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Most people treat uncertainty like a problem to be solved. It isn't. It's a muscle to be built.

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At our 15th anniversary dinner, Amy did something I thought was interesting. She left her phone at the hotel. But throughout the night, without thinking, she kept reaching for a phone that wasn't there. It happened so often we started laughing at ourselves.

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We had trained our brains to reach for certainty the moment anything felt unclear.

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John Keats had a name for the antidote: Negative Capability. The discipline of sitting with uncertainty, doubt, and mystery instead of running from it.

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"You don't have to solve the uncertainty. You just have to learn to sit in it."

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Scrolling feels better than sitting with an uncomfortable thought. Checking feels better than waiting. But what's waiting on the other side of that discomfort, a real conversation, a creative idea, an honest emotion you've been avoiding, is usually worth far more than whatever you found on your phone.

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Test yourself today. Leave your phone somewhere out of reach and notice how often you think about it. That's your baseline.

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