What if the fear of rejection is really just the fear of being seen? A simple question at a brewery set off a chain of events that reshaped an entire evening during our recent anniversary trip. We're unpacking how practicing Rejection Therapy can lead to unforgettable connections, unexpected joy, and a more confident approach to life. From Sam's unapologetic strategy for accepting rejection to Elliot's inner critic preventing him from asking in the first place, this episode explores the butterfly effect of asking for what you want, even when the answer might be "no."

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Going to the party is arguably more important than self-care for your overall health. Okay, but what does that mean? We're uncovering the urge to bail, balancing rest with connection, and how to show up with intention. Plus: creative ways to host unforgettable gatherings, showing up as the best guest, how to be a “villager,” and why Google Calendar might be the ultimate relationship tool.

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"The Company" is redefining what connection looks like in adulthood and absolutely changed the way we felt about moving to a city where we knew no one and felt immensely lonely. Ivan and Livvy Ruiz-Knott are fellow married friends and co-founders (2 of 3) of "The Company." 

What started as a few friends gathering in a living room is now something much bigger: a space of connection and creativity, where people feel genuinely seen. We uncover the hidden power of consistency, why hosting isn’t just for extroverts, and how silly events like PowerPoint Parties can actually be life-changing (and how you can start all of this for yourself, in your own living room). 

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How the tables have turned! Today's guest is none other than SMH co-host, Samantha Archuleta. We're digging into the reality of marrying young, what legacy really means to a 20-something, and unpacking how Sam seems to make life her b*tch in every possible way (if you know Sam, you know).  

Elliot reminds us that even when you feel like you know everything there is to a person, there's always more. 

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This week's guest is none other than SMH co-host, Elliot Archuleta. With all that's going on in the world, we're reminded how crucial it is to sit with one another and exchange perspectives. We hope that you steal these questions and learn more about even your closest friends (or spouse!). 

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What if the most radical thing you could do… was invite someone to dinner? We sit down with executive director of Longer Tables (and host of the Mile Long Table!), Tim Jones, to get real about the deep seated fears holding us back from connection. From everything you need to know to successfully set your own table and extend an invitation to Tim's top questions for meaningful conversation, we break down how it's all easier than you think. 

If you’ve ever felt lonely in a crowded world, this conversation is for you.

Learn more about Tim's work with Longer Tables. 

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Ever left a social gathering feeling empty because no one asked you a single question? Today I'm swapping Elliot for guest co-host Amanda Fowler and we get real about the conversational give-and-take, why curiosity is the ultimate connection fuel, Amanda's top tips for being a good house guest, and why storytelling is timeless. Plus, Amanda teaches me about MILF Etiquette. 

Watch our first episode with Amanda "Ditching Surface Level Relationships for the Real Thing"

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You committed to an event and when the day comes... you really don't want to go. Why do we say no to connection, even when we want it most? From attending the Mile Long Table in Denver to peer pressuring our future selves, we're getting real about the emotional resistance to social events and why (and how) to go anyway. Whether you're unsure what to do in a room full of strangers or need to hear that awkward silences can actually be a good thing, this conversation is for you. 

Want to be a better conversationalist? Listen to our episode The Power of a Question

Check out Daedalus Howell, the radio host who interviewed Sam.

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The thing that weighs heaviest the older we get? Regret. What does accepting the finitude of our own lives have to teach us about our values? Whether it's "rejection therapy" or building the muscle of saying "no," we're unpacking the art of doing nothing and the trap of convenience in favor of reclaiming our presence (especially in our ever busier world). 

Books and videos mentioned in this episode: 

• Subscribe to our friend Jose's channel, all about dumbphones
• Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman

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We've been named the "Anti-Social Century," but are we truly opting out of in-person connection or have we been conditioned to retreat into isolation with our phones as companions? We're diving into how our culture may be the culprit, how we're unconsciously rewriting our sense of loneliness, and two questions that could radically reshape how you connect. 

Articles and videos mentioned in this episode:

• Becoming The Social Century, Something More Human
• The great friendship collapse: Inside The Anti-Social Century, Big Think
• The Anti-Social Century, The Atlantic

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