SMART Counsel

SMART Counsel is back! More conversations, more perspectives, more resources!

Today, Rhys and Ben discuss Accountability. What is accountability? How is it done well, and how is it done badly? Who needs it, and who should be providing it?

Overall, what is the role of supportive and mentoring relationships in our personal growth, and particularly in a vibrant recover process? We discuss all this and more. Listen along, and let us know what you think. Let's keep the conversation going!

This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals:

Rhys Pasimio - newpatterncounseling.com

Ben Poling - benpolingcounseling.com

Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks!

The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty or New Pattern Counseling.

Recently we commemorated mothers. In honor of the occasion, SMART Counsel welcomed back 4 prior guest speakers, all of whom are both counselors AND mothers. In this special, all-woman gathering, Mariah LeFeber, Diane Moore, Debby Quick, and Hillary Reno talk about that counselor-mom life. What have they learned about counseling from being a mom? What have they learned about being a mom from being a counselor? What are the unique challenges they face, being both counselor and mother, and what are the unique offerings they bring to the field?

Listen along to this exploration of a rich and dynamic pillar in both our counseling communities and our families. Let us know what you think, and let’s keep the conversation going!

This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals:

Diane Moore - (360)909-8827

Hillary Reno - [email protected]

Mariah LeFeber - http://www.mariahlefeber.com/

Debby Quick can be found at [email protected]

The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University, Alternative Behavioral Therapy and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty, of Alternative Behavioral Therapy or New Pattern Counseling.

Who Am I and Where Did I Go? by SMART Counsel

Sex Adjudication and Advocacy by SMART Counsel

Spiritual Integration by SMART Counsel

Sometimes after a person goes through inpatient, IOP, individual counseling and group counseling, they still need just a little something more in order to sustain their recovery. In the absence of supportive and informed family and friends(or sometimes in spite of ill-informed family and friends) recovering individuals now have the option of connecting with a sober companion! These individuals are clinically trained, often having recovery experience of their own, but able to operate in a more flexible recovery peer/case management/therapeutic presence in the individual's daily context. Visit voyageandserenity.com to learn more!

Emotional Sobriety refers to that inner work that becomes possible when a person has sustained abstinence from damaging addictive behaviors. It is the ongoing and imperfect process by which a person reconnects with their best self, their deepest values, and their highest purpose.

Rhys and Josh met up with TaraLynn Rayburn for a lively discussion about Sober Companions and Emotional Sobriety. We had fun recording; we hope you enjoy listening. Leave us a note, and let's keep the conversation going!

If you or a loved one is struggling with addictions or any other mental health challenges, please reach out to one of the professionals in this podcast, or to any other resource mentioned, or any resource you know. Help is there for you!

Let us know what you think! Let's keep the conversation going!

This episode features the following professionals:

Rhys Pasimio - www.newpatterncounseling.com

Joshua Moore - https://neurofeedbackcare.com/

Taralynn Rayburn - https://voyageandserenity.com/

The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University, Alternative Behavioral Therapy and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty, of Alternative Behavioral Therapy or New Pattern Counseling.

When a family is in conflict, what does that say about the underlying patterns of how that family operates? What are the unspoken but clearly known family rules? What has been the inter-generational impact of trauma, addiction, or stress? Who holds the power in the family, and who rescues whom?

Family Systems Theory offers the clinician a multitude of new insights into how the individual functions by gaining insight into the family system in which that individual dwells.

Rhys and Josh visited with Mary Jane Wilt, a local Portland therapist who specializes in family systems. An introduction to Dr. Murray Bowen and Family Systems ensued. Many new things were learned.

If you or a loved one is struggling with addictions or any other mental health challenges, please reach out to one of the professionals in this podcast, or to any other resource mentioned, or any resource you know. Help is there for you!

Let us know what you think! Let's keep the conversation going!

This episode features the following professionals:

Rhys Pasimio - www.newpatterncounseling.com

Joshua Moore - https://neurofeedbackcare.com/

Mary Jane Wilt - www.mjlpc.com

The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University, Alternative Behavioral Therapy and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty, of Alternative Behavioral Therapy or New Pattern Counseling.

What are the major challenges facing men and boys today? One challenge is the narrative that says, "Look perfect and put together, even if you're not." The end result is lots of men, and boys trying to become men, who don't have it all together, but are driven into isolated silence. This is neither sustainable, nor even human. This narrative hurts men, and ultimately hurts the women in their lives too.

Aynsley Silva has build a practice almost exclusively on working with men. In this conversation, he and Rhys and Josh talk about the fusion of trauma, anger, unrealistic expectations, and toxic family systems. Listen along for insights and ideas on how to work with families, and especially with the angry boys.

If you or a loved one is struggling with addictions or any other mental health challenges, please reach out to one of the professionals in this podcast, or to any other resource mentioned, or any resource you know. Help is there for you!

This episode features the following professionals:

Rhys Pasimio - www.newpatterncounseling.com

Joshua Moore - https://neurofeedbackcare.com/

Aynsley Silva - Lacamas Counseling, (360) 861-4038

The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University, Alternative Behavioral Therapy and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty, of Alternative Behavioral Therapy or New Pattern Counseling.

"It doesn't matter what substance a person uses. What matters is why they use it."

Each addicted person has a close - much too close - relationship with the object of their addiction. Recovery and maintaining sobriety means breaking up with a close companion who, while toxic and destructive, has also been a source of comfort and security. How is a recovering person to navigate this most painful of breakups?

One essential answer is Aftercare. After detox, inpatient, intensive outpatient, and even after outpatient care, recovery people need structure and support. Recovering people need other people to walk with them on their journey.

Rhys and Josh talk with Michael Banis from Recovery Ways about the challenges involved in aftercare for extended sobriety, as well as the very tangible treatment resources that are available.

If you or a loved one is struggling with addictions or any other mental health challenges, please reach out to one of the professionals in this podcast, or to any other resource mentioned, or any resource you know. Help is there for you!

This episode features the following professionals:

Rhys Pasimio - www.newpatterncounseling.com

Joshua Moore - https://neurofeedbackcare.com/

Michael Banis - 908-590-2333

The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University, Alternative Behavioral Therapy and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty, of Alternative Behavioral Therapy or New Pattern Counseling.

Every individual exists in a system, and if we are not addressing the whole system, are we really helping the person at all?

Understanding the whole family system is vital for any counseling work, but particularly for addiction recovery work, and especially where sex addiction and betrayal trauma are involved. Counseling through Betrayal Trauma takes a hard look at both addicted person and their wounded partners in the context of their whole family system. As counselors, social workers, and other practitioners, we have a responsibility to consider and address the whole system, in service of the individual, to the greatest extend possible.

In this episode, Rhys shares reflections and highlights from the Module 2 training of the Certified Sex Addiction Therapist training through the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals. Listen, comment, and let's keep the conversation going!

This episode features the following professionals:

Rhys Pasimio - www.newpatterncounseling.com

Joshua Moore - https://neurofeedbackcare.com/

The Master’s in Counseling program at Multnomah University, Alternative Behavioral Therapy and New Pattern Counseling present this podcast as a resource for aspiring and current professionals, as well as members of the greater community. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent those of Multnomah University or its faculty, of Alternative Behavioral Therapy or New Pattern Counseling.