In this sit.discover.change podcast episode, Gary (a counsellor) and Jon explore the hidden reasons people avoid counselling — from deep shame and fear of judgment to pride and the belief that “therapy is only for the weak.” Jon shares what it was like to walk to his first session, testing the waters with “safer” topics before daring to speak about what really brought him there.

They talk about internal battles, banned thoughts, and the strange tension of paying to share things you’d rather keep hidden. They also unpack how church and Christian culture can add extra pressure to look “sorted,” why so many people wear an “I’m better than you” mask, and how that fuels loneliness and isolation.

As Gary and Jon reflect on mirrors, masks, and the hope of being truly known, they show that healing isn’t about becoming “perfect” or fully “fixed,” but about being less alone with what you carry and a little kinder to yourself along the way.

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In this moving conversation between Gary and Jon, the two explore the emotional impact of absent parents — both physical and emotional absence — and how those early experiences continue to shape us as adults.
Gary opens up about his dad’s absence and its long-term effects, while Jon reflects on growing up in a home where presence didn’t always equal connection. Together, they unpack how childhood patterns influence the way we love, parent, and relate to others.
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Gary and Jon dive into the realities of grief: why presence deepens loss, how absence creates a different kind of pain, and the practical work of making moments that become our legacy. We discuss family dynamics, father figures, generational disconnect, and learning to be emotionally present—even when it takes effort. A compassionate, plain-spoken conversation about love, loss, and living fully. 🎙️🕯️
 
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In this deep and brutally honest conversation, we dive headfirst into the complex world of blame — why we dish it out, why we quietly absorb it, and how it impacts our relationships and inner peace.
From playful “blame tennis” with our partners to hidden self-blame that slowly builds resentment, we unpack it all. Along the way, we share personal, raw stories about anger, pride, marriage struggles, and acceptance — from late-night kitchen messes to childhood insecurities.
We also explore one of the biggest questions in relationships: Can we really change for others? Or do we just need acceptance for who we are?
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Can Christians experience doubt? What happens when your faith doesn’t feel strong — or when you’re even annoyed at God? In this raw and honest conversation, we open up about the struggles that many believers face but rarely talk about. From questioning God’s existence, wrestling with suffering, feeling like a “bad Christian,” and the performance pressure in church culture — this is a safe space for messy faith and real talk. 🎙️ Topics we explore: • Doubting God while still believing in Him • The hidden guilt many Christians carry • Vulnerability vs performance in church • Why Jesus’ humanity still matters • Letting go of perfectionism in faith 🙋‍♂️ If you’ve ever felt alone in your spiritual struggles — this one’s for you. 🔔 Subscribe for more honest conversations about faith and life. 💬 Drop your thoughts in the comments — we’d love to hear from you. #FaithAndDoubt #Christianity #SpiritualStruggles #HonestFaith #ChurchLife

Are you your own worst critic? In this episode, we dive deep into the relentless voice in our heads—the inner critic. Jon and Gary explore how idealism, comparison, and societal pressures fuel self-doubt and hold us back. Why do we normalize this inner voice, and how can we quiet it down? Tune in as we break down the myths, share real experiences, and offer practical ways to take back control of your mindset. 🎙️ Listen now and start rewriting your inner dialogue! 🔔 Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more insightful conversations.

Feeling lonely or struggle to make friends? In this session Gary and Jon explore the topic of making friends and thrash through practical ways to do that, reflecting on their own friendship and how that has developed over time…all the while being raw and vulnerable and a little confrontational with one another. If you find it hard to develop friendships, this one is dedicated to you…

In this session we chat through what our children are really craving from us, what we find tricky about having kids and what we can actually learn from the way they are. If you have kids this ones a must listen…

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We all need to eat, but for some of us food becomes more of a necessity than for others. What are we doing when we eat? Do we eat to live or live to eat? Join  Gary and Jon in this honest and open chat about their own relationship to food, as they ask what is really going on at a deeper level when we are addicted to food.