There are so many factors that can be contributing factors to what shapes our soul and what inflicts Soul Wounds. In this episode we explore how society, gender, cultural messages of shame, and certainly our family of origin--the family we grew up in--can leave us with Soul Wounds. With today's episode we want to help you identify both sources of these soul wounds and how they are impacting you today. Dr. Tom shares about his own fear of Inadequacy and Failure, something that many men today face. We also explore Active Abuse and Passive Abuse and some of the behaviors and adaptations to help you get a sense of the Soul Wounds that God wants to help you heal from. And finally we walk you through the Soul Healogram, one of the tools of the Soul Healing Love Model that helps you learn about your family of origin that creates the data or the blueprint for how you see the world and others.

We all have basic fears that we carry with us, and these fears create a narrative that we tell ourself: messages that we tell us about us. But fears are not innate. They are learned fears, and since they are learned, we can UNLEARN these fears and combat these messages so that we can live in healing and freedom.

Today we dive into the Neuroscience behind trauma and how your brain processes trauma to understand why you react to past hurts or Soul Wounds as we call them in Soul Healing Love. Learn more about how your primitive, lizard brain takes over when you are triggered and how the Fight, Flight, or Freeze system activates. We talk through anatomy of the brain and how it operates to influence the way we perceive our experiences, and how we then project these perceptions and assumptions onto others. We define the Power Struggle state in a relationship and how it creates miscommunications and conflict with others, whether with our romantic partner, our friends, our family or coworkers. Most importantly we teach you how to look past the unconscious assumptions and fears that lead us to PTSD-like brain reactions to find healing and intentionality in your life to respond rather than react.

Soul Healing Love is a model of counseling that helps you look at yourself--your current ways of thinking and behaving that are keeping you from growth, the way you lived as you grew up in your own family, and how you react to people and your environment--so that you can move into a life of positive change and growth. Today's episode is with the founders of the model, Drs. Beverly and Tom Rodgers, and they walk you through the basic ideas that lay the foundation for Soul Healing Love. You will learn What is a soul wound and how is it impacting you today? How does does your brain process and store painful, traumatic memories? What happens when these memories are triggered? And most importantly, how can you begin to move past these reactions and into intentional, healthy living?