Somewhat Grown

How does healing take place when the hurt is still fresh? How much benefit of the doubt should we give to people who consistently move a bit mad? What role does self forgiveness play in helping us to forgive others? Join us as we reflect on what has gotten us through 2023, what we look forward to embracing more of in the new year and share what we're learning about forgiveness. We hope you enjoy this final episode of season two!

Joined by two male guests who also happen to be our good friends, we talk about the differences we noticed in how we were raised based on our gender. How were cultural norms played out or challenged as you were growing up, and how does that affect you now? How do we take accountability to become better humans?  Listen as we all chime in on our second audience question about gender differences and family dynamics.

How do you stay connected to your passion when it goes from a hobby into a means for your livelihood? How do you pursue the thing you love in a way that remains soul nourishing? We’re joined by award winning poet and founder of Writerz n Scribez, Jemilea Wisdom-Baako (@PoeticJemz) as we respond to an audience question on whether to chase your dreams as a self starter or financial stability. Jemilea shares her key learnings about asking for help, the importance of fostering well being at work and how creativity can bring healing. We also discuss how to deal with falling out of love with our passion and to evolve with our aspirations. Have your notes app open for this one because it’s full of gems!

What tensions arise between staying on top of work and being kind to yourself? Who gets let down sometimes by how you choose to spend your time? How do you overcome the discomfort of being alone? In this episode, we take a bit of time to do something that we can struggle to make enough space for in our day to day grind: pausing to come up for air. In keeping with our love of speaking authentically, our conversation centres around that golden check in question: how are you really?

We recently turned twenty-nine which means we’re approaching the big adult age of thirty! How do you handle the internal and external pressures that come with reaching a certain age? How do you balance enjoying where you are now with looking forward to where you hope to be in the future? How has journeying through your twenties reshaped your goals and unmet expectations? Listen as we discuss our true feelings about approaching the milestone of turning 30 and meeting the new versions of ourselves dawning on the horizon ahead.

This episode is all about boundaries. How do we cope with the grief from losing a relationship to newly set boundaries? How do we know when it's time to let someone go in order to honour ourselves? What role do our feelings play in deciding our boundaries? Following on from our season 1 episode on boundaries, we go deeper into lessons learned about respecting them since then. To round up, we share our hopes for stepping into age 29 this month (shout out to our fellow June babies)!

We're thrilled to bring you this season's longer episode on therapy, with our first ever guest feature! Joined by psychotherapist Oby Bamidele (@obybamidele), we learn about her journey into becoming a therapist, hear her professional perspective on truth vs myths about therapy, how to navigate opening the pandora's box of our unprocessed feelings and what is truly at the heart of self care and self love: knowing your boundaries. Acknowledging how daunting the process of starting therapy is, we also discuss how to find the right therapist for you. Along with opening up about our journeys with therapy, we also want to share some recommended resources for exploring your own therapeutic journey and mental upkeep for anyone who needs it:

• UK counselling directory - www.bacp.co.uk

In this episode we continue our conversation about faith and how it has progressed with us into our adulthood. Does the way you practise your beliefs look different now to before you became somewhat grown? How have small or significant external happenings such as the pandemic influenced your world view? Listen as we talk about what happens when you've said Jesus take the wheel and He doesn’t even start the car, and what we’re learning about what faith means to us.

What does it look like to live out your world views as you evolve through different life stages? How do our beliefs ebb and flow as we mature? How do we bring up this sensitive aspect of our personal lives in the context of work? In this episode we answer an audience question about whether change comes by force or by choice and start a conversation about how our Christian upbringing plays out in each of our lives now.