Sober·ish Uprising

“But you don’t have a problem,” is often what you hear when you tell people you aren’t drinking or are reassessing your relationship with booze. 

In fact it was one of the top things that held me back from redefining my relationship because according to everything around me I didn’t have a problem but everything in me knew I did. 

I share the three areas that influence how we define a problem and how if there was anything else in my life that stole my time, energy and spirit like my drinking did I wouldn’t hesitate twice about cutting it out. 

Today starts a 4-part series of the myth, stories, beliefs I bought into that held me back from changing my relationship with alcohol. Only YOU can decide if you have a problem. And on the flip side YOU get to define your solution. 

Excuse my tech issues but the content is what needs to be shared. Friendly reminder it doesn't have to be perfect to be done.

My brother was the first person in my life that I was close to that I saw choose sobriety and do it as a power move. It felt like it came out of nowhere but also not as I knew he wanted more for his life He quit drinking on February 6, 2020, a month after he moved into our house to take care of it and our two pupsters while we lived abroad and a month before the world shut down. He knew it was an opportunity he had to move on.

Brent has been my biggest supporter and inspiration along my sober·ish journey and I know I am not alone. In today’s episode of Sober·ish Uprising we chatted on:

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Welcome to the first episode of Sober·ish Uprising, a space where we share all versions of sobriety. We believe labeling sobriety as black and white is a limitation to those who know they want to do things differently. In Sober·ish Uprising we share sober·ish stories and the freedom that comes when we say no to booze.

Tracie is one of those people I met years ago and knew I would always want to keep track of. We met more than 10 years ago when we both worked in athletics and I have always been inspired by her joy for life and ability to beat to her own drum.  We both have a career path that is diverse and may not make sense on paper but every stop and decision has a single thread through it. We trusted ourselves and what we wanted for our life.  Along with a diverse background, we also share a joy for being childfree, love for sports and empowering other women to live their best life so it was fun to chat with her.  A self-proclaimed learned extrovert (which you would never know), Tracie has a passion for supporting those who have a voice that needs to be heard. With over 20 years of branding experience, Tracie works with individuals and brands to get their story heard. As someone who felt her voice wasn't heard growing up, she is on fire to help those who feel the same way. She is also a published author, music manager and former radio show host. So many of us don't think we have a brand but that is not true. We all have a brand. We all have a reputation and image of how we show up in the world. You don't have to have a product or a business to create YOUR brand. Your brand is not only what people say about you but a guiding light for how you are living your life. We spoke about Fear of Failure vs. the Fear of success, how its great to get the guidance of those you trust but equally as important to say No to what doesn't serve you and the importance of mourning losses and moving forward. She also shared  how she is handling planning and hosting a wedding during a world-wide pandemic by staying connected to what's really important.   Keep up with Holly www.hollykrivo.com  Instagram: hollykrivo Keep up with Tracie Instgram: tracie.hitz www.hitzandbranding.com 

“We all have a story. Either we don’t give value to our story or we let our story have power over us because of past experiences, shame, guilt, etc. I want to show women how to flip the paradigm for themselves and harness the power of their own story so they can shine a light out in the world.”

In today's episode I spent time with certified  coach April Pertruis and founder of Light Beamers, where she helps women use their story to get clear on their purpose, build their audience and grow their brand.  A natural born story teller, April believes every single person has a story (or stories) to tell that will light the way for others and that if we knew the impact and power our stories could make we would shout it on the rooftop. 

We talked about how acknowledging and naming fear is the key to moving through it and how sitting on our story does a disservice to everyone but mostly ourselves. She shared the #1 reason she believes women don't tell the stories of their heart and how at the end of the day your story doesn't belong to you, it's there to serve others.  And a bonus, she shared a story that involved a strip club owner and mob boss! I bet you didn't think that was coming next. 

This isn't just for entrepreneurs but for every woman or man out there who has a story on their heart they want to tell.  It's for those who want to create meaningful connections and change the world. It's for all of us. 

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This is a bonus episode of Chill & Grace where you can experience first hand coaching! I was inspired by Esther Perel's podcast, Where Should we Begin?, where she shows real-time counseling session. What I love about her podcast is listening to the power of questions and listening to create aha moments and meaningful change. I wanted to show the same in coaching. 

Coaching is so powerful. Its about discovering what is inside of you and the safe place to explore it. It's being open and transparent with yourself. It’s being held accountable for what you want by investing and dedicating resources to make your life work for you. Coaching is about taking the time to look at your current life and make changes to create the life you want. 

In today's episode I have a session with Tameeka where we dive into Impostor Syndrome and all the things that come with it!

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Laurice had it all. Loving husband, four healthy kiddos and living in a beautiful community. She loved her life AND felt like there was something more out there for her. It wasn't until tragedy struck that she acknowledged the nudge for something more which helped her not just survive but thrive during the hardest time of her life.  Laurice shares the journey of losing her husband and how realizing she had a choice over her circumstance gave her the power she needed to show up when life was not great. 

We talked about acting in way that your future self will thank you for, how giving hope is not always the kind thing to do and the discernment of knowing if one is searching for answers or running from the truth. We talked about how no matter what our circumstances are, no one can take away our choice over our thoughts, actions and memories and how acknowledging a nudge or spark in our life that we want something more is not selfish, it's our responsibility.  

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“In the South there was a strong sense of what your future should look like. I remember thinking ‘I don’t even want to be here’. I had a hard time imagining what it would be but I knew it wasn’t what I saw around me. But It was easy to be religious and get married young. I actually don’t think I gave it much thought. I just looked around and thought that’s how we do it.” 

Patti is the Founder of two companies and a powerhouse of a woman but it wasn’t always like this. She was raised in the deep south in a conservative Baptist household where the options of what she saw to be a woman did not align with what she wanted. However, she still found herself on the path of marriage at 20 and a life of what she “should” do. It wasn’t until she woke up one morning and thought “it hurts to live” that her life fell apart and she was able to reconstruct it into her most true life. She has disrupted the norm several times over her in her life and has done so with grace and transparency. 

In today’s episode we talk about how the safe path isn’t always safe and the bigger question of “Is safe even an option”?  We talk about how following your musts over your shoulds is a key to living your truest life and that if it feels scary you are doing it right. And we talk about how believing in yourself is a life-long focus and one that requires daily focus for incremental growth. 

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Sarah is a childfree woman from the UK who reached out in February to share her story on the podcast of being childfree. After reaching out, fear and unease and worry set in and it wasn't until May that we sat down for the podcast. Despite being firm in her decision to be childfree the overwhelming feeling of judgment sat heavy and it wasn't until she realized the power of the stigma that she was freed up to tell her story. 

In this episode we talk about the importance of sitting in your feelings when working through big decisions and how you can make a decision that you are confident in but also have sadness with that decision. Sarah shares how as someone with a background in project management, creating a contingency plan for her decision, gave her added peace with her decision.   

Remington is an ordained Presbyterian Minister and Healthcare Chaplain. She currently works with the sick and dying as well as with their support system as a hospice chaplain. She is one of the kindest, most compassionate and courageous people I know. She was also born a male. 

When I met Remington about 5-6 years ago she was presenting as a man and I have witnessed her journey as she dove into the deep end of living her truth. Although her exterior has changed, her heart, values and love for people has remained the same yet expanded in so many ways once she embraced who she was meant to be. 

This was such as special episode as we talk about her recognizing at the age of 9 that something was different and at the age of 13 seeing a trans woman and feeling something in her stir but in the same moment feeling the shame. Remington shares the years of pushing down who she was meant to be to live a life society instructed her to and that it wasn't until the birth of her son that she had the courage to honor her truth. We also talk about how her faith has changed over the years and how she is a better bedside chaplain now than when she was presenting as a man.

I have never seen someone trust themselves to disrupt the norm in such a big way and as gracefully as Remington has. This podcast was an honor to share with you. 

* A word about today's conversation: While this is an  important episode with so many positive messages, there is some adult language and we do touch on several topics that could be triggering including assault and suicide. Please take care listening.*

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