She tried something unconventional on her first date: a psychology theory from the 60s. 12 years of marriage later, she told me exactly what she did.
Tune in to my conversation with Sandy Gerber and learn:
- How Sandy turned a "spectacular failure" into a mission to decode communication.
- What the four emotional magnets are and how they drive every conversation you have.
- How to identify your own dominant emotional magnet.
- Why your emotional magnets can shift depending on the season of life you're in.
- How to craft messages that actually connect by speaking to someone's emotional magnet instead of their behavior.
- What the 16 communication blockers are and why "identifying" with someone's story can actually break connection.
- Why labeling people by behavior ("you're a workaholic," "you're controlling") kills empathy — and what to say instead
- How Sandy used the emotional magnets on her first date with her now-husband, and how the same tool can reveal if your relationship is drifting.
Sandy Gerber is a Communication Coach, Emotional Intelligence Trainer, TEDx speaker, author and speaker.
She is the author of Emotional Magnetism which has won 24 international book awards. In 2026, Sandy was ranked #16 in the Global Gurus Top 30 Communication Professionals.
Connect with Sandy:
Website: https://sandygerber.com
Book: Emotional Magnetism (Amazon & Audible)
https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Magnetism-Communicate-Connection-Relationships/dp/177458199X
Sandy Gerber Speak Brave Program:
https://sandygerber.com/speakbrave/