Something Positive for Positive People

Something Positive for Positive People

By Courtney W. Brame - Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP.org)BusinessNon-Profit
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Something Positive for Positive People episodes

  • SPFPP Episode 173: Neutralizing Toxicity - Controlling Connection
    Closing out Black History month with another Black guest, myself woop woop. I didn't even realize I did that this month but I'm glad it happened this way.
    I discuss my own experiences with toxicity in relationships and how the inability to express emotions outside sex has been a challenge for me. I learned that my exertion of control through sex with partners is perhaps a trauma response over the safety of safely expressing emotions. The toxicity of this form of manipulation was neutralized through flat out being challenged by my Partner who called me out on it. This led me to realize that it isn't sex I want to control, it's the connection. I'm learning to let go of control by simply setting boundaries and trust that they'll be respected. This was a liberating discovery about myself and I thought it was worth sharing here, in my other safe vehicle of emotional expression, Something Positive for Positive People.
    58 min
  • SPFPP Episode 172: Freedom from Religious Restraints
    We gotta go bullet point style for this one! Diagnosed at age 24 with genital HSV, Ebony shares her experiences leading up to her diagnosis from her home life to intimate relationships. In this episode we talk:
    - Mental health in the Black home
    - Religion's value in the Black home vs mental health
    - Shame of sexuality leading to overt abusive behavior
    - How healing through the herpes community can occur
    This was a great conversation that provokes thoughts about how our beliefs shape our behaviors until they're challenged by reality.
    1 hr
  • SPFPP Episode 171: Black Minds Matter Part 2
    We conclude Bliss' experience with her mental wellness challenges on part 2 of Something Positive People episode 171, Black Minds Matter. We discuss mistreatment for bipolar, how mental wellness for Bliss and myself as 2 people with blackness growing up, and here's a trigger warning for discussions of suicide.
    Something Positive for Positive People is a 501c3 Non Profit organization that connects people who are struggling with their herpes diagnosis to mental health, community support, and education resources in order to help them navigate the stigma. You can visit www.spfpp.org to donate today.
    1 hr
  • SPFPP Episode 171: Black Minds Matter Part 1
    I'm joined for this 2 part episode of SPFPP by 27 year old Bliss, a Black woman who shares her experience being diagnosed with trichomoniasis and herpes simplex virus type 1 while in a relationship. After being unclear about what her initial symptoms were because of her health care provider's language, she thought she only had oral herpes. Ending part 1, we touch on her own mental health struggles including battling depression and suicide ideation.
    59 min
  • SPFPP Episode 170: Carnal Communication - Safer Socializing
    The Dildo Duchess, Zoe Ligon, AKA Thongria, author of "Carnal Knowledge Sex Education You Didn't Get in School", joins Something Positive for Positive People opening up with a complete mind boggler for ya! She found out she had herpes from her boyfriend who she gave oral sex to while she had a coldsore. Yes everyone, coldsores can in fact cause herpes outbreaks, do you know why? Because coldsores are herpes.
    Zoe shares how she had terrible boundaries which were just no boundaries. We discuss how asking for what you want is interconnected with one's ability to say no. We talk through how to exercise boundaries and navigating an STI that you didn't get from sexual contact.
    Zoe can be found on Instagram at @thongria. She is also the Founder of @shopspectrumboutique, an online educational pleasure shop based in Detroit Michigan which you can also follow on Instagram. Zoe and her partner also host a podcast called Hot Brain which I will be an upcoming guest on, so follow that too!
    I'm on social media at @HOnMyChest.
    1 hr 1 min
  • SPFPP Bonus 02: Something Positive for Negative People

    Full disclaimer, this podcast was done as a result of where a conversation was heading after Mark heard me discussing Something Positive for Positive People with someone. He asked about it which lead to the conversation about his current relationship of several years with his girlfriend who has herpes and to this point, has not given it to him. This is a good episode to listen to if you are considering disclosing your condition to someone and would like the potential perspective from someone who's accepted someone and decided to move forward.,If you have recently been disclosed to and wonder what it's like to move forward, then this is also a good episode to listen to. This was being discussed and ten minutes into the convo, I asked Mark if he would be willing to continue the conversation on the podcast, he agreed and bam! Here we are. Excuse the pauses, umms and stutters as I was unable to prepare for this episode or prepare him for being on the show like I normally do. I just knew it had to be done and put our there right away. Episode 9 will still be released November 1. Follow the podcast on Instagram @CourtneyBrame. Please rate and review Something Positive for Positive People on iTunes and Stitcher! Stay Positive.


    26 min
  • SPFPP Episode 169: Intuitive Disclosing
    Disclosure disclosure disclosure! This is the most concerning piece of having a herpes diagnosis. With how 2020 went because of COVID, I think a lot of re-triggering occurred for majority of the population aware of their herpes status. The parallels of disclosing can be so similar between COVID and HSV, and they can be so different. We discuss this a little bit in this podcast episode with our guest, Amanda who has what I find to be the most simple, effective way of identifying whether someone is worth sharing your status with before deciding if you see things going somewhere physically that may put them at risk of contracting herpes.
    52 min
  • SPFPP Episode 168: Comfort and Convenience Over Quality of Self
    You know what, sometimes we try to justify why someone won't have sex with us, or they only want to do so at their convenience or how they want to do it. It's hard to accept but sometimes their issue is in fact that we have herpes. That's okay, because that's their loss. Where it becomes an issue is when we begin to sacrifice our self-worth for the convenience of false connection.
    54 min
  • SPFPP Episode 167: Most of Us Are Okay
    I speak to a couple of DMs I received and just how actually rare it is that we are rejected compared to what we think in our minds. The majority of us with herpes are at an ok place with our herpes diagnosis, I just happen to only hear from various people who are currently struggling, which comes and goes, but it's most important that we understand our blueprints for navigating a herpes diagnosis won't always come from a herpes resource.
    22 min
  • SPFPP Episode 166: Herpes Education - The Gateway to Sex Education
    Some quick takeaways from Jess here:
    The most useful resource for navigating herpes comes from within the herpes community, while the worst are the health care providers diagnosing us with STIs consistently.
    How is stigma so prevalent that your mom can be in the doctor's office with you when you're receiving an oral herpes diagnosis only for her later to say to you don't ever get herpes and then talk about how bad it is?
    We talk of course about how sex ed failed us and how useful therapy is, and then we answer some questions from participants in the IG Live which was dope!
    Thanks everyone for being here. I'll consistently record evenings at 7:30pm central time when I have a guest lined up. right now we have one scheduled for Thursday evening as well if you wanna join the next one.
    1 hr 1 min

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The herpes podcast focused on navigating stigma. Hosted by Courtney W. Brame, Something Positive for Positive People is a 501c3 nonprofit organization supporting people with herpes. We offer 1-1…

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