When we are fixated on one part as opposed to another part, it looks like things are separate. An extreme of this is warfare. We forget to take into consideration the bigger picture, or "Big Mind". Sit down, hold still, and see the relative truth of separate parts. Practice just observing the parts without doing anything with them. This is called patience. In this way, you are using your life to awaken to the Whole.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bPdhY1uZqVM