and you end up committing sexual sin and then you both repent because of it, should you stay with this person or consider calling it quits?" - Jordan from South Carolina
6) "Is it ok to date a man who is separated from their spouse (for over a year) and in the divorce process? A process that due to attorney complications, may take a long time to finalize...?" - Carol from South Carolina
7) "Any time I pursue a girl I get anxiety that it won’t end well because I have been on the wrong end of a break up and have an anxiety disorder. I have trouble avoiding thinking the worst and I put relationships on pedestals. I’m less stressed and a better person when I’m not pursuing a relationship. How do you trust God when pursuing a women even when anxiety kicks in?" - Michael from Illinois
Episode Resources
Perry is writing a book on being single, relationships and dating scheduled to release later in 2016 and he would LOVE to know what questions you have as a single person, or wish you would've asked before you got married. Just send in your question at perrynoble.com/ask and he may answer it in his book!
Episode Quotes
Don't let your emotions run your decisions. — Perry Noble
Sometimes it takes a woman longer to feel a connection. — Perry Noble
It’s not age, it’s maturity. — Perry Noble
If pursuit is the goal then age doesn’t matter. — Perry Noble
Older guys know they can manipulate younger woman. — Perry Noble
You're not always going to have the butterflies, but there needs to be a general excitement when the person walks in the room. — Perry Noble
Just because you made a mistake doesn’t mean you are called to be miserable the rest of your life. — Perry Noble
If you mess up sexually, it doesn’t mean you need to be end it. It just means you need to set up boundaries and have things in place to adhere to those boundaries. — Perry Noble
Don’t say “we’ve messed up” or “we crossed some lines” or “we went too far”. Fully confess it. — Perry Noble
There’s a difference between repentance and temporary relief. — Perry Noble
When we truly move from seeking temporary relief to repentance, God can heal that relationship. — Perry Noble
In the dating stage - if it’s not fun, they aren’t the one. — Perry Noble
Find out where your security lies. — Perry Noble
If you have to force a relationship, it’s not worth it. Let it happen on it's own. — Pe…
21 min
November 29, 2015 Perry Answers YOUR Questions About Singleness, Sex and Dating - Part 9
Episode Summary
In this podcast Perry answers REAL questions that you've submitted to perrynoble.com/ask about singleness, sex and dating! In this month's episode, Perry answers the following questions:
"I haven’t found anywhere in the Bible where we are promised a spouse. For years I’ve been told that God has someone just for me and that’s hope I have clung to. But now I realized that God may have a purpose for my singleness. He may not have someone for me. Could that be the case?" - Dana
"What about men and women that are called to be single?" Gianna
"As a guy and leader striving to keep Christ at the center, what are some good practices or ways ensure that we as a couple and I as the leader am keeping Christ at the center?" - Ryan
"I don’t feel like I’m spiritually ready for any dating relationship, but at church, with friends, family or anywhere else I feel like it’s looked down upon and I’m a second class citizen because I’m single. Should I just date someone and figure out any growth and spiritual maturity along the way?" - Parker
"What about praying together… I’ve read conflicting things. Is this ok? Or is it opening yourself up to a level of vulnerability that should occur later down the road?" - Stephanie
"What about single parents dating? When should I introduce my 5 year old son and how? Part of me wants to protect him by not introducing him and seeing where the relationship goes. But the other part of me doesn’t want to fall for a guy before seeing his interaction with my kid." - Stephanie
"I’m a single 23 year old pastor. Whenever I go on a first date I try not to put anymore pressure on it besides getting to know each other. In the last three years every date I’ve been on I leave the date thinking she was nice but I don’t feel a connection. I maintain a friendly relationship… (never go on a date again) but say hi at church. I usually find out the girl is upset with me. I never truly understand why, I didn’t lead her on or try not to. I often feel like giving up dating and women. What is your advice to a young single pastor on dating?" - Rob
"I am unmarried and have already had sex with the man I am with now, he is the only guy that I have had sex with. If we plan to get married why should we stop now?" - Katherine
Episode Resources
Perry is writing a book on being single, relationships and dating scheduled to release later in 2016 and he would LOVE to know what questions you have as a single person, or wish you would've asked before you got married. Just send in your question at perrynoble.com/ask and he may answer it in his book!
Episode Quotes
There is nothing in scripture that promises a spouse, but it does say God made man and woman to help each other. You can’t do life alone. — Perry Noble
If you are called to be single than you probably know it. But if you have a desire in your heart to be married then you have to hold on to that. — Perry Noble
Jesus did not have a romantic relationship and he had an abundant life — Perry Noble
If you depend on romance in a relationship, one day that relationship will no longer be romantic so you will go to affair to affair to affair or bed to bed to bed. — Perry Noble
Men’s facts need our feelings. — Mere Knox
To stay pure and keep Christ at the center, always keep both feet on the floor. — Perry Noble
Purity does not come naturally, it must be fought for. — Perry Noble
Marriage is a gift, so when I begin to think I’m entitled to it, it’s no longer a gift. — Mere Knox
If two people are praying together, it’s real hard to sin together. — Perry Noble
The motivation of prayer should be to get closer to Jesus, not to manipulate the other person. — Perry Noble
God has already given you the discernment you need, now you need to step into what you know. — Perry No…
25 min
October 25, 2015 Perry Answers YOUR Questions About Singleness, Sex and Dating - Part 8
Episode Summary
In this podcast Perry answers REAL questions that you've submitted to perrynoble.com/ask about singleness, sex and dating! In this month's episode, Perry answers the following questions:
"How do you respond to someone who has a commitment phobia?" - Elissa
"Hey Pastor P! As a 21 year old single female in the South, 90% of my friends are married, engaged, or in serious relationships. I just got out of a long term relationship myself. Sometimes I become bored with singleness and end up in situations I know I shouldn't be in...what advice can you give me to stay focused on God when I'm weak or bored? How can I stay positive when I'm the only single one out of all my friends?" - Shannon
"Can starting a relationship in a long distance situation work? And what steps can I take to make our relationship stronger when we are apart? For example, we worked together in the summers but the rest of the year visits are a few weeks apart." - Stephen
"I'm 35 years old and work in full-time ministry at my church. I love my job, have great friendships and family relationships, and have my life in order. But, I don't know any single men in their 30's, I never get asked out on dates (literally!), and I've always wanted to be a wife and mom. Even though every other area of my life is awesome, should I move to a bigger city to meet more available single Christian men?" - Lindsay
"What are some practical tips for single men who want to stop masturbating? The fight against lust is one thing, but what about the fight against our own body and physical urges when those feelings won't go away?" - Jeremy
"I've been married before. I know my mistake was not choosing a partner that would be a spiritual leader for me. But now I can't seem to find men who have that potential. Is that something you help someone build during dating or something that should already be there when you begin dating?" - Mandy
"I, like many people, have had trouble finding someone to fall in love with. I have had many dates and my problem seems to be that when I get to know them I'm picky. It can be about something so minor that it just draws a red flag in my mind. Do you have any tips for me to try to help me not be so picky?" - Stephen
"Pastor P, How do I ask God to take away feelings for someone who I know I shouldn't have feelings for? I have prayed for over a year for God to take this person off of my heart but he hasn't. It's almost starting to consume me to the point where I'm afraid I won't be able to get excited about my future spouse because I'm so focused on one guy? Please help!" - Christina
Episode Resources
Perry is writing a book on being single, relationships and dating scheduled to release later in 2016 and he would LOVE to know what questions you have as a single person, or wish you would've asked before you got married. Just send in your question at perrynoble.com/ask and he may answer it in his book!
Episode Quotes
If you are involved with someone that has commitment issues, you need to ask them “why?” — Perry Noble
If you’ve given your heart to Jesus and He leads someone into your life, are you trying to protect yourself from something that Jesus is trying to bring that is good to you simply because you are afraid? — Perry Noble
Don’t get so bored with singleness that you run out and get in a complicated relationship. — Perry Noble
Desperation in dating, always leads to destruction. — Perry Noble
Singleness is not a sickness, it’s a season. — Perry Noble
Long distance relationships can work, especially when it’s not built on the physical. — Perry Noble
You have to understand the intimidation factor when it comes to single Christian guys. — Perry Noble
Masturbation is not just a fight against our own body, it’s a fight against lust. — Perr…
23 min
September 27, 2015 Perry Answers YOUR Questions About Singleness, Sex and Dating - Part 7
Episode Summary
In this podcast Perry answers REAL questions that you've submitted to perrynoble.com/ask about singleness, sex and dating! In this month's episode, Perry answered the following questions:
"When is the appropriate age to start accepting Godly pursuits from guys?" - Karis
"Why were Old Testament heroes such as Solomon, David, Abraham and Jacob allowed to have more than one wife?" - Kyle
"How important is "chemistry" in dating and looking for a future spouse? For example- if you like and respect a guy a whole lot but just don't have that "spark."" - Alex
"Hey Pastor P! I'm very much attracted to and have a lot of admiration for a girl that I do youth ministry with. We are close friends. Every time people are around us, they wonder why we aren't dating. I confronted her once, but she is only interested in friendship #friendzone. I'm an interesting guy and I believe I would make a great husband, but most Christian girls tend to want the "bad boys". My question is, why do Christian guys always seem to finish last?" - Joshua
"In a relationship, how can you tell when to keep fighting and when to just let it go and break up?" - Carly
"I am learning to put down my ideals of what a godly man looks like. For example: maybe he isn't the up front Christian leader, maybe he also is the silent man who communicates his love for God by doing actions. So I want to ask you: What are the different ways that men show they love God? How can I know when a man's first priority is God (even if it isn't something he would be quick to talk about.)?" - Karla
"What about those of us who struggle with homosexuality, but don't want to be single the rest of our lives? How do we cope?" - Christina
"I'm a 28 year old female in love with Jesus. I'm a leader at my church and am passionate about growing Gods kingdom. The problem I have is finding my male equal. That guy- passionately in love with Jesus, capable of being my spiritual "head"- seems nonexistent around here. I've never found it attractive for a man to have a previous marriage and/or kids. I feel those are things I want to experience for the first time with my husband. All my life people have told me I'm picky but I just feel I'm searching for Gods best for me. After all, I don't have that baggage. I have a job, a house, I'm an independent woman. I want the same things in my partner. What do you think? Should I ask God to open my heart and mind to something I've never thought I wanted- to be less picky? Or am I right in being so selective?" - Kayla
"Is there EVER grounds for divorce aside from abuse and infidelity?" Kim
Episode Resources
Perry is writing a book on being single, relationships and dating scheduled to release later in 2016 and he would LOVE to know what questions you have as a single person, or wish you would've asked before you got married. Just send in your question at perrynoble.com/ask and he may answer it in his book!
Episode Quotes
Marriage is not about the sparks, marriage is about continually making the effort to love each other every day. — Perry Noble
Girls - don’t pick a guy you need to fix. You are not the Holy Spirit, you can’t fix him. And sometimes God won’t fix him because there’s a compromising girl in the way. — Perry Noble
Guys - If she says she just wants to be friends, just be a good friend. — Perry Noble
Fighting is natural in a relationship. The problem is believing that marriage will make the fighting stop. — Perry Noble
If you’re always fighting, figure out why you’re fighting, and if the majority of your relationship is fighting, you should throw in the towel. — Perry Noble
Marriage is a magnifier of who you really are. — Perry Noble
If the majority of your relationship is fighting, then it’s not worth it. — Perry Noble
Girls - Let the criteri…
27 min
August 30, 2015 Perry Answers Your Singleness, Sex And Dating Questions - Part 6
Episode Summary
In this podcast Perry answers REAL questions that you've submitted to perrynoble.com/ask about singleness, sex and dating! Perry answered the following questions in this month's episode:
"As we strive to follow God's will for our life, is there one man or woman that is specifically for you? As per God's perfect will for your life? Did he create that husband to be just for me?" - Jenny
"So if it's not a sin for husband to lustfully look at his wife, is it sinful for a boyfriend to lustfully look at his girlfriend?" - Grant
"If he is a Godly man, and is passively pursuing me should I just give up or give him the benefit of the doubt that he just doesn't know he is being passive? I mean, men can be a little oblivious right!?" - Karlee
"What do good physical and emotional boundaries look like in a dating relationship?" - Jaxson
"Hey Pastor Perry, I am a single guy in ministry. I hear a lot of people saying to wait on God to bring someone into my life. But I also hear lots of other people say that the only way I'll find the right one is by asking a girl out and getting to know her. Both of which I understand. How do you manage the tension of waiting on God while still trying to get to get to know somebody? And a follow up question to that is, if I am asking someone out, does that mean I'm not waiting on God? Thanks!" - Matt
"Pastor P. You speak a lot to staying inside the circle and how to do everything to stay inside the circle and how not to step outside the circle, but what should someone do when the other person has stepped outside the circle and been unfaithful?" - TJ
"I dated a girl earlier this year and felt like we connected on multiple levels. I shared with her that I struggle with pornography. A few weeks after that, she ended the relationship stating she couldn't bear to stay with me. I feel like I'm taking the necessary steps to battle and overcome this, but I don't know how to approach that subject with a Christian woman. I want to find someone to be transparent with. What should I do?" - Jared
"I was engaged to a non-believer that canceled our wedding 24 hours before. 2 months later he got saved and baptized. We have not dated for a year and now he is trying to come back into my life. Since God makes all things new now that he is saved and lives for Jesus is it ok to try the relationship again? (Pastor P thank you for what you do and your sermons have really changed my life!)" - Amanda
"I'm 21 years old, I have begun to feel as though I will never be married. I have never been in a relationship, never been pursued, never even been on a date. I often feel unloved, unwanted, and unworthy. How do I overcome my fears of inadequacy and being alone?" - Hannah
Episode Resources
Perry is writing a book on being single, relationships and dating scheduled to release later in 2016 and he would LOVE to know what questions you have as a single person, or wish you would've asked before you got married. Just send in your question at perrynoble.com/ask and he may answer it in his book!
Episode Quotes
The person you marry is ultimately “the one”. — Perry Noble
If you cross the line (lusting) in your mind, you will eventually cross that line in reality. Thoughts lead to actions. — Perry Noble
If you win the battle for your mind you will ultimately win the battle for one another’s heart. — Perry Noble
Girls: it’s okay to sit down and define what being pursued looks like to you. — Perry Noble
If a couple will focus on pursuing Jesus, rather than pursuing the “lines”, you’re relationship will be exponentially better. — Perry Noble
If you’re pursuing the “lines” then you are limiting the potential of your relationship. — Perry Noble
You won’t know if you’re “better together” if y’all are always in bed together. — …
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While he enjoys talking about Jesus, the local church, and leadership, one of Perry Noble's favorite topics is relationships. In his upcoming dating book, scheduled to release in Fall 2016, Perry will…

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