Soul Deep Dig

What if you could finally see why your child acts the way they do — or why they won’t take action, no matter how many talks you’ve had?

If you’re a parent who loves your child with every fiber of your being — but still feels stuck, exhausted, and desperate to make things better — this episode is for you.

Whether your child is explosive, withdrawn, anxious, intense, or just “won’t listen,” this conversation helps you see what behavior-based strategies can’t: the deeper, passed-on patterns silently shaping your family from the inside out.

In this honest and compassionate episode, I walk you through:

* Why behavior-focused parenting (without deeper foundation change) often leads to guilt, shame, and shutdown

* The real reason your child may not be changing — or able to take new actions — even with therapy

* How your healing can shift the entire family system (without saying a word)

This isn’t about blaming your child — or blaming you.And it’s definitely not about “fixing” your child.

This is about finally seeing what you may have been looking for your entire life — even back when you were the child asking, “What is going on?!”

✨ This is the missing piece.

💛 Desperate for change? Come check out the Untangling Work.

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Relabel Your Relationships to Reclaim Your EnergyHow rethinking the label of “friend” can free you from invisible pressure.

Are you calling everyone your “friend”—even people you barely know?In this soulful episode, I invite you to explore how using more honest labels for the people in your life can lift a weight you didn’t even know you were carrying.

When we label every old coworker, distant classmate, or casual acquaintance a “friend,” we often take on subtle but heavy expectations—to give, to stay in touch, to care more than we naturally do.

Over time, this builds pressure and emotional clutter, especially for those of us who feel deeply or tend to overextend.

You’ll learn how small shifts in how you name your relationships—internally and out loud—can help you feel more at peace, more clear, and more free in how you move through the world.

You may find this frees you up to get out more, smile more, and engage in life more.

Having Trouble With This?

If even thinking about relabeling people brings up guilt or pressure—you’re not alone. That’s often a sign that deeper patterns are at play.

✨ Untangling Work can help you not just give yourself permission, but actually feel free to make boundaries that protect your energy and honor who you truly are. Visit https://www.askalora.com/untangling for help.

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This short, soulful episode is for anyone craving deeper connection in a world full of noise and eye contact that sometimes feels like too much.

Why listen:If you’ve ever had a breakthrough conversation during a long drive or a deep heart-share by the fire, you’ve felt the quiet power of side-by-side presence. In this short episode, I explore why these moments work — biologically, spiritually, and emotionally — and how we can reclaim this forgotten way of relating in our modern world.

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You’ve done the visualizing. You’ve held the vibe. But what if something deeper—something quieter—has been running the show?

In this episode, we explore the unseen "ticker tape" of unconscious thoughts inherited through your family system. These mental loops can subtly override your intuition, distort your relationships, and block your manifestations—without you even knowing they’re there.

I share how I first discovered this concept through Louise Hay’s work, how it connects to shamanic wisdom and generational healing, and why learning to see these patterns is the first step in truly healing them.

🎥 Curious what a ticker tape machine actually looks like? This short video gives you a peek into the metaphor:👉

✨ Want to go deeper?

If this episode struck a chord, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken.These loops can be untangled.

Start here:👉 www.askalora.com/untanglingThis page walks you through the Untangling Work, a map-based approach to clearing inherited patterns so you can finally live in alignment with your original blueprint.

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* Are you trying to build a career — or a new career — that feels aligned?

* Are you burnt out trying to deal with your business model — or figuring out what yours is?

* Are you pivoting you career at any stage of life?

This episode gives you questions to ask and rethink what you're really creating—not in theory but in your future reality. Do you want what you think you’re getting? Are you getting what you think you want?How do you know?Question vague goals like “helping” or “serving”. Distinguish startup work from destination work. And clear out other people’s goals for you so you can know your own.

Read this as a blog post:https://www.askalora.com/blog/do-you-want-the-careerFor help with this issue, work with me here.

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Have you ever said “I don’t care” and it felt…off?

In this episode of Soul Deep Dig, I’m diving into the subtle but powerful difference between saying “I don’t care” and “I don’t mind.” These small shifts in language do more than change words, they can help you see where you’re pushing against yourself, where you're in protection mode, and where your subconscious might be holding onto something.

This isn’t about saying the “right” thing. It’s about choosing words that are congruent with your deeper self, and learning how to pick those words yourself.

Bonus: this episode also talks about the word “whatever”. (Parents of teens, I see you.)

This one’s for you if:

* You want your words to reflect what’s really going on inside

* You’re spiritually aware but still catch yourself disconnecting under pressure

* You’re ready to stop pushing, resisting, or shutting down

* You want language that helps you stay connected and powerful—even when things are hard

Try it out and see what happens in you.

Love,Alora

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Are you working diligently on manifestation practices without success?

Do you sometimes feel you’re living a false life, or a life that isn’t really yours?

Do you wonder why you keep making choices you think are new decisions but you keep ending up in a similar spot?

Let’s move beyond choosing new thoughts and visualizing to go beneath the surface to see what really needs to be changed.And most importantly, let’s do it without shame or guilt. You are amazing, and you always have been.___

Ready to untangle from your adapted self and manifest with real clarity, finally?Join The School of Clarity to get teaching, support, and help with Untangling and Manifestation.

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Learn to recognize if your positive expectation or high-vibe state is becoming a stress state because of fear and what to do about it.

If you can’t find a “positive expectation” vibe and maintain it long enough for manifestations to appear, you might have something pulling you back while you are pushing forward. This push-pull is stressful!

Listen to this episode to watch me wrestle (nicely) a positive expectation vibe that spiraled into stress back down into my body while bringing my mind along in congruent thought.T

his isn’t the entire process for manifestation - knowing your worth, trusting in the Highest Good Universe and other things like that are critical for success - but this is a peek into this particular problem.

When a vibe that felt good starts to spiral into stress….. this is one way to deal with it.

For more help, go to http://www.askalora.com/school

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It used to be only adults felt like time was going faster because of the “proportion theory” that one year of adult’s life is a smaller proportion of their entire life. So why are teens and young adults now saying time feels faster for them too?

I’m going to walk you through this topic from modern technology through ancient prophesies, cosmic shifts, and great awakenings.

While you can’t change the nature of time, you can learn how to flow with it in harmony with your best rhythm in these changing times.

Get out a notebook and something to write with if you like. Sit back with a cup of your favorite drink and listen. Drive to your next destination and absorb.

Slow down, breathe, consider this episode. It’s worth your time.

For more information on my work, including The School of Clarity Level 2 which includes shamanic wisdom and channeled messages, visit http://www.AskAlora.com.

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There is a decline in in-person gatherings and connection in this hyper-digital and convenience-driven world in part because we don’t need to gather to survive (such as bring in the crops together), we aren’t bored enough, and we’ve been encouraged by convenience.

However, social health is as important as physical health and the results are starting to show. We must re-frame our thinking about why folks aren’t RSVPing and showing up so that we can activate compassion and understanding and help people connect together again even in these modern times. To learn more about my work visit https://www.askalora.com.

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