The John Eades Podcast

Four people told her she nailed it. The fifth person told her the truth, and that's the only one who actually helped her get better.

Most leaders think they're getting honest feedback. They're not. Silence gets mistaken for agreement, and that mistake is costing you more than you realize.

In this episode:

• Why praise feels good but constructive feedback is what actually builds skill
• The real numbers on how few employees get honest feedback, and what it costs when they don't
• Netflix's "farming for dissent" strategy, and why great leaders go hunt for disagreement instead of waiting for it
• A simple 3-part recipe you can use in your very next decision: who to ask, how to ask, and where to look first

If you lead people or make decisions that affect others, this one's for you.

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John is 14 chapters into a book he's been writing for two years — and if he's honest, it should already be finished, printed, and in your hands. In this solo episode, he shares an uncomfortable confession: how a project he thinks about constantly has stayed stuck for two years, and the single line that forced him to stop making excuses.

"You either stop thinking about it or start doing it."

John breaks down why there are really only two honest paths for anything left unfinished in your life — and why staying stuck in the middle, still thinking about it with no action, isn't patience. It's a slow kind of quitting.

He shares a simple 3-question framework to figure out, right now, which path is actually yours:

• Do you still want it when no one's watching?
• What's the smallest next action — and have you taken it this week?
• Are you willing to say it out loud to someone who'll hold you accountable?

Whether it's a business idea, a hard conversation you've been avoiding, a relationship that needs repair, or a goal you've quietly shelved — this episode will help you stop carrying the weight of "someday" and finally choose a direction.

In this episode:

• Why unfinished goals cost you more than you think, even when you're not actively working on them
• The difference between patience and avoidance
• A 3-question framework for deciding whether to act or let go
• John's own commitment on where the book goes from here

If something's been sitting unfinished in your head, this is your nudge to pick a path today.

Ryan Hawk has interviewed over 700 high-performing leaders on The Learning Leader Show. In his new book, The Price of Becoming, he breaks down what it actually costs to become the best version of yourself, and why the people who sustain excellence over time never let themselves feel like they've arrived.

In this conversation, Ryan and John talk about:

• Why "you've never arrived, you're always becoming" changed how Ryan thinks about success
• The three questions Ryan asks himself every night to force real progress
• How Dave Matthews built one of the most enduring bands in music by refusing to be the most talented person in the room
• Why sustained excellence often comes at the cost of feeling fully content
• The power of "following your curiosity and obsessions with great rigor"
• How to celebrate wins at work without losing your edge

Ryan's book, The Price of Becoming, is out now.

Most leaders have been taught that comparison is the thief of joy. Stay in your lane. Don't look at what anyone else has. But what if that advice is only half right?

In this episode, John breaks down a coaching call where a client watched a colleague get promoted to vice president and felt the sting of "why not me." Instead of shutting that feeling down, John shows why comparison can actually be one of the most useful tools in a leader's toolkit, if you know the difference between letting it steal from you and letting it show you where the bar is.

You'll learn:

• Why comparison isn't inherently bad, and how to tell when it's helping you versus hurting you
• The "ice cream cone" mindset shift that changes how you think about missed opportunities
• Why a goal without audacity is just a wish, and what it actually takes to close the gap

If you've ever felt that flicker of "why not me" watching someone else win, this episode will change how you think about it. Register for the Free Ignite Leadership Summit https://www.ignitenextgen.com/

Early in my career, I taught a workshop using a tool I learned from the late Lou Holtz, the vision space tool. That story changed how I think about success, and I'm telling it in full here.

Because here's what I've learned. Everyone's dreams and definitions of success are different, often shaped by how they were raised or what they've experienced. So this episode isn't about landing on a common definition, or even confirming whether your dreams are big enough. They probably aren't.

It's about something else. Whether you believe you're worthy of success.

"There isn't a person on the planet who deserves my outsized definition of success more than me."

Uncomfortable to say out loud. Weirdly empowering to believe. By the end of this episode, you'll have a simple exercise to define your own outsized success, and the belief to go claim it.

If this hit home, you'll want the full book. 📖 Grab The Optimistic Outlook here: https://www.amazon.com/Optimistic-Outlook-Lessons-Important-Muscle/dp/B0G4R5VJH1/

James McLanmb joins the show today. He is the founder of Generation Youth, and in this conversation we get into why removing obstacles for young people backfires, what 2,500 interviews with teens revealed about what they actually struggle with, and how the wisdom of Zig Ziglar still holds up decades later.

We talk about:

• Why "lawnmower parenting" — clearing every obstacle before your kid gets to it — quietly destroys the confidence you're trying to build
• The three things every teenager struggles with (and how James landed on the exact same three buckets Ziglar identified back in the 1960s)
• What coaching actually means, and why "leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less"
• Why today's most connected generation is also its loneliest

Key quotes:

"Whenever you see a turtle on top of a fence, you know it didn't get there by itself."

"This is the most connected generation in the history of our planet, yet it's the loneliest generation too."

"Failure is an event. It's not a person."

"By removing these things, you're removing the things that build their character, that build their resilience, that build their confidence."

Join us at the summit: John Eades is speaking at the free Igniting the Next Generation Empower Summit (July 27–Aug 7), a virtual event for parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors navigating identity, mental health, social media, and purpose with today's youth. His talk is titled "Your Job Is Not to Keep Them Safe." Register free at ignitenextgen.com.

There's a difference between what a privilege is and what a pain is, and it's not the circumstance; it's the lens. Author Will Guidara has a line that will shock your mind back to reality today.

"What a privilege to outgrow things you used to settle for."

The work piling up, the hard conversation, the tough round of golf, someone out there is praying for exactly what you're frustrated by. Which one are you choosing today?

Grab the book that started it all: https://www.amazon.com/Optimistic-Outlook-Lessons-Important-Muscle/dp/B0G4R5VJH1/

Coach Kenny Simpson has been on the front lines of leadership longer than most. He's gone 0 and 10. He's coached kids who needed a father figure more than a playbook. And somewhere along the way, he stopped watching the scoreboard — and started winning more than ever.

In this episode, Kenny and I dig into what it really takes to build a winning culture, why accountability and love aren't opposites, and how the best leaders develop systems so strong they have answers before problems occur.

Kenny also shares the story behind his new book, Iron Valley — a fictional account of a team that lost 27 games in a row and what it took to turn things around. It's part great story, part leadership curriculum, and it's available now on Amazon.

📖 Grab Iron Valley here: https://www.amazon.com/Iron-Valley-Football-Brotherhood-Chances/dp/B0GWQDTH9X

Most leaders believe intensity is an asset. And they are right. Until it isn't.

Tyler Dickerhoof has spent years studying what separates leaders who build something lasting from the ones who burn everything down chasing results. In this conversation, we get into why your intensity might be driving people away, what happens when you reach the finish line and realize nobody followed you, and the thing most leaders are hiding that is quietly running their leadership.

Tyler is the author of the new book The Things We Hide, a deeply personal and practical look at how our fears and insecurities build walls between us and the people we are trying to lead, and what it takes to finally put windows in those walls.

"The weight that crushes us is the weight we carry alone."

If you have ever felt like you were carrying too much, leading alone, or wondering why your team is not running with you, this episode is for you.

Get Tyler's book here: https://www.tylerdickerhoof.com/store/p/the-things-we-hide

Most leaders are good. Some are really good. But a lot of them are playing with a ceiling they don't even know they have. Not because of talent. Because of how they're choosing to show up.

"Life rewards those who play offense. Not the most prepared, not the most talented, but the ones willing to step up, take the risk, and go for it."

In this episode, John breaks down why leaders default to defense, how to build the skill and confidence to play offense in yourself and your people, and the three things that actually move the needle when your team is ready but still won't take the shot.

Capacity is not the same as choice. This episode is about closing that gap.

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