Mike and Glenn are back in the coffee shop today talking honesty, bullshit and chocolate chip cookies.

As Glenn puts it: Honesty is a core foundational block to getting sober and living a healthy, new purposeful life. If you are bullshitting yourself and others, nothing changes.

As Mike puts it: If you throw even a kernel of shat into that batch of chocolate chip cookies, which cookie are you going to eat? Just a single kernel of dishonesty is enough to ruin the whole batch.

They both say it very differently, but agree on this:  lying eats your soul, but living in honesty and the truth is very freeing.

For more about this podcast:

 - Visit Sober.Coffee website: https://www.sober.coffee

 - Sober.Coffee on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.coffeepodcast/

 - Recorded at Audiohive Podcasting: https://www.audiohivepodcasting.com

 - In collaboration with Care Addiction Center: https://www.careaddiction.com

Recovery is so much more than just ‘quit drinking’. You face the question “I’m not drinking, so now what?” In the coffee shop, Mike & Glenn are joined by Dean Anderson, author of the book “Finding Myself Sober”.  Dean recounts the first 10 or more times he tried to get sober, going through the motions to quit drinking but not filling the hole with anything new - which led him back to the bottle again.

At rock bottom, Dean went to AA and realized it wasn’t just about being dry. Finding himself sober and working the steps of AA he also found he needed to simplify things - the more simple it is, the easier it is to work the steps and less chance to step off the path. That’s the basis of his book.

In this episode:

 - Book: Finding Myself Sober by Dean Anderson: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-Myself-Sober-Dean-Anderson/dp/B0CCK7L59B

For more about this podcast:

 - Visit Sober.Coffee website: https://www.sober.coffee

 - Sober.Coffee on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.coffeepodcast/

 - Recorded at Audiohive Podcasting: https://www.audiohivepodcasting.com

 - In collaboration with Care Addiction Center: https://www.careaddiction.com

Following the recovery journey from the previous episode “Boiling the Frog - Anti-Surrender” Mike & Glenn are talking about the same gentleman, but later in his recovery journey when he discovers true surrender.

What changed? He knew he was struggling, he had lost his rental house and was staying in extended stay, but in the last week:

 - Lost his job and was not working

 - Still drinking and drugging

 - His family cut him off 

Dive in with Mike & Glenn as they talk about what it took for this gentleman to reach true surrender and what it looked like.

In this episode:

 - Sober.Coffee episode “Boiling The Frog - Anti-Surrender": https://www.sober.coffee/podcast/episode/2b4dd42e/boiling-the-frog-what-does-anti-surrender-look-like

For more about this podcast:

 - Visit Sober.Coffee website: https://www.sober.coffee

 - Sober.Coffee on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.coffeepodcast/

 - Recorded at Audiohive Podcasting: https://www.audiohivepodcasting.com

 - In collaboration with Care Addiction Center: https://www.careaddiction.com

Success in getting on the sober path is surrender. At the coffee shop, Mike & Glenn discuss what surrender and struggle look like when you don’t surrender, anti-surrender, and how it’s like boiling a frog.

How do you boil a frog? ‘Boiling the frog’ is referring to the premise that if you stick a frog in boiling water, he jumps out immediately. Put him in warm water then raise up the water temperature a little at a time, he doesn’t notice - then he’s boiled. Alcoholism is progressive, it gets worse and worse and worse. It’s like turning the temperature up on the water the frog is swimming in.

Glenn talks about the recovery journey of a gentleman he sponsored in AA who started with an attitude of anti-surrender - and the pain, suffering, refusal and ego that accompanied the anti-surrender.

After listening to this episode, jump into the next one where Glenn talks about the same person - but later in his journey when he discovers true surrender.

For more about this podcast:

- Visit Sober.Coffee website: https://www.sober.coffee

- Sober.Coffee on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.coffeepodcast/

- Recorded at Audiohive Podcasting: https://www.audiohivepodcasting.com

- In collaboration with Care Addiction Center: https://www.careaddiction.com

The spotlight is on Karen this week! Karen is on the Al-Anon journey while her husband Bruce is on the sober path journey with AA. Desperation brought Karen to Al-Anon and she tells us about changing her mindset from resentment because Bruce made this her problem, to realizing she had to switch the focus to herself, give up control because she could only control herself - not Bruce - and start restoring her sanity.

In this episode:

 - Previous podcast episode: Love Story Part 1 - Bruce & Karen: https://www.sober.coffee/podcast/episode/214bdf07/a-love-story-part-1-bruce-and-karen

For more about this podcast:

 - Visit Sober.Coffee website: https://www.sober.coffee

 - Sober.Coffee on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.coffeepodcast/

 - Recorded at Audiohive Podcasting: https://www.audiohivepodcasting.com

 - In collaboration with Care Addiction Center: https://www.careaddiction.com

Table for 4 at the coffee shop today! Bruce is on the sober path journey with AA. Karen is on the Al-Anon journey. Married for 34 years, Bruce has been sober for the last 17 years. Bruce and Karen have gone through it. Listen to Bruce’s story today as he tells us about losing his soul to addiction and deciding he didn’t want to spread this disease to his family - instead he chose recovery.

For more about this podcast:

 - Visit Sober.Coffee website: https://www.sober.coffee

 - Sober.Coffee on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.coffeepodcast/

 - Recorded at Audiohive Podcasting: https://www.audiohivepodcasting.com

 - In collaboration with Care Addiction Center: https://www.careaddiction.com

Ninety days is a habit driver - learning and practicing new coping, living skills and tools. So what does that look like? Join Mike & Glenn in the coffee shop as they talk about the most important things to know and what to expect in the first 90 days.

In this episode:

Previous podcast episode: Boiling The Frog: https://www.sober.coffee/podcast/episode/2b4dd42e/boiling-the-frog-what-does-anti-surrender-look-like

For more about this podcast:

 - Visit Sober.Coffee website: https://www.sober.coffee

 - Sober.Coffee on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.coffeepodcast/

 - Recorded at Audiohive Podcasting: https://www.audiohivepodcasting.com

 - In collaboration with Care Addiction Center: https://www.careaddiction.com

In Julianna’s story of experience, strength and hope, she shares with Mike & Glenn the cracks and things she is repairing in her life - and she’s repairing them with beauty, much like the art of kintsugi. An ancient Japanese art for restoring ceramics, kintsugi highlights broken cracks with streams of gold and lacquer. Once repaired, it becomes a unique piece of beauty outshining the original.

In this episode:

Book by Annie Grace, This Naked Mind: https://thisnakedmind.com/this-naked-mind
Previous podcast episode: Love Story - Bruce & Karen: https://www.sober.coffee/podcast/episode/214bdf07/a-love-story-part-1-bruce-and-karen

For more about this podcast:

Visit Sober.Coffee website: https://www.sober.coffee

Sober.Coffee on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.coffeepodcast/

Recorded at Audiohive Podcasting: https://www.audiohivepodcasting.com

In collaboration with Care Addiction Center: https://www.careaddiction.com

If you’re 10% listening and 90% thinking about what to say next, you’re not living in the moment. Join Mike & Glenn as they discuss what it means to live in the moment. It’s amazing the library of tools and references you can go back to if you stay present in the moment - focused, paying attention, listening, absorbing and inputting things into your mental library.

For more about this podcast:

Visit Sober.Coffee website: https://www.sober.coffee

Sober.Coffee on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.coffeepodcast/

Recorded at Audiohive Podcasting: https://www.audiohivepodcasting.com

In collaboration with Care Addiction Center: https://www.careaddiction.com

Dr. John is back! Talking about ISM in the coffee shop. What is ISM? Dr. John says it’s the Human Condition - we are the only creatures on the planet that have the capacity to introspect, to torment ourselves with regret for the past, fear for the future. How do you get out of that ISM? Dr. John proposes the key to sobriety is finding a way out without alcohol.

In this episode:

Dr John Previous Guest Spot w/ Sober.Coffee: https://www.sober.coffee/podcast/episode/eb7089e2/bonus-drop-dr-john-outlines-the-ism-vs-wasm

Book: The Road Less Traveled by Dr Scott Peck:

https://www.amazon.com/Road-Less-Traveled-Timeless-Traditional/dp/0743243153

For more about this podcast:

Visit Sober.Coffee website: https://www.sober.coffee

Sober.Coffee on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.coffeepodcast/

Recorded at Audiohive Podcasting: https://www.audiohivepodcasting.com

In collaboration with Care Addiction Center: https://www.careaddiction.com