SOBER SEX

Sophia Cleary is a queer multi-disciplinary powerhouse: actor, writer, artist, comedian and

performer drawing from experiences as diverse as being a birth doula, waiter and analyst for a

private investigator. Sophia has presented her work at esteemed venues around the world and

is presently host of monthly comedy show SMILE KNIFE and is workshopping her one woman

show ‘It Gets Worse’, which you can see in New York or Los Angeles. Sophia is also half of

feminist punk band, ‘Penis’. Welcome, Sophia, to Sober Sex.

This chat with Sophia was so funny and magical; she is a hilarious genius and it was a delight to get to know her better.  We talk a lot about how it feels to be genre-free as an artist, about the joys of having a rock collection and how taking our own needs seriously allows us to live authentically and to make powerful art.  You can find Sophia and her work at https://www.sophiacleary.com/

Tristan Hunt is a certified Transformational Coach specializing in helping music industry professionals who are struggling with ADHD.  Recently having departing his post as regional manager for the Association For Electronic Music, Tristan remains a steadfast advocate for neurodiversity within electronic music culture.  We are thrilled to talk about his new venture today and how ADHD and addiction, creativity and relationships might intersect.

This conversation with dear Tristan was super informative and dynamic in discussing how Neuro-Diversity and addiction, relationships, sex and creativity intersect, and solutions to potential pitfalls of dealing with ADHD.  Tristan is clearly passionate about his new career path and it was a joy to enthusiastically discuss these relevant issues with him.  

For more information, go to https://www.tristanhunt.co.uk/

Emilia Richeson-Valiente is a performer, actor, dancer and emotive aerobics facilitator based in Los Angeles.  Emilia is also the wildly charismatic leader of the benevolent cult of Pony Sweat, a fiercely non competitive dance aerobics celebration.  Pony Sweat is a practice in anti-perfectionism and radical self-acceptance, the goal of this high energy, emotive, healing journey is to cultivate freedom of movement and thought, to take care of ourselves and of each other.  Welcome, Emilia, to Sober Sex.

I say that every episode is my favorite but this one is really up there.  There were so many moments of epiphany in this generous, funny, delightful, wise conversation with awesome Emilia.  Notable also is Emilia's fantastic mullet.  I hope you love listening as much as I enjoyed recording this one.  

You can find Emilia's work and have a spiritual experience at https://www.ponysweataerobics.com/

Romy Hoffman is an Australian artist, producer, songwriter and DJ based in LA.  She fronts an all girl post-punk band called ‘Agender’, runs her own label, ‘Climax’ and throws celebrated parties HOMOCCULT and and Lez Croix.  She also makes visual art.  She is a powerhouse of fierce creativity and we are delighted to welcome her to Sober Sex today.

Erin Khar is an author and advocate known for her writing on addiction, recovery, mental health, parenting, and relationships. Erin knows first-hand the challenges of addiction recovery and has established herself as a respected voice in the national conversation about the overdose epidemic.

Erin's debut memoir, Strung Out , appeared on most anticipated lists from Apple Books, Goodreads, SELF, The Rumpus, Bitch Media, and others. Of the book, The New York Times writes, "Khar’s buoyant writing doesn’t get mired in her dark subject matter. There is an honesty here that can only come from, to put it in the language of 12-step programs, a 'searching and fearless moral inventory.' This is a story she needed to tell; and the rest of the country needs to listen.”

She writes the weekly advice column, Ask Erin, on Substack, and her personal essays have appeared in SELF, Marie Claire, Salon, The Times of London Sunday Magazine, HuffPost, Esquire, Cosmopolitan, and others. She lives in New York City.

On this episode we talk about recovery modalities outside of twelve step models,  benevolence for future self that is the act of journal keeping, horses, and very briefly (TW) childhood sexual trauma.  Erin was a pleasure to talk to, we hope you love this episode!

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Mumu is a singer, songwriter, actor, musician, feminist and dear friend. Her strong political viewpoints and advocacy are evident in her lyrics and music videos, as is her personal experience with everything from addiction and mental illness to sexuality, embodiment and pleasure. We are delighted to welcome Mumu to Sober Sex!

@musicofmumu

Brandon O'Connell is an old friend, and after a long history struggling with addiction, incarceration and homelessness, Brandon has now been clean and sober since 2017, and has made altruism a way of life, working with Vantage Point in LA and San Diego to help people post-incarceration and those struggling with addiction.  In addition, Brandon has a podcast called 'Trashcan Talk' which you can check out on all streaming platforms 

@trashcancut

With us today is Courtney Wittich, formerly of C.Wittich media, now of being a liberated queen of vision, creativity, adventures and generally a good life.  Courtney is a dream guest because we talk about her often (as a beacon of delight and general ray of sunshine) and we are ecstatic to introduce one of our very favorite people to the Sober Sex audience.  On this episode we discuss life changing magic of 'The Artist's Way', butt rashes, miraculous romance and how to have a good attitude in even the most trying circumstance.  

TW: there is brief mention of sexual assault, if you're not feeling up to hearing about that today, perhaps skip this episode.  

Kate Marlene is an American author, podcaster and artist living in Berlin. She is also a narrative therapist and social justice advocate, focused on individual and community healing.  In this episode we discussed her journey into recovery and through motherhood and divorce as a sober woman, what reinvention looks like in recovery and how embracing femme has felt for her.  While there were some technical difficulties, we think we took care of them in the edit and that this episode is a great time! You can learn more about Kate from her awesome podcast, 'About Face', available on all platforms