Family… lean in and become intensely present. What you call a “connection” often behaves like a courtroom where your unhealed wounds keep sentencing you to life without parole. You think you choose a partner, but your nervous system—wired by abandonment, inconsistency, and chaos—often delivers a verdict well before you even take the stand in your own defense. Trauma bonds masquerade as divinely cosigned soul ties because pain speaks in a dialect you mistake for destiny.