Spirit of the Deal

Stop in and check out the conversation that Jean & I had reviewing her recent book "The Journey From Anxiety to Peace: Practical Steps to Handle Fear, Embrace Struggle, and Eliminate Worry to Become Happy and Free".

Jean Walters is a Saint Louis based teacher of self-empowerment principles for over thirty years. She has studied metaphysics extensively and applies univeral principles to every area of her life.

Jean's mission is to guide people to the Light - to encourage, instruct, and assist others to live freely and express from their Highest Selves. Jean is an Amazon Best Selling Author.

She has been listed in Who's Who over 30 times.

Connect with Jean over at https://spiritualtransformation.com/

Transcription by otter.ai

Unknown Speaker 0:00 Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you've questioned so much more than those around you. You've even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? Why do people in general appear so limited in their thought process? Rest assured, you are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can't quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask, but knew the answers to questions about you this world the people in it? Most importantly, how do I proceed? Now moving forward? We don't have to have all the answers but we sure do love living in the question. I for another head of spiritual dub with your host, Brandon Handley. Let's get right into today's episode.

Brandon Handley 0:42 Hey there spiritual dope. I'm on today with Jean Walters. She's the author of the journey from anxiety to peace, practical steps to handle fear, embrace, struggle and eliminate worry to become happy and free. Now Jean has written a large number of other books and has you know, she's been at the forefront in this movement for personal transformation, clarity and truth for over 40 years through her writings, consulting coaching and Akashic Record readings, which we got to talk about for people all over the world. She's been a consistent source of light, clarity and inspiration, she's intention and commitment to deepest truth have brought her to share her wisdom and guidance to 10s of 1000s of clients and students as the leading authority on metaphysics, she promotes deep spiritual connection and enlightenment. She's authored articles and columns and major newspapers and magazines all over the United States, and is a best selling author on amazon.com. There's quite a bit more here, which will be part of the post. But your overall mission gene is to lead people to light to encourage, guide and assist others to live freely and express from their highest selves. Yes,

Unknown Speaker 1:52 thank you, instead.

Brandon Handley 1:55 Thank you. Thank you, and thank you for being on today really looking forward to the conversation happened for a little bit here. Now, one of the things that we touched on there, see Akashic Record reading, and I think it's gonna play really well into how I like to open these up. And that is, there's somebody who is listening to this podcast today. And as you and I are designed more as like these vessels for energy to speak through, right? What is that message that somebody needs to hear from you today? That's kind of sources speaking through you,

Jeane Walters 2:30 you know what, as we talk, they're going to find their message. So we'll probably cover a range of topics and ideas through this podcast, but something's going to stand out to each person that listens, that at the end of every class, I say to this, who is what was it that stood out to you tonight, and they always have something and the point of it is, is that you're going to hear something different than maybe I do, but it's going to resonate to exactly where we are in life. And that always works. It's, it always works because spirit is omnipresent, omniscient, omnipotent, and it's always there, we're in it, we're above it, we're living in it, we're breathing it. And so we're constantly being guided every single day to what it is that we need to understand, change, let go of move forward with the opportunities are there. So somebody I what you really, I hope people will email you and say, Hey, this is what I heard. That would be wonderful for you. And then you're pass that on to me. And we'll both we'll both celebrate. How's that?

Brandon Handley 3:32 Absolutely. I love that. Right? That says nothing better than somebody reaching out to you and letting you know how you've impacted them. Yes. And And to your point, you never know what is they're going to hear or receive. And they come back with some of the kind of uncanny things like, wow, okay, I didn't hear that in the conversation. But I'm glad you did.

Jeane Walters 3:52 And people call me like, 40 years later and go, you said this, and it changed my whole world. And I went, Oh, well, that's cool. I don't remember saying it sounds like something I would say.

Unknown Speaker 4:05 Sure.

Jeane Walters 4:06 It's always thrilling when that I get that kind of feedback.

Brandon Handley 4:09 That is absolutely. So let me let's talk a second about how you found yourself in this space to begin with. And I love the listeners to understand that and a lot of us, myself included, I mean, I'm probably three or four years into this kind of journey myself. So I'm super curious to hear how you came into it and how you stuck with it and what that's done for you.

Jeane Walters 4:29 Yes, well, I had the opportunity to grow up with a very fear based mother and so she was a constantly worried constantly anxious and pretty much a wreck and today we would probably have diagnosed or medicated her and you know, so forth. But back then we didn't do any of that stuff. But she was she was everything I read accuse her that you could make a hangnail into cancer, you know, because everything was just disastrous. So I I didn't like it and I was constantly talking trying to talk Come out of it. And I was trying, I was pointing out things that she could be happy about all the time. And so we were fighting, and we were, we were like on opposite ends of things. But the thing that occurred to me is that I'm going to find another way, I'm going to find another way. In fact, I'm going to eliminate worry from my life. And, and that's exactly what my journey was started. You know, I started reading and studying and finding ways and this was before you heard about meditation, and now it's rampant. But this was before that, and I did, I went into some metaphysics classes, I learned to meditate. I read the Bhagavad Gita, I read the life of masters of the Far East, I just gobbled it up. And but the thing is that I learned how to practice it, because I have a very practical side to me where I don't want to just hear about it. And I don't want to read about it, I want to do it. So that's how it moved me forward into a different kind of lifestyle. So I can say that I have eliminated worry from life, because I see that there's another way to be, you can get above the things that are going on, and you can look at it from another dimension, and you can get your answers that way. But when people Meyer themselves, and I mean, that's the right word, Meyer themselves into trauma and drama, and so forth, all they can see is more trauma and drama. And that's what was going on with my mother. So she was unable, she was unwilling, I think, in many ways, she was unwilling to actually look at life from another point of view. But I at the very end, she was she actually thanked me and was very respectful, which I thought was pretty amazing. For someone like that, you know, it I I saw her anxiety affecting her health, and I really knew that it was affecting all of us as a family. So anyway, I don't know, I think, I think that was a gift in many ways, because it really motivated me to look beyond to find other ways to dealing with life. And there are answers everywhere. I mean, Jesus gave us a lot of answers. So did Buddha, and probably every other master that we could study, you know, they all had the same kind of answers to help us though.

Brandon Handley 7:14 I love it. Um, it you know, when you when you say it like that the the idea, even like we already said is that, you know, you've got Buddha, you got Jesus, and they've got their, you know, they're their kind of doctrine, if you will, or at least knowledge that then wisdom that they passed on. But each person is kind of going to have a different approach to that. And they're only going to be able to hear maybe so much from from one of those. So you need, I think you need all those different flavors, if you will, so that everybody's able to kind of come at it from a different direction.

Jeane Walters 7:45 Well, they were kind of like the finger pointing in the direction, basically, I don't think they were here to be worship. In fact, I don't I know for a fact that they did not, that was never their intention, but they pointed the finger in a direction and the direction is really self mastery. So that's, you know, basically what I'm getting to more in this book is how to manage how to take control of your own mind. because your mind is the part of you that creates your experience. And if we're constantly looking at what if this, and what of that and what I should be afraid of today, then we're gonna constantly be creating, you know, an experience of fear and drama and pain and suffering, which is unnecessary. But we have but is it by discipline, because we have been surrounded with all kinds of negative messages. I mean, just all you have to do is turn on the TV for five minutes, and you've got a half a dozen right there. So we have to choose very carefully who we allow in our life, what kind of activities we partake in how we choose to look at these things. And you know, it's like, I think you and I were talking a little bit earlier that an opportunity can show up or, you know, to meet a certain person or to try a new experience, what I've learned to do is listen to my intuition and go, is this something I need to do? Is this some business, right? And when it clicks, as I say, what sort of clips then I move forward with it. And I think anybody can do that. It's not magic or anything, but we have to train our minds so that we're actually receptive. Also, people tend not to create goals, they don't decide this is, like I said, early, you know, I want to learn away so worries, not even part of my life. And I so that was a focus. And because of that focus, I took all the steps to move in that direction. It didn't happen overnight. But I learned and I think that's the thing that people have to understand is that this is not this is not like a lightning strike that hits you and all of a sudden you're aware, but but it's a matter of steps because we we have to in many ways we have to move beyond the the ideas and beliefs that we were taught you know, I that's a big thing that I do is I help people recognize where they got stuck, what kind of belief they bought into that has kind of in many ways messed up their life. And unworthiness is a universal thing. You know, and they base it on the craziest stuff, you know, be I'm unworthy just because I must be because that's what I was taught. That's silly.

Brandon Handley 10:24 Yeah, like that. I mean, you talked about one in the book to the, the, he talks about kind of putting yourself not first, right, because, you know, some of you are maybe smarter or raver come to answers ahead of others. So you learned a lesson, you thought the lesson then was, hey, I need to hold back and let the rest of the group catch up. You want to talk about that for a second, and maybe how you broke through that one?

Jeane Walters 10:48 Here. Yeah, that was a very powerful remembrance that I had. And it was only a few years ago, I remember that. And then it kind of made sense to me how I had been conducting my life. But I'm a twin. And my twin sister was always a little bit behind on certain things like math and things like that. And so I was constantly like, you know, Gene, teach Jane, you know, Gene, she doesn't get it work with her. And so I learned how to be a teacher early in life. But one day, my mother, my sister, and I, and we were together with our third grade teacher. And she said to my mom, Jean is ahead of the class, and she could skip the next grade. But Jane is with the class and she's right where she needs to be. So I think you should hold Jean back, because it would embarrass Jane. So think about all the messages that were there, you know, the message is, Jane's embarrassment is way more important than jeans moving where she needs to be. And, and so I was basically taught to be ahead, or to be in some way smarter, was not the thing that was going to be honored, what was going to be honored. And this was definitely honored and my family, the poor, the victim, the poor, poor me person, that was the one that got the attention. So I disengaged early in life and became very independent. Because I saw this phenomena I saw really that you know, and I would even try to talk her out of it. Now I can change, you can do this, of course, you can do this. So later in life, I realized, oh my gosh, that's a phenomena that has taken hold in my life like I hold back, because I know the answer, but they don't. So I'll wait. And I and I have done that I did that. It really made me very mad, which was a good thing. Because I was I wasn't mad at myself for buying into it. But of course, I was a kid at the time. And I think some of the people in your audience are going to this is going to resonate to them, I really do believe. But at the same time, I thought no more. I'm never holding back again. And so that became my credo from there that point forward is like, if I feel an urge to take a trip, or learn a new subject, or speak in front of crowds, or whatever, doing it, I'm doing it. And even if it scares the crap out of me, I'm going to go do it anyway. In fact, I'm going to do it twice as hard.

Brandon Handley 13:16 Yeah, one of the things that I heard another two is a, Your Honor, anger almost a little bit, right, you had this energy. Yeah, this is something that recently for me, had always been dismissive, kind of, of like, my anger or whatever. And more to your point, like when you grow up, you know, you, your parents be like, Well, you can't be mad at this. Can't be mad at that. So it's like a kind of a depression, right? Well, I guess I won't be angry at this, and I won't be angry and mad the other day, and, and it was a, I just held it for a minute. I was like, You know what, that's I'm just angry. And that's okay. You know what, that's that's what that emotion is that I'm feeling. And you could take it from there and redirect it right. And, you know, kind of redirect that energy. But there's no sense in not acknowledging it for what it is to open this other door for you. Right, that, you know, that anger, that frustration when you found it and acknowledged it opened a new door for you?

Jeane Walters 14:09 Yes, it did. And also, the other thing I would urge people to do is when they feel that anger to ask themselves some questions, what am I really angry about? Because I can say I'm angry at my teacher, I'm angry at my mom, I'm angry at my sister. But really, it was me that took on the message and said, Okay, now you have to hold back. They didn't say it. I just said it to myself. And that's what happens with most people. They take something and then they internalize it and make it about themselves. You know, and though that's so those are some of the things we're in what I work with someone I can catch that and go, this is what I heard you saying this is where you're telling yourself you can't move forward. Right? And when a lot of times when they just see it, it's like whammo, you know, like for me, it was a breakthrough. And, and for them, it could be a breakthrough. too, so we have a lot of breakthroughs in life if we learn to use them. I don't think anger is bad. I think it's really hard on you if you live in anger.

Brandon Handley 15:09 Sure, sure. I mean, again, like SOS It was a I've been dismissive of anger, right? And kind of like I had like, a wall off from from accepting or acknowledging the emotion versus Okay, that's anger, you know, to your point. Where's that coming from? Why am I feeling it? Am I angry at me? Or the situation? Right, you know, just don't even pretend.

Jeane Walters 15:32 What do I believe that I'm angry about? Sure.

Brandon Handley 15:34 Yeah, I mean, because the opportunity to kind of take one step back away from it. And I love that you kind of talked about this in the book, tuners, a.

Jeane Walters 15:42 angers powerful. Yeah, it's very powerful. And I what I notice about anger is we people get angry, when it's time to take a step forward. Anger is like something that serves you, if you use the power of it to move forward. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 15:58 yes, it's making me think it's making me think of the thrust of wings, right? Like, you're right. I'm just gonna get every lift off out of here. So

Unknown Speaker 16:07 so I really Yeah,

Brandon Handley 16:09 I like that, too. So and one of the things that to anxiety that your book is kind of covering anxiety, right, how to go from anxiety to another. And, and one of the ideas that struck me, and I'm not sure if this is true, like you are not on anxiety, but like, to me anxiety is kind of like this energy source and not being able to direct it right, appropriately. And, and so you're just kind of like, ooh, what do I do with all this, and then having no internal or external appropriate, quote, unquote, direction causes this, this anxious thing happens, that makes sense,

Jeane Walters 16:42 oftentimes, is being in it, whatever the in it is, you know. But one, one thing I would say, and I say, to give you an immediate change, is if you're sitting, then get up, or if you're inside, go outside, whatever you're doing, stop that and do something different. Just shift it, shift the energy, and just like that, you'll get some relief. But once you like, let go of what you're doing and where you're at, then you can actually move your mind to a higher place, like imagine that you're sitting on top of a mountain, and you're looking down at the problem, whatever you think the problem is, and you're just sitting there observing it, without any feeling, just watching it, your mind will now be open to some other ways of dealing with some possibilities will come through. But we have to shift our mind to get out of that mindset first, you know, and most of the time, we're anxious because we're feeling helpless, or it but the truth of the matter is, you're you're never really helpless. You, you can always do something different. You know, even if it's like, stop everything, go to the gym for a while or just get outside and take a short walk five minutes, you'll come back, you'll you'll be have a new fresh mind, your mind will always channel your answers, if you discipline your mind to be able to do that. Do you want to talk about that?

Brandon Handley 18:07 Yeah, I do. So I think he talks about it in the book too, right? And I'll give you just my perspective. And see we'll play off of that if that's okay, you know, just kind of, you know, your, your your consciousness, like what we're eminently aware of, like, I can see you You can see me we can hear this conversation, but the, to leverage it as kind of a filter as to kind of what you accept, assess like the, we'll call it the 5%. Right? That's my active brain. And then my subconscious is the rest of my brain like another 95% of there's like, this is the thing that breeds my breath, does my blood draws my hair knows, I don't know how to do any of that. But I'm doing it right. So once I realized I'm doing all these super powerful things already, I'm like, Well, why don't I toss this question that like this 5% of like, my brain does, like, there's a squirrel type stuff, right? I'm like, Alright, well, I tossed you know, the the one that's got the capability to breed the breath and do all these things. I'm going to toss the I'm gonna toss the question to that. Yeah. And, and, and just walk away? Because I don't know that I mean, so how is your approach similar? Where would you you know, I'm sure yours is different. But I'm just curious. So

Jeane Walters 19:20 no, I love that. But because it's like getting into the not knowing is what I call it getting into not knowing is powerful. And the reason it's powerful is because we open our mind to the field that knows, but we can't open our mind to the field that knows, as long as we're going, Well, I know what I have to do. And I'm going to do this and I'm going to do that. And this is way we've always done it and so forth. And all we're doing was is on the dribble. We'll go around it. Yeah. So if you take if you go to not knowing and go, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know it. I just think there's tremendous power in that. My method is to meditate and so basically What I'm doing is going into my 5%, as you would call it into my Viber set and just yielding to it, and allowing myself to just live in that spaciousness, because it's very spacious. And to just be there, and whether if I have a question, okay, but sometimes I just go, there could be in the spaciousness, what it does is condition, your mind that it conditions your mind, and your mind is way bigger than your brain, by the way. But I know you know that. It conditions you to be able to live in this spaciousness all the time. So a lot of people don't understand it, because it's very nebulous. I mean, there's not a forum to it, you know, and we like to have forms to everything. But anyway, once we learn to practice that, you'll notice that people who meditate regularly are calmer, they don't tend to be reactive, so much. They're just they just healthier, because the blood pressure goes down. I mean, all of this been documented. But I love your idea about, go to the 5%. And just listen to that for a while. When you meditate. After a while your intuition gets stronger and stronger. We all have intuition everybody does, but it gets stronger, stronger to where you're really learning how to listen to it all.

Brandon Handley 21:15 Thank you. And then you know, kind of the idea of, you know, what you focus on, right? I mean, that's the other thing too, right? If you focus on that victimhood, you know what happens, right, and then how I weigh it, let's talk a little bit about that. And maybe how you've gotten some clients to shift?

Jeane Walters 21:32 Well, first of all, you have to point it out to them. And, you know, if they're real attached to it, they don't like it. If you put it, but but you know, I feel like my job is my job. And if they come here, then they're ready for me. So you have to point out that Oh, my gosh, you sound very much like a victim, you know, like, and you're letting this person run you. And I pointed out a lot, you know, I mean, people do it. Like you're letting the news run you right now and you're letting the politics and what everybody's saying run you I had a little girl in here. She's 18 very cute. And she said, I asked her a question about how do you feel about that? And she said, Well, I I have to I have to talk to my friends. And I go, No, no, no, no, I don't want to consensus. I only want to hear what you have to say about it. What do you feel? And she was like a deer in the headlight. She She was so not used to just coming from our own heart. But when I said, No, wait, just tell me what you think she did. And she was so clear and so perfect. And I was hoping that that was the moment she walked away with that, that she doesn't need a consensus to figure out what she what she feels. So but I think that's kind of typical. I hear it a lot like, well, so and so said this, and so and so said that I went and what are their credentials now?

Brandon Handley 22:51 Yeah, I mean, you know, look, we've been, we've been conditioned to look for others for answers all the time, right? School, go through school. Everybody else in front of us got the answers. Yeah, you're at home, you know, your parents have the answers for what's best for you. And even as a parent, right, like, I realized, I don't have the best answers for my own children. Right, like, but that's how we grew up. Right. That's kind of how we grew up. I think that I'd be curious on your take, too. Are you seeing from you know, you've been you've been at this for a little bit now. Are you seeing a pickup, a rise in consciousness and awareness? I like to I like the word awareness, I think more Are you seeing present arise?

Jeane Walters 23:33 I do. I think this whole time period that we're in right now is chaotic, but the thing about it is, is we're moving as a whole quantum field, we're moving into a different part of our growth, we're changing from a very masculine, you know, very aggressive kind of energy into a calmer, more nurturing energy. And it's kind of a mess. I mean, we're, we're moving from one to the other. We're not in one completely. We're not in the other completely. So it's kind of mixed up right now. But but it's all moving. And if we look around we go. There's people being very kind. There's people. Here's something I hear all the time, I'm simplifying my life, I'm simplifying my life, I'm giving everything away. You know, I don't want to have all this stuff anymore. And I think that's a sign that's a sign and I'm here at least every day, that people are just moving into a simpler energy. They don't want to be cluttered anymore. Yeah, they don't want to be owned by the what they own found out

Brandon Handley 24:33 that I mean, because he owned you, and the things that you have basically own you right and that or identify you and

Jeane Walters 24:43 you have to take care of them. You know, they're taking space in your house, or you're paying for their space that they're sitting in a box on the shelf. That'll never be in

Brandon Handley 24:51 the boxes. Lots of boxes. One of the things that you've got in the book I really enjoyed too, and I think you touched on it for Second, is that in your spiritual nature, you are also perfect. Right? We talk about this reminds me of a line that I heard from Bob Proctor a lot. It's just like your spiritual DNA is perfect. Yes. Right. So what do you mean by that? Like? And how can how can I begin to use that as a seed for my own greatness?

Jeane Walters 25:22 What a lovely question. When you see a baby, you see pure light and energy you see love, you see inquisitiveness, you see, adventure, you know, you see, what is this? And what is that? And how does it work, and I want to do it, and you see joy and laughter, right, that's our true nature. And so what we do tend to do is look at our body, we look at our things, we look at our form, and then we judge Well, you know, my nose is too big, or my losing hair, whatever it is, we make up in our mind. And we make that, you know, I, I, this thing about finding, you know, finding something wrong with you. I mean, a lot of that has been grown out of religion as a matter of fact, but as pure as pure energy. And when in the violences, God made light and called it good. And if you look, if quantum physicists look deep, they say take a microscope and look deep, deep, deep into everything, every substance, and you what you'll find is light. So that means if you look inside of us, you're going to find light. I've seen it since I was a little kid the light. But so that's who we are, we are the light, but we've taken on all these other identities. So. So when we're rebel, for instance, then we're living out of rebelliousness, which can be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on how we use it. But we're forgetting that who we are as a as a being is perfect. So that means when we come from love, we're perfect. But we're always perfect. As a spiritual being, we're always always perfect. It's when we identify with something beyond that, that's when we get in trouble. That's when we that's when we look at ourselves and find fault and judgment and so forth. Does that make sense? Is that

Brandon Handley 27:13 it does, I enjoy that. It's just so once you realize I yeah, once you realize that, you know, applying that right? And so I think, you know, for example, what I do is I once I realized that I used that as a seed for just to let my spirit grow, right? Not necessarily make myself feel better about anything, but just to realize that creature of divinity creature, the light, right type of thing, and again, spiritual DNA is perfect. So what am i growing? You know, I'm you look, I'm not gonna sit here and say, I'm perfect. You belong in

Jeane Walters 27:49 consciousness to have that awareness that you are in every moment, that perfect self. Yeah, you know, and that means if you fall off your bike, you just get back up and get on your bike, it doesn't mean anything about you. It doesn't mean you're a bad bike rider or that you're a klutz, or anything else, it just means you fell off your bike. Sure, all that life is that, you know, we define ourselves too much at the times, but what we did or did not do, and, and that's, it's good to learn from those things. But it's not okay to define yourself as a loser, or even a winner or, because that's a definition again, and it live, every definition limits ourselves. It Right now, we said we're probably going to Democrat, we're an independent, we're, we're, we're limiting ourselves, because then we had to fit into that mold, whatever we dream up that mold to be. And we're, we're we're more than that. We're more than that. So I think this whole idea that we have spiritual, our spiritual DNA is perfect is realizing that whatever direction we go, we're gonna find our way.

Brandon Handley 28:57 Let's talk about that a little bit, too, because I really love that you hit on that in the book as well, you know, kind of no matter what choice you make, you're gonna be okay. Right. So let's talk to the audience a little bit about that. And maybe some examples of where you seen that play out for yourself.

Jeane Walters 29:14 Well, divorce. I mean, the first time I got a divorce, it was like, Oh, my God, you know, it was a stigma. And yet at the same time, and I've worked with so many people and picked on was there's more diverse people than there are people are long term marriage, you know, that allowed, you know, I feel like there's a theme and a purpose to every marriage and every relationship, for instance. And that when you maybe it's to help you that my first marriage was to help me become very strong and independent, and to learn how to be responsible. I had four kids, you know, so there was a lot of responsibility there and I learned it but there was a point at which I needed to grow beyond that, and I was not going to be Be able to I was going to be held back again, hold back. So it was time to move on and and find another way. So is that a failure? Is that a success? What is it? You know, it's To me, it's like, it's not even falling off your bike, it's just realizing this particular part of the pathway is now complete. And I like the idea of going you completed that graduated from that. And because I think that's a more accurate way of looking at things than to say, Oh, that was so sorry, that failed for you. And it didn't fail. You know, it was a great success. I was even confronted someone on the radio, and he said, Oh, boy, you're just saying whatever you're saying, because your marriage failed. And I said, I didn't have a failure of a marriage. My marriage was perfect. You know, it got me exactly where I needed to be. And hopefully him too, depending on because willingness, you know, but I think that's a really typical example for a lot of people. And the same thing is true with jobs. I've seen people there was a fellow I met who was a head engineer at this company. And he had been there a long time. And he was going to be a lifer. And something happened in the company, that and they went down, the buck fell on his desk, and they said, you know, your fire, you can't be here anymore. And he, first of all, he grieved. And then he said, Wait a minute, I've always wanted to start my own company. And he said, I never would have done that as long as I was in that situation. And so he started his own company was very, very successful. So I think that that's how I look at things that happen for me and with other people is that there's beginnings, and there's endings, there's always beginnings. And the first time I did a lecture, I was a total mess. But I know I was scared. And so what I did was, of course, I did it. And it was not very good. But each time then I went out to do a lecture I asked myself, so what exactly happened just then? And when did you get comfortable? And what made you comfortable? And when I started answering those questions and looking at the whole experience, I realized, when I decided to shift my attention to the audience, and not to me, I was fine after that. So. So that's why the transitioning, inexperienced is a wonderful thing. Because you you can learn so many beautiful truths, by just observing it and asking yourself some questions. But the second you start judging it, then you're, you're kind of lost, because now it's a bad experience. You know, I've heard people told me that being sick was the best thing that ever happened to them, because they realized they weren't doing what they really wanted to do. And they can one gal one fella told me, he decided to become a clown. And he said, I've always wanted to be a clown. And so he decided to become a clown, because he got sick. And he realized I can't waste my life anymore. So those are the things that I just really get a lot of inspiration from that. That's kind of how I conducted myself.

Brandon Handley 33:11 So if you're sick, you know, you're not doing what you maybe you should be doing. realign yourself. And so I think that that's, that's also a lot of fun. And I think that there was, you know, another similar relationship that you mentioned in the book, too, that I thought was pretty cool, right? Like, there was a woman who had grown past that kind of relationship, but it was her self that needed the focus. And so she gave herself the focus. And it was just within that, that time that you know, she became happier and kind of let go with some other aspects in the relationship that she been giving energy and attention to, and therefore how to happier relationship.

Jeane Walters 33:49 Yes, yeah, right. That happens all the time. Yep, sometime, Brandon. And because we were so sort of programmed with this idea that we're here for everybody else. And I love the idea of service. I love the idea of service. But I think the first person I serve is me, you know, because there's no way I can serve anyone else if I don't pay if I haven't nurtured the quality wisdom within my own self, you know? So yeah, my mother was a great martyr. And we all all three of the girls learn Marty damn well, but I would catch it and go, Oh, my God, that's my mother. And, you know, and I need to stop and reevaluate and go, Wow, how much do I give and how do I give and what really works for me because I am a giver. But I don't want to exclude myself in the process, because that's part of what made her sick. And it makes everybody sick.

Brandon Handley 34:51 Let's uh, right. So, you know, kind of what you're saying to and you also said this in the book, give, give, give like friendship. Brain give of yourself and I love the I forget where I heard it, but you're, you know, you are the giver and the gift. Yes. So So what does that mean to you and just share that with with the group.

Jeane Walters 35:15 We have energy coming in through us all day long it comes into us. And then our job is to give it out. Okay, so we can give it out through a smile. And we can give it out through applause. Or we can give it out through supporting someone or we can give it out through writing a book or doing a podcast or giving out energy. And so many if we don't know how to do that, well, if we're not following the our own inner voice, and if I'm an artist, I want to give art, if I'm counselor, I want to give help and wisdom and support. So when we're when we're listening to that we're giving it but what happens is it comes right, the energy comes right back into us only it's multiplied. So giving is a very powerful thing. And the giver is is the one that gets the most out of it. But what we're giving is, whatever I am is what I'm giving. So I'm giving nurturing, I'm giving kindness, I'm giving loans, I'm giving you support. Somebody else is giving their artistic ability, or someone else's giving. They're fantastic on how to fix cars, they can listen to an engine and go, I know exactly what it is. I think that's a huge gift. I think somebody else's giving. They know how to grow vegetables like crazy. And then they they do that and give that. So we're giving all the time we're giving up who we are. And that's exactly perfect. That's exactly what we're here to do. So you're not to, you know, there was a story of Norman Vincent Peale. Remember him power positive thinking. And he told a story about this young man he was working with and a young man had failed at the insurance business three times. Why was he in the insurance business because his dad was very good at the insurance business. And he wanted his son to succeed. But he forgot to notice that his son was not an insurance man. So what the son with peel was noticing as well. He was talking to this kid, he was feeling the wood on the table next to him. And he made a comment. He said, I noticed you're feeling that word on the table. What is it about that? You said I love Ford. I absolutely love what I love. I have a building with it. I love making furniture out of it. I like designing furniture. I love it. And he said, Why aren't you doing that? You know, so the kid got permission to follow his heart and do what he loved. And he was wildly successful doing this furniture. So to me the gift was his beautiful creativity, ability, his skill, you know, and what he received back was was appreciation, low money, you know, whatever. And, but he prospered because of that because he was alive now doing what he giving away what he what he was

Brandon Handley 38:10 right. And I love that and you talk about it in the book as well is the idea of kind of just doing what you love. And not chasing the money for it and think I'm guilty. Just as much as the next person. Especially with like, you know, social media, Instagram, all the all the Go, go do this thing that you love and monetize it, do the things you love and monetize it. Yeah. And and just trying to let that go what you know, kind of walk somebody through that, you know, how do you detach yourself even from the monetization aspect of it? Knowing I think, again, to that everything's gonna be okay, just go do what you love. I mean, when

Jeane Walters 38:49 you get I think it, it becomes a natural movement. You know, you have to like, plan, I'm going to make a lot of money with this furniture, I think it becomes a natural movement. Like, I love your chair where you build me a chair like that, and I want to give you money for it. Okay, great. I'll do that. And so I think it becomes a natural thing it did for me anyway, I was teaching a lot and in my students would always come to me and my counseling. And then one person said to me, why don't you that's your really your job. I mean, that's really what you're here to do. Why don't you just do it and get paid? And I went, well, it made sense to me, because I realized that when people pay for it, they receive it. Have you noticed that?

Brandon Handley 39:34 Well, yeah, there's I mean, there's a big there's a big piece in there too, right? Yes. And you'll see the flip side of this where people will, you know, say, Hey, I'm gonna charge for something such as spiritual coaching, right? Like, well, you don't need to charge for that. Well, if you don't set a value for it, then then people won't value it and it's not just and and, you know, listen, that to me is more of just a socio kind of setting that works. Right. And if I don't charge you for it, then then it's gonna go on the shelf with everything else.

Jeane Walters 40:05 Exactly. And that's what I noticed. Because in my in that when I first started teaching, I wasn't charging for classes. And then then I noticed they weren't taking it seriously. When I started charging for the classes, everybody started doing the things they asked them to do.

Brandon Handley 40:20 And the results were probably, you know, twice as effective, right? I mean, if if I give you something for free, and you don't use it, how useful is that?

Jeane Walters 40:27 Yeah. And it's also frustrating for the teacher 100% Why am I doing I'm sharing this beautiful stuff, and you're not doing anything with it, you know, but I want to get to your point, though, I think it happens organically. I mean, I think that when I have a fellow that was going to the junkyard and picking up pieces of interesting metal, and then then he would solder them together or whatever, he found that and make these art pieces. And he just, he loves doing it. But at some point, he decided to take him to an art fair, at some point, he's selling his art pieces. So I don't think that you have to start out with the idea. Like, I'm gonna make a million bucks This way, you know, I but I think it comes organically, you know,

Brandon Handley 41:09 that makes sense, right? People start doing their art as kind of a again, you get and get rid of getting rid of the idea of a side hustle or putting pressure on yourself to create, right, and I think that that's not a piece of start winding down here with, you know, the idea that you need to create, you know, your experience here your spiritual, everything boils down to the need to self Express, self actualize, and create a soft people about that.

Jeane Walters 41:40 Well, and even as a dad, you know, as a creative experience that, you know, when your son asks you a question, you'll, you'll have to ponder or maybe you want to take them someplace, and then there's maybe something that you're instructing them with that, but it's a creative expense, even like when they're crying and you just hug them. That's a creative experience. So in we're here we are creative beings. And we're constantly emitting our, our channeling it. channeling is a great word, our creativity. And so we just do what comes naturally. And we're really good at it, like, you

Brandon Handley 42:17 know, so I remember talking to somebody, I was coaching somebody, and I said, hey, you're very creative. And she goes, Well, I'm not creative. I don't know how to draw, I don't know how to do this. And you're breaking out of that paradigm that creativity is bound to paint, this is bound to a musical instrument. And to your point there, you're saying creativity is creating a moment, right? Creating an instance where it's memorable doesn't have to be memorable. You are the creator of that, right?

Jeane Walters 42:43 Yeah. And then take it to another level is that where are you focusing your mind? What are you creating today? are you focusing on everything that has gone wrong in your life, then then you're just creating more of that. If you focus on your appreciation, joy of everything, that's that you've experienced everything that's right in mind you, you create more of that, wherever you put attention on grows. And so that's, I guess, the biggest meaning and message I'd like to give out is that pay attention to what you're focusing on, because that is what's going to grow in your life.

Brandon Handley 43:18 I love that you bring that up, because I'm just kind of glad I had some highlights in the book, right? While I was reading and you know, right there, what you're saying too, is when you stop focusing on negativity, but I have this line highlight is the moral Is that you, if you are removing negativity, from your thinking, be sure to grow something new. It's there. And I think that that may be a piece that is often left out in that conversation like, oh, if I just focus on both, so talk me through that one.

Jeane Walters 43:46 Yes, yes. The mind is always full of ideas and such. And so we if we say we're going to create this empty mind when we meditate, No, you're not. What you're going to do is in the beginning, and you might get there eventually. But your mind is always busy. So if you if you don't choose where you're going to focus, then it will keep going back to what you've always focused on. So you're really training the mind your it's about training the mind to be where you want it to be, you know, Arnold Schwarzenegger, I just think he's an amazing example of this. He was born in Austria, and he decided he didn't want to stay there. But he went to a Kawan movie, and he decided I'm going to be an American cowboy. And so from that point on, he focused everything he did toward that goal. And he said, people would tell me all the time, it's impossible. He said, I didn't pay attention. They told me you couldn't do it didn't pay attention. Your accent is too thick, didn't pay attention. And he just he took the English lessons. He, he did the bodybuilding thing. He found his way he people started supporting him. You got to the US me focus, focus, focus, focus, and he refused. used to any idea that he wasn't going to make it. And I think that is so powerful. But that was the way he chose to focus his mind. And when we do that, that's amazing. I mean, we can move mountains, we can move mountains. So we have to recognize when we're off the track, and then we have to recognize we are off the track and move ourselves on the track. What is it you want? Now? How can you begin to focus now, what's one step you could take today that will move you in that direction, anytime, write a letter, send an email, you know, make a phone call something, get busy, you know, and when you do that, you move toward the goal, the goal, the universe works that way. Whatever you focus on increases, the universe completely support you in that. And so when people are worried, worried, worried, worried, worried, worried about being sick, sick, sick, sick, sick, guess what happens, you know, and so this is so important, and it's so relevant right now that we decide we're what we want to focus on and keep moving. Just keep moving.

Brandon Handley 46:03 The big partner, right is just to take that first step. And make it be small. And that's fine, right? Because a just any, any, any action into the direction of your dreams, your desires, whatever you feel like calling it to me anyways, your signals, the universe is like, Okay, I'm ready to I'm ready. Right, let's let's start. One of the things that is newer to me, and I'm curious on your take on this is the idea of surrendering to the universe, right? If I surrender to the universe, how does a if I surrender to the universe, I'm like, Okay, give me all the things or do all the things and like, I'm not gonna try and direct you because the universe has a greater idea and more experience than I do. Overall, right? But how do you pair that up with like, setting goals or like, you know, trying to make a direction? I think that that's, that's an interesting one, which I

Jeane Walters 46:59 love that. Thank you for asking that question. That's great. So I said, so we set a goal, like Arnold is great example, I'm going to be an American cowboy, I'm going to be in the movies, and then he surrendered to how it was going to happen. But everything that walked across his path that looked like a pet, a way to get there, he took advantage of it. So that's what we do is that we set our, our intention, you know, I, for me, it was I want to live in this energy of this higher self, I want to live there, and I want to help other people live there. So then I look at a class and a class might show up and go is that part of my journey? Is that I look at a relationship and ask, Is that part of you know, am I lined with this vote? And my focus? Is this part of my alignment? And then we get those answers, we begin to see that all of those things show up, because they're in alignment with what we've focused on. But, but he didn't say, well, it has to be through bodybuilding, or it has to be that bodybuilding magazine showed up. And he went, I'm going to do that. And that was part of his journey. So I think he's a great example of seeing he knew what he wanted, and he didn't know how he was going to get there. But as things showed up, he would take advantage. So that's what surrendering to the universe is all about. I don't know how I'm going to get there, you don't know, you're going to get there. So we acknowledge that. And in so doing, we create mental space to go. So what's the next opportunity?

Brandon Handley 48:28 That's great. sounds a little bit like the line of you looking for the evidence of it happening, right? And also, I guess it I don't know about for you. But for me, I've got to have this kind of mentality of you know, this is a benevolent universe, I'm here for a reason and a purpose. You know, this is my intention going forward. And now I'm going to look for the evidence that the universe is kind of setting that up for me.

Jeane Walters 48:55 Well, if you think about your son and say, You're I don't know how old he is, but you're going to teach your mind or throw the basketball or something or ride a bike, you know, you know that there's you start with getting him on the bike, and maybe you're holding the bike. But at some point, he's now balancing pretty well, and you can kind of push the bike forward, and he's got it. So to me, if you look at that as an example, that's exactly what the universe does for us. You know, it's teaching us through different modes and modalities, you know, how to get on the bike and ride it know without crashing?

Brandon Handley 49:30 Sure, sure. Well, is there anything else out of the book that you want to hit on? While we're here?

Jeane Walters 49:38 The main thing that I am saying in this book is you can make a choice. Yeah, you can make a choice that if you want to live in a joyful life, you can choose that and then and then do the things that are necessary. There's practical steps in every chapter. So you start One step, start on another step to get started, and start moving your mind and your energy in a way so that you are living the life you really want to live. Your it's your choice, you have dominion. That's the main thing I wanted to teach with this book.

Brandon Handley 50:17 That's powerful. I think that, you know, toy choice, it's like, because I have it written down here, to kind of hit on choice. But, you know, making learning to make that choice. Finding that awareness is kind of where the power is at. The funny thing about that is this for me anyways, when I did my journey, I thought I was always making choices, you know, but what I was really doing was accepting others choices for me.

Jeane Walters 50:43 Yeah, right. That's what we do we start out that way, because we don't even know that we can make a choice. Right? Yeah. And then, and then sometimes the parents these days are going well, do you want to do belt volleyball? Or do you want to do soccer, you know, so there is a choice about But before that, we're just told, do this, do this go shorter this time, and whatever. So we do have to kind of teach ourselves along the way, we really are our best teachers.

Brandon Handley 51:09 And for people that haven't figured that part out yet, like, what is

Jeane Walters 51:15 your life, just like your life and go? How is my life right now? Where am I happy? Where am I not begin to look at that and go, what choices got me to this point? And what would I like to change? And then what are the choices, I need to make an order to move in another direction. Just look at your life, your life will tell you exactly what your choices have been. And that is no judgment at all. Just observe it like you're observing somebody else's life. And then ask yourself some questions. You know, does this fit me? Because sometimes we stay in things so long that they don't fit anymore. And then it's not serving anybody to stay in something that's over. It's finished. You know, people die in their jobs. I mean, they're like, they have dead eyes.

Brandon Handley 52:00 Yeah. Listen, I mean, so I mean, that was I mean, my 20s I was, I was at I was at a job. And it was, it was a fine paying job. It was a corporate job. There was money, there was benefits. But what there wasn't was living. Yeah, I looked around everybody, and I saw the day everybody's kind of walk around like zombies. What you're talking about glazed over. And I set myself as like, if this is gonna be like, the end game as it can wait. Come back, right. This isn't. This isn't where I'm gonna spend my youth. And and I didn't. And

Jeane Walters 52:38 you though, I mean, really. Kudos to you. Because you went for the, you know, he had a lot of money at the job, and a lot of people will stay for that. literally dying inside? Yeah, they have money. Sure. It's like believing it. You can have money doing anything. I mean, I feel like money is one of the easiest things to get.

Brandon Handley 52:59 Sure. But well, hey, let me share that one with people. Because I mean, what how did you develop that mindset?

Jeane Walters 53:05 Well, you got to get past the unworthy stuff. I mean, you got to get past this idea that you're limited being you know, like Arnold, he, he grew up in Austria for heaven's sakes, he didn't even know English. Right. You know, those were limitations by a lot of people's estimation, but he decided no. So I think it's how we look at things. I mean, it a lot of people just don't feel like they deserve to have an amazing life. And but their father, I call it the yellow brick road. You didn't you know, you grow up, you graduate, you get your education, and you get married, you have kids, and it's like, wait for retirement. And, you know, it's a road to death. Yeah, sure. Yeah. You know, I'm, I always want people to look a little higher than that, you know, like, those are all great things in their turn, if they're right for you. Sure. And they're not right for everybody. Right. You know, we can't make it a cross the board formula, but I think that's what we have done culturally. Right. You know, in your measured by that like, No, no, no, no, no, you don't get to be measured by that. How many toys do you have? You probably have more toys than I do. So, does that mean you're more successful than I am? No.

Brandon Handley 54:23 Right?

Jeane Walters 54:24 What is if success is joy?

Brandon Handley 54:26 Yeah, I mean, look, you got to have some joy, right? in your life.

Jeane Walters 54:30 What are the most, you know, I think about a Mahatma Gandhi didn't have any money. Okay, um, Jesus didn't work on money. You know, Buddha didn't. He was rich, but he gave it all up. So all of these great masters. I mean, I don't and Martin Luther King didn't like work to have a million dollars. He didn't do that. He had a mission show all of these great masters. were telling us that, you know, money was not their endpoint. Doesn't but I don't think money is a bad thing. I don't want to give the wrong message. Oh,

Brandon Handley 55:03 yeah, no, no, but but but but the thing, more important to what you're saying before, right? You know, do what you love and the money will follow. But we're talking about these other people, you're talking about the Masters, you're talking about Martin Luther King, what they did have was something greater than themselves in their purpose.

Jeane Walters 55:21 And they were fed and they had whatever they needed. I mean, Nelson Mandela is another great example. I mean, you know, it wasn't money was not the end all. But, you know, he had what he needed. I mean, he never went hungry. So that's how life is, you know, we can't make money, the goal, we can make it something to enjoy

Brandon Handley 55:42 100%. And it's funny, because, you know, we have this kind of this conversation with my children, too, right? They tell like, hey, I want to, I want to get a good education so I can get a good job. So I can do as I stop, I'm like, wait, you you want to you want to provide value? Right? So I mean, just kind of flip the script a little bit. Yeah, I want you to make money in our money. Absolutely. But yeah, to do it, be because you're providing value and we're columns, he wants off, whatever, you know, have those those conversations with the children. So this has been a blast. I enjoy it. I want to say thank you for you know, it was your assistant that reached out to me, but you took the call when I called you back and enjoyed our conversation that first time. Enjoyed this conversation. And you've got plenty of other books for people to go to check out on Amazon. But this one, the journey from anxiety to peace is Is it is it out there now is it released?

Jeane Walters 56:32 It's Yeah, it's available. It's actually international bestseller. Look at anything about the world ready for

Brandon Handley 56:38 you.

Unknown Speaker 56:40 It tells me there's a lot of congratulations.

Brandon Handley 56:43 Yeah, there's a lot of anxiety and I think this is I think this is a great book and like you said you've got on you know, in the sub sub text right? Yes, you know, practical steps to handle fear embrace struggle, eliminate worry. And you did you had a lot of yet a lot of great tips in there. Just like you had the practical applications here in the conversation as well.

Jeane Walters 57:02 Thank you so much, Brandon. I really this is fun, and I really appreciate it.

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Brandon Handley 0:18 go. Hey there spiritual dope I am on today with Sean McCoy who is one of the hosts of the company table podcast, which is a series of recorded conversations, which he invites people to come to the table to have authentic, open and honest conversations across a spectrum of subjects ranging from difficult fun to controversial, the primary goal of the interaction is exemplified love and understanding and a discussion that would inform the listener while encouraging the happy conversation of their own. Man. It's been a minute and for those of you that don't know, Shawn, I've had a couple conversations before that was back in fatherhood for the rest of us. And when I spun up spiritual dope, I came across like your podcast has like, man, let's get you back on so so I'm so thrilled to have you back on. Thanks for showing up today.

Unknown Speaker 1:07 It's a pleasure to be here, my friend. And I really love what you're doing. You know, when I first saw the title, I was just kind of was enamored with this idea, cuz I've had my own transition, even the last 24 to 36 months around around cannabis and around what that what that word means. And then I think just the idea of that intimacy with the divine intimacy with where you're going with life, just in another way, you just kind of you just bring it the style as far as just as it's very open, very inclusive. You're trying to understand there's no, there's no desire to control or is it to overcome or to try to convince and I just think it's a beautiful way to do it, man. Appreciate your work.

Brandon Handley 1:41 Now, thank you so much. Thank you. So I appreciate that means a lot. It really does. We'd like to start this off I say we on the host creator and all the other things but I like to start these off with the idea that you are a vessel for the divine right and and what comes through you needs to come through you for the universe to operate at its optimal scale. Right. And it needs to, you need to deliver a message to somebody who's listening today. Right? What is that message that's coming through today? Sure.

Sean McCoy 2:10 So I just finished coincidentally, the book it's called the physics of God with Joseph Selby. And Joseph Selby is a quantum physicist. And I'm in the in the so interesting to me that I finished it today coming on your show, because one of the things in so he interplays You know, he kind of remarries science and religion, which I think had the big split back in the time of Galileo and Copernicus that was really kind of this, the beginning of the end of that that beautiful relationship where it had to be one or the other. And that dichotomy that dualism, I just, it has to be that's been a big area of growth, for me personally, just getting away from all that polarity. But in that one of the things that he talked about was in Genesis, he alludes to this idea of looking at these quantum experiments and talking about quantum entanglement quantum foam, and all these other real fancy words. And I'm, I can, Sam, if he asked me to explain it to you unpack it, about 50 60% of it, because it's not, you know, I'm a pretty heady guy, like I like to think but it's, it's complicated. But overall, one of the things that underlying things that made me think of what you just said was, in Genesis, we've heard this phrase anybody's heard it, that man is made in God's image in the typical response to the typical kind of human thought is that there's a human element to God and he created and that, you know, we had, he had elbows and maybe some sort of element of the physical versus this idea from a quantum standpoint of looking and saying, no, it's eternal consciousness that God has, that he's infusing and creating you with that image, because that's what we all have internally. So instead of being limited by the physical, and saying, Oh, this must be some physical manifestation of God, it's more of a vessel to hold the manifestation of God which is the eternal self and the eternal consciousness of all of us so that I just kind of felt like that was one of those points in my head as I was listening to it this morning as I was out mountain biking like I just told you to do now the just in terms of your show and just the people in who's out there wanting to know what what in the world is going on? Where is my place? And all this? What how in the world? What do I know to believe in because as soon as you find anything, there's some other use especially now you can google anything and there's gonna be somebody else telling you all the things that are wrong with it doesn't matter if it's a business No matter if it's a belief or whatnot. And I think part of that mystery and part of that chaos is intentional into give us this this desire to seek and this desire to continue to go internally and this desire to truly try to be intimate with both ourselves others and the divine and so the ultimate message around all of that is that in that journey you're not alone is one of the biggest lies out there this You and I were talking about our reminiscing I think you remember that shoot out the shower story that I told you about that is not out here this is I you know, I was first deciding to become a Christian and following go against this all this stuff I'd ever thought and like what in the world is my problem and I was in the gym in in the water was coming to my head and it was black and I can remember that you know this this radiance you know I get away from this idea that it's light darkness but just this radiance off in the distance that you know started to go to and I could feel it. Like I'm like in my body but I'm normal but then my it's this weird thing started to transition I got scared, right? You get kind of like, Whoa, this is way too kind of UI. I know one of your big questions about you know, and I don't go too far ahead, but just understanding that you're your own self, you know, your your self awareness and, and then I kind of put the kibosh on it, you know, just that moment of just fear. And, and you'd mentioned, yeah, you kind of you're like, yeah, you're not gonna have that same. So I think that idea of, I think if we all took a step back, and all the weird stuff, we've been through all the stuff that we've experienced, it doesn't make any sense that it's okay to it's okay to relish and it's okay to be to sit in the mystery and to sit in the unknown. And that I think we get too involved sometimes to try and to fill it, try to give it some parameter and some frame. And just instead of just basking in the idea that there's a, there's an element of this that we just can't figure out. And then even if we do figure it, even if even as we go on that journey, what you may define as the divine or what you may define as these things, so not it doesn't become a situation where I'm trying to get you to understand it the way that I do. But we can kind of find some commonality back to what we're talking about before. One of the big words that's been kind of redefined for me is the word peace for a long time. Always envision peace as this idea that there's no problems that everything is you know, calm. It's like just, there's there's no issues, there's no anger, there's no fighting, there's no, it's just one thing. And if you go back and look at the Hebrew word Shalom, and really what it means it talks about tension, like this tension between between areas, and if you look at the way bridges work, you'll get the way that how's it anything, that what creates that structures, there's there's counter tensions all over the place, right? tension bridge, and you'd suspend ropes, muscle works by tension, and so is it but when you look at it, we look at a bridge, it's not moving, but it's under incredible tension. And we see it when that tension breaks. So in terms of human in terms of relational aspects, it's not about whether or not I can convince you of something that I think is right, or try to get you on my team, or try to use fear and shame and manipulation and power and authority because of my own shortcomings to get you to conform to something that I want to but can I sit in the attention of a differentiating opinion, thought truth, whatever you want to call it? It? Can I relish with you in that it can that is that okay? And I think that that's where When, when, when all the great wisdom books talk about peace, I think if you really break it down, and if you really go further into the, the basic tenants of all of them, that's what they're talking about. And it's not that you can get rid of that tension. And so we try to act like you know, it's always like, you go back and read ancient wisdom books, again, it's like, you can hear today's story, then I was just having this conversation with my hands, you can hear the you go back and read him back at Kurt, you just got into reading Jeremiah, which is one of my favorite Old Testament prophets. And it sounds like they're talking about today, those books were written 2800, you know, 3000 years ago now, you know, in terms of accuracy and verbatim, and is it inherent? I'm not an inerrant. I'm not gonna say, I mean, nothing is inerrant. I think that's part of the beauty and mystery of all this. And so it's more about the con, it's more about what was the big takeaway, if somebody's lamenting, if they're not sure about tomorrow, there's all these what do they do, there's the chaos of life. It's never, it's just crazy, right? And we like to think that it's never been crazier and never been more worried, never ever been weird or never been more uncertain than it is now. Because it's the only reality that we have. It's like the cart totally kind of thing of like, it's just the power of the moment. And we sometimes dismiss and forget of what has come before us. And so so but when you read these old ancient writers, and you're like, wait a minute, that sounds like now. And so because we think that because technology or other things have progressed, that means people are progressed with it. And it's not really what that's not the same. It's not the same thing. It just means we're right, we're doing this by computer on on the internet versus, you know, versus some written letters like back in the day and look at some of the founding fathers and some of the people before that they would have these great debates. And people don't realize that they would have them over the period of weeks and months over written letters, right, versus we can talk all day long over and over again, re edited and other assist, right, it's all here for us. So really all that to say, you know, the three great questions that I always think about in terms of what people are, can take away when you're looking at things and where they can find hope and inspiration, in a sense is as you look at things that used to be Is it good? Is it true? Is it beautiful, was the original kind of that's the first way to look at it. I've been having this internal war around dualism, because as soon as you because good and bad is all subjective, even then, as an opposite you start going down that road. And you know, truth is a is a funny thing.

Unknown Speaker 9:12 Is it so as I know, that's absolutely true. It's like wow, you know, I used to think so too. Not so much anymore. And so instead of that, I like to say, is it beneficial? Is it is it harmonious? And is it beautiful? And so in terms of is it beneficial? Because that that really broadens that ability to understand the impact something has on you know, is it a bad thing to have cancer? Well, it could kill you. And that's our initial thought is No. But if you've been around suffering, if you've been around some of these things that people go through, there's a there's a transformation that happens and this comes in part of the journey. The last couple years of recognizing this frequency isn't you talk about your undercurrent to talk about formulas that walk through life, others a gentleman by the name of Alexander john Shi'a, who is one of two people they've been the most profound, had the most profound impact on me in the last couple of years, just in turn. My way see the divine The way I see the Christ if you will

Brandon Handley 10:05 see an author or friend or he's

Unknown Speaker 10:07 kind of a way to become a friend like him and I like we actually talk once a week now we're doing some things personally but he from a from an educational standpoint, was a anthropologist. He went to university Notre Dame, he studied under Joseph Campbell, Joseph Campbell was the hero's journey. Joseph Campbell was inspired Star Wars, right. So just he was a student of Joseph Campbell.

Brandon Handley 10:26 That's some powerful lineage right there.

Unknown Speaker 10:28 Yes. And so it's so this comes into play, because you could you know, this, around the storyline. And so, but he grew up, he grew up Maronite Catholic, but he grew up in Birmingham, Alabama, in the 50s. And he's Lebanese, he was first generation full Lebanese in, in the US. But because of this goes into this country how this works out because of segregation laws in the 50s. And 60s, they weren't allowed to live anywhere by themselves. So they were like, it was like living back in Lebanon. So the irony is in terms of, like beneficial, so we would say none of us, I mean, like to think but would say that we should have laws that separate people based on ethnicity. But there's a beautiful way that shows Well, something that's negative like that can actually become a bit of a positive, if you will, depending and it allowed them to grow up kind of in this old way. He grew up basically in a Lebanese village in Birmingham, Alabama, with just his just his people, because the laws around it wouldn't allow for them. And he was 13th 13th generation, his lineage goes back that many like 1300 years in terms of this particular tribe and his people and so he wasn't a student of following that of Christ. You lived it, like it was a every day, embodied, very intimate, very traditional, very ritualistic very much in that in this in this sense, and not traditional like is in terms of like closed off. But in terms of like internal internal kind of discovery, internal kind of looking at is in terms of So anyway, partly Isn't he but he realizes he needs to go somewhere else besides seminary, he needs to go somewhere besides your traditional and become just a priest because he was supposed to, that's the reason he was named Alexander. So he goes to Notre Dame realizes that he cannot really get exposed to this because you can become this anthropology student in between Joseph Campbell and just the teachers that it blows up his whole foundation, because he was in this tribalistic, kind of like almost kind of set. And now it opens up his mind all these other ways. And all these other things, he starts to see the same pattern of the same elements throughout all these different whether it's an ancient civilizations or current ones. And there's uniqueness. But there's also this synergy. And he starts to recognize this one, and he goes and becomes you get this masters and his PhD in clinical psychology. And then he goes on to use that as a practice. But he really is this internal struggle, he spends 40 years, and he has this moment where he takes the hero's journey, Joseph Campbell's journey, you can kind of come up different variations where there's kind of four primary paths, there's the first party step into the challenge, right, there's the there's the opportunity where you can begin the path. Second is the issues, the obstacles that you that you go through. Third is that is the transformation evolution, the fruit, the boom that you get in the fourth is in the service relative to that. And so that's the those are the main Crux doesn't mean tenants. What's interesting about those four concepts is they are also the main tenants of all of our lives. As I start to see it, we all know this story. We've all had challenges, we've either stepped into it because we decided to a new job, a new podcast, a new, a new whatever, you have these moments of like stepping into this idea of like understanding things a different way. That takes courage. And there's a step into that, right. And then there's then what you do is like, great, here we go. And then all sudden you trip, you're like, oh, what's going on, and there's obstacles, and that suffering is typically looked at as something we're trying to avoid. But the irony is, that is part of that crucible that is part of that that intensity that allows for growth to happen, that's where you become, I don't like to use the word strong because it starts to create a, an element of like physicality, with just the ability to resist and that's that growth that comes through that resistance, if you will. So as you grow through that, well, then there becomes a point when there's a fruit, there's a boon that happens, right? There's something there's an evolution, there's a transformation, there's a recognition, it's like rings on a tree is that grow out, right? Don't say this is the next ring, and you're there. Yeah. And then of course, the fourth pass is this really, really critical part? Because now that you've done that, what are you going to do with this gift that you've been given? What is this new perspective? And now you start back at the first path, right? And now you start over because it's not a linear thing? You're not trying to get to a place and be done it's this just continues man, we're just on this.

Brandon Handley 14:12 Right? Absolutely. So you know, we got we got a lot in there to unpack my friend we got a lot and unpack so I'm ending with that last piece that she just said there. You know, the idea of to me is kinda like that Golden Ratio right of how the spiral continues to get larger as you say, you know, you start off in the beginning and then that's your story like it just continues to get larger there's more greater pieces that come into it but you keep circling around kind of the the primary aspects of your life and and your story, right, but everything else you bring into it, it gets larger, your boobs get larger, your challenges seem larger to the people beneath you, but like the those challenges are just your next evolution point. And it's also like you said here, too With the idea of Yeah, going through all that, and then what do you do with that? Boom, right? This is done. I mean, look, man, not for nothing. That's what you and I are doing with these podcasts, right? we've, we've discovered something else in our lives that it makes sense to share it out with other people help people maybe to find that for themselves. You know, a big piece that I'm doing right now is comes out of a book called power versus force. And the idea of, you know, accepting that challenge, Shawn, it's gonna take what what's it going to take? It's gonna take a little bit of courage to take that step if you don't take that step, right. The refusal of the call, right, that's another part that's a you know, that's another big part. Right? So if you refuse to call the hero, that's where you find in my mind, you find a lot of regret the coulda, shoulda woulda is what if I didn't take that path? Right. So that's kind of the refusal is is leads to this kind of life less lived. scenario.

Unknown Speaker 15:54 So stillborn is the word I always think about. Hmm, wow. So stillborn or stagnant? Like, like, if you refuse to recognize that pet like you don't have to go down it. You don't. I mean, you can even be when you've had, I'm sure you've seen people where you've had a major life challenge or change. It's even forced upon them. And they're still it's like this, we call it denial or whatever. But they're just not not going down the path. And so it's like a broken record just kind of caught. Yeah. In that. You can't go any further. And that's the that's the irony. Is it in? Is it everybody has the opportunity to say no, but you don't have to go down these paths you, you can get the boon and then just sit on it. Right, right. Yeah, you've decided to take this. I hear it when you're when you're talking. Like there's been a revelate there's an intimacy there's, you've seen something and now you're like, ah, heck do I do with this thing? That's it.

Brandon Handley 16:39 I mean, that's, that's it? 100%? Right. I mean, that's the that's the genesis of spiritual dope, right? The deal is that here, here, there's this new, not necessarily even a new way of thinking, it's just new to me way of being. And now how do I integrate that with all the other things and everything else has always ever been, and not even necessarily for benefits so that I can exist on all planes of existence, right? And just keep moving forward. And not feel as though I'm not honoring my inner self as well. Right, this connection to God, this divine right, this thing that really deserves much more honoring than I've ever given it before. But now that it's here, I'm like,

Unknown Speaker 17:20 shit,

Brandon Handley 17:21 we got to do something here. Right. Right. So and, and, you know, I mean, just just for your own knowledge, like, I struggled with that, because it's something that I've been with for a while, and I did the other podcast where I did prosperity practice, right. But then I was like, I'm still not honoring the truth of how I'm feeling right. I had a few conversations with some people that I knew that were and are. And I was like, well, there's no reason why I can't do it, too. Right. So let's, let's begin it with spiritual dope, right, let's, uh, you know, I can help people through through that and find people such as yourself, and some others that are leading a life through spirituality, and having a more fulfilled kind of life purpose, because of it, right. And when they, you know, when they get to the end of it, they're gonna be like, I did everything to honor like, the divine within myself. Right.

Unknown Speaker 18:11 Right. And also, it's also a gift, right? It's part of this is this, the opportunity comes to me you sort of define kind of why I mean, like, I love science, like it's a part of this book is teaching us we can't really trust even what we're measuring. Even if we could, you know, the irony to science is they could never answer. Scientifically speaking, you cannot use the scientific method to answer the question that we all want to know.

Brandon Handley 18:35 At least it's subjective, it's always going to be subjective, actually, I mean, I did a podcast on last week on this, right. Like, the whole idea is like, it will always be subjective. But there are distinctive patterns in people who have fallen into this. And that's, that's why when you read meditations, that's why when you read the Bible, that's why when you know, you read any book of wisdom, you can now see that pattern, you're like, holy shit, that's the pattern. And and you can recognize that everywhere you go, you know, so the whole idea of everything's a miracle and nothing's a miracle. Everything's God or nothing's God, right? Like, you just got to make that choice. And that's what you'll see. So you know, one of the things that we you touched on it right was the you're kind of yours what yours was quite literal, come to Jesus moment, while we talk about what that was like for you again, because this This podcast is, it's also the gives people that understanding of Alright, well, this is happening to me now, what do I do with it? Right? We've been through a part of that. Obviously, we haven't gotten to the end. But what does it look like from your perspective?

Unknown Speaker 19:44 Well, I think part of it is you have to be willing to relinquish control in a sense of what you think you know, and what you think is even possible, and that we've allowed ourselves I know I did for a long time. So when I was younger, up into my early 30s allowed myself to believe that because I was heady and because I was smart, because I had, you know, people told me so and I knew it. But somehow you've got that you've kind of figured it out. There's there's a, there's a humble aspect to all this, that if that if I were to say anything from a preparation standpoint, it's truly and this is our podcast, the one that I did. And even I think it dissipated a conversation, are you willing to just listen to this, hear it out. Now, I understand that you can't hear out everything that's ever thrown at you. And there's a lot of noise out there. And there that is now more than ever, so the biggest challenge are so much noise, right? We can get lost in YouTube for hours and not even know where we're at, or Instagram or whatever, you can get lost in the noise. But back you're saying about this frequency? If it's answers those questions, is it beneficial? Is it harmonious? And is it beautiful? Whoever saying it or whatever saying it, I think if you use that as kind of a starting point, say and then hear it out? I mean, how do you how do you sit there and listen to some of these ancient masters and some ancient people that and I mean, like even modern day ancients when they give wisdom and they give when they when they talk about these things. So all that to say that, just just be humble about what you're doing. And be humble about the approach and realize that it's okay to say that you don't know something. And and then allow yourself to then explore and in really taking things that are uncomfortable, it took me forever, Brandon to not wince during the name Jesus. I mean, it took me years to not because for years, I was kind of like the, the church leader on Saturday Night Live where it was like, I would hear that word and just go, Oh, God, every time somebody resists Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, you know, kind of thing. It took me a while to tour that name didn't, didn't bother me. So I think in terms of that, in terms of that approach, there's also a little bit of grace you have to give yourself to understand your and you have to knock off some of these old habits. This idea of, like, favorite real quick,

Brandon Handley 21:47 what is Grace mean to

Unknown Speaker 21:49 Grace's the capacity for growth, the capacity for wandering and being lost a little bit from making the decision that maybe turns out later Nabis beneficial graces allowing for exploration and just the existence of a maybe even since I was a negative energy, but just an incomplete perspective, allowing for that incomplete perspective of yourself because that's the thing we become self critical. Go back. I should have known better. How did I not know better? Oh my gosh, now that I know I will never get it wrong again. Right now. Okay, now I get it all now get all figured out. But just do it this way. It'll stay that way. And I won't falter. This hole is the one phrase that is getting more and more old for me is around. Oh, well. Nobody's perfect. yet. We got that part. Everybody. Like we we all check the box that nobody's perfect. That's true. Okay, but what does that even mean? So that means there's that there's an allowance for for that stumbling. There's an allowance for just that even hurt and pain and just being flat out wrong. In some cases. Last night on LinkedIn, of all places on social media, I saw a gracious interaction between two people, where one person was just being a smartass, and just a just a troll, just a absolute troll and just the other person responded with absolute kindness, absolute kind of truly, this and I even reached out to him personally. And now we're connected and they're gonna come on this oil and gas podcast that I'm doing because I'm like, I'm like, that was an amazing example of just, it was inspiring because to see somebody do what you hear mostly is all the ridiculousness, right? We don't see that. So grace, and even if you do, Grace is allowing, what about that idiot? What about? I was I talk to my people that I know that follow Christ? And they're like, do you know that Paul wrote half the New Testament, more than half the New Testament? Oh, by the way, he had a massive conversion story. There was a there was a point in his life where he killed Christians, because he just just because to eradicate them from the earth, like in a is awful ways you can approach a group of people like just ethnic cleansing, he was the guy in charge. And I was like, What? Yeah, the guy who wrote more than half the New Testament is attributed with with living a lifestyle like that.

Brandon Handley 23:57 I did not know that. I mean, that's I mean, that that again, that's, I mean, that's a powerful image. It just one of the things that you think about right brings to my mind anyways, is maybe even our judicial system, or our penal system, right? Where, hey, somebody goes and makes like this stupid mistake, right? Murder is a stupid mistake. Not everybody means to murder somebody in this in certain scenarios. And I think that something you and I have probably learned along our path is how to, you know, not let our not be controlled by our emotions. It's something you hear everybody always say, but that's not easy to learn. Right? And it's, it's not easy to get somebody who's a good teacher that either right and so that we don't have a whole lot of examples of that. So, you know, somebody goes to the penal system, murder somebody, I'm not saying that's a good idea. Don't go out and do it. But in the end, like, I mean, you're still going to be accepted by God. That was a big mistake, but like, this person still has the capability to become and do some great things. for humanity?

Unknown Speaker 25:01 Well, let's do that. What makes me think of that is a former military. And so murder dependent back to the good and bad was beneficial, not beneficial, but what we celebrate our heroes in the uniform, right? The most celebrated people. I mean, Chris Kyle, people like that, that we think about, he was a sniper, like his entire job was to kill people were the right man. That's what he did. I mean, that's not such sugarcoat what his what his job was, and what he was given awards for, and medals and book deals, and a movie was made. So So it all depends on context and the perspective of whether you think it's the right thing or not. So I think that's, that's really important, too. And then, and then again, back to your question about grace and redemption is it should it only be for one or the other based on what we think is, you know, acceptable or beneficial things are good or bad at that time. And that's where you talk about dope. And one of the big areas in my life that kind of took a big, a very big deconstruction, or just was around legal narcotics is around drugs, including psychedelics, and I grew up kid in the 80s, total square, I didn't drink till I was 21. Because it was illegal. That would give me a hard time they thought it was ridiculous that would do that. I was just kind of the way that I was wired. It didn't mean that I didn't drink. It didn't mean I didn't speed. It didn't mean I didn't break the law, or I wasn't, you know, I'm not I'm not Jesus, and nor do I claim to be, but I tried to strive towards that, in the last couple years, one of the areas that that really kind of shattered this idea of kind of this, this belief, I was given before these this perspective, that was defined around illegal narcotics and the whole story behind that whole the whole drug war and start looking at cannabis, as well. I think it's funny, we call it spiritual dope. It's like, you know, if you go back and read, look and look at the plan to look at what it is, I can honestly think that might be the most valuable plant ever that God's ever created, the utility of that plan is incredible in every way. And so the idea that we've outlawed it, especially based on something like race, and we've criminalized it, and there's people that if you look at our our incarceration rate in the last 50 years in the United States, leads the world in incarceration per cat. I mean, that's, that's not something we should want to be number one, and that is any group in the organization, right? I mean, mass incarceration is not, it's not a sign of a healthy, vibrant culture, in my opinion, which is really incredible. If you think of how well we've done economically, or even everything else, that we've done this with a massive segment of our population, disproportionately, you know, disassociated from everything that we do. And I think that's a real opportunity going forward. But part of the pandemics put out there and pushing these social issues to the top is it's like, it's not about even equality, or just you know, we have to have, you know, a one of everything. It's more like, you're just you haven't tapped into this base. It's almost like knowledge, like, you haven't even tapped into this amazing group of people. And you've been putting them to the side and oppressing them. And now it's a chance to bring back everyone to the table, man, what you know, got Gumbo and all that stuff. You know, it's all better when there's this massive numbers of ingredients going into it,

Brandon Handley 27:43 not 100% and I love me some gumbo. I'm loving some gumbo, the you know, you brought you know bringing up dope, right? Like so what is your spiritual hit? Like what it what is your spiritual high?

Unknown Speaker 27:56 It's happened to me a couple times. And it's that revelation or that being exposed to something that I didn't even know I needed to know, that I didn't even know was even possible. And it kind of redefines what it resets the foundation it is. There's a part of it that is awful. Because it's like erasing the whole white chalkboard, the whiteboard all over again, you got to start over. But when you do that, it's this revelation of opening the what's possible. And I'll give you a couple examples. One back to Alexander, he was talking to this other podcast about so near make Jesus his name was Yeshua, and Yeshua and he said the word in Aramaic for from us for what we call Messiah, or the Christ was missy. Missy. It's an it's almost like an automatic pa it's this number I was out I was outside doing some work in the backyard and listen to sing ecosistema See, it was the issue of the must see what it is is in the word. The phonetics require the breath expulsion at the end. And that that breath expulsion is the real embodiment. So we think the way we speak English is totally different than the way that Aramaic, and a lot of other languages convey what they're trying to say in terms of there wasn't there wasn't a very large in terms of phonetics, but in terms of how it interacted, it was conveying something. That breath right? In Genesis, right God breathes According to the legend breathes life into the dirt, right? There's a breath whenever there's when you're first born, there's a breath, the last breath you take, there's something in this there's something that's alive. It's symbolized by breath. And so that energy which is in all of us, right, this is where we start to derail because the word goes to become a cya. And is supposed to be this thing, which shows he was in charge. And he was this. In my experience, anything that starts to go towards power and privilege and authority as a justification for its existence is kind of the beginning of the telltale sign that it's off of this. It's off the divine, because now you're just trying to control people now becomes Well, he's the Messiah. So now we have to follow him. Everyone else is toast. This is the only way right and that just leads to division. But this but the way that Alexander was explaining that in in Christianity first started to expand that what they would do is they would go find when they would go to different cultures different In areas and spread, they would see the Christ and it wasn't the person wasn't really even the thing either. It was this spirit within, it's this. It's this breath within all of us, right? That, oh, you have this story, you have this ritual, you go through these things like we do. It was more communal, like we know your story. We know that story, versus here's the right story. And we're gonna, we're gonna tell you to take the story you have now, you need to just erase all this stuff off the cave walls, get rid of all your traditions, know your culture, and just adopt this new way. That's just divide that's just conquering? Well, I

Brandon Handley 30:32 mean, I think I think you said it in the beginning, right? We can look back over history. Look at all the books of wisdom. Look at all I mean, not even just the books wisdom, we can look at Joseph Campbell's, you know, the hero's journey, and we can outline just about anybody anything anywhere with that same story with the same fundamental, whatever's right. And it's timeless, right? These stories, these ways of being these thought patterns, there's all this stuff you've been saying like, hey, right now, we think this is the craziest it's ever gonna be or we're the most technologically advanced. So that must be guess what hasn't gotten an implant is your brain. Right? Your brain hasn't been upgraded? Just, you know, for sure. You know, probably in 2000 years, you haven't evolved that much as a human being. Right. So I love you brought that up. You know, the other thing you brought up too, is just kind of like the idea of you were saying I think resistance but as you grow, right, but the word I might throw out there's like resilience, you develop a resilience to as you grow, right? Is that kind of like what's your look like?

Unknown Speaker 31:38 It's one of the it's one of the byproducts is certainly one of the things that this the second during tertiary aspects as you go through these kinds of things. You realize when you've been there before, like when the tree is getting bigger, it knows, hey, the storms come in. Last time, I didn't know anything about it got through. Okay. All right. So it doesn't mean it's gonna be easier. It just means that I know, my ability to kind of hold, stay steadfast, maybe greater, because I know, I know this, I know this song, I've done another stance, so that you know it like, like a book or like memorization, it's just you're familiar with it. So that familiarity, if you allow for it to come in, but also don't think that it means you know exactly what's gonna happen next, is this more of what is the essence of resilience? It's kind of come what may man if your lights go out or be okay, if it's flooded, we'll be okay. If it's a drought, we're gonna be okay. If it's a boon if we get a win the lottery, right? I'll be okay. Because that's not always guaranteed to be okay. Whether it's a clinical good or bad thing that you get, right? Well, I

Brandon Handley 32:35 think that's the other thing you were talking about is this dualism aspect can explain dualism for somebody who's not familiar with it. So

Unknown Speaker 32:41 dualism started. It's a nervous, Italian kind of byproduct from the Greek philosophers of kind of breaking things all the way down to their base level, in that we started to look at things from a polarity standpoint, if for everything, there's an opposite, right? That there's this idea that plus minus Yes, no good, bad. And that there's this, it's a tendency we have in ourselves to kind of limit the perspective of what we're looking at real in regards to a situation or something or how we measure it. And we can even see it when you see someone like technology around, you know, polarity, and stuff like that, in terms of electricity and things of that nature. And so there's this, there's this tendency, and there's also this human tendency to kind of break things down that simply. And the problem is we forget, as we break down the human being into like, Oh, it's just atoms or just protons, neutrons or protons and electrons, it's kind of it's, that's an atomic level kind of idea of right what we learn in school, there's plus and minus, and if there's more or minus than Plus, it's a negative charge. And if there's a positive charge over here, they come together, because positive opposites attract, and we kind of hear all this stuff. So we start to kind of really differentiate everything we think we know, in terms of what it is and what it could even be, is having one or the other. Right? And so then it becomes this, I mean, even think about it, if you just everyone takes a step back, look at the things that they look at that they were college rivalries, there's kind of one primary rivalry is always them versus us, or, you know, man and woman, or, you know, hate and love, just just emanates in everything that we do. And what's coincidentally is that the other person had this massive impact on me as a lady by the name of Janet Williams and Janet Williams wrote, she introduced on this other podcast called Nomad apophatic theology, and it's not even the right way to look at it. And what it tries to posit and there's a really, it's really hard to describe, because it doesn't have a description, but it does is a little bit what you're alluding to. It's both good and bad. It's both but it's neither. But it's so it's, it's like part of this is the idea of where you kind of go to with all this kind of introspect is around God. So God is all things that is in everything, but God has nothing God is both but God is neither. And then it's the idea that even if it how we think we can even understand and conceive certain things like the universe or even the divine did it's anyone that tells you they know God or what God is. It's not I don't mean this to be insulting, it's just I think it's it's this part of the journey of it. It's just going to be incomplete. And that even what we think it is, you have these experiences, I saw God or I felt God's presence. And I like what I talked about, and that we hold in those things become idols. And that the real idea behind telling people not to stay on the idols is even if that experience is with, like, if you're there, if you're Moses and God parts of the Red Sea and saves everything, and no brings the Red Sea down on the Egyptians, that's a pretty stellar experience. If it happens that way. You're Moses, you're thinking you can't get any higher, it can't get any better than this, right? This is the pinnacle of all that exists. There's a there's an element of that, that's, that that becomes an idol. No, I

Brandon Handley 35:36 think i think i think that too. It's like we open it up with right, you're the vessel through which the universe God creation acts, right, with, when I start to say that this is me doing it, then then I start to I start to limit what is possible, right, I start to set up like all these blinders and everything else where whereas, you know, if I start to just say, hey, the The only reason any of this is happening is because of, you know, divine source flowing through me and, you know, helping guide me, right. So when you start to think that you're at the pinnacle of anything in your life, I mean, again, you you're starting to throw up a limit. This is just me, you know, kind of spitballing right, but you know, you start to, you start to put limitations on yourself.

Unknown Speaker 36:21 Yeah. And it's, it's something that that goes into one of the things, there's eight fundamentals with these eight areas of what they call cognitive dissonance. And these eight biases, and one of them is called the errors of framing is this is this idea that you've that what you think you've known so far as to what frames everything? And what what creates the structure, it's out there that you, that's all there is, and there's not a possibility for something more. And part of the reason that he studies it is around innovation. So in terms of terms of actual innovation, both technically on a personal level, or anywhere else biases will keep you from seeing what could what could be possible. So that's one of those areas made me think of that is their idea of errors of framing, and part of it is like, does a fish know that it's in water? Or if it does, is it you know, it's good? It's kinda one of these things, if you don't know, what else is here, or you think that what is there is all there is, or you've been told, right? There's nothing else out there for you, Brandon, you'll never, you can never go past this city line, or you can never nothing that you can't go past this area. And it becomes a self limiting belief, because that's what you've been told. And it's part of that frame, then it's, if you don't trust it, it's not safe. You're not you're not risky, just for the sake of it. But don't don't limit, like I said, Don't limit the ability. And it's, you know, look, I can't be an opera singer, I know that. You can't, there has to be some reason this, this goes back into the balance of things around just from a pro beneficial effects to harmony. In those three questions. You know, if I sing, it's not gonna be harmonious, literally. But if I can connect with people on a personal level, work with them and go through life with them, there's, there's a human harmony that you can create as well. Right.

Brandon Handley 37:49 Do me a favor, like, you know, so we're talking all this a lot, a lot of theory here a lot of just kind of inner work a lot of ways that we have felt what is something that you know, would would be some practical application to give somebody who's listening to some of what we've learned throughout this time?

Unknown Speaker 38:06 I think the part that always catalyzes me, or is a catalyst for me is to take take an argument, take a subject, take a perspective, that is that, you know, is is fundamentally different from yours, as you can imagine, and go listen, purposely fine not to counter what I said about dualism, but it's more of the context around if I'm having a hard time, I just don't understand what drives didn't have to be something opposite or something you're against. It could just be I don't understand what drives what is the deal with, you know, well, hobby ism, and Islam. And what's the deal there? Why would that was that was what goes on bin Laden was if I remember correctly, that was part of his sector, what is the deal with name, your favorite subject, your name or area or something that challenges you that causes you or you at least has the potential to stern you and maybe it's anything you've said, I will never change my mind about that. I will, because I, I walked the earth and said, I would never walk into a church for any other reason than a funeral or a wedding. When I did, I'd want to leave just as fast as I got in there. And that was my way for a long time. But when you're when I had to take a step back and go look at this differently, like is this something that turmoil and again, it's going to create turmoil, but that's where the greatest opportunity is for growth doesn't mean you have to step all the way into it. But if you if you, if you just stay in the echo chamber, you just stay with the rhythm that you're used to, if you just stay in that pattern, you know, and you'll go out and branch out, especially if it's something that's different, or unique, or in that opposite, but just a different frequency than what you're used to. Then you never say that's why travel is so important. That's why and I don't just mean travel like Europe, or you know, some jungle in Asia. If you've never been to New Jersey, go to New Jersey, go to go to you know, Seattle, go to Chicago, go to Austin, Texas, you know, go to these places, big and small and just in feel no in if it's uncomfortable, right if it's and I get this way. I mean, I went with my wife this probably about a year ago. We went to there's a pride parade, gay pride parade here and we have some friends of ours and we went to church with them. They wanted to do the big free dad hugs and free mom hugs things. And we went and did that. And you talk about being out of your comfort zone. I mean, you know, look, I've never had an issue with it. I was in the Navy. I don't believe in any of that violence, or, you know, look, I don't understand it, like not even for for a moment. I can't relate. And I do think that's more of a detriment. I'll get to that in a second, if you want to talk about that. But I heard something in relation to that. Anyway, you talk about different man, you walk out, you go, and you walk up and down the streets of Houston, Texas, that are filled with people for Pride Parade, and you are, you know, you've never experienced that life or knowing about that world. It's going to challenge you, and a lot of ways and I think that discovered we tend to run away from it, if you can hold and you can stay steadfast. And yes, it may be uncomfortable, and it doesn't mean you're gonna like it at end of the day. But it will change you, I think it will change you in my experience. Rarely is it changing you for for the worse, for lack of a better word.

Brandon Handley 40:53 That's a great story. I love that, you know, you kind of put yourself out there into a situation where you were uncomfortable, but apparently you must have saw, like, you know, some beauty in it right? You must have saw some benefit. And you may not you don't have to understand it in order to look, you don't have to believe it for it to be true. Right. And you don't have to understand it. To for to participate in it. So and I love that what you're saying here is, rarely do you put yourself into something like that, and opportunity for growth and it comes out poorly. Right. Right. That's awesome. So you know, where where were you, you know, we met and over here at come to the table podcasts, right? Is that something you're still running? Or if you're spinning into something new? Where can somebody get a little bit more? Sure, McCoy.

Unknown Speaker 41:47 So right now I said a couple different things. So the podcasts that come to the table, I hit my 100th conversation, there was a number that popped in my head back in February. And then I used part of the pandemic to kind of get there and kind of round it off, I had to take a real hard look internally and realize it was more my journey than it was really doing it for the listener if I was going to be quite honest, gotcha. It was a sobering thing that I was kind of railing against the, the structure of like, I have to do all these things in a structured way. This kind of free flowing stream of consciousness consciousness kind of thing, just I just saw it, it filled me with 100 stories of people, plus all the other ones, all the other stuff, it just, it was just a chorus of, of the mercy of life of Breath of just everything. So it's in it continues to have a significant impact on my life. Today's the fruit, if you will, continues to be born. This is a good example. But I also realized that I needed to it kind of run its course and there's some other stuff that was coming. I got a friend of mine who's gonna show real quick before we jump on to the next piece

Brandon Handley 42:45 talk about that, because that can be a real challenge. For some people, it sounds to me like you found a pivot point. Or you found a point where it's just like, Alright, this, this is filled its role in my life, right? Because you got a lot of people that are like, Oh, you got a, you got to see it to the end. And or maybe I'll tell you, I had a big I had a big problem with, um, when I stopped doing father for the rest of us, right? Because I had attached my identity to that, right. And I was like, oh, man, I've built this community. I've done this and what do I do? And you know, it was tough to break away from that. So talk a little bit about that right, first first occurs to start it up, and then the curse the stop it.

Unknown Speaker 43:19 Yeah, I think it's definitely much harder to stop it. I mean, it's, it's when you dive in, you're naive in a way, you're not sure what's going on. But when I think you're realizing that it's time to walk away, and it's not. Yeah, you don't like it necessarily. I mean, I didn't really like it. And like you said, you put so much into it, you put heart and soul and you're wanting things and just the amazing conversations of people that you've come across. If we just take the time, I didn't have anybody famous in my pockets ever. But I would tell anybody 100 times out of 100 go listen to Brad spot bill this, there's wisdom in his words back then even and I think the other part that makes podcasting so amazing, which may make it a little easier to walk away from sometimes they're all still out there for people to discover. And people will and this is where I just trust a spirit and divine will bring people to the point where they can listen to something based on when it's necessary when it can serve them and help them but also realize that I could do a better job of setting the table, if you will. And also he also needed a little bit of you got to get some time. Give yourself some time to decompress, and some time to process that kind of stuff. Yeah, it's like drinking from a firehose you're doing one episode a week, hours and hours and hours editing and, you know, it's it's like drinking from a firehose and sometimes you ventually got to turn it off for a little bit. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 44:32 absolutely. Absolutely. I know that a I forgotten how much effort it is to really be involved in it. Right. Dylan? This is taken a considerable amount of effort. I'm loving it, and I'm enjoying it, but uh, I did forget for a minute, just how much time can can be involved with it. Okay, so then you're looking at this I mean, if I understand correctly, too, then you're looking towards a new new space. Is that right?

Unknown Speaker 44:53 So yeah, so one to two areas. One actually got hired professionally to host a podcast and oil and gas talking about The environmental, social and governance issues within the industry is I'm currently working on that I have a co host with me, it's like a true show like there's developed, it's, it's really, really coordinated, complete opposite of what the other one was. I mean, it's very structured, has conversation, but it's got three parts. It's it's like a chorus. I mean, it's there's a lot to put together. That is one of my guests is a political theologian, Steven Backhouse, who was instrumental in my kind of my deconstruction around nationalism, which is a whole nother part of the story. But he reached out to myself and another guy that we know to help him start this podcast called 10th theology. And it's just about renewing the renewing the political imagination or renewing the imagination, just as somebody who's a follower of the way, they're not even a Christian, it's this get to where you know, you're your lead, or you're following this way versus it, the big crux of it, just to kind of put it out there is also around the fundamental what we call fundamental evangelical Christians that are kind of dominating the conservative politics, the United States, it seems to be kind of almost like that. Everybody's assumption is if you're a Christian, I mean, I'm a white 46 year old Christian, technically from Texas, right. So I was like, Okay, well, then you must vote for you must have to vote for Donald Trump. You gay. I

Brandon Handley 46:08 mean, you gotta be Republican. Right? You

Unknown Speaker 46:10 can't you hate gays, you Although run the whole gamut. And oh, my gosh, there's a lot of people that are like waving the flags going, please don't do that. Please don't do that. Sure. Yeah. And so it's challenging that narrative, as well as the internal narratives that we have. Because it's not like, again, it's not. This is where dualism comes into it. The answer isn't for the Republican Party to go away. The answer isn't for you, angelical Christians to go jump in a lake? The answer isn't for liberals to die or liberals. It's just not right. It's not an answer. Right. Have you seen this historically? I mean, you find me a place where there's where you eliminate all certain ethnicity, type, gender, religion, whatever. Show me where an elimination of that has led to prosperity? Yeah,

Brandon Handley 46:52 I don't think elimination does it acceptance, does it? Well, man. Look, I always enjoy our conversation. I'm sure we could chat about quite a few other things. But you know, what would like one parting piece before you today to leave everybody with

Unknown Speaker 47:08 you? I know you like to ask them. When did you become first aware of yourself?

Brandon Handley 47:11 Yeah, that's a good one. Sure.

Unknown Speaker 47:13 I was about six years old, I was going down the street called Murphy road in Missouri city, right outside of Houston, I can almost take you specifically toward that spot was and I remember, I just kept saying to myself as a very young person, who am I who am I, me, me, me. And I found myself kind of this understanding of your own consciousness, your understanding of your own self around what that means. And I do think there's an is a very young person, absolutely ill equipped, and had no support structure to help me process that. And so I kind of put that voice to bed for a while. And it's been a long time. kind of let it out a little bit. I think in the shower, that one day, it's always there. But you're kind of letting the world the voice win. And be domineering. And I think I would just encourage people to listen to that voice in their head that they've had in it those things that they think are cuckoo, or the things that they think are surely this is not something's wrong, you know, I mean, if it if it starts to become part of an inner journey of awareness, yeah, it's again, it's scary, and it's Rocky and it becomes really, really weird Twilight Zone music kind of stuff. But I think that's, that's the point. That's one of the areas that we're supposed to is that realization of self are and what it is, I think those that allows for us to embrace all these other things we hear about whether it's giving of oneself or its community, or how do we sit at a table truly with somebody because we say all this stuff, like it's easy, but when you're actually sitting there with somebody and they're looking at you going, No, Brandon, I can't stand x kind of people because they're all this or it you know, those that what about what about what about this? The biggest argument what what do you do about something breaks in your house? What about this? What about rapists? What about what about all the hundreds of the border that disappeared? You know, two years ago that somehow didn't you're only there for a little bit? Or? What if What if the democrats win the election? What are you gonna do about that? Right, because you're just, you always have an argument to put that but that voice away, right, not listen to it, and then not embrace it. I would just encourage people to do so even if it's crazy, even feels odd and weird, and it's not gonna be like the movies. Yeah, it's

Brandon Handley 49:14 not gonna be like the movies. It's not gonna be like the movies. Well, Sean, thank you so much for partnering with that one, too. And like you said, right, to become aware at such a young age and not have the system support for that. That's look man that's that's that's where I found myself at 40 right so becoming aware and maybe you know, to your point like maybe re becoming re aware I don't know right? reborn right type of thing and, and recognizing it and instead of shoving it away like this is the moment now to accept that that is who you are, right framework or not, but this again, this podcast, you know, check out, come to the table podcast and look for places where what you're actually Experiencing fits a framework. I actually, again, this is something I said last week on a podcast that I put out there. I wasn't. I don't know if that's true for you or not. I wasn't out there consuming all this information looking to have the experience. I had the experience and then I had to go look for the information so that I could understand it. Yes. So thank you so much, man. Appreciate you for being on today.

Unknown Speaker 50:23 Man. I appreciate what you're doing. Keep it Keep up the good work and you keep it going, brother. Thanks for listening to the spiritual

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Brandon Handley 0:00 And here we go spiritual dope, what is going on with you today? Then a minute in a minute, but I am back with another episode that digs deep, deep, deep, deep, deep, deep, deep, deep, deep, deep into, are you ready to succeed? Ah by srikumar Rao and we are on chapter three. And this is a chapter all about that mental chatter. So we get into it, you know, he breaks it down and says listen to the first thing you got to do is come to terms with the fact that the world that you live in isn't real, because we covered that in the last chapter. If you don't recall, right, this is just like, everything is kind of in your mind, one way or another. It's a perception, it's all these other things. And there are these beliefs and ideas and models that you've created over time. All right, you've created your reality, using these models. And if you poke poke at any of them, any of them, any one of them, they will crumble and fall, if pushed hard enough, but the the deal is that you've created your very own reality. And what you mentally create shows up in reality, whether you haven't actually created it or not. Right, so most likely, the reality that you've created is unconscious, and that's okay. But that doesn't save you ignorance does not spare you from the reality that you do create. What happens then, is that, you know, you need to become aware simply of these facts. And you can become aware of them. Most people that apply to this are some law of attraction fans. And you may recognize this out of there. So totally different context. But same scenario, right? So whatever you're focusing on in your mind, now is the same stuff that is eventually going to show up, whether or not you're paying attention to that or not. This third year, third year, that I've read this book and gone through this book, and this is the first time that I've caught that, right, it's the first time that I've caught this piece in this book, and it's made made more sense, right? different level of understanding. So we're talking here about your mental chatter, right? It is your constant companion. It is that on going dialogue monologue that's always going on within your head. And it is your stream of consciousness and the hilic how he puts it in the book, because it can be a bubbling Brook. Or it can be white water rafting, and it's always going on. And we're kind of like most people, especially in western civilization, you're beating yourself up, it's always like, you should be doing this should be doing that. It's like one thing to another. It's exhausting, right? So he was down through some other stuff inside the book, kind of like the Giza. Imagine just your day and a steady stream of consciousness, what it's like and how it never shuts up and leaves you alone. He goes to wonder isn't that you feel stressed and overwhelmed. At the end of any day, after that stream of consciousness that ongoing Mandala is whether or not you were functional, at all, whether or not you're functional at all. And you can see right now, during the pandemic, especially during the pandemic, there's so many people that they can't take any more of it. And it's a lot. Sue your surgeon, let me see if this is where the quote is. He's actually got a great quote in this book somewhere

about your surgeon and it might have been in this chapter. But here's initially right, so he boiled it down to like, your mind is like a computer. It's always running. It's always doing this mental chatter. And it's basically like, it's lines are crossed, right? It's basically just like, the worst, right? It's a frickin mess. And, you know, it's like, imagine you had gotten a computer like that, like your mind, which is exactly what it is. Wouldn't you return it? Right? Wouldn't you be like, you know, how long would you put up with it? says how long he goes, how long would you take before you were laying out your case to the best mental malpractice lawyer in town. And how easy would it be to collect, right especially with the way that your mind and your mental chatter treat you? I throw it in. It's kind of a Wouldn't you look for a manual? Right? Wouldn't you look for a manual if he had this thing? And like, Man, it's pretty powerful. It's pretty potent, but to really like, know how to work it, And to me, that's what this book is. It's really good at it. Now, certainly, certainly combine it with a lot of others. But this book to me, and this, this whole thing is a little bit like a I'll keep these. If you're if you're a if you're curious. And you want to look at it. I'm also creating videos of these with a mind map that you may want to follow along with me not. I don't know, let me know though. It helped me to kind of break it out. There's a guy named Joseph Rodriguez, I want to say his name's Joseph Rodriguez, that does some of these. And I got the idea from him, because I like how he goes through it this way where he builds out the mind map, as he's as he's talking along with you on it. So I figured I'd use it for myself as well. I'll have to tag them somewhere. So look, little droppings. That's your vo J. The DOJ if you haven't femme said already. That's your voice of judgment. He srikumar Rao got it. The idea from Michael ray is professor of Korea. He was professor of creativity in Stanford. And the book's name is he he recommends his book, creativity in business. And if you're looking at three Kumar Rao's creative and personal mastery course, one of the books that you it's required reading for the creative and personal mastery course. So vj comes out of there, right voice of judgment, that's kind of basically what your mental chatter is usually prattling on about it's all like, judging you, and judging you. And everything else in one way or another. Right. And he lists a couple different ones. You goes there's a there's outright subtle insidious, every once in a while, there's gracious, right? A couple examples of those. And there's insidious, right, just downright kind of nasty, and they're ingrained, but outright would be like, hey, you're such a dummy. How'd you get this job? subtle may sound something like, you know, maybe you're or maybe you look at one of your co workers, and you're like, ooh, he is so smooth. He's not tongue tied in meetings like you who that's the kind of guy that gets a promotion, not a smoke like you. That's your voice judgment. That's your mental chatter that's talking to you, right? What a jerk in situations that you're judging your voice of judging your voice of your own DOJ in situ, it's just nasty. Every once in a while. It will be gracious. And it'll say something like, hey, look at that charming couple, they must have a great marriage, right? That's just being kind of gracious and looking at them in other ways. And but others are not free from your voice and judgment. Right. And it also reminds me of there's a little story that a bunch of kids are sitting in class, teacher goes up rights 19th rights 20 problems up on the board. And one of them's incorrect. And the teacher says I was anybody notice anything up here? Everybody, all the kids raised their hand, they then they all say, well, you missed one, you didn't get one, right. And so they were so focused on the one that was wrong. And the teachers like, Well, what about the 19? Right ones, right? We're so focused on what's wrong, that we tend to typically not focus on the things that are wrong. So what happened, what happened to focusing on the things that are correct or right or good in our lives, that's where I where I'm getting at with that is always always always on the voice. The judgment is always on it keeps you trapped. It's like kui crabs

story, it's like the crabs or you hear all the time, or like anytime you start to go out beyond the edge, it just wants to pull you back in and keep you right where you are, so that you don't dare stick your your, your head above and get it chopped off or anything like that, right. It's like coral. If you're familiar with corals, or the super tiny little living things, they're not super big. But over time, when they die, they leave their skeleton there and they all grow up over time they build up over time. And if you're not familiar with anything nautical, you know, there's big these big, huge coral reefs throughout the world. I mean, you rip a boat apart on those so even though they're small voices and judgments, just mental chatter over time, it can grow up and just for us, you said your mental diet. The soft voice and judgment is your mental diet and it you're gonna absorb it. Generally you do it honestly. And without permission, going all the way back up to the top it's like, you know, is these are these are this is your mental model most likely has been created unconsciously over time. Regardless of whether or not it's been created unconsciously, it's been done, it's done right, you haven't really created a filter, it's coming in on filtered and unobserved without permission. It's like all the Trojan horses and it's a hijacking these, these dislike the mental patterns like these little pop off. So me, I think when you wrote the book, they are more prevalent on the internet. And he was always like, you know, sometimes you just get like, pop up after pop up, he couldn't make it go away, really reminds me of you get more modern, it reminds me of the pop ups or just trying to install a free app on an Android voice. Who needs that? It's like your database is continuously updating to so like, as soon as you build this kind of you build this mental models, you build these vlj builds up over time. And eventually, it just ends up in this big, huge relational database. It's just constantly updating, you can never change the records on it. Here's a backup there. We go, right and haven't up until a kind of a point of recognition, where you go back and fix fix something or delete a record or modify a record, right? You were not born this way. He goes on to say, you have picked this up through socialized behavior. You have picked this up through cultural conditioning? He asked Yes. Question is, have you ever made a purchase to buy something to show your status, and you don't even want the thing he meant that's the type of coat that you know, conditioning that we're talking about here. And he also mentions the idea that you may, in certain situations have to comply behaviorally. But you never have to give up your equanimity, right. You never have to give up who you are as a person in regards to working with somebody else, or applying the voice of judgment to yourself, because that's all internal. And he also goes on I love this because it goes on right now, once we get to this point, once we start to get to this point, and you start to get to this point, you're working with your mental chatter, you are both the doctor and the patient. You want a doctor and a patient. So now, who is going to lead into is, is doing the mental chatter exercise. You know, you can simply google that, you know, what is a mental chatter exercise look like? But in terms of that, you end up becoming the doctor and a patient, you end up understanding what it is, that is your mental chatter. What is it? You will notice, from this exercise from this practice of noting your mental chatter throughout the day, throughout time, you will notice what you're building your life on those are the foundations that is your very own coral reef that you are building. And you're going to want to do this without judgment. And voices judged post judgment, right? Stop, start to do it. without judging yourself. They're just thoughts. They're not even your own. They showed up over time, like, oh, there's another one. That's another thought. That's gonna sometimes cause you to have a feeling or an emotion. That's just a feeling or emotion. Just judge don't judge it. Just note that that's a feeling. Just note that that's an emotion, the voice of judgment, voice of judgment. Note that that's a voice of judgment note if it is an outright mean one if it's subtle, mean, maybe it's being gracious and all these other things, but most of the times they're beating you up and not building you up.

I noticed this passionately, he don't let it Rouse you don't let it tear you apart. Don't let it beat you down. It's just again, they're just thoughts. They are just thoughts. Once you do this practice, over time, there will be less hijacking. Imagine you've installed pop up blocker. It's really what it is. And he likens it to shoplifting if you've ever been to grocery stores as shoplifters will be prosecuted. It's proven that just putting the signs up alone will reduce the shoplifting. I think we got through that one pretty quick. It's actually a very big part of this book. It's a very big part of this overall practice.

But that's the fundamentals right that's fundamentals and that's where you can you can begin to build yourself up on and you can just begin to note your mental chatter throughout the week and like I said you can go ahead and look look that up online to see if there's a good one for you. But yeah that'll close it down like I said, head on over to spiritual dope and you can go I don't think the video is posted yet somebody's email Brandon as spiritual dope co if you're interested in the videos I'll be happy to share them out with you but now you got an idea of what mental chatter is when it shows up in your life. Now that you're kind of armed and you're aware it's it's worth knowing is half the battle GI Joe. It's it's just knowing right now that becomes a this is something that you can negotiate with. This is something that you can actually acknowledge, and you can have an impact on it. All right. Yes.

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Check out this conversation between cohost of Your Essential Nature, David Michael Reed and I have as we explore his spiritual journey with you today!

David Michael Reed (D.Mike) is the owner/host/CEO of the edutainment platform Game Of Unity LLC, which provides a fun way to reimagine how we interact with humans in general, and a director for the non-profit organization The Briar Farm Family Foundation, which is focused on providing food and knowledge to the community.D.Mike is a freedom and authenticity of expression coach. He quickly realized the power of staying connected to your true nature, having to navigate several vastly different cultures within a short time frame.

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Brandon Handley 0:22 Hey there spiritual dope. Brandon Handley here and I am on today with David Michael Reed who likes to go by the mic. He's the owner hosts the CEO of the edutainment platform, a game of unity, which provides a fun way to reimagine how we interact with humans in general and a director for the nonprofit organization the Briar farm Family Foundation, which is focused on providing food and knowledge to the community. D Mike is a freedom and authenticity of expression coach, he quickly realized the power of staying connected to your true nature having to navigate several vastly different cultures within a short timeframe. Although he studied biochemistry at the University of Oklahoma, his interests have taken him to study much more broad realm of knowledge. He utilizes his various interests, formal education and personal experiences to formulate his principles of unity. From here on out, I'm gonna direct you to check out his YouTube show, which he is a member of your essential nature, and you can find him on Game of unity.com It's a mouthful D Mike, thanks for joining today. How you doing? I'm doing really great. Appreciate it. How you doing, Brian? Oh, man, I you know, look, I like I said earlier, it's just another day in Whoville, but but I'll tell you what I am. I'm going through a book that I go through it like once a year right now it's called Are you ready to succeed? d maiken. And I'm at the very beginning of its 10 week kind of books, and you're asking I'm just gonna go. But there's one thing in here, man that you know, I saw it again today. Like I've got like all these highlights in here from years ago, because that's part of the process of this book. The book asks you for a commitment like when you start right.

Unknown Speaker 0:02 You're listening to the spiritual dope podcast with your host, Brandon Handley, the spiritual dope podcast. Be sure to follow us on Facebook and on our website, the spiritual dojo. Ready, set, go.

Brandon Handley 2:00 And one of the lines in here man is that each day that you're not radiantly alive and brimming with shear is a day wasted every time. Yeah, I read that line. I'm in fact it man. I'm like, I'm like holy shit. What am I you know, it's just nosy in Whoville was it one where I was radiantly alive. And you know, so did I waste a day? I don't know. So since you asked, yeah. That's kind of where I'm at. So um, you know, I like to start these off with, we're vessels for creative energy, universal energy, God, God, whatever you feel like you need to call it right source energy. And there's somebody out there listen to this podcast today. Who does a message inside of you, right, that needs to you need to deliver through source to that person? What is that message?

D Mike 2:47 That's a great question. And I appreciate that, you know, I really feel like my medicine, I was just speaking about this recently. And I really feel like my medicine, what my personal message, what I've come down here to do is to is to be a bridge. And I know that whenever I was coming up, I felt like I had a lot of skills, I felt like I had a lot of resources, but I still wasn't connected to my power, I still wasn't able to create how I wanted to. And you know, I always felt like I was being kind of tapped on the shoulder by spirituality of by by something greater than me that was trying to connect me to my power in my authenticity. And I was going to shut it away, just because I think it was mostly because I had a lot to do with the way that I was brought up and the environment and my peers, and maybe the demographic that I that I chose to come into in this incarnation. But I never wanted to connect to that power. I never allowed myself to step into that because of just certain stereotypes and certain ways that people told me that I needed to behave. So I got really good at wearing a bunch of masks and figuring out how to get love by being a certain thing to different people. And and by and by not tapping into my true potential and my true authentic nature. And so what I've been able to do in the last few years since I've been on the self discovery and inward journey is really very technically take a look at all of these masks and realize how I can step into my authenticity and therefore find my my truth and my power. And I think that being in the circumstance that I am, where I was moving from, as you talked about earlier in the intro, thank you for that, by the way, living in such radically different cultures in such a short amount of time, I'm able to see this main kind of thread that moves through all of us. If you're in whenever I was in the streets of Compton or in you know, in a mansion and Johnson County in Kansas, there's still that one thread that I feel like unites us all and I think that's what I'm here to help do is to help us all to realize that unity and to realize our potential and our strength that's in our authenticity in our unity whenever

Brandon Handley 4:46 we come together so you know I love I love you got a couple couple things in here too. So you know as you're as you're coming down here, you said to be a bridge on you. It kind of prompts the the idea of like where are you Come down here from right is one question I would have. And then another question I would have is like, you know, I love how you said you chose kind of this place to travel through. Right? Why don't you talk a second about that, like, you know where it's coming from? Yeah.

D Mike 5:15 Yeah. And that's a that's a phenomenal question. And I think this is one of the most important questions that we can really ask whenever we're trying to find ourselves and to and to get on this path. And so the way that resonates with me the best, and the way that helps me to be the best person that I can, is to think about things in a way that first of all, we're all here doing the best that we can, and that we all have a similar mission whenever we get together, and we realize our similar goals. And so the way of looking at things that is the best for me to be the best and most effective human that I can be, is to believe that this is a this is a chosen time with everything that's going on right now. This is a chosen time for me to come down into this incarnation into this body at this time with the particular family and people that I have around me with the circumstances that are going on right now. Not only does it make the most sense that I chose this, because it makes sense with everything that's going on right now a lot of people are freaked out. And I'm kind of like, yep, this is exactly where I'm supposed to be right now, because of all the circumstances because of the demographics that I've come down in. And so and so where I came from, and I mean, I think that we all come from source, I mean, that that's really kind of what it is. And I think that that's what I'm talking about that energy that's moving through all of us, it's really our true nature, your essential nature, that's really it. I think that it's, it's the same for all of us, and we came down and we're in, we're wearing these suits, you know, we're in a brand new suit, I'm wearing the D Mike suit. And we're and we're able to have these different experiences and and see each other in these nuanced ways, while still maintaining that the true self like our true self, and our true nature is really the same. So that's why I'm saying that whatever I'm talking about where I came from, is just from, from our God, Goddess nature, that we are coming into these into these human forms to have a human experience. So you're saying that to God, nature, your essential nature source,

Brandon Handley 7:20 that's where you came from?

D Mike 7:21 Absolutely, absolutely. Awesome.

Brandon Handley 7:23 So the idea that you come from source i think is a little bit more approachable than godlike energy, right, even though, you know, it's the same thing. Right? Why do you think that is? Like, what's the hang up on God?

D Mike 7:37 That's a fantastic question. And yes, I think that there is you said it exactly right. I think that there is there's a hang up on God. And I know that for me, in particular, there's a whole thought form about this word, that is God and what it means. And I think that it's tied to a lot of our upbringings. I can say for me, myself, I was I've been brought up in the church, Southern Baptist, and there is a whole way of thinking about God and what that means. And it's been my experience that within the within the church, at least in my upbringing, there's been a lot of fear behind it. And it's a whole lot of control issues, it's a lot of things that are saying you need to behave this way you need to do this, or else the, um, the consequences are absolutely unthinkable. And I think that that kind of brings that's kind of brought in through our thoughts of whenever we think about God. And so even though a lot like in my upbringing were made in the form of God, even but, but still, to maybe include yourself as God, I know that there's a lot of fear behind that, and a lot of people's upbringing and a lot of, and it's it's blasphemous. And like, I'm, like I was saying, it's just the amount of fear because of the consequences are just so great that you don't even we don't even want to allow that kind of fuss and thinking to come in. So to be able to think of yourself as God, or to be able to think of it in a different way. I think that's one reason why there's so much as the hang up because of the fear and the consequences, the way that we were brought up. I like that

Brandon Handley 9:07 right. And I think the idea too, is that the were brought up to believe and think that we are separate from God, right? And then we also have to take a look at this desert, there's a big God, G, big G and a little G. Right? So the big God and a little God, and even then I think we have a challenge and trying to associate ourselves with God. Now if we look at the idea of in some cultures, they say God is love, right? So are you is it much easier for you to say I am loved then I am God.

D Mike 9:39 You know, that's kind of a difficult one there to make that kind of distinction to see which one resonates more to say I am God which another reason I think that people will kind of have a hang up about that is because that kind of puts you in the all powerful all knowing and people are like, I don't know everything, you know, I'm not all powerful. So so they want to separate themselves from that, but on that same token I know that there's a lot of times whenever I don't feel like I'm always loved. And you know, I think that that's one of the big reasons I was so excited to come on to this show in particular is because, you know, we're talking about like, Hey, this is spirituality. And sometimes it looks like this. And sometimes it looks like that. And, you know, coming from going back to my story, living in Compton, Los Angeles, and then living in Johnson County, Kansas. And I see this energy that people identify with and and so I think that me saying that I am love which one would want to be easier. I know that every day I'm feeling more compassionate. And I'm feeling more in low I'm letting my guard down a little bit more. All of the time. I'm becoming more authentic, which I think that is at our at our heart and our true nature. Is that that compassion and that love So yeah, yeah, I think that God is love and everything is a fit. You've heard the phrase, everything is love, or a call for love. So I think in that way, then yeah, I mean, I think that it's easier to say that I am low rather than I am this entity that is God. Yeah, look,

Brandon Handley 11:01 man, like sometimes I burn water, right? So like, don't you don't give me a god, don't give me God privileges. I'm just gonna mess it all up. Right. And the same token, I had a really good conversation with your co. co partner me this weekend, actually, one of the things that she brought up, and I thought it was really awesome, just as it relates to kind of God was that, you know, she grew up in the Catholic space, I'm sure you know much more about her than I do. I've spoken to her for about an hour, but she brought up the idea of having in Christianity, like an army of angels, having your back, I was like, when you can have that mentality. That's great. You know what I mean? And having you know, you, maybe you're maybe you can't identify holy with I am God, but if you can identify with having God's army, that's got your back. I mean, that's, that's, that gives you a different way to go out and about, right,

D Mike 11:51 we're sure, right? See how that would, that can provide a whole new perspective. For sure. And, and I think that that's, and then so we're getting into something here that I think is really important, especially coming from, from my perspective, and that's, and that's like the Unity the Unity principles. And so we're getting into getting into labels and things of that nature. And, and so like, you were saying, You and me, were talking about having a host of angels behind you that are that are protecting you and helping you cool, I think that's awesome, whatever makes you feel empowered, and and powerful and useful enable ability, you haven't having the ability to create, I think that's awesome, you know, some of my more more recent crowds that I've been hanging out, it's like about having angels, or having guardian angels, or, or any of the being, I mean, I've heard any, any of the representatives or we're even Tupac, you know, people talking about all kinds of spirits, leaders that they have. And, you know, I think that there's a lot of crossover, if we're talking about the angels in one religion might kind of convert and be this other entity in a different religion, but I really feel like it's just the energy behind it. And it's that feeling power to feeling supported. And so as far as any of the labels go, I think that, you know, my middle name is Michael. So maybe I'm calling on that Archangel Michael, you know, I've had several sessions where people tell me, oh, this, this angel, this person is there supporting you. And I think it's great to feel that to feel that I'm supported. But I try not to get caught up too much in the labels.

Brandon Handley 13:21 Now I'm with you. Hundred percent hundred percent, you know, reason why I kind of resonated with that thought process myself was thinking of the universe's benevolent right thinking that the universe, all things and like, like you said at the beginning, right, you are here at this specific time at this specific place, juncture, all these things for yourself to basically become right, you know, this, this, you're here for one purpose, right, you were sat down here, you were, you know, putting the toaster, whatever you're here for just like one reason, and it's gonna be a blip on like the map of like the universe and all this other stuff. But the timing isn't going to be so impeccable, that you're not going to have all the support that you need in order to move forward. Right, right. Like you're not here alone, you are here with source energy, right, which is a part of you, God soars. And so that's the idea. Right? I

D Mike 14:15 think so. And I think that that's really important to say that we're not here alone. And I think that part of the decision to come down here and to be born to specific parents in a certain body, I think all of that planning and putting in the people and some of the incidents that in some, some of the challenges that you're going to face whenever you come down here, I think that all of that is part of the planning of whenever we come down here and and and then also within that, just there's the challenges that are kind of laid out before as well. But also there's the helpers. Also, there's the the people who are going to be who are going to show up at exactly the right time. Also, there's the event that's just going to present itself to you and the tickets to it are just going to fall out of the sky and you're going to come in you're going to have an amazing experience that that exact perfect If it's going to push you forward, I also believe that that we that we have those factors that are pushing us forward as well. I think it's all part of it. It's all part of the planet.

Brandon Handley 15:09 Yeah. So coming out of Compton into the central United States of America, which is kind of it's kind of entertaining, like journey, I'm sure. Right. I've never been to different worlds, no doubt, right? Where do you feel like you kind of stepped into this awareness or acceptance of your power?

D Mike 15:26 That's a great question. And I think that that is sort of the underlying concept that's really gotten me to where I am now. And to a place where I'm formulating that the Unity principles and really integrating and living them. Like I said, I always felt like I was searching for my power, even though I felt like I had a lot of tools. And I was always tapped on the shoulder, like, I was always getting these little messages, I would always see my birthday and certain number of patterns that would kind of be kind of hinting at me. And I would always be like, you know, whatever, that's completely crazy. That's, there's no place for that in my life, I was just always shoved away. And I think it was up until about, I mean, it was probably 778 years ago, whenever I was in Compton. And I think it was just a dichotomy of my experience. I mean, I got to a point where, or whatever it was, I was at a point where I was like, you know, what, I know that I can do better than this, I know that I can, I can create, I know that people can do this, it was more of that, like, I know that people can do this, and I'm a person so so I know that I can I know that I can create. And and so it was the it was the contrast of looking around and seeing I mean, I was in the middle of Compton, war torn games, you know, seeing a hearse, the helicopters flying overhead every day. gunshots is just a regular thing. And so but whenever I was in this position, it was something it just pricked my heart, it was something that came in that I knew that there was something else different that was going on in the world, other than what I was feeling other than what I was seeing. And, and this this huge just waves of compassion, and just downloads of just empathy for the people that I was seeing around me for the rampant homelessness that was going on around me. And so whenever I would interact with the, with the those people, and I would see, I would feel this, this energy that was that was behind this, you know, you would think that it's just like this is just everybody's just distress. And nobody has any kind of, of power or any kind of hope or anything, but I felt the exact opposite. And so I think whenever I was able to feel this, this energy that when people were talking about it to like, I mean, I would talk to these homeless prostitutes that that were, you would just think that would have no place in spirituality or anything like this. And they're talking about this energy, this thing that's binding us together and this force and would come in, I don't quite know how to talk about it. You know, the same thing that I'm at this, at this point, I had found a teacher in a community here in Kansas, and they were talking about these same concepts. And so in here, I'm thinking I'm in these two completely different realms, physically and spiritually, but I'm feeling the same things. And I'm, and I'm seeing and I'm witnessing the same things. The this energy that is that's in both places, and I guess, got this idea about, about unity. And I and I saw how differently we approached strangers, because people that we don't know, and how differently we treated them from, from people who are familiar to us. But realizing that all of those people have the same attention, we all have the same grace, we all have the same things that drive us. And and I and I want it and I got the idea. If we could live in a world and live in a society where we treat everybody, like family, we treat everybody as love, which we all want to do. You know. And that's what I really believe. I think that we're all kind of even though we might live in fear at some points. I believe that we all want to live this way. And if we settle into that, and allow it to come in with the shift of consciousness that I think we're all feeling Rossing we're all talking about, then we can make those those small shifts that it's going to take so that we can see each other differently, and create a whole different way of relating to one another and create a whole new world. And we can do it really quickly.

Brandon Handley 19:10 And it's perfect, right? I mean, I agree who we want to, we want to love each other. We want a lot of the same things. We of course, I think we've been we've been taught that primarily, we want it for ourselves first, which is fine, so long as we want it for everybody else, right. And I think that it's when we realized that we want it just forever. We want it for everybody else I was more than we want it for ourselves, while at the same time giving it to yourself, like you've got it like I love the line. I don't know where to how I got it from but like you're the giver and the gift, right? Like so you're you know, so you got to get and you also have to give that to yourself in order to resonate it. Right. So I mean, whatever that looks like for you. So you've got to give yourself love so that you can love. All right. I love it. One of the things that you brought up in there one thing I was just gonna I was gonna make a little, not everybody wants You saw our families retreat, you know, it's tough, right? Some some family member, you're like, I'm not watching you like family, but a lot that goes, what what do you think is the fear? Right? What is that fear? That's that's keeping us from doing this like, Well, you know, what's that? Why aren't why aren't we doing this already?

D Mike 20:18 You know, and like I said, I think that this shift is, is going to be accompanied with this shift in consciousness that's coming in. And I think that the answer the question is, what is that shift in consciousness shifting us from? And I think that what's been instilled in us is competition, scarcity, lack. And whenever you believe in these kinds of things, then you start thinking, well, I've got to get for myself. And also, and also within that belief set and belief system is separation, right? Because like, you're saying, I need to get this for, I need to want it for me and not for yourself and not for this other person, nothing for that. So it's this idea of separation. And again, this goes back to our true or true nature and our true source, if we can get back to thinking of ourselves holistically like that, like we are one being expressed in different ways, but we're here to support one another, then then I think that we can shift away from this separation, which then breeds competition, scarcity, lack all of those things, because that's why we're not doing right now. Because we're, we're in this, we're in this, this bubble, this this place where we think that I'm different from you. So I need to get I need to get and there's a lack, there's, there's a lack of things there isn't there, we don't live in an abundant universe. You know, we act like we don't like one plant doesn't produce an infinite amount of plants, we've bought into this lie, that there is scarcity. And if you have, then I don't have. And so that's what I think is the most important thing about unity, is whenever we realize that we're not separate things, and it doesn't even it doesn't become a question of, well, I want this for me, and not you. It's just that we want abundance. And I think that, you know, we there is abundance, and whenever we can look at it that way and think of it that way and understand that that is what shoe that once he does create an entire infinite amount of resources, and not just not just one more, and then and then we're this, this universe is huge and ever expanding, right? We're never going to run out of stuff and we're not going to and we don't need to fight over this stuff. And, and so I think that one of the main principles that I'm integrating and trying to help spread is is that of, of unity, of that of collaboration over competition, I've seen what happens whenever we compete, and I'm seeing what happens whenever we come together. And and I think that's another aspect of what I'm here doing is I've whenever you take like the more different people are and you come together and realize their unity, the more profound the solutions and the creations that they make. And so the more courage that we can have to reach out to people who are different who look and think and that can feel differently than us the more authentically courageous we can be. And having forming these true connections and true bonds with people and realizing that we are just the separate organs of this trying to animate this this same benevolent body then then that's when the magic really starts happening. And I think that that's what's keeping us from from doing it already. Is that fear?

Brandon Handley 23:29 Perfect. I love I love the imagery too. Like it's funny you brought up Oregon's of kind of a divine body universal body, I was think about is more like a little blood vessels or little little blood cells. Either way, you know, we're where we are what makes up the body of this universe, right? Yeah, I love that you hit on the you know, this is an expanding universe. Let's for a second though, is the universe. Infinite? Yes or no?

D Mike 23:59 Well, if it's just a yes or no, just Yes or no? Um, then yes. Okay.

Brandon Handley 24:05 How does something that is infinite expand?

D Mike 24:08 So yeah, that's a great question.

Brandon Handley 24:10 And then just let's just couple it with these pieces. These are just pieces that I love to throw into the pie right? We are part of the universe the universe is expanding at an accelerated rate. Does that mean that we to therefore Ergo our consciousness is now expanding and an accelerated rate because we are part of the universe?

D Mike 24:28 I think that's exactly what honestly i think you know, and that I think, I think that's exactly what it is the universe is expanding and and i think that consciousness I really kind of feel like the the fundamental elements that makes up everything is consciousness. And I think that it's very, you know, getting into theoretical physics and whatnot. Every time we try and review the edge of the universe, it expands or, or something happens that we're not able to get past that and see what like what's quite past that boundary. And yeah, I think that's that's the universe that's that's us expanding, I think us our experiences here are creating that consciousness, which is the expansion of the universe. I mean, it makes it it's really difficult when you try to think of it in in spatial terms, we, you know, kind of finite three dimensional terms, something being infinite and expanding. But I think if we take it back to our true nature of spirit, and think about it as consciousness, and think about how we're expanding just by, you know, we're creating, we're making love, we're creating love, we're creating consciousness. And the more that we are, the more that we're able to focus, the more that we're able to, to have consciousness and be conscious of ourself, which is the universe, you know, as within, so without, so the more that we're able to focus on our own consciousness, then then that's creating consciousness, which makes more of the stuff that we are, you know, which makes more of the stuff that is. And so that's how something can be can be infinite and expanding. You know, whenever we think of things in terms, I mean, I'm a big math nerd. And so, you know, I love calculus and numbers and, and thinking about the concept of infinity and how something can approach infinity faster than another thing can approach infinity. So there's different ways of thinking about this. And we try and we try and put it into our finite minds with numbers and symbols and things but really, it's an it's an infinite mind, that that we're trying to access in order to think about something as big and as complicated and complex as consciousness and infinity expanded

Brandon Handley 26:33 a little bit. Thanks for thanks for that. I always, always just kind of enjoy thinking about it that way. And one of the reasons that that happens, right, you know, obviously, you know, you kind of make that connection with new or expanding our I think that we talked about you talked about like this shifting consciousness now that we're seeing, and, and how it's kind of almost like a tsunami, man, it's just kind of showing up in a big way. Right. Now, one of the things that I'll meditate on is getting to the edge of the universe and like kind of riding that wave of the like edge of the universe, right? And then of course, I'll be like, well, how can my mind even fathom like what infinite edges are, but hey, look, man, that's where we are. Right now we are riding on the edge of expansion. Right? So now so so I love how you kind of put it all together. And I'll throw one thing out there for you too, because of all the people fucking Tony Robbins. I saw him last year. And I saw him last year. And one of the things that he brought up, this wasn't like one of his things, but he just happened to be at some event put up brought up the idea of competition. And as you and I are discussing competition in this context, it's to compete for scarce resources, right, it's to compete for theoretically, scarce resources. Whereas, you know, he brought up the idea of competition being more in lines of just say, you know, you are great with what you're creating and your creation, and you're driving me to be greater, or, you know, trying, I'm trying to compete with you, in terms of bringing the best of each other out of that type of competition. I was like, Alright, Tony, you got me on that one that really just kind of, it helped me change my perception of cop, just the word competition, right? Instead of being triggered by them. Like I could see this in another way.

D Mike 28:17 For sure. And I'd love to speak on that. Because I mean, I'm the I'm the son of a baseball coach. Yeah, I was captain of the basketball team in high school. And I'm very, very competitive with my with my family members, whenever we're playing a board games and whatnot. I'm very upset that my little sister beats me every time and every game that we play, we play. And that's and that's and I love a competition, you know, and competing and getting better and having that resistance so that I can I can get better. Here's the thing. Whenever we're done playing board games, at the end of the at the end of it, we put the pieces back into the bucks, and we hug each other and we have dinner and a drink together.

Brandon Handley 28:57 Yeah, yeah, that's a that's a beautiful competition right there. Right. And that's, and that's a competitive spirit. I think that the words been buffed up over the years, right. Like, I mean, like a competitive spirit isn't one that wants to does living in fear. A competitive spirit is again, your essential nature is to be seen to shine to be the best of all that it can be if you cultivate it, if you if you allow for it to be, right. So that's just just my shtick. On the one time I saw Tony Robbins and he changed my life for a minute. At least at least Hey, look, you know, it's just the smallest trajectory, right? The Butterfly Effect all that stuff that just kind of really sets you off. The other thing you brought up to like in the very beginning here was just, you know, talking about wearing a bunch of masks, talk to me a little bit about like some of the masks you've worn some of the masks you've discarded, and maybe even some of the masks you still put on for sure.

D Mike 29:52 Yeah, no, this is a this is something that that's really integral to my growth within the last four Four or five years ago, especially, but yes, and as I was talking about earlier, I think that maybe just the demographic and the geographic area where I grew up, you know, being a being a black male. Growing up, especially in the times, whenever, you know, people weren't, people weren't talking about their feelings, and it wasn't okay to talk about it, any of that empathy and any of these kind of things. So and then, I mean, even so, then moving up to Compton. And when I was on the train out there meeting other people who told me, you have to act hard, you have to act this way, you know, in order to in order to receive love, I mean, that's essentially what it was, in order to, in order to be accepted, in order to receive love, you have to be a certain way. So but that wasn't me, I always felt like I was very into things that were that were maybe had a more softer kind of power to them, you know, I there was a whole other side of me that I was told that I was not able to access if I wanted to fit in. So I wanted to receive love. And so what I did is I got really good at wearing masks and putting on different airs and being a certain person in front of this person, and then a different person in front of that person. And, and I got really good at it, you know, I was able to, you know, I can make people laugh, I can be exciting. But there was still a whole side of myself, that I was pushing out of the way that was shoving down and I wasn't allowing myself to access because I was told, and I was allowed myself to believe that it was weak, and that it was unacceptable. And so whenever I allowed myself to rise, you know, I had that awakening that I was talking about. That's whenever I really felt like, I was like, Okay, now I can go in and I can just completely take an honest look and say, Who am I? How do I feel in this particular time in this particular incident, because I was trying to please everybody and realizing that I wasn't able to please anyone, you know what I mean? And, and I wasn't able to find my power because it wasn't authentic. And so whenever I finally started saying, Okay, you know what, I have to admit to myself that I'm wearing masks, this is not me, you know, just getting courageously authentic, like that and be like, I'm gonna do this. And if if people shy away from me, that's already happening, you know what I mean? I wasn't able to create the relationships and things that I've been bringing the people into my life that were supporting me. So it just, it got me to that point where I was like, You know what, I have nothing else to lose. So I'm gonna, I'm gonna examine this and realize, Hey, you know what, this is me, this is me, I, you know, I'm emotional. You know, I cry whenever I'm excited. You know, I, you know, do do these different things that might, I didn't think that were acceptable. And, and whenever I started looking at things like that, whenever so looking at myself that way, it's still the exact opposite of what I thought, I felt absolutely powerful. I felt like instead of having to remember who I was, and how to react in this certain way, I could just go inside and say, How do I feel at this time? And whenever I was able to access that authenticity, then it made me see, well, I normally would have reacted like that. Okay, cool. So there's a mask, and I'm able to see all of these different ways where I've contorted myself into being something different, and separated myself from from my power. And so as far as us tell us about some of the masks that I that I still continue to wear. And I think that it's there's a couple of things. First of all, it's always a process, there's always times whenever I'm going to see something else I'm like, and I feel it in my body. And like, that's not authentic. You know, I'll say something and I'm like, oh, wasn't courageous there. You know, I ran a program I wear I wear a mask doing that. And so and so I'm always able to get more authentic. But then the other thing is, you know, as long as I'm aware of the masks, then whenever then I can try them on, I can put them on sometime, you know, it's like, if I want it, I kind of feel like that's what we're doing. And when we're source just we're playing I'm playing out the mic right now. So and I can kind of do that in my real life, as long as I'm aware. Like, this isn't how I you know what I mean? This isn't much I'm just, I'm just playing here. I understand that I still have, I still have my anchor to my true self. But yeah, I still do. But I play with them sometimes. And and I think that it's to me, I think it's about the awareness of it. To me, it's about knowing who you are your true self, and not trying to deceive, you know, I don't do it and trying to deceive anyone and trying to deceive myself. And that's kind of what I'm saying is, whenever I put on these masks, I make it very obvious, like, Hey, I'm putting on this mask, and I'm just playing with it. And I make that very obvious to everyone involved. But having that awareness and having that ability to come back to my true self and my true power at any time. I think that that is that's where the true benefit of the journey happens.

Brandon Handley 34:26 The idea that it's being aware when you put those masks on or offer or change them out. I think that that's that's a great one. You said it a couple times too. So we'll hit on, you know, courageously authentic. I'll let you know this little tidbit for me the past month or two courage has been a big one in my vocabulary that's coming from the book, force first power where there is a map of consciousness on on there, everything below and it's done like in a logarithmic scale. You know what that means? I don't because I didn't get the calculus, but it's done in a lot of this done in a logarithmic scale. And it starts at zero, which is like, you know, and 20. And you know, up, there's like, grief, sorrow, anger, yada, yada, yada. 200 is 200 is courage. Okay? And then you've got hope and love and enlightenment all up here, right enlightenment 1000. So the idea is it 200, you know, you can go up or down at 200. The idea is, once you get to 200, once you are courageously authentic, right, once you once you take that courage in that moment, you empower yourself to step into what you believe is possible, by just being you that's where that's where the magic, that's where the shift happens. Right. So that's why I bring it up. And you know, how does that relate to, you know, what you're saying here as courageously authentic?

D Mike 35:56 Absolutely. You know, the same that that the treasure you seek lies, and in a cave that you that you feel to enter? And I think that, you know, I've heard it called the emotional tone scale, however you want to call it, but whenever you get to courage, I think, then that's when you start to see the benefits. So so it's like, you know, you're thinking, Well, how do I get there, like, I'm too, I'm too afraid to kind of to show my true self, I don't want to, I don't want to have it put up for scrutiny, I don't want to have to maybe fail at something with my true authentic self. So we stay small, and we stay, we don't enter the cave, but whatever we do, and we and we just are courageously ourselves, it's just a few seconds of courage, then you automatic thing, you start to see the benefit. And then I think that's why it takes off because you like because then you start to tie that action of being authentic to the benefit. And then whenever and then whenever that happens, I know for me, it was over without for that. Because I was like, oh, I'll have to do is get a little vulnerable for a quick second, realize that the outcome is not going to match up with the fear that's keeping me from doing it. And in fact, this is going to be something amazing, I wasn't sure I could attain on the other side, then then it just starts the ball rolling. And then it's like, okay, where else can I be authentic? Where else can I be vulnerable, what other side of myself, I've been keeping inside and not shiny out, you know, because because of fear. But now realizing that once I do that, then people are gonna start paying attention to me. I mean, that's whenever I started gaining attention, that's whenever I started getting to getting momentum is whenever I started accessing that courage, and whenever I said, you know what people might think of me in a certain way, but people already think of me in a certain way, when people are gonna expect certain things from me, or people are already expecting certain things for me. So you know what, I'm going to police myself, and I'm going to be completely authentic, and I'm going to behave in the way that I want to, and that would make me proud. And that resonates with me. And that's the thing is, whenever it's that, you know, Oscar Wilde says, Be yourself, everyone else is taken, you know, it's because you are the best at being yourself. And I'm not I'm not very good at being anybody else. I just try. I've tried to be all these other people. And I wasn't very good at it. But whenever I started being myself, then people started responding to me, like, Wow, look at this authentic being. And I started hearing on one of my favorite compliment that I get all the time is, you're such a bright light, you know, it's like you're such a bright light people come up from across, and all it is is they see me attached to my authenticity and being real. And I think that that gives permission to other people to do the same thing and to tie into your authentic, courageous authenticity. And I think that's where the power lies.

Brandon Handley 38:32 Would you call that one of your small shifts?

D Mike 38:35 Oh, absolutely.

Brandon Handley 38:37 That's what I mean. So in terms of, you know, you mentioned earlier, just kind of these small shifts right towards I think unity and whatnot. Sounds like you're saying, you know, courage and this being created justly authentic is a piece of it. What are what are like one or two of these other small shifts that have benefited you that you share with others?

D Mike 39:00 Yeah, so the Unity principles that I've got on my website, and they're all changing all the time and being added to and whatnot, but a lot of the small shifts, first of all, it's it's like we're talking about being courageously authentic. Another one is looking at everybody, like they're doing the best that they can, and seeing the god nature in everyone. I think that that is the reason that that is so important is because we're social beings, and we gain our power from being in groups and being able to to support one another. And as I've been talking about before, the more diverse or different the people that come together with these nuanced ideas, the more profound that the shift is. And so whenever I would look out at life and see everybody as you know, nobody, everybody's messed up, everybody's just out for themselves and nobody has any and all this then I cut myself off from so much benefit. And whenever I started looking at whenever I started looking at everybody is just extensions of myself of non judgement, that's kind of another spin off. That's a That's a huge one to not judging people. And so whenever you're realizing that you see the best in everybody gushing about people, instead of gossiping, gushing, not gossiping, I think is is a huge one. Because I mean, for one, and just being charismatic and asking for help, whenever you're gossiping about somebody, the person who hears you, they're gonna attribute those negative characteristics to you, even though you're saying that it's somebody else. So always gossiping about somebody about people and things, that also just puts you in this mindset of searching for negative and searching for for things that aren't going to be beneficial to you. So I think that it's all about your perspective. And whenever you look at people like they're doing the best that they can, even if you can't quite get there and thinking, but if you look at people as doing the best they can, and you look at them as bright, capable angels, you know, that are there to assist you and that you have something to share and assist them with, those are some of the those are some of the principles that that I can just implement immediately, and start to see magnificent, magnificent change just right off the bat. Love those. Remember, it's

Brandon Handley 41:03 funny, you bring that up, you know, seeing everybody that greatness, seeing the divinity and everybody has to remember coach in a bunch of like five or six year olds, and I was actually doing the assistant coaching and the guy who was coaching had been known for like 45 years, right? He was always Grandad. And I forget what I said, but he's like, there's something good. And each one was like, I don't know are you see? Yeah. But I was joking, kind of mostly, but not really just in that moment. But it was great to hear somebody of his age, right saying that of all these little kids. And I thought that that was pretty powerful. Because I was I was being a judgy, son of a bitch that day. And you bring up non judgement. For me. It was going through headspace, the headspace app, and how Andy right brings up how do you train your mind? And when you have some of these thoughts and your own thoughts, and you're judging your thoughts, right? He's like, Don't judge any of your thoughts as like, Ah, there is such a weight lifted when you're not even judging your own thoughts. And then you're like, Where else? Can I apply this non judgmental, blah, blah, blah, right? Because I can look out there somebody, I can start to think it but no judgment. Right. I mean, they're just they're doing and I think it came from also from Abe Lincoln, when somebody was talking to him about southerners. And he goes, you know, what, if it was me, I'd be doing the exact same thing that they're doing, right. And like, it's not a judgment thing. It's like, they just happen to be doing what they're doing, because they're doing it. And I'm not going to judge him on it. Like, I mean, that's not what I'm doing. Right. But I can't say that what I'm doing is any better than what they're doing anyways. Right? So I mean, you take judgment out of it.

D Mike 42:38 I think it's, it's expanded compassion, it's expanded empathy. You know, we make up these stories, we see somebody doing something, and we automatically make up a backstory, we know what happened while they were doing this. And that's why this is so stupid of them, like, how could they you know, and we think we know what they want, we think we know what the what the goal is, and all of this, and, and once we make up this thing, that that they should be behaving differently and better, and we know how that is, I think it's just a, it's a, it's a bigger step of empathy. And, you know, I'll try to make up, I'll try to make up so you know, I get cut off cut off in traffic, and I try to make a different story like, wow, you know, what, I'm sure that they have something huge going on right now. You know, like, they really needed to be in that spot. And I get it, you know, what I mean? And I just think whenever we're able to look at it, look at things like that. And I think it really expands on everything. Because I'll find myself I'll be I find myself like in the middle of the lane on the shoot, and I need to get in a suit. And I'm like, and I cut somebody off or something. Um, and you know, I'm sorry, but, you know, so I get it. And I think that I and just on that example, it's one of the greatest I made a post about I just made a post about this, but it was the greatest thing I saw that happen. I was driving and I thought, there's two cars in front of front of me, and one of them cut the other one off. And I was like, Oh, no, here we go. But you just saw that, okay, you know, I get it. And I was like, that's the consciousness shift that I'm talking about. Right now. We're starting to we're starting to show up differently. We're starting to not judge we're starting to have that expanded empathy and tell it we're telling a different story and realizing that we don't know where they come from. We don't know where they're going. We don't know what's going on with them right now. So whenever we see this action, whenever we see something that we'd normally judge, like you said, At first it pops up and you're like, you know, you get that that inkling that you want to just just tell them new one, but, but just whenever you can have that expanded empathy. I think that that's, that's, I mean, that's all it says that's that's what the shift in consciousness is helping us to do. Thinking of other others as ourselves and telling a different story.

Brandon Handley 44:32 Do you feel like this kind of this shift in your own consciousness to sleeping with spirituality has led you to a more fulfilling life at this point in time?

D Mike 44:43 infinitely? Yeah. in in in what, how I can, how I can speak that. I think that's the most important thing because what's all this for? You know, it's like, what was spirituality? Like? Why does it mean like, what are we doing and all of that? I think that That is the whole thing. And I've kind of touched on it before I felt powerless. And I and it was so frustrating, because I'm like, you know, I got social skills. And you know, I can I can, I can talk I've got, I can do all these things, I went to a good school and educated and, and all this wasn't Why can't I create what I want I want to create, I'm doing nothing, nothing is as I want it want it to be, and I'm not happy. And that's what it that's what it wasn't, I think getting to just rock bottom as far as that, just getting to where I just, I'm not happy and realizing it. And I will try anything. I mean, I asked my dad one time, I remember, after a long night. And I was like, you know, what is the point? You know, what's the point of all this? And he's like, Well, yeah, you know, you, you you're you go to school, and you get a job and you get married. And you have, and I was like, I don't want any of that. You know, I was like none, I don't want any of that at all. And so I was like, Well, you know what, I'm gonna find out what happens whenever you don't do all of that. What I'm saying, I'm gonna find out what happens whenever you do what you're not supposed to do. And so I started, I stopped just listening to myself and just doing because I didn't have anything to lose. And I just wasn't happy and started started behaving the way that I wanted to behave. And I started learning about the things that I wanted to learn. And I started allowing myself to listen to that, that beckoning that had always been kind of calling me. And so it led me on the inward journey, all of these things, these benevolent features that I placed in my life led me into this path. And I started realizing about unity, I started realizing about cooperation, I started realizing about empathy, and how and how we're also connected, and it opens up things to me. I mean, it really does. I'm not saying that's what it actually does, is, it makes me It gives me the self confidence and the self love, so that I can I can share that with the world. And I can call in the help Colin people who want to support me in my journey. And then through that those collaborations, it opens up a whole new world with a whole new set of resources, and a whole different mindset, and a whole new set of skills and power to be able to create precisely what I see in my head,

Brandon Handley 47:07 you got to see it there. First, you create yourself some serendipitous moments, right? When you step along that path that that you're describing there, right? When you say, hey, this world you're living in, that's cool, you can have that I'm gonna go down here and see what's over here. Right. And it's it is it is a path that think is less traveled, I don't know that it's so much less traveled as it's not talked about as much, right. And I think that one of the reasons for that is because you can't teach it per se, right? You can't teach somebody else what your personal experiences are. And so that that's where it becomes a challenge. But that being said, there's, there's certainly key Mark indicators, right of Oh, you're on that path of whatever. And you can tell that in the conversation and mannerisms and so on, like, okay, I kind of get where you're at, right in life period, like it's, and that's going to be in a conversation with somebody who's in a corporation, or just off the streets, like you were saying, I can talk to a prostitute who's all cracked up and like, we can have a conversation, she could share what's on her mind and be like, I could see where you are in your life. Right? There's, you know, there's different time space continuum continuums of life, right? Nothing is totally linear, whatever, all that jazz, give me a blurb, a little bit on your game of unity so that people kind of know where to go check that out and what's happened in there,

D Mike 48:33 for sure game of unity.com I think this platform, I think, is sort of the culmination of everything that I've wanted to create for myself and then to be able to share with everybody and it comes from whenever I was going through the process and having this having this awakening and looking for support going down the YouTube rabbit hole all of this and looking for people who are thinking that I wasn't insane if somebody told me I wasn't insane, and to show some kind of support and maybe some some knowledge. And so and so that's what this is, it's it's to hold your hand as you go through this process of awakening, and self actualization. It's and it's called game is unity because it's fun, it's supposed to be fun, I think that that's what we're here doing is we're here to create and to and to have fun and to and to relate to one another. And I think that's that's probably the main thing about game of unity because what it is once you join the game when you're in the game, then you know the council is going to be sending you different tasks and and different challenges and they're all aimed at helping us to relate to strangers and to one another and in a more beautiful way in a more empathic and a more courageously authentic way You know, there's challenges such as you know, before Corona Lottie was to go and, and high five, somebody who lives differently than you know, there's no things like that, that you know, my vision of the entire world is playing this game the entire world is courageously going out, trying to connect with people who think and look and act differently from them. You know, the entire world was going out and saying this Can I support? You know, how can I get support from you? And how can we come together to create something amazing, we have the entire or the majority of the world playing this game and relating to each other in this way, realizing, hey, I want to go to France, I don't have to, like make up a trip and see how I'm going to eat and whatever, we can just say, there's humans there. So I'm going to be taken care of all I need to do is get there. And even there's going to be humans along the way, they're going to help me get there. And I think that so the game of unity is to help us and push us in that direction. And to aid us with this aid of the the shifting consciousness. Now all of this together is going to help us to relate to one another, and amazing and new and profound way. And we're going to create bliss and heaven on earth.

Brandon Handley 50:39 Sounds like a game I should be playing. I love it, man. That's awesome. I love that you've created that. Right. And I think that I think that's one of the things that we talked about. When we first connected, right? Both of us kind of connect and creating the space for those who are like you said, Man, you're looking for support. When you enter this realm, you're looking for something this indicates that you're not crazy, right? And and and so, you know, how can so many people be feeling this way? And everybody be crazy, right? So that that doesn't make any sense. We're rational beings, we know that's not possible, right? Unless we're all drinking the same water, whatever. So but the deal is, is, you know, there's going to be different people there. Who can, you know, kind of catch you who can who can coach you into not, you know, hitting the walls, as you as you come come into this newfound space, right. So that's kind of what you created, you've gotten, you've done it with some joy, and some creativity. So thanks for creating that man. And then and look, it's needed. Oh, my god, did I need it right on, I was like, when when I came, you know, to my awakening, whatever you want to call, I was like, What is going on? And why do I feel so good and weird?

Unknown Speaker 51:52 For

Brandon Handley 51:55 you, like any like, well, it's and not gone. so crazy. But um, you know, so you look for some people to talk to. So you're setting yourself up to be, like you said earlier, you know that that beacon of light right for somebody to kind of come and come and hang out with and that's great. And you're also doing that over on your essential nature. You want to talk about that for a second?

D Mike 52:13 Yeah, I think that that's actually an amazing segue, because we're talking about this, this one energy that that we all kind of came, we all kind of came from. And then we're trying to find we're trying to find somebody who relates to us coming down to this plane, somebody who can tell us that we're not crazy. And so I think that that is the idea behind your essential nature that our podcast is that we do have, we were trying, we tried to be very diverse in our demographics, you know, we've got different races, different ages, different sexes. And so we all are kind of saying the same thing. We're all talking about this message of unity, we're talking about compassion, we're talking about this energy that permeates through all of us. But whenever we have a diverse, it's exactly what we're talking about already having diverse people coming together to create something amazing, but also, it provides several different paths in so I mean, there might be somebody who looks at me, a guy who just moved here from content, and whatnot, and I get that he doesn't, I don't quite resonate with them, but then they're gonna see they're gonna see Ben, who's a chiropractor. And, you know, he's got to, he probably relates to a different demographic. And so they'll hear his message and they're going to come in, but then there's going to be the people from Compton and all that, who I believe it who I'm talking about, we all have the same, the same energy moving through us. And they might like it, you know, me who you talk to isn't like, Oh, you know, it's kind of throw that away, and then look at me, but Okay, well, I do relate with him. And you know, vice versa, all of all of this. And that's why so we have these different expressions, that I mean, it's the same, it's the same message that we're trying to, we're trying to express it through these different mediums, and so that we have, so that we can have something for everybody, because we want to bring everybody into this place where once you get in, you're in and you realize none of these demographics matter, you know, we're all the same, we're all going through the same thing. So we're just gonna have these different attraction points, and whenever So, so we're calling up this world is like, hey, there's something for everybody. And then we want to draw you into this, this layer of support and beauty. And then once you're here, you'll just you'll have all the support of everyone, and you'll be able to see all the beauty of anyone and just pushes you further into that idea of unity.

Brandon Handley 54:21 Not for sure, for sure. I love that idea of different attraction points. Okay, you guys do a great job of bringing your diversity to it. Right. And you got lots of people represented there. And, you know, I think that one of the things that needs to be recognized, and I'm terrible at it, right, like, definitely, I'll judge somebody who's younger than me by significant amount. I think I gave me you know, a little less credit than then do we had a great conversation. I let her know, at the end. I was like, You know what, you You brought more than I expected, which was great, right? Like, I mean, so it was like, man, I got kids and they show me more spirituality sometimes. And I see anywhere else. I'm like, Oh my god, you know, and that's one of the things Things that we as parents try to do here is to not take that away from them. Right? How can we how can how can we keep that light that you've already gotten there? And the things that you and I are struggling with the all these masks and all these? How do I bring my authentic self everywhere? How do I keep my children authentic? throughout? Right? Create human beings that are authentic from day one, right? And let that stay. So because it's already there, right? It's, it's the idea is that, as you and I, you know, I don't even like the word evolve anymore, as you and I gain more awareness of who we already are. Right? It's our work. It's our awareness. It's expanding, not so much that we are expanding, right? Yeah, just let you know, man. Yeah, it's just a play on words like how do I make this work for me? And that's all it really boils down to, right. Like you talked about earlier, like, yeah, you can say love God, whatever the hell you got to say, to make yourself sleep at night, I get it. So one thing like to kind of hit on like, so the idea of spiritual dope is like, you know, you get that spiritual high, right, from, you know, whatever spiritual sense or thing that you do. Where do you get like your spiritual hit from?

D Mike 56:10 Yeah. Oh, man, that's a really great question. And so I think that that kind of ties into, you know, so so my phone would I fully call myself is d Mike, the young mystic. And so a reason that I call myself a mystic is because I don't follow one teacher or one set of principles solely, you know, I try and get a little bit of, you know, a little bit from this study a little bit from this from this study, and live from this practice. And so I would say that I get it from life, I get it from so many different places, but then I think it's always about taking it back inside and seeing what resonates, I get my, I get my, my spiritual hit from experiencing as much of life as I can. And that's people, places things, everything. And then whatever I read and take in from people, I immediately take it in, and I assess it, you know, courageously and authentically, what feels good to me. And whenever I'm listening to audio books, when I'm listening to podcasts, there's always something that will, that will stick with me something that will kind of resonate with me. And I'll always give myself the space to explore that, you know, write it down, make a note of it, however, and then explore it. And just through my, through my experiences, I think that's where I get that spiritual hit. It's whenever I manifest, I mean, in whenever you manifest something, so specifically, you hold something in your mind, and you go through the the manifestation processes, and then you don't even realize it, but then you just sort of become aware and you're like, Whoa, this is what I created in my head. You know, that's my spiritual hit, being able to help somebody whenever I'm sitting across from from someone, and you're able to just gently listen to them. And I'm in that space with them. And I'm looking out through with with four eyes now from their space, and I'm able to see something that they weren't, and I'm able to help them, help them have that light go off. You know, that's where I get my spiritual from helping people. You know, like I said, I cry whenever I get emotional, anytime that I see somebody helping somebody or, or seeing somebody going out of their way, in bringing that consciousness and that empathy into real life interacting with people. That's where I get my spiritual hit from, from life from people. And from my interaction with the world. Perfect, man, I

Brandon Handley 58:25 love it. I love it. You got your spiritual hit from life. And it's funny, because, you know, like, Ohio life was somebody I'd laugh at, like years ago. I'm like, Yeah, that makes sense. Now, that's, you're so right, you can't get on in life. So it's funny how life changes. So where and I appreciate you stopping on today. Thank you so much for being here. Where can people go find you?

D Mike 58:45 Yeah, for sure. So I'm keeping up to date with unity.com is where I store everything that I've got coming up that I'm doing, which is a lot here, especially towards the end of the year. There's so much being able to be on so many amazing podcasts like this. And then yeah, so game of unity calm, follow my blog there and join the game, then you'll be able to see everything that's that I've got coming up. Your essential nature is on all the podcasts and Spotify, YouTube, all those those mediums, so check us out. They're

Unknown Speaker 59:14 awesome.

Brandon Handley 59:16 Thanks again, like,

D Mike 59:17 hey, thanks. Appreciate it.

Unknown Speaker 59:24 Thanks for listening to the spiritual, spiritual Joe. Be sure to follow us on Facebook and on our website does spiritual joe.com

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No way shape or form is this concise, but it is truth and I am 100% compelled to share it.

Brandon Handley 0:00 What is going on spiritual dope? How are you today? Listen, listen, man. So this morning has been, I'm interrupting my own daily routine. Because I had such a powerful. I'm not I'm not a big fan of how to download, right? When I hear somebody say that I'm like, shut up,

Unknown Speaker 0:30 I don't care.

Unknown Speaker 0:33 It's true.

Brandon Handley 0:36 So with that being said, I won't be able to say that myself, right, because I'm contradicting, contradicting myself. What I can tell you though, is this morning, I did have a very powerful meditation. And it came through by way of breathing exercises that I've been recently introduced to. And here's what I want to introduce to you. First and foremost, and as soon as you hear it, as soon as you hear it good, like, duh. But the real question is, is, you know, how do you know that? That's true? Right. So here's, here's the, the grand epiphany this morning. Well, and I'll say that I was in total source connection. Right, at this point, but, you know, spirit creates, and the body acts. Right. Alright, so spirit creates, and the body acts. So what does that look like? So, you know, in, I'll just kind of briefly go through kind of the meditation I had this morning. And it was, you know, very visual very, you know, kind of kind of potent, right. And this is, this is a big shout out to a friend of mine, who her husband is going through, you know, just this powerful bout of fighting, fighting,

Unknown Speaker 2:11 you know,

Brandon Handley 2:14 disease in his body, right. And, you know, here's, you know, Lindsey, I'll throw your name out there. Because it's true, right? So Lindsay, I know, I know, you tune in from time to time and kind of jumped out, I jumped out of the meditation this morning, I felt like you needed to hear this. But this is not just for you. Right? It's for all the listeners out there. As for anybody who who's going through this, and it's, it's really kind of on, if you think about, once we get on to you know, it's kind of like, accessing the Akashic records, right? If you if you've ever watched a bunch of these other movies about connected consciousness, Carl Jung I don't think he called it connected consciousness, but it was something similar. The idea is, once you tap into that, it's known, it's just it is just known, and you can feel it to be true. So that the thought is really, I'll get into the meditation. So meditation was, you know, what was I creating? What was the kind of bringing in and, and it's, I'm not creating anything by myself, I'm creating with the entirety of the universe, which is creating through me, right, and it's barely like, I'm doing anything, it's, it's cleansing, you can call it healing, if you want my removing the filters off of my spiritual capability, right? capacity, removing blockages that allow for spirits and, you know, source energy to resonate within, you know, the image I had in my mind was, you know, geez, you know, if we are star seeds, right, if we are star seeds, you know, just so you know, it's one unfortunate one in 400 trillion chance that you do listener, Lindsey Zak, you have got an anonymous listener that tunes in from time to time, Alan, you know, who's just fought through, you know, cancer at a younger age. You know, all of you are already aware of this connection to source and if you each and every one of you already know that you are one in 400 trillion chess know that there's more stars. There's more planets in the universe and there are humans At any one given time, right? So what are we here to create, we're here, you know, to create, you know, loving moments, we're here to create divine moments, we're here to give all that we allow to pass through us. Back. Right, so we are star seeds, and we are here we are accumulating, we're allowing exactly how much of that, you know, energy source today, to to become and be that light that is here to share with everybody else. Now, what are you becoming? How are you letting that energy into you? How are you removing the blockages from your human self from this one worldly self? To you, which you diverse, there's less likelihood of you, then there is this planet, if that makes sense, right? So there, there are more planets in existence than stars than all the grains of sand

Unknown Speaker 6:21 on this world.

Brandon Handley 6:25 And if you kind of you look that back down on that, there's less of you. So what has happened, right, and I'm gonna use this example. So what has happened in our lives, that we can't see that you can't see. If you haven't already recognized your own fucking greatness yet, if you keep shrugging it off. That's for everybody else out there who I can see the greatness in You, you, you, you and you.

Unknown Speaker 6:55 little old me.

Unknown Speaker 6:56 I don't know,

Brandon Handley 6:57 right? How's it happen? Unfortunately, or fortunately, you know, I got to witness, you know, the, I get to witness the build up of a child, right? And children. And, and I get to see the immediate reactions of how somebody formulates themselves. And I'm no psychologist, I'm no specialist, you know, but I've studied a ton of this shit. To know that, you know, when you see an accident, you can see what is happening right in front of your eyes. That's the beauty. That is the blessing of children, that is the blessing of a child, that is a blessing of a relationship, if you are open to watching it, and you're nurturing it, and you're so fucking fully vested that you don't miss a fucking beat. Right? So, you know, my son yesterday, you know, Finn was, you know, haven't had in a moment. And, you know, it was Meg and boys, and, you know, they were supposed to be just kind of, you know, chillin, standing still, and, and, you know, just being really respectful, respectful in a zoom scenario. And, you know, they were just kind of they were, they were, they were just acting out, right, they're just being kidnapped and out in front of this scenario, but what happened was, you know, Meg got upset with them and, and then took it so hard to get so hard. Right? And, and he's like, he's like, you know, he just, he just took it so hard, right? Took it so personally. And, you know, both Meg and I consoled him, and he had just tried to help me understand the situation, everybody, if you're in, if you're in COVID times is under a shit ton of pressure, right? If you've got a job, you're like, Can I keep this job, right? If you, if you don't, like, life is fucked. If you're going through cancer, if you're going through a z scenario, then you I know somebody that lost a brother, you know, this year because of COVID. And the condition, so people losing people, because, you know, they can't get in the hospitals because of COVID. And the situation is just 10 cents situation that the world is in. So there's, there's lots of tension and and there's an emotional release. And like I said, so he took it personally. And, and I went up and I, you know, I had to imagine, too, that I was blessed to have the job that I've got, where I could break away and be here for him. Right? You know, I'm thankful to the universe, Jesse for creating that moment so that I could be there for him. Right. So that he and I could have that connection. And I saw him, you know, kind of balling up and shrinking up and feeling bad for for, you know, how he had acted. And I looked at him and I realized, in that very moment, he was shrinking up. He was not recognizing his greatness. You know, he wasn't feeling his greatness, right. I mean, it wasn't a built up moment. I'm not alive for all of us, but we had to and let him know, say, hey, look, listen, no, you are great. You know you are not you are not that moment you are not that action separate that moment from who you are, in truth and who you are is great, who you are is amazing, who you are is kind, wonderful, and giving and all of these amazing things. So what happened to us, right, so what happened to us we didn't, I don't know that all of us got that fuckin message when we're going up. So we, we continue to shrink, we continue to shrink all the way fuckin down the fit into a mold that is acceptable, you know, the, to, to what we believe is correct, right? Those of us that you know, right now the industrial age and and and the jobs that we have, you know, have created this mold in this economy and where we are as forced us into this way of thinking that has gotten us so fucking out of alignment with who we truly are and what we're truly capable of. Because we are tight his little fucking balls, like seeds, we are straight up star seeds and until you start to recognize that greatness in yourself. That's when the you know, the the seed shell begins to soften, that's when you begin to share your light. That's when you begin to unfurl and recognize the light Listen, we've all done and been a part of some things in our past that have created who we are.

And, and and felt as though we have been created for a reason. And up to a certain point up until now, I should listen to this podcast and you already know that you are a creator. So what is it that you are creating today? And you know, I'm gonna throw this one last piece out that the reason you know that I was thinking of my friend Zack and Lindsey for this for this one too. And she just didn't you know, didn't cry, not inclusive of Jesus. But the the network that has been established because of this podcast, because of this way of being has also been amazing. So the idea is, comes from epigenetics and the studies that that they're finding right now, even though science can't release and confirm is your take that creative, loving energy that you are they shown studies where they can take like this resonant literally like a light scan figure like a CD, right of health, or have health of stem cells and regeneration and rescan it on to things that are diseased to make them healthy again, so think of it new when the doctors are doing it, that's exactly what they're doing. They may not be doing with the full knowledge that they have that capability. But you know, Lindsey for or for anybody else out there that that is in healing mode that is that is creating a healing atmosphere that is you know, has the universe on their side know that if you were to scan health from you on to another and see them as healthy, then that's one possibility to to help to help the other to heal. The entrainment field has been shown as true, right? Your resonant field has been shown as as as a real thing. Right? So just because your true science hasn't, you know, grabbed onto it and and said that it's true, doesn't mean that it's not fucking true. Guess what, 100 years ago, they didn't think electricity was a real fucking science. Okay, so listen, and then the other part of that, too, is, you know, the spirit creates, the body listens and listen, you know, that's something. And Lindsey, if you haven't already shared that with with, you know, Zach and loved ones if there's somebody out there that's in need of healing and his strong spirit just like he has Zach it's just like, Alan's been my friends, you know, people who have who have who have beat the odds. I know that they're strong in spirit and I know that they have a belief in something greater than them. The thing is, is that there's there's some people that may not have that full belief that the unit Verse, God, energy, whatever you feel like you need to call it is on their side. And I'm here to tell you that one in 400 trillion, less of us than there are planets and stars for this brilliant, loving, creative experience that we're not here for some reason, other than to be able to, to, to create some fuckin miracles. I don't know what else we're here for.

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Sam Crowley is a former Fortune 100 exec who launched the personal development brand Every Day Is Saturday & the hugely successful EverydayIsSaturday.com. Sam is a best-selling co-author, speaker & business coach.

I followed Sam's podcast for a while and eventually, I got the bug... I needed to create a podcast and I hired him to be my coach... it was during the process of creating the podcast and working with Sam that I had my "awakening experience" and at some point I had asked Sam if he could tell me what he meant by bringing someone to Christ.

That was a couple of years ago, and I wanted to capture what that meant from him again so that I could share it here with you...

Check it out and, hey, check out his podcast as well... very good spiritual dope!

Interested in working with Sam? Check out his current site: https://launchmymovement.com/

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Brandon Handley 0:00 54321 Hey, their spiritual dope I am on today with the legendary Sam Crowley from every day is Saturday and something I haven't talked about on this podcast is is that Sam was sounds like my coach Sam's like the reason I have a podcast at all. So, you know, super excited to have you on is Sam, what's going on?

Sam Crowley 0:25 Hey, Brandon, great to be back, man. It's been a minute since the last time we chatted. So I'm fired up. And I love spiritual dope. I think that's a great title for a podcast. So congrats,

Brandon Handley 0:35 man, I appreciate appreciate your huge inspiration as to why I am where I am today. And I think that your message will really resonate with the people that are listening to this podcast. And I always like to start these off with like, Hey, you know, God kind of talks to us, right? We're just we're just here, living out his message. Right? So in that vein, what's God saying to you today that my listeners need to hear?

Sam Crowley 1:00 Well, I think no matter where you've been, man, no matter how big of it, like I am the world's biggest screw up, you know, I've made way too many mistakes in my life and you know, too embarrassed to talk about most of them. We hide a lot from you know, our authenticity, because we're afraid that other people may not want to hear it or resonate with it. And you know, we end up tripping over our past man. And I'll tell you, if you and I'm not saying you got to put all your stuff out, you don't need to do that. But I just did a Facebook Live Video literally right, before we jumped on about this topic. So if I can share that if it's okay, I just yeah, absolutely just want to say that, you know, I help people really gain clarity and with their messages, you know, and people are like, Well, I'm not an A list celebrity or nobody knows me. And I'm not famous that. That's great. Like that works in your favor, because I don't know about you, but I am way past wanting to hear from Hollywood or a list celebrities about how to live my life, or who to vote for or anything like that. I just, I go to a movie, I want to watch a movie, you know, I want to learn from everyday people that are struggling, that are having financial relationship, money problems, not that they're whining on me, but they're one step ahead of where I am. So if I'm making 10 grand a month, I want to learn from somebody making 20 grand a month, if I'm in a, if I got a girlfriend, I want to learn how to make that person, my wife and how to treat her right. If I want a closer relationship with God, then I want to plug into somebody who doesn't need to be a pastor, just but somebody whose works have some messy stuff in their life. And they figured out how to just get through the valley, they haven't figured life out. I mean, nobody's got that figured out. So God places on my heart every day, watch what you say, Crowley because you're a loose cannon out there. Okay, the tongue can be used for good and not so good. It can be used to tear down it could be used to build up. So make sure you try as best you can. Because I know you're still gonna screw this thing up. But you got a podcast, it's been downloaded 20 million times you got a little bit of responsibility. Now you're not that bubble on a skillet, from way back in the day, who could just go all over the place. And so I just want everybody to know, your path should be celebrated that you're still here. You made it through. Nobody wants perfection. They just say they just want to know, can you get me from point A to point B, that's all anybody wants. They want to pay you to solve the current problem in their life. That is if it's cleaning your carpet, trimming your trees, coaching, building a website, figuring out a mortgage, that's all they want.

Brandon Handley 3:19 That's it, man. I love it. I love it. You know? And that was actually again, one of the things I loved about you, right? It was a week we connected you. You're promoting your podcast course. And I bet I was like that's it. I mean, this guy's got something I want, right? And that can get me somewhere. And that was the course. And then when I got the course, here, Sam Crowley shows up and like a baseball cap. And you know, there's a whiteboard flip chart, he's just doing your thing. And you look, it looked like I could do it. Right. I was like, Well, okay, that's the next step for me. How can I How can I move to what Sam's doing right and share at the same time share my message, right? I share this thing that's in my heart, finding, what is that thing in my heart, right? Because man, talk to me about how you know, give the audience here who doesn't know every day is Saturday, a little bit of background?

Sam Crowley 4:12 Well, my daughter back in the day, I was a corporate slave and I've been in the corporate game for 15 years, and I don't want to look a gift horse in the mouth. I was making about 110 grand a year salary, stock options, company car, all that stuff. But I had just become a dad recently, a few years prior to that. And my dad left me and my mom raising kids by herself. This was the late 60s I was born in 1968. My dad left you'd had he went crazy. just lost his mind left. My mom's raising kids so you know, welfare and all that stuff. Free cheese, goodwill, clothes, all that and you know a beaut alcoholic mom pretty abusive verbally, but I knew she loved me deep down knew she loved me. She never told me never heard it once from a parent in my life. Wow. Or you are loved and I searched for that my whole life. It has a lot to do with why sometimes I do. stupid things is because I'm looking for that acceptance. Because I never had a grown up, man. All I ever heard from my mom was I never asked for you, and I never wanted you. You know, that's what she told me a lot, you know, while she was on the ball. So I never held that against her though. So I said, God, if you ever get any kids, I'm just going to be the best part. I'm going to be that Dad, I'm going to be throwing the football, I'm going to be going to the games, the ballet, I'm going to be picking them up. And you know what, man? My daughters have never they don't even know me ever having a job. They don't recall me ever go into a job. And they don't ever resonate. They just know me as the guy that's into drop offline and the pickup line at school. And look, man, I am not you know, Mr. Mom, I've got a wife at 22 years, he does an amazing job. We have four daughters now. Youngest of which side story was born at 24 weeks one pound. And we didn't sleep for three years because the kid was in children's hospital. 221 days begging for life. When she comes home, we turn her house into a hospital. She was on a train ventilator and all of that. So you know, the everyday Saturday story, by the way, she's six years old. Now the happiest kid you'd ever seen no trick, no ventilator still has a little bit of a feeding tube stuttering problem, things like that. But she's built in the image of the Creator, just like you are just like every listener is built in the image of the Creator. You know, I'm a Christian. So I believe that we all have the Holy Spirit inside of us. And I think it would be a pretty cool conversation when we get to heaven. Everybody in the Old Testament, you got Moses, you got David, you got everybody like that. And, and they say, Man, what is it like to live with the Holy Spirit inside you? Hmm. We didn't have that before Christ, like, Whoa, that would be like, wow, you got all these people in the Old Testament would have loved have had the Holy Spirit, the Spirit Jesus left behind when he died on the cross inside of them. Were bulletproof man, you know, we're only here for a short period of time. That's why I walk around with kind of a chip on my shoulder not to be an ass but just to say Hey, man, I got the Holy Spirit inside of me I don't worry about finances, I have a little bit of anxiety, worry about my you know, but but that's what it means to me. And the whole everyday Saturday messages is an opportunity for me to show up as my real self. And I know I'm gonna make some people I'm pissing people off, I get it, I'm gonna acquire taste. And I'm not I'm not everybody's cup of tea, I get it. But I've been able to, you know, through only through the grace of God and the Holy Spirit inside of me to be able to build a movement here that people can resonate with and just allows them I teach people how to share a compelling story. That's it. I teach people how I do 10 minutes story, podcast, in my car in a Dunkin Donuts parking lot. And I've been doing it for 15 years. And that's really the crux of my business. It's so embarrassing. But it's what I do. Like that's all I do

Brandon Handley 7:42 not and it works for you. Right? I never knew the the part were never never caught that, you know, your mom never even said that. You know, I love you. That's tough, man. It's a tough way to tough way to grow up.

Sam Crowley 7:55 But you make you appreciate, it makes you appreciate because it makes you do a 180 in life. Like if you've been if you've been an alcoholic really makes you want when you finally get on that and you're sober for X amount of days, or you've been a drug addict or you've been up up, you've been addicted to porn. We all have addictions, man, I was addicted to money and ego and all that. But when you never hear I love you. You say it all the time to your kids when you don't have a drink? Or do you make sure you're more cognizant and forgiving of those that are going through tough times? I think it I'm not trying to go all you know the other way. But I really think it's a blessing if you can just look at it from that perspective, you know?

Brandon Handley 8:32 Well, yeah, I think that it's a it's a big challenge to to get to that point, right? You got to get you got to get to that point to be able to say, you know, everything that I went through was to prepare me for what I need to go through. Right, or to help other or to help others get through similar things, right? Be like, Hey, here's, here's a path forward, you know where you are, right? Now, if you're talking to somebody that's in a similar situation that you went through, be like, hey, there's, there's a way out. And here's what I found. That works for me, right? I love how you brought up like, you know, kind of the Holy Spirit, right? Being imbibed with that touch. I mean, I'm not 100% sure what you mean by that. So if you could tell the audience what that means to you, I'd love to love to share that.

Sam Crowley 9:08 What Jesus said that I leave my spirit with you when I die, I'm going to heaven. And I'm seated at the right hand of the cross. And I will come back again one day to judge the living and the dead, you know, and as Christians, we know that Jesus died on the cross for all of our sins we Christianity is not a deeds driven religion. You can't you know, you can't go and give money to the homeless or donate your clothes or say 10 our father's in a hail mary or anything like that. That's not getting you into God's already given us through the grace of his son's death. We have that tickets been punched. So it's not like you go out there and you don't act nice. It's just that it doesn't matter. Brandon, you could give all your money away all your earthly possessions away. I could go kill somebody and you and I are still getting into heaven. As long as I asked for forgiveness of my sins and accept Christ as my Savior. There are 10 commandments in the Bible. Thou shalt That steel is one of them. That you know. So if you steal $1 from somebody knowingly and I go kill someone, those are viewed equally in the Bible isn't as you've broken a commandment, there is no little white lie or venial sin or mortal sin, all stuff. So what it means to have the Holy Spirit inside of you is that you've got that power of Jesus Christ inside of you, doesn't mean you won't die of cancer. Now, I mean, that we have, it's a fallen world. That's the other side of the coin. You know, I've lost friends in my 30s and 40s, I lost my mom in 1997. I mean, I've had nasty things done to me, I've done nasty things to people. I mean, it's a fallen world, man, we also have this thing called free will, you know. But when you have the Holy Spirit inside of you, that means you have Jesus Christ himself inside of you. So when you have those bills that are sitting on your coffee table, and you just got laid off, it's not like it's a get out of jail free card, but it should allow you to rest in the peacefulness of Christ to know that we this is just a temporary gig, man, even if you live to the mortal age at 78, the average mortality in the US there, and I'll give you the exact analogy of a gentleman, this pastor, Francis Chan, who used this analogy, imagine a row that goes all around the world, millions and millions of times just this big row, and millions and millions and millions and millions of feet of this row, at the very beginning of this rope rain is just that red marker. And just like that just right, the very beginning. That's life on Earth. No, no rest of the rope represents eternity. So that's why, like I said, I get mad, I fly off the handle, you know, and I get anxious about stuff. But when you rest in the word, you're never anxious, because you're resting in Christ Himself. This is all just such a temporary gig, man. It is.

Brandon Handley 11:51 I love it. And I love the idea too, that you, you don't hide this from anyone. Right? Or at least back it up. Because when when I did, when I was, you know, a big listener of yours. You were, I think just kind of leading into sharing, you know, your Christianity like, full on like super hard, right? Like it was your it was it was the, you know, armor of God ages or whatever like that, right? Like, this is like you were just going full on. You talk about what it meant for you to incorporate that into your podcast. Well, you

Sam Crowley 12:28 know, I've always been a Christian was always like, I grew up Catholic. And then in 2005, I would, I would say, that's what most people would view as the word like being saved. Like you've accepted Christ into your heart, you know, and then around, you know, five years ago, or so when I was going through all this stuff with my daughter, I'm like, man, all I have all we had was faith. That's all we had. We didn't have anything other than our faith. I'm not, I don't know what to do with a kid born at one pound with a hole in her heart, several brain bleeds. I don't even know she can see me. I mean, what do you do with a kid at one time? All you have is faith in God that at that point, at least, that's all I had. So I started, you know, sharing more of it on social media. And then what's funny is I just did one town a lot. I sent an email out to my list, and I said, Hey, man, I gotta give praise to God. You know, I don't know if you guys get this, but I am a Christian. I believe in God, I just like everything I just told you, you know. And I had an email list of 39,000 people at the time, and I said, Hey, if you're on if you want to stay on my list, man, and you believe this message, you click this link. Well, 38,000 of them did. Okay. So my email is basically going from 39,000 to 1000. But my business increased that year. So I mean, look, I don't know, but I just, I'm not a preacher, Pastor, teacher,

Unknown Speaker 13:37 you know.

Sam Crowley 13:39 I mean, I think even Tony Robbins would acknowledge that all of the motivation that he says, or Jim Rohn, or Les Brown, it all comes from the Bible. It's all the parables that Tony talks about, and Jim Rohn if you've never listened to him on YouTube, it's a must listen. They all come from the Bible, Bob Proctor, they're all biblically based, you know? And so they're 66 of the best motivational books you'll ever hear all wrapped into one book called The Bible, and a lot of people butcher it. Like they'll say, money is the root of all evil. Well, no, the love of money is the root of all evil. Yeah, it's easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than a wealthy man to get into heaven. Okay, but that's because money's reference. There's a reason why it's referenced more than any other phrase in the Bible, because God knew it would become an idol to us, you know. So I'm not a pastor. I'm just really in tune with the Christian message. And if anybody wants to talk about religion over a beer, a glass of mirlo, I'm that guy. If you want me to quote scripture, I'm not that guy, because I can barely quote it, but I know who wrote it. And I'm got a pretty good relationship with the guy, I think, you know, but I'm not here to bring anybody to Christ. I'm here. If anybody were to say, Hey, tell me more about it like you did.

Unknown Speaker 14:46 I'm here to tell you more about it.

Sam Crowley 14:47 But I think the worst thing we can do as Christians is to try to beat the fish into the boat and say, repent, repent, you know, your last day No, because people don't read. I think people resonate with more how you carry yourself, you know, then how you can Quotes scripture that actually turns me off on somebody does that like, quotes the Bible and throws it back at me, you know?

Brandon Handley 15:06 Now that can be that can be annoying, but it's funny. It's funny it's you bring up, you know Bob Proctor right. And and that line the the idea of people people don't resist change they resist being changed right from Bob Proctor like that's that's one of his lines the you know you brought up you bring it up like you know maybe your job is not to bring people to Christ but we you and I had a conversation where in that moment you felt like part of your role was to bring people to Christ. Even if you don't feel like that's your job? What does it mean to bring someone to Christ them?

Sam Crowley 15:41 Well, I think we have a mutual friend Adam, who thanked me because he claimed that I had brought him to Christ and he got baptized, and he let me know about it one day a few years ago saying, Hey, man, I got baptized, you know, you're the reason I came to Christ and like, Wow, that's pretty big deal, man. Like, I would give away all my money and all everything. God if some if I were to get that message, you know, because, as Paul says, and all the apostasy I mean, the reason they were persecuted, and all of that is because they want they were preaching the gospel, you know, and we're sick. We're the only reason we're here as Christians is to share the good news. But I gotta tell you, dude, I ain't going to Kroger in the produce section and sharing the good news with a stranger. I just don't do that. And I know I'm supposed to do that. But I just can't, I can't do that, you know. But to bring somebody to Christ is like, that is monumental. I mean, that is amazing. Because now you know that they have that everything I just talked about earlier, they have that they rest in that piece, and they have that relationship. And it's a personal relationship to everybody. That's why I'm not in your face. But it's personal to people. So, you know, if you are messing up, I'm not here to say, you know, stop watching the porn or stop stealing money or stop gambling or anything like that and say, Man, if you if you want to talk about it, if I can help you at all, I can share some great resources with you, but only when you're ready, because if you're not ready, it's just it has the opposite effect, you know.

Brandon Handley 17:02 Now, I like that a lot, too. I think that's almost fair to have some of these. I don't know, put ourselves out there some of these endeavors, right. But also be willing to take that step towards that if that's something that you think is good for you like, go go explore it and go find out what it's like. And again, go to somebody like Sam, or others, like, you know, for Christianity or podcasting and marketing, right. For me, I think I think a big part of this whole journey has been having faith in what's inside of me, right, the spirit that's inside of me, Holy Spirit, I guess, right. I think that I could make that linkage, feeling that and then stuffing, you know, this was another huge. I love that. I still like this is a lie that echoes from Sam's podcasts from back in the day, because when was the last time you stepped out in faith? Mm hmm.

Right.

Yeah. I'm sure he probably said it several times since since then on the podcast, but you know, you would hear Sam go When was the last time you stepped out? When is the last time you went out? You did something that you you believed in right. And in yourself, right. with purpose and passion does and Sam, if you haven't listened to Sam's podcast, this is something that he does very well. I told him I hadn't listened for a minute. And I picked up podcasts listen a few this morning. It seems like charging, charging, gung ho with everything. And then it was so much it was so much fun just to because you are motivational, you are inspiring. You know, I caught the one where you know, your daughter was being bullied. Yeah. Right. And just just how fired up and how authentic you are. On your podcast, when somebody you know, reaches out to where should they be in life? Or what should they be thinking when they reach out to Sam Crowley to have you coach them or mentor them for podcasting,

Sam Crowley 18:54 they got to be ready to step like you just said it step out. And a lot of people really, they just and I was that way to man, I'm not here again, you got to be ready, you got to you got to be ready to launch your message. And that sounds pretty, like scary. And what do I do? It's nothing. I mean, it's just let me help you gain clarity on what your message is, like I said, you could be a carpet cleaner, tree trimming trees, you could be a motivational speaker, whatever it is you want to do, but everything comes to us through the power of a story. And I teach people how to tell their story. So you got to be ready to create your million dollar message, and then learn how to make money with that message. And that's an organic play. It's not a push button. I mean, we can all buy Facebook ads, drive traffic to a funnel and then deal with all those numbers. I'm more of an organic guy where I like to build it from podcasting is my main thing, but you could do it on YouTube. You could do it on Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram, I mean, I'm just I focus on podcasts and because I've been doing it 15 years and I like to do simple, better. You know, if you talk about that one phrase right there, do simple better. So keep it simple and do it Better than everybody else. Don't keep you know, look squirrel, you know, and you go chase in 10 different things. It's just, I've seen that I've done it, how do I know what doesn't work? I've done all this stuff I talked about that doesn't work. The only way I know is because I've actually done it myself, you know? And so I've chased those squirrels to shiny objects thinking I'm gonna get on a webinar. Oh my god, I'm gonna do real estate liens and tax liens. And I'm gonna go do commercial real estate and I'm gonna go be an MLM. And I'm gonna have lotions, potions and pills in my basement. My I've done all that man. And you know what that works. There's billionaires in the MLM industry, you know, who isn't passionate about lotions, potions and pills, this guy, me, I wouldn't be good at it. Because I'm not passionate about it. You know what, I'm passionate about getting on a podcast with you and talking about stuff that's real. And, you know, when you talking about faith, a faith that's never been tested can't be trusted. So if you think that you're going to operate that faith muscle without ever stepping out, it ain't gonna work. Because if you've never tested it, how could you possibly trust it? You know,

Brandon Handley 20:59 always so much fun with Sam Crowley always so much fun. Sam, I know we've got kind of a short time period today. So I'm not going to try and drag anything out. You got time? Yeah. Well, I mean, you know, when I'm, when you also talked about being saved in 2005. Right. I'm curious what that look like and felt like for you?

Sam Crowley 21:21 Well, I had been through a bankruptcy. So I was humbled. Thank God when he's when you're ready to come to him. He I think he's gonna humble everybody. At some point in time. I had an ego the size of Montana. Like I said, I was running a $90 million corporate division here in Cincinnati. And I had all these employees problem was I had 20 college credits, most of them gym and health class. I was ill prepared to manage anybody. I couldn't get my dog to sit, let alone you know, get employees to listen to me. I was not a leader. I know. I am not john Maxwell. Okay. So I was just terrible, I think at what I did, but I was getting all these accolades and getting promoted, but I didn't have a passion for it. And it all came crashing down. I left and I thought there's going to be I bought a quiznos franchise and that what the hell I love went bankrupt, lost 300 grand, borrowed money from my sister lost that I had no money, man, no money, file bankruptcy October 11 2005. It was humbling. I didn't bankruptcy is like a scarlet letter. I thought you could just not ever recover. It's done, you're done. And I lost my job and why I left my job. But then I went back to my job three months later working for everybody that used to work for me. And that's when I would start going to church with my wife. And I'm like, Man, this is crazy. What's really putting her hand in the air? What we don't do that at cat like growing up Catholic. You don't talk in church? You know, what's that PowerPoint up there? Man? This is good. This is what is this a movie theater production or something? But then it started to work. And that's what God does. He starts to work on a broken heart, a broken person, you can't we got this facade up. You got that ego like I you know, you can't God can't go to work on you. But he will, he'll get to you. And he'll get to you through the crack in your armor. And we all got to crack an armor and heal us and Satan will get to you through the cracks in your armor to. And when Satan gets to you through pornography, through drugs through alcohol through money, he knows the crack in your armor, he will work that crap. God was looking for the light and he's looking to work with you and work on your heart. Satan's looking to do one thing that's all he can do is why he's got to lie. It's all he does is lie. The one trick that's the lie to you. So when I was saved, I accepted Christ. I said, Man, I can't do this anymore. I don't want the ego. I just don't want any I just want a relationship with God. Now I know why I'm here. And that's you know what happened?

Brandon Handley 23:34 as powerful I'd never heard that story from you before. So I appreciate you sharing that. When when you not now you're not you're full in right. Do you feel like your business is more fulfilling? Because you've got your spirituality? Lead on it?

Sam Crowley 23:50 I think so. Yeah. I mean, look, I don't have it figured out. I feel like you know, I have I listen to great podcast elevation church, Steven furtick in North Carolina. I love my favorite podcast. I listened to a lot of spiritual things like that audio books to keep my mind where it needs to be. And here's the thing I do have that I don't think I used to have is when I feel myself straying off course. God brings me back and look keep the main thing the main thing remember your dad your husband? Yeah, you know, this business isn't everything cuz? Look, I have ups and downs like everybody does in business and relationships and you know, finances all that stuff and health. But I feel like you know, now at least I've got kind of an internal GPS guiding me. I didn't know that before.

Brandon Handley 24:39 You mentioned like the health part. I know. I remember. One of the big parts too. When we first connected you were doing 100 laps, I think through the pool. Right? And that's, that's actually what I mean. I ended up doing it too, which is really funny. I ended up you know, swimming and doing a triathlon and, and getting healthy. You know, how's that tying into to kind of everything you're Going to

Sam Crowley 25:00 Well, my wife and I joined this eight week fitness group six weeks ago and I weighed 210. But I've kind of purpose because I drove the car off the cliff with food night before I started going out to a big dinner and my wife and I weighed in at 210. down to 190. It's only been five weeks. We're on week six. Now, my wife and I've grown very close together through this because we're doing it together. I did drag her kicking and screaming. My wife is not overweight. She's like, I don't want to do this belly. Come on, let's do it. But she feels amazing. We feel amazing. We've gone closer we eat together now breakfast, lunch, dinner, because we got to eat the same types of foods and stuff. And I always think that, you know, health is so amazing. I'm 52 years old man. I feel like I'm 25 I'm not really I'm not just saying I really do I feel the aches and pains. And I get up a little bit in the morning that I didn't when I was younger, but I mean, I'm running three, four times a week I'm lifting three times a week. I feel like I could you know, get in a ring with a gorilla and beat the crap out of them. And I feel like I can outrun Roger Bannister, man, you know all of this at the same time. And I say all that jokingly because I can't do any of that. But health wise. Right now I feel I'm just getting healthier and stronger and my mind is sharper. And for example, I gave up cream. I never had sugar. I gave up sugar a long time I gave up sugar and pasta A long time ago still eat bread sometimes. Well, now I'm drinking black coffee. I'm not a black coffee guy at all like I can I wanted to vomit on the first day. I thought I'd have to have black coffee. Well not you get a little bit of you know, flavored coffee like cinnamon or snickerdoodle. Something like that. It doesn't count against you. It's all about that intermittent fasting. You know what I mean? Sure. So I'm a black coffee guy. Now I'll never go back to cream. I haven't had cream in six weeks. I haven't had sugar in six weeks outside of fruit. You know, natural sugar.

Unknown Speaker 26:42 Feeling amazing.

Brandon Handley 26:44 Imagine imagine putting cream in your wine. That's what you'd be doing now. Right? That's what it's like. I mean, cuz I've been a black coffee guy for years. And like, really? Oh, yeah. When I see put people put cream and sugar. I'm like, that's a Why would you ruin a good coffee?

Sam Crowley 26:56 Dude, you should go to Dunkin because there are people who get 1213 sugars. Okay, I don't know if you've seen it. But I was in line the other day at Dunkin getting a black coffee leaf. Yeah, five sugars and on a Carmel swirl coffee which is all sugar itself. She leaves I go Oh my gosh. I said to the girl with it. Five sugar. She was a guy before he had 13 I go 13.

Unknown Speaker 27:19 How to how do you even drink coffee with 13 sugars? stick with what we're doing to our body? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 27:26 All that all that inclusive. All that included? So you mentioned you mentioned a couple of podcasts and what are some audibles? I guess that you like to keep your spirituality Mojo going,

Sam Crowley 27:40 like audio books or podcasts or

Brandon Handley 27:42 audio books, podcasts, resources that if you know the people looking for a spiritual bump, or as I like to call it spiritual dope, get their hit. Where would they go? Like what do you like?

Sam Crowley 27:54 Well, I think there's a few Steven furtick. There's my number one, like I said, elevation church. I love it. Chris vallotton has some great audio books. The one I listened to recently was called poverty, riches and wealth. It's v as in Victor al L. Ott, O n Kris vallotton. Chris with a K. K ri s. And that's a great audio book. It's a biblically based book about poverty, riches and wealth. And it doesn't make you feel ashamed for being a wealthy Christian. Alright? Because God, God, God wants us to be prosperous. He just doesn't want us to idolize money. That's all. And so look, if there weren't any wealthy Christians, churches wouldn't be built hospital England and get funded things like that, you know, we need very, very wealthy people who know how to use that money for God's kingdom. So those are the types of audible audios that I search for our wealthy, both. I don't mean wealthy, just money wise, I mean, wealthy, but I'm not going to listen to somebody who says give all your money away. God doesn't want you to buy That's crazy. You know, God, we can't money is just a tool. It doesn't like the old adage I don't know who said it, but the government can sure knows how to ruin a good piece of paper, put an egg on it, you know, money.

But, you know,

it's just I like wealthy Christians who do good things. I mean, Rick Warren wrote Purpose Driven Life, you know, and that guy, reverse tide is 90% of his money gives away lives on 10%. Now I understand 10% of 10 million or whatever, the guy has a lot of money, but still, he's given away how many other people could make that much money and give away 90% you know, so those are the types of teachings I like to listen to.

Brandon Handley 29:29 And that's powerful. That's powerful. Reminds me of a good a Buddhist Reverend on I talked to him every once in a while. And he talks about being able to give with wisdom, right? Not just not just like, give it all away. But to be able to give and know that it's going to a place that it's going to have an impact. It's like an investment in society. Right. where's this going to best? best best? best play out? Is it brother I don't have a whole lot for you today, man. It's been a minute I wanted to go. Yeah, well wanted to get you on and just, you know, thank you again for being the inspiration that you were, and are, and you continue to be for others and what it looks like to, you know, be a shining light and have a flourishing business. And that's something I think you've exemplified.

Sam Crowley 30:15 Thank you. And it's great catching up with you, man. I appreciate that. Thank you so much.

Brandon Handley 30:18 Absolutely. Where do I send people to go find the SAM Crowley?

Sam Crowley 30:23 Dale, I've got a brand new video I put out at launch my movement.com and they could check out I will launch and your entire podcast for you.

Brandon Handley 30:32 Well, well, wait a second. What's that look like?

Sam Crowley 30:36 What's that look like? All you got to do is literally talk, I put everything together with a monetization plan to show you how to make six figures with your podcast. So all you got to do is literally just speak into the microphone that I tell you to buy. Even that

Unknown Speaker 30:48 part is done. Wow. Wow. Okay,

Sam Crowley 30:51 so it's a done for you podcast is program if you go to launch my movement calm.

Brandon Handley 30:55 That's awesome, man. No, that's great. That's great. And the guys guys and girls. You know, Sam has been doing it for a long time. He is a coach for Tony Robbins. Right. Can I say that? You know, they're coaches on a podcast. Yeah. So I mean, you know, it's not like he's some dude, just like he may be doing I was basement and he is definitely like, is out there in a car in front of dunkin donuts. But uh, you know, you know, reach out to him because he's legit. He's been doing it for a long time. And if you've got a message that's on your heart, he can help you get that out there. And the part about like, it had been handheld, like to get through it. And with that kind of plan. That's awesome. Sam, thanks for putting that out there for people back. Being a good student. Dude. I remember when we I remember when we started working together three years ago. And I know that you were a bit apprehensive. I just know you were when we first started working together. Who's this guy? What am I getting myself into and look where we are over three years still friends, you know,

Sam Crowley 31:54 talk, and we respect each other. And that's what happens when you get into a concurrent relationship with people on the internet. You know, you can have these long lasting friendships, and somebody can still pay you money. And that doesn't mean you look at them with $1 sign on their forehead, we you know, we'll be talking for a long time to come. So don't be afraid to put your message out there. you'll attract individuals like I attracted Brandon. And here we are three and a half, almost four years later, still in touch with each other. That's the power of building friendships out of client relationships.

Unknown Speaker 32:25 Agree? Yeah.

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Unknown Speaker 0:01 What is happening spiritual dope, been a minute, since I've gone to many places, in order to even do a podcast or anything from the car, which used to be one of my favorite places to hop on and do a podcast or do anything with

Unknown Speaker 0:30 simply because let's make good use of that time. Sometimes I'd rather get in the car and create, then consume. So that's what I miss about doing these in the car.

Unknown Speaker 0:46 So I had a, had somebody reached out. In regards to the podcast, I want to say thank you anonymous. I seem to be a younger lady who has kind of gone through some shit. And

Unknown Speaker 1:04 she's on her, she's on her spiritual journey. And has gone through some breakups and gone through some other stuff.

Unknown Speaker 1:13 But the big point really is she says, Hey, I have maybe this is my quarter life crisis. And

Unknown Speaker 1:21 I told her, you know, there's a, it's kinda like these windows of opportunities. I think you're, you know, at least in my experience, right, we always got to talk about, it's been my experience that, in my experience,

Unknown Speaker 1:34 I was in that space a couple times, in my younger years, where I was feeling very spiritual and closer connection to the divine, if you will, call it what you want. And when I brought it up to a couple different people,

Unknown Speaker 2:00 they just kind of gave me the eye, right? And there's like, whatever, dude. And the thing was, I didn't feel like I had somebody to talk to. Right, I know that she's coming out of

Unknown Speaker 2:15 talks about, you know, also coming out of her religion, 2.6 years. And the thing is, is what happens is, first of all, now you don't have something you don't feel like you have somebody you can talk to. So you kind of go back inside, you keep feeling it for a little bit. And then what happens is you're distracted. The pace of life picks up the game. And you kind of forget that you're on that spiritual journey. You know, you kind of forget and that window of opportunity. As I look back, it was there several times, there's always there's always a moment of transformation, there's always a moment where you can make that choice that send you down the path that could lead you to greater spiritual connection. And look, guys, and gals. I think that it's really important to say that that's spiritual spirituality, that sense of self. You know, that kind of the inside of you the divine spark that gives you life, you know, when they call it, they call it prana. You know, your lifeforce, it's going through you. And sometimes you're not feeling right, you're not feeling in touch with that if you're not feeling somewhat vitalized not revitalized. If you're not feeling that you've got some type of sensation that you're humming for in life, then you're not in touch with that and not in touch with stores you're in not connected to your your spirit, right? How many times have people say that, we're going to do this in the sphere of or that person is very spirited or a horse, spirit of horses, something that comes to my mind. Meaning that they're hard to control or maintain or they have a life of force of their own. That's driving them that's beyond your, your means of control. That meet that next internal control. My ability to control you because you're very spirited person meaning and I'm subservient to external forces. When you're driven by the spirit of something, the spirit of your your great ideas of passion Does this tremendous alignment with who you show up as every day. And that's the window of opportunity, as a window of opportunity is who, you know, if you're feeling that way. And you're able to have a conversation with somebody who has been in that space and knows what it's like to, to do both to do to reject it. Or to not be able to find somebody to help you facilitate grabbing hold of that shit and grabbing on for dear life and just saying, I don't know where this is going, but it feels fucking awesome. That's, that's kind of the, that's the window of opportunity. Because what'll happen is if you don't, if you don't, if you don't find that person, if you don't find somebody that, you know, says, Hey, you know what? Yeah, I get it, you know, align with that shit and go for it. And yes, it says just to you, because all you're looking for is just just a little, just a little bit of like, yes, okay to go for that. It's okay, that you're feeling like, you know, this, this spiritual disconnect, reconnect, because you've been outside of yourself for so long. The window closes. And I can tell you from personal experience, my window closed for 20 years. And so I told her, I said, you know, I'm just compelled to tell you how you make sure that you see this, don't lose this window of opportunity. Pay attention to it, because it's showing up in your life for a reason. And it's showing up now. So that, you may hold on to it, so that you may talk through it. And it's really, you know, that's the veil, right, the veil is so thin,

Unknown Speaker 7:19 that you can see through it. What you can't touch it, you know, the veil is so thin that you can, you could reach to it. And it always seems out of reach, but it's always right there. And all you got to do is be willing to, to stand the minimal amount of tension that's between you and your spirit to pierce it right to connect with it. And you know, that that's been my experience. And that that was my you know, that's all I can really say on that. So they're anonymous, you know, also know that it's, she said, there's a couple of pieces to write and other pieces to your brain. And your your cognitive abilities aren't fully formed until about 23 to 26. So the other piece of that is it's like it's kind of like your your whole consciousness is slamming into place right now. Right? So you're coming into being it's not like it's it's like, if we can go back to the Wayback Machine. And you'd look at some 56 k dial up internet and how long does it used to take to download that shit? The lifetime I guess what? new technology has not been invented as long as they can humans have been around and sometimes that download takes a long time for a full consciousness connection. Because if it came down all at the same speed, and just like they're your dog, right full full on explosion. So that does another piece. The other piece is you know, changing out of the religion. It's interesting. It's very interesting, because all the texts all the infinite wisdom that's in like, I think every religion is the same. You know, it's essentially the same Edwin Brian does, like Hinduism. was talking about it once upon a time. It's just like, there's so many different ways to go about it. That you know, eventually As you're done flipping through the pages of all the different ones you could choose, it's like, you just got to pick one and ride it out. You know, just kind of pick one and ride it out. And I promise you, that ship will take you there, it will take you there. Pick any one of them. They all work. What doesn't work is when you start hopping in between each and every other one of them. Now, that being said, also enjoy Florence scovel Shinn, and the idea that you can't learn your lessons from just one man. Right? So sometimes you need the other texts to supplement your current text. And how that work is, you know, I read a lot about Christians becoming better Christians through Buddhism, right, there are some, there are some wisdoms that you may not be open to, because you've heard them your whole life you've already set like some type of you've already set some type of level of understanding that you may not be willing to revise, because you said it right. You said hey, this is this, I understand it as such and does this, you know, and once you kind of lock it in, you're very reticent to alter that, unless, or until maybe you go and you pick up some Buddhism, right, and you're reading or Hinduism or whatever. And there's like this line in there. That seeks past, like the defense mechanisms that seeks past all these other levels of understanding that you've already set and created. For some, you know, Jews, even Christianity, for example, you've already set your level of understanding for XYZ story, and like the set and then like,

Unknown Speaker 12:15 something will come along and Buddhism, and it'll be almost the exact same story.

Unknown Speaker 12:23 And we'll make it click, you'd be like, Oh, my God, holy shit. That's it. That's what they meant. And you know, the book of Job. I don't even know, right, Leslie, but your filters are set to your current level of understanding. So

Unknown Speaker 12:41 if you go to this is why, like, you know, Buddhism, this is why Eastern religion is so attractive to us Westerners, because we've already we've already made up our minds about the Bible, we already made up our minds about God, we know all that should already give me something new. Right? Because we are also wise, full of it. So the thing is, whatever your your religion is, now, I promise you, the answer is available there. The thing is, you're done looking there, you want a new experience, and so you're just not willing to see it. And that's okay. But just know that you know, what your league, you know, what you're looking for, what you're seeking is seeking you what you're looking for is available, right where you are to day with the resources, and the people and the things that are there today. And that's okay. If you'd rather go look somewhere else, but know that know that it's available there for you today. Know that, you know, your group is a religion, if you've been in the same place for 26 years, you know, with the same religion there's, there's just, there's, it's in there for you. Right. And, and the way you're thinking the connection with spirituality, it's available within that group. And I say that simply because, you know, I still remember a good buddy of mine, Rudy. When I was going through like my quote unquote, awakening, right when I was going through this, you know, people like you know, existential crisis wise, going through this. Holy shit. I just connected with spirit, and I don't know what the fuck is going on. I was able to turn to Rudy and say, Rudy, I'm going through this. I'm going through this. Holy shit, Rudy, because I yeah, testimony. I was like, and he said it and it was just he accepted it just so easily. We were eating food, I still remember at the buffet. And he didn't skip a beat. Did not skip a beat. So I just watch it. Know that while it may not feel comfortable for you to have that conversation with someone that's you know, within, you know, your, your immediate confines, I guess it's okay. But the chances are is that there's much greater acceptance of who you are where you are, then sometimes you give people credit for, and especially when it comes to spirituality and that's been so far that's been my experience. So again, you know, look, windows of opportunity, meaning if you're feeling connected to source right now, follow that because if it shuts down and you let the rest of your life you know, take take place, then you may let it go. And you may, it may take a while for us to pick it back up again. If it takes a long time for you to pick back up where you left off with the ability to have the universe behind your back. You know, the next 10 to 1520 years just could be rough because you dropped it

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Unknown Speaker 0:02 You're listening to the Spiritual Dope podcast with your host, Brandon Handley the spiritual

Unknown Speaker 0:11 with today's

Unknown Speaker 0:11 guest from your essential nature's podcast this spiritual worked out ready

Brandon Handley 0:20 hey there spiritual dope I am on today with Emma har and she's coming to us here from your essential nature podcast. I met Emma through Dr. Ben chambers and the your essential nature podcast. And that podcast is based on the longer yearning that we all have to know ourselves at the deepest level. And in this podcast series, they explore the template to know yourself, experience peace, and grow in mindful awareness and bring more light into the world. Who wouldn't want to be check in into that? Right. So thanks for joining today. You know, tell us a little bit about what brings you here today.

Emmy Harr 1:06 Oh, my goodness, yes. Well, um, this is a common mistake. So I'll give you a little past card for this. But my name is actually me. So just like the Emmy Awards, short for Amber. So um, yeah, as far as bringing in, I think we're just kind of in this expansion phase of getting connected with your right tribe. Okay. And with your essential nature, Ben did an amazing job kind of plucking the the the misfit toys and putting them together. And we just had an amazing chemistry as the the group of four of us. And with that, each person's kind of doing their own thing, as far as building their spiritual practice and their spiritual businesses, and helping clients that way. And so, yeah, you and I got connected from mutual friends and mutual friends. And it's just, now's the time to say yes, and manifestation. So absolutely.

Brandon Handley 2:04 I love that. So I like to start these off with the idea that sources speaking through us, and that there's somebody out there listening to this podcast today. And a message can only come through you to them through this podcast. What is that message?

Unknown Speaker 2:30 Patience.

Emmy Harr 2:34 Definitely patience, especially when it comes to the surrender process. As your life starts unfolding, it's happening for you, not to you. And it takes a little bit of patience, probably more patience than anybody wants to admit that they are.

Brandon Handley 2:50 Sure, sure. We are not patient. People, especially, especially in Western society, right. How has that shown up in in your life?

Emmy Harr 3:05 page? Oh, gosh, yeah, definitely more of a recent thing. So I remember when I was little, I always felt like I was different, not like a weird, different, but a really good different. And not an arrogant sense of I'm better than everybody. But just like, I felt like I knew something more than the average person my age did. And lo and behold, that was basically just like utilizing light, right? Like That was my gift is being a beacon instead of darkness really. And so I remember just like going through middle school, especially a little bit of high school, college, even post college, just feeling like I was like, Am I just so abnormal, that I don't have anybody, like, even my really good friends? That like truly gets me, you know, like, and I remember just like yearning for these deep relationships. And then, ironically, about five years ago, I moved from Wisconsin to Austin, Texas. And that was when my whole life was really just like, flipped upside down. like totally shaken. I remember. As soon as I stepped foot on Austin ground I remember looking straight up to the sky and asking what the hell am I doing here? Because I truly, I know I was guided down there and I knew it was gonna be like a powerful season in my life. But I mean, immediately like, I could just feel my whole aura just shaking, like could not get grounded for the first like year and a half No matter how much yoga, meditation, dance like none of that. And I remember just like crying, just begging for one person, one person that understood my heart and Yeah, then and of course, that can be friendships. I know for a lot of people, it's romantic partners as well. And we're always just craving that soul partnership. And yeah, I can tell you like, even with Austin I was that's when I started basically commission only a business insurance and finances, and I had no concept of what business or sales meant, you know, I came from the infant room with 14 infants prior to. So I was really I was on my own I had one friend that was never there, he moved from Austin with me. And then I didn't know anybody working 90 hours a week studying learning this whole new realm. You know, it was really a you eat what you kill type of environment, right survival mode on its on its best. And it just felt like I was always just like hacking away, right, like taking the ice pick to a sculpture. And yet the sculpture wasn't forming. And I was just working so hard. And it nothing was flowing, like not even my energy was. And so fast forward three years, I moved to Kansas City, again, a divine, a divine way on how I knew it was Casey that I was supposed to go to. But it just felt like a huge way it was just like, lifted off my my chest, I could breathe, even though it was freezing. And it just felt like things were coming together. And now I have an amazing tribe of members who like to have depth, in depth conversations, they like to talk about God, we can have civilized conversations, on politics, spirituality, all of this. And within the last probably six to eight months, I've just really been at this surrender phase of like, okay, universe, you're the one leading my life, I'm just swimming through it. I'm totally just at bay here. And I can say that, since that's happened, it's just been a lot more peaceful of a life. And I'm still being taken care of, you know, it's more of a less survival more of an abundance mentality. And so, you know, it's funny, I think about well, it only took me 28 years to get to that point. But I know people were in their 60s that aren't even at that point. So when I talk about patience, I mean, patience.

Brandon Handley 7:30 For sure, for sure. Lots in there. Right. So thanks for sharing, kind of that, you know, backstory on I remember, I went to Texas, went to Dallas. And I think that I had a really similar experience where I got down there and I was what what am I doing here? Maybe it's just Texas. They are, they are a different breed. And that's okay. Right. And, and, you know, you mentioned, you know, you know, all the yoga all the meditation kind of makes me think of all the king's men and all that, you know, you know, Humpty Dumpty couldn't put it back together again. But, uh, you know, but that's it, right? Like, everything you were doing you still you weren't kind of coalescing and gathering shape, they're right, or form the form at least that you were in search of, while you were in Texas, right. And you also talk about this being in survival mode. And, and, you know, kitten, you know, eating what you eat what you kill, right? survival mode aspect, and, you know, that's, it's, it's kind of a, it's a tough existence, right? There's a, there's a Francis ism involved with survival mode, right, there's a, there's a closed off sness of being in survival mode. Primarily, because you don't know that there is another mode available. Right? Like, this is just kind of how you're taught to, you know, go out there, it's like, you're literally being pushed out of the nest. Right? Yeah. Like, you know, you either fly, or you're or you figure out some other way to make it about a little broken wing. So, you know, definitely, definitely interesting to kind of be going through all that and also looking for some type of connection. You know, when when you're talking about, you know, killing you know, you know, eating what you kill in that moment. Even that phrase limits the potential of connection, right, if that's your mentality, right? Um, you know, it's kind of like, if we think of like law of attraction, like who's drawn to that, right. And then of Iran because it you know that that also to me indicates like the Yeah, the certain strength of will and desire to live and be so doesn't you know, there's also that right. But you probably weren't really thinking of it in those terms. I could be wrong, right? You may not have been thinking about it in those terms at that time, because it sounds like you're like, I gotta get the hell out of here. And where is the next year? And the next year for you? Kansas City.

Unknown Speaker 10:26 I mean, you know who, you know who

Brandon Handley 10:29 am Right, right, you're right. Like if I've got even even if I've got a map up on the wall and a Dart, the likelihood that is going to hit Kansas City, and that's going to be, you know, my nama stay place. Right. Oh, God, why and how so? Tell us a little bit about how you ended up there. What was it that drew you to Kansas City? Yeah, that's

Emmy Harr 10:51 so funny. Um, I had never even heard of Kansas City until a few years ago. And just real quick,

Brandon Handley 10:59 Kansas City's in Missouri. Not Kansas. No, it's

Emmy Harr 11:03 both split town. It's so what the hell no.

Brandon Handley 11:08 This is a strong note to that. It's like calling turkey burgers like hamburgers, right? Like that's just to know that's it. That's a turkey Patty.

Emmy Harr 11:16 No, there's Casey, Mo, and Casey. Okay. I learned that the hard way. So my, one of my dear friends from college moved here. I think four, four years ago or something. So I was still in Austin. She moved here. And I remember in Austin, when I was starting to make a little bit of money, I got the flow of business. You know, I was like, cool. The reason I'm making money and want to make money is so that I can go travel and experience the world, right? And so where do you go, you go to Kansas City to visit one of your best friends. So I remember I was I came here during summertime, in 2016, or 2017. And it was so much fun. It was great. And the irony is I remember she took me out for bagels. And we were sitting outside in the sunshine. And I remember being I was just starting to get into real estate investing at the time. And I was like, You know what, Brett? I'm, what if what if I bought a duplex and you live on one side, and I live on the other and we'll just be best friends forever, right? So, but it was just kind of like just talk, I was like, I'm not moving here like I don't know. So then fast forward a year, it was October of 2018. And end of September, I just nothing with my business with insurance was working. Everyone was canceling their appointments, I was getting chargebacks, which is where money gets taken out of my account because somebody cancelled their policy. I was nobody wanted to book an appointment. It was just like dead. And I was like, Okay, what is God trying to tell me here? Like, clearly this is a stop, right? And so, my business partner at the time, he was like, Okay, I just kind of throw it out to him. And I was like, You know what, I'm just going to stop until until October because that's when Medicare starts. And that was like a lot of what I was doing. And he was like, Yeah, cool, but what are you going to do for your soul? And I was like, what, and he was like, I'm gonna, I'm gonna almost force you to go up to Wisconsin and go visit Brittany in Kansas City, whatever you want to do. And I was like, okay, so I flew up to Wisconsin to visit family was there for a few days road trip down to KC to visit Brittany who had just had surgery. And so I just remember arriving in Kansas City. And the first day that I, the first morning, I woke up, it was 40 degrees, which, by the way, I think I was actually born on the sun. So anything less than 80 degrees is freezing to me. So the fact that it was 40 degrees. And I was just like, yes, like seriously, just a weight lifted off. I felt just such immense peace. And to me that Spirit speaking to me, that's God's peace, his presence. And I was just like, Okay, and then all of a sudden, all of these business inspirations just kept firing. And I was like, just I felt like I was home. And then, so after this, this visit with Britt, then I went back to Austin. And I was literally depressed, couldn't get off of the couch, my my friend's couch at the time, by the way, because for three days straight, and I remember my business partner, he'd have to text me to be like, hey, go for a walk today. Like I was in mobile. It just didn't feel right. And I was in between spaces because I had a duplex under contract that took five and a half months to close and it was just like, kind of a pain right? Then I don't remember how but I think my partner and I, we we met up for lunch one day, and I just randomly blurted out, I'm moving to Kansas City. And there was a sturdiness and the tone and the frequency that we both knew. We We're like, Oh, crap, it's time. And so I got everything squared away, closed on the property found renters in Austin. I hosted my parents for Christmas. And then they actually helped me pack up, and then move to Kansas City on their way back to Wisconsin, which was so sweet. And yeah, so then the irony Now, remember that story of Brittany and I bagels and the irony is now I own a four Plex. She's not one of my tenants yet, but one day, I'm sure she will be. No, but yeah, I ended up investing in real estate very quickly when I got down here and and that in and of itself was divine timing. And yeah, so it just I remember like walking in the rain and the snow that first that first season because I moved here December 2019. And I was like, yeah, this is great. Again, rain and snow, not my cup of tea. But it just felt like Oh, I'm so so happy. My heart was just Oh, singing in the rain.

Brandon Handley 15:54 I love it. I love it. It's kind of like, you know, you get this divine inspiration. And it is imminent in some way, shape or form. You don't know how it's going to happen. But you just kind of you have that you have that peek into the future. All right. And you speak it into existence, right? You make a joke about it. Right? You speak existence, though, right? It's real similar to kind of like how you're in. Kind of like you're like, I don't see any clients. I don't see any business. I don't see any of this. And sure enough, that these are the things that you're saying to yourself. And sure enough, you're not seeing any of it right. It's you're speaking that into existence. And then, you know, you find yourself in a place of harmony. And you know, this kind of good resonance where you're you're sitting or Brittany, you're hit by this sun. And things start opening up again for you because you've opened up right, because you've sent out like this sense of harmony in that space, where you were where you guys are kind of hanging out eating the bagels. And then when you go back and you're just kind of morose, right, you're like, Fuck, Texas. It's just isn't it? Right this this, isn't it? This isn't my space. This isn't something is off key. Right. And and, you know, again, you felt like in your heart to like the end, you felt the things weren't moving at your pace five and a half months to close on a place. I mean, come on. Right. So thanks,

Unknown Speaker 17:29 dad. Good. Can

Emmy Harr 17:30 I just add it took me 35 days to close on a four Plex here. Right? So wait, this is what it's supposed to be.

Brandon Handley 17:37 Right? Right. So I mean, you know, when when you are in alignment with your sense of purpose and bliss and your own good feeling. This isn't and you know, people always kind of, you know what I'm talking about following your bliss and just out there was a world we follow your bliss. Look, there's a certain that you know, there's a there's a discernment between like following your bliss and imminent folly. Right. So you were though, you know, you're following your bliss, your heart intuition. And when you're doing that, just as you're highlighting right now, your story indicates that the universe opens up and gets behind you with that right universes like Pikachu, this is this is happening, like you said, for you, not to you. Right. And so that to me, sounds like what your experience has been so far. Have I got that about? Right?

Emmy Harr 18:35 Yeah, absolutely. And I might even add, like for so I've always been deemed as sensitive, right? Like, I have an act and not only like not just really not emotionally sensitive but just like an awareness right. And one of my one of my spiritual comrades here in KC we were just talking a month ago, and she even said, because nobody can understand the why, you know, like, I came down to Texas and I again, I was guided down there, I knew it was Texas that I had to go, I could feel the energy of God saying Yes, go with that. And but I knew it was going to be like a learning curve. And so my, my spiritual comrade just made a comment, like, you know, there's there's different you know, how there's like different war zones or different like boot camps or base camps throughout. And it has a different energy when you drive past them, right. And so she said, the same thing with the spirit realm is there's these different Warzones these different base camps, and maybe just maybe Austin happens to be one of them. And I was connecting into that. And Casey like that we have a lot of like, there's the International House of Prayer here. Like there's a lot of a lot of that spiritual and spirituality. Even the religion here, you know, it's just like more

Unknown Speaker 19:57 God Yeah, so

Emmy Harr 20:01 maybe I was even picking up on that. And that's why like, which came first the chicken or the egg, you know?

Brandon Handley 20:08 Not for sure. I love that I love that idea to have you know, the the camps, right and different energies and, you know, I'm always reminded of the book the obstacles away. I'm not a big fan of the book, but that's what it reminds me of right? Have you ever read it, but the idea is, and then and then you know, as you're talking and you're sharing that kind of reminded of like, I'm even just holding up a mirror when you're trying to shine the light, right? Maybe your mirror was down in Austin, and the light was shining over into right like, Kansas City, right? You know, this is here's, here's where you catch your, your, your, your ray of sunshine is over there over here type of thing, you know, write a letter, but anyways, right? That's just kind of the thought processes, as I'm listening to the story. So you're kind of you're following your bliss. You're, you know, feeling your spiritual self, right? Where's Where did you feel like you kind of connected with your spirituality and felt the strong pull for that. And I love the idea to have like, you know, what are you going to do for your soul? I love that. Right? And Was that something that helped spark that? Or was that already in existence? Because I know, you'd already talked about a lot of yoga and meditation as well, where where did you initially kind of connect with source and decide that that was going to be a part of your life?

Emmy Harr 21:38 Yeah, so I was born and raised Catholic. And so God has always been a part of my life now. I love the traditions and rituals of Catholicism. However, the strictness never really resonated with me, but Jesus guide disciples, saints, just having an army for us. That always resonated with me ever since I was little. So luckily, I had that foundation innately and also fostered. Now when it became more of a relationship with God, instead of just an abnormal what word Am I looking for? Like just an abstract thought, right? I was in college, one of my dear friends, she had actually tricked me. And I talked about this on your essential nature, but she had tricked me on what happened to be a student led, faith based retreat. I didn't know is faith based. She was just like, yeah, it's really fun. You get to throw like, pockets of glue at each other. And there's like a mud fight and all of these things. I'm like, I'm super extroverted by nature. And I'm like, yeah, that's amazing. And I just transferred colleges. So of course, I was like, wanting to look for, like, get to know people and meet people who like to do fun things. And so when I was there, I read it, like dawned on me, okay, this is, this is about God. And I remember looking at Ashley, and I was like, what she's like, I'm sorry, I just didn't think you would come. Like, you're right. I probably wouldn't not like out of anti God or anything like that. Just a matter of, okay, like, I already know, God, I don't need to do anything, you know. But that's what, that's what opened my eyes to this concept of having a relationship. So that's how I in my world, Faith is the relationship of religion is the structure or the dogma. And so I started learning and developing relationship. And then I just had great spiritual mentors. And then eventually, I think it was my, either senior super senior year, I met a mentor that kind of blended this whole new age energy realm, she was very intuitive. I would even call her a medium. But then she also had this Christianity foundation as well. And she did a beautiful job from marrying the two. And that to me felt right and so for her to be like, Oh, yeah, I can see this energy in the room. I'm like, wait, there's a whole other round, like it was the next level of faith for me. I was like, Okay, so then, yeah, I just kind of started and just kept growing from there. And I just keep listening to what feels true for me, like what resonates it's a different frequency.

Brandon Handley 24:32 Now for sure. I love that. You know, I love the idea to this army for us, right? So it sounds like even even before you know, even while in Catholicism, you had this army for us mentality, right? The University of benevolent universe, right? This this kind of digital energy source, acting on your behalf right? And that's great. I love that. Yeah, I've never heard it said like that. And I think that that's, that's great, right? And I also like this little piece to where, you know, faith is. Faith is what again, I wrote down notes,

Unknown Speaker 25:13 but the relationship

Brandon Handley 25:13 faith is relationship and then your religions call it the framework right of everything else. No, I like that idea too. Because I look at I look at that, too. Without this kind of foundation of any type of religion, or spirituality background, right? It can be a challenge to lean into any type of spirituality, right? If you don't have kind of the foundation for it, and you start to feel you, like you said, you're kind of like, an peth, like high energy, connection to source, you can begin to wonder, what is this? What am I feeling? What am I going through, and if you don't have a, at least a framework, you are, you're kind of sLl, right? Like, you're just kind of out there without any anything to bring you back or ground you, right? Or something to at least anchor yourself to

Emmy Harr 26:16 something and I would even, I would even take it one step further. I know from my like, my parents generation, and I might even say that the degeneration just underneath them. Like it's not spoken about, even if you are extra feely, like I remember, in seventh grade, I actually became I think for at the time, one might have said I was depressed. But I was depressed because I was witnessing How rude. My classmates were being to this one, one particular classmate of mine, and I could almost feel her sadness. And I didn't know what was going on. And my mom thought I was going crazy. She signed me up for a child psychologist wanting to help me, you know, she's like, I don't know if she's suicidal. I was not. But I mean, that's how that's like, how I could process at the time. And so they shut off, you know, at no, at no criticism for themselves, but they were shut off because their parents were shut off, right? Like, that was the Great Depression era. So everyone was in survival mode. And then that's just kind of what was taught, and then handed down. And so if you're feeling me, or seeing or hearing these different things that you don't know, or you don't have the framework or foundation for, it can be really tricky when you're not even in a a, like an area where it's spoken about to normalize it.

Brandon Handley 27:45 Not 100 100%, right? And I love that too. You know, you're looking, you're looking back through history, and you know, what's acceptable in this energetic realm, right? So what you're kind of explaining is, you didn't have the ability to protect your energy field, right? Or the, you know, how do you address that again, and your parents addressed it by being like, Oh, she's okay. I don't know what the fuck her but let's go get her some help. Right? Because they did. And that's awesome, right? Because they realized that they weren't their limits, you know, as a parent myself, I'm like, Alright, we know if I'm out of all the other options, let's, who can we reach out to? Right? And what what do we got there? So, um, I love it. And then so your, your your friend, the New Age, energy, you know, connecting the realms of, you know, Christianity into all that even a mediumship? What would you say? You know, she did all that, you know, what have you taken away? And how are you implementing what she taught you? Like, what were a couple of key pieces that you you feel like you pulled away from her that you're replicating?

Emmy Harr 28:56 That's a great question. That's so interesting, because I feel like everything's just been so fluid. Like, it's just one extra layer kind of building, building bricks laying on top of each other. So to pinpoint it, I remember being in our office late on Tuesday nights where we were playing with the enneagram. Right? And she was teaching me intuition how to just pick what felt right. You don't have to analyze but just pick what felt right. Or we would play with other personality. wheels are, I don't know some more of the psychology side of, of intuition. Really, because psyche means intuition, I believe. And, but then just more I would say trusting a that you can see, like into another realm. I always thought that that was for somebody higher up right and I'm actually like in in development That that trait I didn't even realize that I had. And then I can put two into get together like, Oh, I do see things without even realizing. So trusting the intuition and trusting what you're seeing, right, because that's another form of intuition, I would say is probably the biggest one. And then also healing. So energy healing, she introduced to me Reiki, and that was a whole other like, the healing aspect was massive for my growth.

Brandon Handley 30:31 And let's talk about that for a second. So what I do want to talk about that but but before we do that, when you say intuition,

Unknown Speaker 30:41 what do you mean?

Emmy Harr 30:46 The internal knowingness

Brandon Handley 30:51 I like that. Yeah, that's good. You know, listen, because I don't know. You know, when when somebody says intuition exactly what you mean by that. So the internal knowingness i think that that, that that's a great, that's a great way to say it. succinct, even. So thank you. And then energy healing, reiki, right. I talked about that. Once I've never experienced it myself. I've had the offers right to for people to do it for me. But I've never had the experience. So talk to me kind of what that experience has been like for you. And you know, how you felt afterwards?

Emmy Harr 31:30 Yeah, so Reiki is really, it's divine lead. You know, there's a lot I'm learning that there's a lot of misconception on this new age, energy. And the fact that it's almost like black magic and know everything if it's done correctly, it should be divine LED, so whether you call it source God, power universe, he she it, you know, it's always with love and light intention. As always, if you're going to a real, a real healer, it's going to be with love and light as the intention anywho. So Reiki is basically just a cleansing of our energy centers, also known as chakras along the body. And we know that everything in life is energy, like even this hard table that I'm sitting at is made up of energy, it's just matter. And so we have energy around us also known as the aura, and then we have energy zones within us the chakras. So Reiki is really just utilizing someone's intuition because we are the vessels for God's like love. And where where things feel out of alignment or imbalanced or whatever the the word you want to use. You just send love and light because really love heals all. And so she was she was showing me Reiki and she would do it on me and I always felt like a peacefulness, a calmness. I felt lighter. People in pictures during college, they were like, are you losing weight, you have a glow to you. I wasn't losing weight. I was just reading my old baggage that I didn't need to keep, right. Like, we're emotional hoarders. I didn't need to keep that on me anymore. I learned that lesson. And so yeah, it was just it was so inspiring that by the end of college, so my super senior, I did become level one certified and Reiki. So then that led to other realms of energy healing as well. But yeah, it's it's a powerful gift. I mean, really, we're just giving each other

Brandon Handley 33:37 how, yeah, right. That's great. I love the idea to write emotional hoarders. You really are. It's like, I mean, and for no reason other than I don't think that we know any better. Right? You can't you know, what's, what's so what's the line? I forget who it is do what you do until you know better? Right? You know? And you know, you just you do best until you know better and I think that we are emotional hoarders and I love that I was pissed just a minute ago and I want to share some more about that let's we're gonna last week I was saying you know, you just hold on to that forever right? instead just be like, just let that go That was a moment and and what's next what's behind that and what's what are we going forward into? So you know, I love the idea of spiritual dope, right? How like this is just like, that's your hit every day like you can get like this you can get like this weird you know, full body super high vibration through spirituality, right? That's the kind of the spiritual dope, right of spiritual dope. So what would you say like some of your spiritual dope is if you're just getting ahead of it? What is that?

Emmy Harr 34:52 Gosh, even there's a running joke with your essential nature because every we film every The other week, and every other week when we do meet up, it's just like we're hanging out. And like buds are just hanging out at the table. Just invigorating conversation. I can't even explain it. So my spiritual dope my hit, is the conversation where we get to go in depth. Aside from that, I do get a spiritual dope when I either give and or receive energy healing. Love it.

Brandon Handley 35:29 Agreed, right? The this right here, right? This kind of conversation, we just get the opportunity to share your story. You can exchange, you know, the these high energy ways of being with somebody else. And they get it, right like to like, Oh, yeah, yeah. And not only that, but like, and there's more. But wait, But wait, there's more. Right. But wait, there's more and like, Oh, wow. Or like, why did I didn't think about it that way? And you know, helping somebody changed, change their paradigm. Right. And I think that that's what you guys are able to do on your essential nature as well. Right. So how did you get looped into doing? That was a couple other gentlemen. Right, you know, doing the your essential nature podcast? How did you get involved with that?

Emmy Harr 36:19 Yeah, truly, it was kind of one of those surrender moments where I didn't even ask for it. It just presented itself. And it felt right. So I followed it. So Ben, Dr. Benjamin chambers, he was really the the director, if you will. So he had, he had been getting a lot of these downloads, which for him is from spirit, right? downloads of some type of podcast talking about things that aren't being talked about, or in a way that they're not being talked about, or something like that. I see Benji chambers podcast on that. But he he and I always had like a sarcastic sense of humor with one another. So I got looped in with him originally, because he hosts guided meditations on Tuesdays. And so I've been going to those for maybe six months at the time. And we we have a great sense of humor. Like we just kind of shoot the shit like, give each other crap. And we just jive really well with humor, humor, humor, IQ, chemistry. Anyways, so he had brought this up, and he was like, well, I really want to get a group together. I'm going to ask these guys, but I really like I think you should be a part of it. And I'm like, okay, like, I never said no, in my brain. I was just like, yeah, it's fun. I like hanging out with you. I like to get to know other people. And I'd like to take my hint of spirituality. So in my mind, I was like, already on board, but apparently wasn't conveyed. Because he kept like, kind of pursuing or like, tickling. Like, he would keep bringing it up, like, Oh, you should do this. Like every other week, he would just make a comment as if I wasn't fully convinced or something. So then finally, I was like, yeah, so when are we like, let's not talk about it. Let's be about it. When are we? When are we filming? He's like, oh, you're in? Like, yeah. So he kind of orchestrated it. He, he knew the mic. They had met a year ago, Dave they had met prior to and then he just kind of got this sense that it would be the four of us would have a really good chemistry.

Brandon Handley 38:25 And you guys do have you guys do have good chemistry. And that's funny, too, right? The when we doing this, right? We've been talking about this, but like when it's like just pull the pull the trigger. Right?

Emmy Harr 38:37 That's kind of our mo like, I'm very much the the Dewar and he's very much the seer, I guess. I don't know, see the visitor? I think we're both visionaries. But yeah, I just I've got more of an action base to me, if

Brandon Handley 38:57 you will. Sure. Sure. I mean, look, you just you you uproot yourself ran down to taxation, then like, you're like, Hey, I'm gonna make this decision. And I think that that's a big part of it, too. Once you kind of make the decision that sounds like you just move ahead with it. Right. And I look, I made the decision, but let's, I mean, what's next, right? Like, I mean, what else we need to talk about? Then let's just go do it. Right.

Emmy Harr 39:20 That's so important to me. And that's kind of where, you know, I do feel like my, sometimes I've, okay, oftentimes, I've felt like I have to in our worlds kind of always at war in a way I know all this language. It sounds like I'm so intense. I'm really anyways, but um, so I have this like really bold entrepreneur movement maker, right? I was 100% Commission. No, of course I have that fight of me. You know, this is like I can thrive anywhere. But then I also do have this this soft, emotional conversation. Let's not do timeframe. So that's more of like the spiritual realm, right? So I consider it the entrepreneur realm, which is more masculine. And then my spiritual side, my spiritual realm, which is typically more and more feminine. And one thing that I've noticed as I'm moving it, like stepping out of the entrepreneurial realm, to the, in the traditional sense, and stepping more towards the spiritual realm, is that for some reason, in the spiritual realm, decisions are scary. And for me, I've always really been a big proponent of make a decision and commit, figure out the details later. That's how Apple moves. That's how Amazon moves, like, just figure it out. But you have to commit.

Brandon Handley 40:42 Sure, sure. So, you know, that's another part about I love that you brought that up. That's another big part about spiritual dope, is this idea? Yeah, there's of the softness, there's no timeframe, the surrender, you know, side of spirituality, there. You know, if we look into nature, right? We still have rainstorms. We still have, you know, raging rivers, we still have things that are forceful, right? And dynamically, so and it's okay to take action and be the one to initiate it to be a part of it. Right. And to go with what you feel and say, I've gone Austin, I've gone to Kansas City, you know, I'm doing these things and, and like you said, I'm committing to this, and I'm just gonna do it. I don't know how I just know that I am. Right. And that is like, like your like your Shawn attention to it's it's something that there's a fear and trepidation, I think, in making a decision with many people in the spiritual realm. And I think that mainly because if they, and this is my self speaking, right, coming into this space, if you don't have like, this kind of this hunter mentality, if you don't have like this business mindset, right? You feel almost like, it's against your nature in order to say you're committed to it, right? almost like you're afraid that if somebody finds out about, you said, you were gonna do this, and it didn't happen, and how can you believe in you know, all the spirituality then? Right? Because it's like, they don't want to be found that well, that's okay. Right? to like, not have that thing happen. Right? I love the one. There's plenty of them out, though. And the exact lines but like, you know, I always say, if I gotten exactly what I wanted, like when I wanted it, when I was younger, or any that like I'd probably be dead. Right? So it was probably spirit looking out for me for not getting what I wanted in those situations, right? Like, well, you know, so there's that, but the idea of drawing a line in the sand, or even a target and a destination for a lot of these people spirituality, it's like, they feel like it's too connected to materialism. Right? Where in actuality, a vision is not too far off from having a goal, right? Plenty people can have a vision, My vision is my goal, right? Or all these other things where ambition is more tied, you know, for me, growing up, like ambition was always tied to, you know, material success, whereas ambition can also be tied to this great spiritual vision. Right? So connecting, you know, those two streams of thought has been a big part of spiritual dopler again, connecting with somebody like yourself who's leading with spirituality, ambition and and this commitment and decision making capability that you've got is still being spiritually LED and is blowing the doors and you know, everything like I said in the beginning here is opening up for you because you're doing it that way and you're connected with your spirituality.

Emmy Harr 44:02 Yeah, and I might even say two things about that to help kind of bridge that that gap that some people in the spiritual realm like fear is a I always figured you know, God, God can see the entire forest I can maybe see a tree. So like, if he is the one telling me and directing me Hey, you need to go to Austin or Hey, you need to do go to Casey or you need to do this podcast. Why wouldn't I want to trust that like, he's got this vantage point he's an eagle and I'm just a squirrel. You know what I mean? Like hell yeah, I'd rather trust somebody else than myself. And not not to separate the two right like cuz we are all God, we're all spirit but then also it comes into the fact of manifestation, meaning, well, and this is something that I learned with my spirituality is once my intuition or my inner child or My angels would tell me something, or show me something and I would act on them out of trust. And then they're more likely because then it's building their trust. You know what I mean? Like, it just feels like a mutual pendulum, if you will. Okay, so we know that she's hearing us, she's receiving the messages, and she makes this she makes option or takes action on them. So yeah, we're gonna keep feeding her. You know what I mean? says this, this manifestation of when, when you say you're going to do something and do it, then it's, it's convincing your brain or your spiritual army that yes, she deserves more, she gets more, you know. So that's helped me.

Brandon Handley 45:41 Now, I love that, thanks for sharing that. It's really funny. There was um, you had another guest on who who really said it really similar, different different storyline, the similar outcome, right? You say you're going to do it, and you do it. And the universe becomes kind of like this. You know? Emma says that she's going to do it, right. Emma says that she's going to emphasize it's just going to keep keep opening. All right, Yep. Yep, go ahead, open up the path open up the path just because otherwise, like, right, it's like, you know, why would I open up the door? If you say you're not gonna do it? Right? Why would I? Why would I clear the path if, hey, I'm gonna be there at five and you show you don't show up? Right? Well, I'm not gonna keep open up the path for you. Right? So. So real, real similar stuff there. Um, favorite like is did you have any outside of like, of course, I Bible on scripture, any books, movies, anything that just kind of blew your mind on spirituality?

Emmy Harr 46:44 Gosh, so many. I remember there's this one movie called Joshua, when I was little. It's an older movie, I think it was probably in the 90s. But that was just like, again, learning to trust in something bigger than ourselves. And then as far as spirituality, there's like books on chakras, like aura cleansing. So that really helped me. And then I would say, probably my most recent, which was just very profound. Because of timing in my life, I just finished reading the surrender experiment by Michael singer. And not so that that was just so crazy, because I was actually part of a virtual book club club, who with a corporate couple of older women who wanted to read that book, months ago. And I was like, Hey, I'm not in like, I'm already reading free books. Right now. I'm not in the capacity to read it. But can I at least still join for the conversations, right? So don't we've talked maybe once or twice about the book, because it was such a quick read for them. And it was just fun. It was like a spiritual dope, it was a hit. But we never really registered what what they were reading, like what the content of the book was, because it just didn't feel like the right timing for me. then fast forward about a month and a half or two, I think about two months. And I just got this inkling you need the surrender experiment. And fourth of July, I was with my buddy, Jeremy Snowden. And we were just doing some inner work spiritually. And I had the revelation of a retreat center, a vision of a retreat center. And I was like, no way. Like, that's, it was so not me that I was like, This is divine. And so that it was for. So it's just after that vision that I got this inkling that I need to read the surrender experiment. So Ben actually bought us a couple copies. And we started reading it and or just before the day before I started reading it, I mentioned to one of my co workers. And he was like, oh, that'll be great. It talks about him in building a retreat center from scratch. And I was like, You're lying. I was like, No, this is super big. And man, I could not put that book down. I'm a slow reader, especially when it comes to work, like this type of inner work. Sure. But I finished that book in like two or three days, and I just I could not put it down. I was like, as is so crazy.

Brandon Handley 49:19 Yeah, that's it's a great one too. I definitely enjoy it. You know, it just begins in that, you know, with the, you know, the whole idea of how limited are you and I write with with what we think we what we think we know with our limited, whatever experiences versus what the universe what Source Energy knows is capable of. And if we go with the idea of having a benevolent universe, if we go with the idea of having an army that's helping to make things happen for us, what happens if we let go the reins a little Bit what happens if we just say, you know, show me what you got? Right? And just kind of take it? And that's the Oh, yeah, agreed. I mean that that blew my mind when he kind of described that to me in that book, right. Trying to experiment. The chakras and or, or cleansing books. Would you have like one or two that are top of mind that you share out with others?

Emmy Harr 50:24 Yeah. Do you mind if I go grab it? Because the author here? Okay.

Unknown Speaker 50:30 The more

Emmy Harr 50:32 like, it's actually an inner like, almost might I say self Reiki in a way, but it's, it's called your aura. And your chakra is the owner manual by Carla McLaren. Okay, and so it should it. It kind of goes through or walks through the process of what each aura represents how to what do you want to visualize how to clean it, how to cleanse your aura, your chakras, and then grounding yourself. It kind of goes through techniques with that. So I love that as I was getting started. Nice,

Brandon Handley 51:03 nice. Perfect. Very cool. Well, thank you so much for coming on today. Where should Where should I send people to kind of come check out what you're up to?

Emmy Harr 51:14 Yeah, definitely. So your essential nature is on both Facebook and YouTube for platforms. It's probably going to expand but for right now we'll just stick with Facebook and YouTube.

Brandon Handley 51:26 Fantastic. And before you hop off, is there anything else that you feel like you should share today with with spiritual Oh

Unknown Speaker 51:34 gosh, do

Emmy Harr 51:35 we have an extra three hours?

Brandon Handley 51:38 Sure podcast for

Unknown Speaker 51:40 surely. Surely.

Brandon Handley 51:42 Yeah. So guys, if you want to check out more Have a look. So your says me up here and Emma in the emails? Which is it again?

Unknown Speaker 51:52 know, what emails are you looking at?

Brandon Handley 51:55 I don't know. I saw Ms. I saw ms somewhere. So I just want to make sure it's me. Right. I was like, Listen, so it's me. Me. Yeah, you guys want to go find so this is probably the third time it's happened to me on spiritual dope. It's like cuz, you know, and, and I was gonna ask this one. Anyways, so if you guys want to go find out more, what he's up to the podcast that she's talking about is so much fun, your essential nature. You know, the three, four of you guys all get on there, you have a good time you talk about some really cool topics you have what's cool is it's not, you know, just diverse in you know, racial or, you know, male and female dynamics, but also the age dynamic too. So, you know, there's just a lot I think that has gone on really great with what you guys have created. So thank you for what you have created, and what you're sharing out there with your group. appreciate what you're doing.

Emmy Harr 52:56 And likewise, thank you for having me.

Unknown Speaker 52:58 Thanks for listening to the spiritual in Thank you, me for being on the show. Does spiritual dough Be sure to follow us on Facebook and on our website does spiritual joe.com

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• Shelley talks about how she woke up with negative thoughts whirling thoughts "swirling the drain." She knew this was not how she wanted to start the day, so Shelley says she went into her mind and "quieted my head and started going through what I wanted to see my day look like, how I wanted to give gratitude." Shortly thereafter the whole feeling of hopelessness and negativity was gone.
• 4:40 Brandon mentions "manifestation just means that it showed up because they put their thoughts, intention and will behind it in some way, shape or manner."
• 5:53 Shelley states "We're just energetic beings having a physical experience, and power goes where we focus our energy. So, focus it somewhere positive that benefits you. Create some more high functioning you."
• 12:08 Shelley states emphatically "... recognize that we have emotional responses to those thought processes, and to the trauma that occurred to us or whatever as children… As adults, I truly believe and I've walked this journey for 20 years, we are responsible for healing it." {TK: WOW!!!}
• Prayer can be meditation, meditation can just be going over what you're grateful for (Gratitude Practice). Make this a habit.

Spiritual Dope Eureka Moments!

• 8:15 "So what I found in my early adulthood was I was always breaking out, but not in a positive way. Because I kept myself so contained all the time, that when I burst out, I usually got myself into trouble. And I needed to learn for myself how to live a more genuine, and aligned life..." [TK: YES! This is so relatable!]
• 10:38 (This hit REALLY close to home.) Shelley talks about realizing as a parent, reflecting on her own parents' parenting, that they "did the best with what they were given... and came with all their own baggage and all their own hurts and things." [TK: Indeed. It took me until my mid-forties to stop judging my own upbringing by the light of perfection. My parents did the best with what they had. They weren't intentionally "bad" or hurtful, they were doing what they felt was right. Different generations, different traumas and lifetimes, etc.]
• 20:30 Shelley mentions Dr. Joe Dispenza's teachings where he says the best way to create your future is to imagine it. But you have to live and imagine it already happening. [TK: This brings me back to Brandon's coaching work with me, and the exercises where I would envision with all senses being in the ideal future!]
• It's all in your mind! (TK: IT IS!)
• Quit apologizing to the world around you
• https://livingwellwithshell.com/

Transcription by otter.ai

Unknown Speaker 0:02 You're listening to the spiritual dope podcast with your host, Brandon Handley. The spiritual dope with today's guest from living well with Shell Shelly shear, the spiritual worked out. Ready, set,

Brandon Handley 0:19 go. Hey there spiritual dope. Today I am on with Shelly shear she is a Vancouver based speaker, emerging author and coach. She spent 28 years as an accounting professional helping small to medium businesses navigate entrepreneurship while having a second side hustle. Her experience has crossed many industries from graphic design, manufacturing, automotive, spa, digital marketing, to hot dog vendors, it is give her a unique perspective into people and how they handle their businesses and themselves. She has a gift for finding logic, cool, logical, common sense solutions. She has a successful podcast that focuses on not living in regret and creating high functioning habits because she truly believes everyone is enough and should have an easier, more vibrant life. Thank you so much for joining today. How are you?

Shelley R Shearer 1:10 I am great. Thanks for having me. On if our listeners don't know, we've known each other for a couple of years very casually because we took our podcasting course together four and a half years ago. Yeah. And it's wonderful to see us both still here doing what we love to do.

Brandon Handley 1:22 Absolutely. I think that is really what I think is really funny was um, when you must have connected with me on instagram when I might, you know still under like Brandon Handley and I just switched that to spiritual dope. And then it like at some point like there was an aha moment where you realize that that that had happened like I was just praying in

Unknown Speaker 1:43 a second here.

Brandon Handley 1:46 So listen, how I like to start these off with his, you know, we were talking before this everybody's connected to source source. You know, divinity, whatever speaks through us. We're basically you know, vessels for the divine. And this podcast today, you are here to connect with somebody who's listening. What is that message for that person coming through divine through you for that person?

Shelley R Shearer 2:12 My message today would definitely be emotions follow thoughts.

Brandon Handley 2:17 What do you mean by that?

Shelley R Shearer 2:19 Most people I find found in my own life as well that we are taught that we think and emotions are separate or that because of the way we feel we think a certain way and actually, that is improving quite an accurate the last 20 years during research and such that that's not the case at all. In fact, we think a thought, then we have an emotion. And the reason that's really important, in fact, I was literally brand brand new puppy in the house. It was sitting it was uptime is like Oh, I got to exercise her before I get on this podcast. I was going to do my own podcast today. And I'll do it after. And that's what actually was in my head because this morning I woke up myself personally, just rabbiting just swirling the drain. Just my thoughts were whirling in my mind. They were negative, there was nothing positive going on. It's like I can't get up and do this day like this. And that thought came to me it actually was something that I learned was kind of vocalize it's something I've understood sort of in an innate level, but it was vocalized to me by someone Jan Jansen, I think mentioned it and of course, I was in a couple months back. And she said, emotions follow thoughts. And that's what most people don't accept, and also don't consciously train themselves to change how they think. And it's probably very much how I don't know how you pronounce his last name, Tom, Bill,

Unknown Speaker 3:34 you know, the name

Shelley R Shearer 3:35 all over his all over Instagram, he's got the thought Institute of some sort. And he very much hammers this home that you know, we need to control how we think. Yeah, so with that being said, You know, I was texting with the puppy for a quick little nap this morning. And I thought, This is not how I want to start my day. And so I immediately went into my mind quieted my head and started going through what I wanted to see my day look like, how I wanted to give gratitude. And my goodness, it took like a minute and then the rest was just bonus. It was like the whole feeling of hopelessness and negativity just left because where you focus is

Brandon Handley 4:16 in your life, right? Right. Right. And you know that you're directing your energy into that space right and you're literally that energy is what it takes for something to manifest whatever that means to people out there right because my wife and I always like I'll say something about manifesting something's like shit manifested this idea i think i don't think you know what I mean. Totally. Yeah. manifestation just means that it showed up because they put their thoughts intention and well behind it in some way shape or madly, right? So no, I love I love that right emotions follow thought we're gonna have to dig into that as we kind of see

Shelley R Shearer 4:52 if you can control things you're thinking of and Jim quick that does the, the book on the learning the one that had the brain injury, he talks about this as well, because he's trying to improve your memory. And there's just so much now neuroscience behind it in the fact of gene expression and how we function, how we feel how we think. Now it's the time in this day and age, especially with what's going on in the world around us to really open up and say, let's go research that a little bit. As you and I were chatting, just before we got on the on the actual podcast was, I grew up in a very, very religious home, very, very strict religious upbringing. believed and loved the certainty of the black and white of the knowledge at the time, especially as a teenager, and then you know, walked away later. And now I've come back to it because I believe in the law of attraction. So whether someone uses God or universe or Supreme, I don't care. Right, right. Right. Energy interchangeable. Totally. Because we're just energetic beings having a physical experience. Yeah. And power goes where we focus our energy. So focus it somewhere positive that benefits you create some more high functioning you Yeah, your

Brandon Handley 6:03 choice is a choice. There's a couple pieces in that. I mean, even today, I picked up some random article that scientists are saying, there's a 5050 shot that, um, we are in a construct, we are in, you know, a program, the matrix, like a lizard is a 5050 shot. So, you know, the same way there's a 5050 shot as to whether or not there's an afterlife, right, right. So why not kind of like, make those choices consciously on what you believe? Because you have a 5050 shot? Mm hmm. Right. So um, so let's talk a little bit about like, I love, I love your podcast, I think it's really well done. You handle the guests very well, you're so well spoken, and you bring this energy that you're bringing, you know, today, to your podcast, what you know, let's talk about kind of how you found yourself in the space that you're at now. And let's give it like the leading with spirituality that you do now, like I've heard you, like, kind of referenced the woowoo. But like, or intuition, you know, how have you integrated that into your life and found more or less fulfillment from it? Like, how's that? How's that showing up in your life?

Shelley R Shearer 7:16 Well, it's funny, cuz it's something you said earlier about how you've manifested it, No, honey, honestly, doesn't matter that you're finding all the coincidences I still manifested. Because those are the those are the tracks that lead you to where you're going. And you can call it coincidence, or you can own it, and I prefer to own it. And like I said, four and a half years ago, you and I took a podcasting course. Now, just just a little quick on that one. That was a very funny thing, how that happened. I went to a Make Your Mark event here in Canada, and signed up for speaking from stage because I wanted to find my voice. I've always just felt a little bit like I you know, grew up with the, you know, be seen and not heard one of female coming out of the 60s and 70s very autocratic father very religious upbringing. So lots of rules, lots of rigidity. And I'm clearly not that. So what I found in my early adulthood was I was always breaking out, but not in a positive way. Because I kept myself so contained all the time, that when I burst out, I usually got myself into trouble. And I needed to learn for myself how to live a more genuine and, and aligned life, and got very lucky in my 20s to attend a course called the pursuit of excellence, which talks about the filters to which we see the world and also talks about personality traits. So really, right from my 20s, very young, the universe kept putting the stuff in my path, awakening me awareness, opening my scope of reference, because really, like I say, I was raised in the box. Also, though, my dad was what was so funny is my dad's an entrepreneur. So there was reason a box and I was a female.

Brandon Handley 8:55 Um, you know, what I love about your story that too, is that your dad became a successful entrepreneur after the age of 40, right?

Unknown Speaker 9:02 Yes. Oh, you do listen to my podcast.

Shelley R Shearer 9:06 Clearly, oh, you're such a sweetheart. Yes, he did. And yet, when he looked at my life, he wanted it all to be planned out, you know,

Brandon Handley 9:15 as a parent, though, right? As a parent, and and him maybe not having found his stride, and this is me talking to right as a

Unknown Speaker 9:22 parent, and you, you are the parent,

Brandon Handley 9:24 right? It's like, it's like, you know, I did it in a very uncontrolled manner, how I got to where I am today is a miracle. But, um, knowing kind of what I know, it's like, you know, here's how you can truly succeed with ease. And that's what you try to impart to your children. And we know that children are like, that's not gonna work for me. I'm not to figure out my own way. You're like, fine. I know. And

Shelley R Shearer 9:46 that I think, as a parent, that has got to be the hardest thing. The absolute hardest thing. I know, I did, you know, I only have the one son, and he has been through some very serious challenges in his life. In fact, we've just kind of recently he doesn't want to Talking about this i'm not saying anything he's not okay with. We thought he had bipolar for a number of years and have been battling that only to find out he's on the spectrum actually. And it made so much more sense. It's just he was so high functioning as a child, they never caught it. Yeah. And it wasn't till I was, you know, he was going into kindergarten grade one and I was in an abusive relationship, and psychiatrists got brought in to assess the situation, and they will deal with ADD, and we carried on and then later in life when things were imploding, it's like something else is going on here.

Brandon Handley 10:27 So it's right there, the tools right there, right, the tools weren't there. The tools, you know, didn't really exist. Exactly then but but I'd love to hear that, you know, you're fine. You're catching it now. Right.

Shelley R Shearer 10:38 And I felt I did the best I could with what I had that something I think people need to give himself grace for more, I really had to learn to do that with my own parents and forgiveness. They did the best with the not with what they were given. Yeah, it came with all their own baggage and all their own hurts and, and things. Sure, um, then I became an adult and the parents I look back and going, I didn't do that perfectly. But perfection is a lie. It's not real. If this is just a journey, we've got to keep going on. So I handled it you know, in a manner as education again, so then we come back to the kind of again the with the high functioning, right, even when he was diagnosed, my attitude was you're not going on Ritalin, and we're not living on drugs. It was learn about what ad D or ADHD was at the time. And I behaved it with behavior modification was lis one thing at a time. Like he was the kid that melted at the front door. If you gave him three things to do. He'd be sitting there with the backpack, unpacked one shoe in his hand, and crying. It's like I asked you to put your shoes on grab your knapsack can walk out the door, like it

Unknown Speaker 11:35 wasn't that difficult. But this

Shelley R Shearer 11:37 is me being a very high functioning a tech personality seeing that child? No, it simply wasn't connecting. Yeah, all those things. Yeah. Yeah. So we got you know, we like you say the tools weren't there. But I was lucky enough again, to me kind of a few people got on to those you say the woowoo side of things. Yeah. To me. It's just the holistic, natural side of things. Anti drug? As much as possible. I have nothing against medical Oh my gosh. Yes, that dental surgery. Thank you God for painkillers and antibiotics,

Unknown Speaker 12:06 right, yeah.

Shelley R Shearer 12:08 But I don't want those corrections being part of everyone's everyday life now, simply because they don't understand how to control their thought process. And then recognize that we have emotional responses to those thought processes, and to the trauma that occurred to us, you know, we're not to blame for the trauma that was given done to us or whatever is children. But as adults, I truly believe and I've walked this journey for 20 years, we are responsible for healing it, address it. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 12:34 address it just for having children. I mean, look, just it's not. I don't know, I, it's hard to say like, it's, you know, you can never say like, I know, that I always refer to kind of grown up, it was pretty easy, right? There's some shit that happen. And but like, you just kind of look at it and be like, well, that's just really gave me the ability to withstand X, Y, or Z or gave me strength or, you know, that's, you know, or, or like, he'll it right, but like, let's just feel that address it wholly absorbed that that happened. and move on. Right. Like, let that be. The dragon the wind or whatever, right? Don't

Shelley R Shearer 13:13 let it define you. Right. Yeah, that makes me sad when I let people see such negativity or illness in their life. define them as a person. Right,

Brandon Handley 13:21 right. Well, I mean, you know, so talk about that for yourself. You're doing the fibromyalgia. Right, isn't that? Yes. I mean, you know, I and I, I imagined that initially, you did kind of let it define you and kind of slow you down.

Unknown Speaker 13:38 Ooh, solid years. Yeah. Talk

Brandon Handley 13:41 about that. That because that can't be easy.

Shelley R Shearer 13:44 I'm sure the property and one of the hardest things probably about things like fibro and mental illness are they are silent. Hmm. I'm like my puppy right now. Um, if this gets if she gets a little whiny, we can just stop and you can edit for me and I'll do something with her. But that happens people people get very caught up in it. And I did. I was like, how this can be happening to me. I was functioning as a personality. I was working it was built a new house. It's like, Are you kidding me? And leave me flat for two years until I learned to adjust, get my pain under control even tried to drug route for a little bit. And then the side effects were brutal. You know, there's just a lot of suicidal thoughts and things and my husband, I were like, We can't live this way. Alright, so it was a long journey. And I went again, right back into the holistic world of how do I support my body? How do I give myself and sometimes that just want to sit on the same silly napping. napping was a huge thing. I follow naps. But that ego of mine, yes. fought me tooth and nail and we're stronger than this. We're better than this. We don't need this. Yes, we do. That's the West.

Brandon Handley 14:52 That's the western day. That's the western mentality.

Shelley R Shearer 14:57 Absolutely. Yeah. So um, so a child of the 80s I was raised in that women can have it all nonsense have we have full time careers husbands that we wait still do the 1960s housewife thing through, and three children and don't have House Cleaners?

Brandon Handley 15:11 You guys got back, man. I mean, even kidding me, I still I still I'm still very frustrated. Like, and like, you know, I believe women can do whatever they want be wherever they want, but to make a society where like, you know, you can't have at least one parent at home, to be with the family or something to make to make that success in the material realm. You know, based on sex, right, be like, Oh, you can do it, I can do it. And we're all gonna go do it like, Well, you know, who's, where's this other human aspect where, like, you know, that's cool. You go ahead, I don't even like going to work. So you know, somebody wants to show up and be like, you know what, I got this, you just stay home take care of children, um, like I'm in. Right. So I get frustrated from time to time just because that's, you know, we're, I feel like it was, you know, I'm not a I'm not a you know, conspiracy guy or anything like that. Like, I do feel like, you know, that was that was forced on forced on us.

Shelley R Shearer 16:12 Okay, you're talking to Adam, because you know, he doesn't he have a brilliant way of describing. So let me explain to me how explain surely how women completely got. How did you subserve his word for it? Where Yes, you had this great life where you were looking after the next generation, creating human beings being there having this whole emotional support for your family. And society walked in and said, Oh, but you don't really want that, right? You want to go to work for 10 hours, like your husband does, and then still come home and do that all in two hours a night? Are you kidding me? And now requires two incomes to have a home,

Brandon Handley 16:45 but it wasn't and it wasn't there. That was your idea you want you forced it? Right. Like I mean, you know, so. So really interesting. Sorry to get off topic.

Shelley R Shearer 16:53 No, that's okay. I want to vote not to like be a slave.

Brandon Handley 16:56 Right, right. Right. Right. Right. just crazy stuff. Crazy stuff. It is.

Shelley R Shearer 17:02 So you, you'd asked me about my fibro. So yeah, it was a long journey for a couple of years ago when we changed houses. And it gave us options because my income was right out the door. And I had an accounting professional income. So needless to say, that was missed. And there was nothing in the Canadian system, even what we call CPP up here, for this particular disease, there was no sort of long term disability or anything. And I was funny, you know what, as a single Mum, I carried all those extras, insurances for years. But when I got married, after a couple years, I let them go is like in our truck. Ryan was raised, we can both afford to pay the mortgage, we had life insurance in case something happened to either one of us, and I let all that extra stuff going. Hmm, not sure what it helped. But you kind of look back in hindsight, in really so that's actually was one of the things that started me finding my voice was when I started moving myself forward, it immediately was how do I help other people do the same thing? Right? How do I encourage them to not be defined by a disease, and for me a big part of it, it was on another friend's podcast a couple months back. And we talked very in depth in this because she deals with women or audiences, middle aged women. And she'd asked, you know, as a silent disease, no one can see it, what do you do you find support. And I believe that in any area of your life, though, find the support around you. And the sad part is, I hate to say it, it's not always family. It wasn't for me, and people really just always want it to be, they decide, I might need this, or I want this, but it has to be this person. And that is a tough limiting belief to let go for a lot of people because often that isn't who's going to be your biggest support.

Brandon Handley 18:37 I think that families too close, right to too close to the situation. And, you know, they know you from you know, they they know too much about you. Mistake you've ever made. Right. Right. And so they play out like the the history of you. Right versus

Shelley R Shearer 18:53 well, sad.

Brandon Handley 18:54 Right? So and that and that's it. That's not an easy transition mental model to shift. Right? So, you know, when you go to Thanksgiving dinner or whatever, you guys just happy Thanksgiving on Monday, right? You know, when you go to that dinner, you're surrounded by family and they talk about all the old you and all the old stories and and all this other stuff. Whereas like your focus is, the future is so amazing. And I'm so excited. Let's talk about what's the calm? Yes. Like I'm giving you we talked about, you know, law of attraction with a lot of people. You know, I don't know that many people actually in the space but giving thanks for you know, everything has already been done. Everything's already been created. It's just simply our awareness of that creation. So giving thanks for everything that's already been done. includes the future. Yes, it does.

Shelley R Shearer 19:49 Right. Because that is something that Joe dispenza talks about. And he Now speaking of being left a center for me. He has taken me into a whole nother realm of my Christian beliefs, like Where do we go with this? He just has a spectacular way of looking at things he says the best way to create your future is to is to imagine it. But you have to live in imagine it already have happening. That's right. Now something that kind of that he says that I really have taken to heart and I was talking to a girl from the other day, and she was going through a rough time. And I said, You know what, we have to remember that our memories, when we're remembering something, we're still living them in the now. Because our souls or spirits don't differentiate necessarily to timelines. I look in the mirror and I see the wrinkles, and I see my hair graying. And I know time is passing, because my body is aging. Hmm. But my aunt told me once when I was very young, surely what you'll understand, I was just like, barely even 30. And she said, You will know when you get older, your spirit has an age just you do. It's all right. In my mind's eye, I'm still the same person. You know,

Brandon Handley 20:52 it's so funny, you say that? I always, you know, so I was doing Jiu Jitsu for a while until COVID. And go in there and hang out with people. And you guys are being guys talking about? I'd be getting in there with a younger guy, like, come on old guy, or you're, you know, you're just getting old or I was like, I'm not getting all my body's getting old. Right leg? You know, I'm like, as you know, nothing has changed. Right? Now, there's

Shelley R Shearer 21:15 my wisdom. Yeah, and whatever, which is fantastic. Right? Oh, you've had this all blessing us at

Brandon Handley 21:23

1. That's funny, because I remember you saying that earlier to, just to how, you know, you wouldn't exchange the wisdom right now for youth. But there's always that other line too, that people are always cracking, which is on this makes me think of your dad, too, is, you know, what would you do? What would you tell your 20 year old self, you know, and and really what they're saying is like, especially now I think even at our age, and when your dad was 40 is like, when you realize all the wisdom that you have, like, I'm just gonna go ahead and use this for the next 2015 1520 years. Right. So yeah, you know,

Shelley R Shearer 21:58 that's a very good point about having grace. Because my dad has a great education was raised and born in Saskatchewan, one of nine, and he's one of the youngest of that crew. Very, very brutal, straight out of second generation British parents, very different upbringing. So now he married a city girl with an education and a working father, that worked professionally. So my parents are actually kind of funny that way, but well suited to each other's strengths. So I could see him as a father and later in life saying, Oh, no, please don't let my children go through what I went through, like, go get an education, right? Get a career. And he always wanted me to get something good. I could go somewhere that he could travel to meet me. He's like, I need you to go work in Australia or something, Shelly honey,

Unknown Speaker 22:41 so I can run?

Shelley R Shearer 22:43 Okay, that'll get right on that. So let's just go for physical therapy and got nowhere with it. But regardless, I could see you have very valid point as a parent, right? Don't do it, you know, don't do what I did don't make my mistakes. Right? Well,

Brandon Handley 22:56 that's what we try to do. All we're trying to do is like, man, here's my list. And just like, don't do any of this, right? Or, you know, and this is this is, this is why I feel like I'm very lucky to be a parent in this time and age, right, I started fatherhood for the rest of us, that was the first podcast. And that was, you know, learning the positive opposites. Right? You don't, right? And this plays right into law of attraction is play, right? And everything else, right? You don't think about what you don't want your children to? Do? You tell them what you want them to do? Exactly. Because otherwise, you're already creating the image in their mind of what you don't want them to do. And as you and I know, the subconscious doesn't see yes or no, they just see the picture

Shelley R Shearer 23:34 exactly right or wrong. Even if it doesn't differentiate, it just sees the picture that you're playing, just like having the comment about the memories, every time. I mean, remember things, it's fun, but recognize that you need to like, let it go and go back to where it belongs. Because otherwise, you're living your current existence in that memory. And if that memory and those experiences are negative, or bad, you are bringing them into your current circumstances, like this morning, every single day of your life. No wonder there is no positive emotion going forward. Because your thoughts are all in the past and all the negativity. Absolutely. I

Brandon Handley 24:11 mean, look, it's in the word right and negative being like a re cursor, right? Like we did that. Um, so what one thing that you talked about this morning, too, was, you know, waking up and catching and creating a vision for the day?

Shelley R Shearer 24:27 Yes, very much.

Brandon Handley 24:29 Is that a daily practice?

Unknown Speaker 24:31 Yes, very much. So.

Brandon Handley 24:32 What's that, like, you know, for the audience.

Shelley R Shearer 24:37 No matter what I have positive or negative to say about my upbringing, prayer was instigated in my life. And that makes meditation for me quite easy. And because I never had grew up in the Catholic religion where I had to worry about talking to a priest. It was always a direct contact, contact or conversation sorry with source. Meditation for me is really that now which is why I talk about in my little ebook I don't care if you're lying in bed in the morning, or it's just before you're going to sleep at night, let your mind wander and just go over the positives or go over what you want to see happen. show gratitude for whatever's in your life, what's going on in that day. Because that now is in the subconscious, like you say, the subconscious isn't there to differentiate between all of this is just waiting for you to give it you know, to activate. And so activate on the positive activate on what you're grateful for. So yes, that is very, very much a daily thing for me. In fact, I even got into the habit of doing a sitting here, a gratitude journal, and someone knows, and of course, one day and you just buy them. And that for people, it's like people who go on diets, I always say get an app on your phone and write down everything for a week, though. Because your awareness you need to see because they're like, cheating. I don't eat sugar. Mm hmm. Yeah, it's every thing.

Brandon Handley 25:53 Whatever you track, right? Whatever you track, you pay, you can measure. Yeah, you can measure as well.

Shelley R Shearer 25:58 So my gratitude journal was that's became a habit at nighttime, just even if it was just three lines. It's like, I'm tired. I don't wanna do this right now. I made myself do it. It was a habit to do it that way. 80% of the time, it was getting done.

Brandon Handley 26:11 Yeah, no, I mean, you're lucky and you can't beat yourself up if you don't do it. Right. Like it's these are. And I think that that's one of the problems. Not a problem. It's just one of our, again, another Western civilization Quirk. Right. Which is, which is Oh, I missed the day. I guess I'm never gonna do it again. Oh, right. It's all or nothing.

Shelley R Shearer 26:32 Oh, I hear coaches talk about that all the time. Fitness coaches, anything is like, no, get back up on the horse The next day, please. That's why I say to people what I used to coach health stuff because I was in a network marketing company for a couple years. It was just kind of fun. And it really spoke to my need just to be healthier. Because I've always been a bit of a nutcase. Like always a bit of a health nut, what you do 80% of the time is a good habit. Hmm. Not the one day a week or the every now and then, where you just blow it all to smithereens. And you haven't gone to the gym in a week or when on vacation and drank every day. Okay, great. You did that writing on, right act to your routine. Oh, and if you can get those habits in place, and they are there 8% of the time, you will slip back to them because it's your norm.

Brandon Handley 27:15 Right. Well, I mean, that was one of the things that we learned with this podcasting course was, you know, your default pattern, right? I know that that was one of the places I first picked up on how your default patterns was through, you know, Sam,

Shelley R Shearer 27:30 right and consistency, Sam, just, you know, what, what is he? What does Sam always say? My favorite expression is Sam. Repetition reduces resistance. Yeah, I

Brandon Handley 27:39 haven't listened for a while. But um, you know, I still love them like it without without going through that I wouldn't, I wouldn't be where I am today. And so let's talk about what is it you're doing right now? Are you doing the coaching? Are you? Yes.

Shelley R Shearer 27:51 So just getting you just very small. It's just a very, it's new. It's new to me for now. I started coaching back in January, took on my first clients, okay, and it didn't actually want to do it. At first, my coach was making me I just want to public speak, I love to talk.

Brandon Handley 28:06 Clearly, you do their job, but you're very well spoken. So thanks, sweetie. Putting it to good use.

Shelley R Shearer 28:12 And I wanted to write a book. But it was like you still have to earn a living. And also there's always there's always the attitude with coaching is that you can't keep all that knowledge to yourself, if you're not, and I'm definitely so I talk about things in my podcasts, something called the sacred gifts. And it was a course I took a number of years ago and that lady is now a personal friend of mine, even though I quote and I called her, Monique ladette MacDonald, Monique, l e da Tila that you can find her anywhere sacred gifts, okay. And she talks about the things that are innately in us, like right out of the gate is one of those neat courses where you take and you realize, Oh, that's not me. That's a skill set. Like administration. I worked in an office for 30 years. All right, not my gift. Okay, I just learned to get good at it. So you can still have great skill sets and everything. But I have the gift of what they call service, and hospitality and knowledge. Those are my three main gifts. So I have to learn stuff. But then I also have to share it with you because what makes it a gift is that you share it with the world. So although I love music, I don't have a gift of music, things like that. It's something I definitely never share with the world.

Unknown Speaker 29:19 It's just not pleasant.

Shelley R Shearer 29:20 But the gift of service was and what I realized early on in my accounting career was that gift was always in play with the smaller clients I was servicing. I was helping you was hospitality was even involved in my knowledge was needed. Right? When I got to be later in life when I was at companies like Bell Canada, one of those big telco companies here in Canada. those gifts were not engaged in I load my accounting work. I thought what happened? It's the same job. So I'm making more money and I've got people reporting to me and I hated it hated every minute of it. So gifts are really important. So the gift of services there regardless and it's innate in me. Therefore, if I know knowledge, I have to be able to share it and coaching is the best way to do that.

Brandon Handley 30:00 Yeah, I love it. I love. I love coaching, I love sharing out that knowledge I love. I love seeing somebody go through the journey, right? I love, I love seeing them come into it too, you know, and just being able to recognize it like just on a visual cue or even like through some phrases, if somebody's like, typing in like Facebook or somewhere and you're like, I know exactly where you are, I know exactly what's going on in your mind. And we should talk, you know, and you know, and that's it's not a, it's not a sign of transaction I'm looking for, right? It's like, Look, this is I can help you if you'd like, kind of thing, right? Or like, so so I get that. And I've seen it, I've seen it called, here's another one of my little rants. But I've seen it called, you know, generational knowledge, right? We need to, we need to pass that generational knowledge. Yes. Right. So I feel almost, and I'm sure there's not intentional in any way, shape or form. But if you look at Western civilization again, especially in the US and Canada, the generations have been divided very much almost purposely, right? Like almost, you know, so, you know, when you get too old, they're like, well, we got to ship you off. We can't take care of you anymore. But like who, where's where's, where are the elders, and in that situation, right to pass,

Shelley R Shearer 31:22 which is a completely score, fundamental belief system, in every Aboriginal or ancient civilization in history. Right. The elders are the holders of the knowledge. We've got to the point that as soon as our kids hit nine, we've got them labeled as Tweenies, or millennials, there's, so they've got this lovely little label, and then they start buying into that indoctrinated propaganda. It's like, No, no, no, stop right now, please. Because all you are right now is just young, you might be growing up in different technology than us. Fair enough. But I think one of our biggest advantages, and just why cannot stand people to say things Oh, I can't be bothered that things will never change.

Unknown Speaker 32:00 Really?

Shelley R Shearer 32:03 Because I'm pretty sure 200 years ago, you would dive in infection because penicillin wasn't invented yet. So that's sort of, you know, willful ignorance. Crazy. Yes, for sure. Do not put our children into a box and then do not ship off for elderly. Right? There is a humongous disconnect here in our society in this in this area.

Brandon Handley 32:20 Right. Yeah. So you see to salutely All right, all right. So you know, this, this kind of innate ability, the, you know, connected to source, kind of reconnecting back to source like, kind of after pushing it aside, or, or just not recognizing it for what it was for a while how, you know, how did that show back up in your life? And what's it been like, since then?

Shelley R Shearer 32:48 I'd have to see it showed back up when I got a handle on accepting that this wasn't a punishment, because that's how I felt I felt God punished me with fibro. Hmm, I get you know, and it's funny, because I wasn't raised necessarily with some of the Catholic belief systems that you know, that things happen because you've been naughty, or that you need to do good things to earn your way into heaven. And like I say, remember, I'm married to a Catholic, and a very good friend. So some of this stuff is not I may know, I've talked to these people, I know how some of the religious doctrine works. And I've never, I've always believed in grace, because being in the Pentecostal church are simply saved, you know, you accept Jesus Christ as your Savior, and the sins are forgiven. And when you're raised with that sort of belief structure, it often makes me surprised how many people hang on to so much guilt and shame, because it's like, well, if you truly believe that you can change as a person and that there was grace and there is forgiveness from a higher source. And Shouldn't you be living in that in that grace? And that, that good stuff,

Unknown Speaker 33:54 right? Why wouldn't you be?

Shelley R Shearer 33:56 Exactly So for me, when I came to the realization that this was not a punishment, and when I also started coaching with my own coach to say, this is a journey, and there's lessons here I need to learn one of the things in you, you and I have Adam in common. One of the his strong belief structures is

Unknown Speaker 34:16 so you're able to edit this

Unknown Speaker 34:17 will be good people have dogs,

Unknown Speaker 34:21 because

Unknown Speaker 34:22 you can always get up and walk away for a second and I can monitor if you're, it's okay.

Unknown Speaker 34:28 All she's doing, she can't

Unknown Speaker 34:29 see.

Shelley R Shearer 34:31 So one of the things that he really hammered home for me in our coaching sessions were that life happens for me, not to me,

Brandon Handley 34:37 that's a great trend. And

Shelley R Shearer 34:38 when you can get your head around that as an individual, it changes everything. It changes how you look at every situation. And in fact, although maybe not 100%, you know, across the board relatable, it saved my marriage even when I was struggling a year or two ago because instead of looking at the lame, like, what are you doing? And how I'm feeling about it? Sure. Again, back to the emotions follow thoughts. Of course, I'm going to think negative or feel negatives, when all I'm thinking is he's this he's that he's, what other response is your body going to have? Or your subconscious going to accept? Negative? Yeah. So when you can take responsibility for yourself, which is what really started this journey, and then believe that life is for me, well, if it's for me, then that means everything is for me. So what do I need to take out of this situation? Well, I wouldn't have a podcast, I wouldn't be coaching, which I love. Excuse me, I wouldn't have been able to even help my son through so much of what he's gone through the last few years, because I was literally just two steps ahead of him going through my own stuff. I wouldn't have been able to repair some of the relationship with my parents. And now that you know, there are failures, you know, they've got dimension, my mother has been diagnosed as well. So she doesn't remember speaking me sometimes the day before, which is very sad. But it made me look at all of that very, very differently. What was the lesson here for me?

Brandon Handley 36:11 The idea of taking 100% ownership for your life. You know, I understood the concept, and I went and I saw cheese. Who's the Chicken Soup for the Soul guy? Okay, so I went saw him. He really great. Yeah, really great presenter, right. But he said, You know, he goes, just try it for a little bit, just try to take 100% ownership, because because if you take you know, 100% ownership for everything, everything, including like everything, everything included yet, then you know everything, it's on you, right, you've got that responsibility. But if you just take responsibility for 99% of it, that's, that's not gonna work. Right? So you've just so much is 1% can throw it off for you. And it's kinda like you said to, you know, they say this, and I think the data, you know, either all of it, or none of it is God. And just like Albert Einstein says, to either everything or nothing is a miracle. Right? Like miracles. So I love that mindset, right, and making that shift that the world is out there for you. I don't know if you're familiar with a book that I love is called, are you ready to succeed? Um, I've

Shelley R Shearer 37:29 read that one.

Brandon Handley 37:30 So make a note of that one. Oh, good. I mean, I'm on my, I'll probably read it for my fourth time this year, because, you know, I'll read like a chapter a week, and you do the exercises in it, and you go through it. And in that book, he just talks about how you know, of Indian descent.

Unknown Speaker 37:46 How

Brandon Handley 37:48 the benevolent universe has Montana, right? It's a benevolent universe. And if you can find, you know, what good the universe is kind of doing for you on your behalf today, then, that's a game changer. It is. And also to your relationship example, right? I view my relationship as a gift and opportunity for me to recognize what my triggers are. Right? If

Unknown Speaker 38:16 that's a good one. Yes. Right. Your

Brandon Handley 38:18 triggers are what are my triggers? Right? Because if I'm, if I'm, you know, it goes to that, that little letter writing exercise I'm sure you're familiar with, like, if I write you a letter, if I write a letter to someone that's pissing me off, and blah, blah, blah, and all these things that are annoying me about them? That's a reflection on myself. Right? Yes. Well, so the reverse is true, though, too. So if I write a letter of like, all the admirable traits, you know, those are the things I admire about myself, right? So I'll catch myself in the relationship situation be like, Oh, my gosh, she doesn't do those who didn't do that? I'm like, neither did I. Right. Right. So so I just look at it as kind of like an opportunity for me to recognize what my triggers are. And that was a lesson for me, because and again, too, if we don't address those triggers are the things that are always blown up in our face, they will always be there.

Shelley R Shearer 39:09 Yes. And they will always control you. So you will always be doing the neat what we like, like I like to call the knee jerk reaction versus the planned response. Where would you rather live that planned response or a knee jerk situation where your subconscious is controlling? I always love that analogy with the iceberg. And there's the waterline, and here's what everyone sees what we think is our reality, right? And then this is our subconscious, huge compared to up here.

Brandon Handley 39:37 Right? Right. So I mean, the video may not go out so I'm gonna just explain so you know, she, she just drew like, kind of a triangle and it's literally only like, in 5% maybe on the top and 95% on the bottom, which, you know, I always we can accord to your conscious and your subconscious. Yes, absolutely. Absolutely. So, um,

Unknown Speaker 39:58 you know, the

Brandon Handley 39:59 idea Spiritual dope is kind of like, we can get these spiritual, right we can get like these spiritual highs, right? Like it just like like, Oh man, I just feel like so filled with source and just filled with life. What where does that come for you like what are some of your spiritual highs? What are some of your spiritual dopes?

Shelley R Shearer 40:21 Definitely family and when I say that I'm married into an amazing family, and I have my granddaughter as well. And you know, it's funny, you should just mention that. For some reason, it just popped into my mind growing up with the Bible, and the fact that you were two or more gathered together, the Bible says there will be also wood, you know what, that is actually a universal truth. And we see it every day and mob mentality, we thinking how does all those people get crazy and will because they became a group and the energy became a force of nature, the negativity that a few people were feeling, they surrounded themselves with it. So I remember my parents telling me growing up, he was very important to go to church on Sunday for that food. And I'm thinking as I got older, like, whatever. But actually, that is very true in our lives. It doesn't necessarily have to be church for you find the friends, I found my tribe, and especially my neighborhood. So when I got sick, and we were able to move up the street into a house that had rental suite, so we didn't have to downsize was a gift, just a gift from God. And because these people, these ladies, especially in this neighborhood, and even the men, they're our friends, they're our support network. And where we are gathered together, there is positive energy. And there is thought and there is solutions talked about and not just gossip that we're looking for. You need to make a decision and actively go search for that in your life. Now, if it's going to church on Sundays, great, just don't get involved in a lot of negativities everyone's going to hell but you nonsense, because that's really roughly not going to give you what you need. There are still reasons why people gather, right? Why there are powers in numbers because exponentially our energetic beings of ourselves or a field grow and feed off each other. That's why kids and gangs run around doing bad things. And it gets worse. And the opposite is true. For sure.

Brandon Handley 42:16 I just finished reading on force versus power by Dr. David Hawkins. And he talks a little bit about this too. Like I mean, this is a you read about you read about people to spend time with Yogi's, right and how they're all just kind of sitting there and meditation and then all of a sudden, like they get that whatever happens right? They get that head of spiritual dope and like what, but he calls it it's a vibrational entrainment. So like, if you guys are all hanging out vibrating at a certain level, then you guys are also increasing each other's vibration.

Shelley R Shearer 42:48 Exactly. or something. I actively search for that in my life. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 42:53 yeah, no, absolutely. But I mean, that's what they tell you to go find people that are beyond where you are today, right? go seek those people out. And for the people that are listening that like the woowoo stuff, that's one of the reasons why is because you are in an entrainment field then. Right,

Shelley R Shearer 43:11 exactly.

Brandon Handley 43:12 How much fun is that? Like, I mean, it may make us right makes me and that's and i think that i think that you know, again, this podcast is also geared towards like taking all this spiritual energy and applying it to a successful kind of business and place What would you say, you know, how have you taken like your spiritual energy and infused that to a more holistic business practice? I would say

Shelley R Shearer 43:41 I don't think I will actually the simple answer that is I don't think I could coach without it if I hadn't made that choice and that change wouldn't be coaching okay. I just wouldn't be I was my old self is too logical to right or wrong to not self yes an ego but I was very independent and bit bit of a loner, and I still am to a certain extent I'm what they call an extroverted introvert. I need a lot of downtime to recover. And being I guess, being a bit of Pathak, I guess they call it people's emotions affect me. And I really had to learn to protect myself while still giving back. So if I hadn't come to some of those realizations, yeah, I would still just be doing accounting work and worrying about debits and credits, not about people's well being.

Brandon Handley 44:27 Tell me tell me a tool or visualization or something you use to protect your energies. And I asked this because I don't have that problem. Like I like I am. I'm not an MP, right. Like I like, I like people and I feel your emotions and we're all cool, but like it doesn't. I don't feel it. Right. So but I do know people that experienced the same thing. So what do you do to protect your energy?

Unknown Speaker 44:58 Yeah. Oh,

Shelley R Shearer 44:59 that's an interesting one. I have to be careful what I read and watch on TV for starters. Okay, very much so because it affects me, it affects my sleep and affects my thought patterns. I do take a lot of quiet downtime. And in fact, we'll be going back, you know, we don't wait up to our family's home in penticton, which the Okanagan Valley here in BC, fruit wine country for us, that's lovely. And we have a little house that I lived in as a child and has always stayed in the family. And I'm going to head back up there for a few weeks. Next month on my own, I want to do the outline for the book, because I just need to be out of the energetic field of sometimes all the chaos that's even going on in my own home. Just people I've had students that live with us and get it done. And I do you need to just decompress a lot, watching what goes in my brain, I take it all on. And what I didn't realize is when I was younger, one of the things about being my personality trait was amplified in this aspect, not realizing I had empathic abilities, in the fact that I just shut myself down, I built a really strong wall around myself, and didn't let me out very often. Because they didn't know how to protect that it was just I might as well have just, you know, stuck my heart out of my chest, lay there and let you poke needles at it. And it's like, that's just a bizarre visual. But that's almost like what felt like to me. So now I work very hard at not over scheduling my days. And not being with people day in and day out. I cannot do that very hard to my husband who's a true extrovert. But for me, people drain me they don't charge me He is a full on. We've done this, this and this now let's go to the after party because I'm gonna get you set up. I'm like, Oh my gosh, let

Brandon Handley 46:37 me go home to my bathtub. Definitely, definitely more the after party kind of guy. That's okay. So

Shelley R Shearer 46:44 you're the after party and kind of guy or not.

Brandon Handley 46:45 I am okay. At least I was right. Like, I mean, it's been, you know, my whole journey has been, you know, just kind of letting go some of the things that didn't serve me like so now I'll shut down and be like, you know, if I'm in a fun man and party atmosphere, I'm like, nothing here for me go have fun. I'll see you guys later. Right? Like, because I'd rather go watch Autobiography of a yoga

Shelley R Shearer 47:10 Yogi. Okay, you know what I mean? But that's the big thing is recognizing it about yourself. So many people remove themselves from the situation without understanding why they're doing it. The understanding of the motivation is

Brandon Handley 47:21 so important. I think that, you know, we could probably wrap it with with something like that, where you started off with that, right, recognizing where your emotion was coming from, which was being driven by a thought. And then not just recognizing that being able to transform that energy, right? It's an immediate, it's kind of like the old old school railroad tracks right here it comes to train the trains already gone. The beautiful thing about the train that we run and operate in our mind is that we can switch those tracks at any time.

Shelley R Shearer 47:53 Yes, exactly. So I've always loved the expression, like you say, to end this here, I've always loved the expression, it's all in your mind. Because it is a full believer on that I believe in the placebo effect, I believe that we have the ability to change based on how we think about things. So really understanding what you need as an individual and taking that time, and not allowing people that don't understand how paths work draining me all the time. That has been a godsend for me. And the big thing too, is that you cannot apologize for it, then quit apologizing to the world around you. That doesn't understand. Like I say I'm married to an extrovert, full on and because I'm social social story, people always thought we were the same. But I need very, very different recovery tools than he does. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 48:41 was important to recognize. So thank you. That's definitely some nice tools. I think for people that experienced that. Me on like a lead ball, like I don't even know. Right. So and it's that's okay, too. So what, where can we send people to hang out with you? I mean, it's been a ton of fun. I will keep going. But I have absolutely no,

Shelley R Shearer 49:00 I know we do. And we're gonna we'll do this again soon, I promise. And I'd love to have you as guest on my show as well, because I my listeners would just I have a very large male demographic of all i don't know why but I do. And so they would just love they love it. When I do interviews. You can reach me anywhere at living well with shell that is the name of the Instagram page, the Facebook page, my email living well with Shell at gmail, the generic one. Anything living well with Shell, you will find me on social media.

Brandon Handley 49:24 Awesome. So thank you so much for coming on today. I really enjoyed it. Thank

Shelley R Shearer 49:27 you for having me. It's been wonderful. We'll see you soon. Absolutely. Excellent.

Unknown Speaker 49:32 Thanks for listening to the spiritual Dell. And thank you, Shelley, for being on the show. Spiritual dub. Be sure to follow us on Facebook and on our website does spiritual dope.com

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Brandon Handley 0:00 Hey, spiritual zope Welcome back to chapter two of a real of chapter two of Are you ready to succeed in a real, where we're picking up from where we left off, we just got done learning, we just got done learning that your life is a reality. And we got done learning that it your problem may be that you think that this is the reality. And again, we kind of we wind unwind some of these mental models that we've created for ourselves, and the idea that we, we create all these things that are simply not real, right? These are just perceptions based off of what we think we know, and then driving it forward. So he comes in here as srikumar Rao says, Hey, you know, then Escape is possible. All right, Escape is possible. And he says, if your life is a reality, then perhaps you could shift it. And that's awesome, right? So just knowing that there are multiple options, I mean, think about family guy and the multiverse, right? Maybe you can shift it or you know, think about any time travel, movie, even Back to the Future, we go go into a reality that is created based off of an action that was taken once upon a time, where it's shifted the future, because you chose a reality. I mean, when you, we put it this way to, when you make your next move, when you take your next action, you have an outcome in mind. That's, that's the, that's the reason why you take action on it. And sometimes, that action that you take, gives you the outcome that you were looking for, sometimes it doesn't, right, so that you have multiple realities going forward. And the idea is, you can possibly shift it, right. So now the deal is, again, if it is the reality, then the life that you have now is the life that you will always have. And it's going to turn out, you know, in a specific, three determined and destined way, right? There's nothing you can do about it, suffer, just live it. And he illustrates this with a nice story. And again, I don't feel like it's a it's really my place for to really go over the stories. So much, because I've given so much of the book away, that really drive these points home, I just really feel like, again, he does a really good job of pulling some of these stories together. So that he can help to illustrate these points that he's created here. And again, I'll go with the whole idea of you, you choose your reality, you know, you have the ability to choose a reality going forward. And it's not necessarily the reality, how many times have you, you know, just kind of felt and thought some way, in any scenario, gone through life, you know, stomping your feet, you know, five years goes by next thing, you know, you have a conversation with a friend or the person or thing where you're like, man, I thought that like, you know, when you did this thing, you know, you were such a jerk, or we did this thing, I thought that was so awesome. And they come back to you. And like, that's not really how it was at all. Here's what really happened and like, it causes like ripple effect to go to the past. Right? Because it has totally changed the storyline. Now the storyline is wholly changed based off of this new information going backwards. Right? So there there are multiple realities in that scenario. So let's take a look at an alternate reality. And let's also let's let's determine, you know, what is your most important asset? Perhaps it is your ability to be happy, to be fulfilled, to be choice? Would you give this asset to boss to somebody? Would you give this asset to anybody really? And the deal is, no, you wouldn't. Why would Why would you give that asset away? Why would you give your ability to kind of be happy, on demand to be fulfilled, on demand to be joyous on demand. So why why put that in somebody else's hands

Brandon Handley 5:00 And then the other. The other idea too is when somebody outside of us knowing you, somebody just you know, they're making you frustrated, they're their actions are, you know, kind of pissing you off? The idea is like when you're annoyed, does that, does that poison your entire attitude? Why would you let somebody else outside of you? poison your attitude? And that and the deal is you're giving your most valuable asset over to another, you're letting somebody outside of you control how you feel. Think about that for a second, does that make any sense?

Brandon Handley 5:46 I mean, the answer is that it doesn't really make any sense. So how then, how then can you avoid giving power over your happiness to someone else? That's a that's the real question that you you want to ask. And srikumar Rao says that when you ask yourself this question, and you truly wish to find the answer, then chances are you're going to have a powerful breakthrough. So he says that you will slip into a parallel universe that has always been available to you, but you've never looked for it. Think about it, again. This this is if this is ringing true, then then you'll know it right? This is this is ringing true. And you know that there's a parallel universe has always been available, and you haven't really looked for it, or you've begun to kind of slip in and out of it, then then it's kind of like, Wow, I can't believe this is in a book. Right. He also, this reminds me of a quote I saw yesterday to Anthony de Mello, who is, by the way featured inside of this book. And he has this quote, which is the spiritual quest is a journey without distance you travel from where you are right now, to where you've always been, from ignorance to recognition. Again, I think that really relates to this, what Sreekumar said here, you will slip into a parallel universe has always been available to you, but you never looked for it. Mm hmm. Each time, and these aren't things, and a lot of this, I did not pick up on the first time I read through it. So it's interesting, because, again, I didn't I didn't, I didn't read, I've been through this three different, at least three different times, this being my fourth. And the way that I'm reading it, this time is 100%. Different than then how I've read it previously. So over the years, obviously, I'm going back and I'm, uh, I'm learning different things, you know, I'm seeing things differently than I had had before, because the current way of my thinking is different. So he goes through the exercise of an alternate reality. Ideally, you're going to go through some of the ones that you created before, you're going to go through some of, you know, exercise, mental models, you're going to take a look at them, you're going to go ahead and you're going to revise You know, one of them or change something, and then you're going to live that way, within a new mental model, as though

Unknown Speaker 8:48 it were real

Brandon Handley 8:51 knowing knowing that the mental models that that you have created already aren't real. And that's fundamental, you got to understand that the mental models that exist in your life now aren't real. So why not create a new one? helpful hints on the exercise Ultimate Reality is a nice story to the Yeah, so it gives a he does give a nice story that essentially outlines that what happens when you accept blame for others attitudes, right? So say somebody is outside you and the they blame you for how they feel. We know that this isn't true. We know this isn't true. We talked about it already. We talked about the idea of, you know, giving giving your assets over someone else, letting someone outside of you dictate how you feel inside. Alright, so the same now can be said of somebody outside of you if they're coming to you. And they're saying hey, You're You make me feel this way. And that's, that's on you, man, I got nothing, nothing to do with how you feel internally. All right. But he goes a cuter story than that. Again, I'm just, I want to leave some of those. There's some of those that imagination, I can't recommend this book. Enough, obviously, otherwise, I don't think I'd be gone through these exercises. And I just say no, I'm going to post in the video of this outline that I'm reading through to and going through all here. So if you want to go through and check out the video and see somebody outlines for yourself, you can go ahead and check out the video on the webpage spiritual dope coat. And the closing quote from this book are from chapter two. Again, just another one, it's just, I just didn't read these like this. Historically, it's so funny because it's the same book on the same person on the outside. But, you know, whatever's going on inside is totally different. And it's reading things, taking in information totally differently. And I gotta tell you, I'm enjoying it. I'm enjoying it again. Every time I've gone through it, I've completely enjoyed it and each time so it's like it keeps getting better. So the closing quote is your life is hemmed in by the things you know to be true, but aren't. It's time to start setting yourself Bree What is your mental model today? know that it's not real. Know that you can change it at any time at will know that. Know that. You're not beholden to it know that the story or the model that you've created. you invested so much time and effort into that if it's not working for you anymore? King Stop it. Leave it is does it fit? Stop for you anymore? Maybe it serves you at one point. Maybe that model worked for you. Obviously His work has gotten you to this point. Maybe though it's time to make a shift. Maybe it's time to make an adjustment. Anyways, that is it for chapter two. It ain't real have Are you ready to succeed a little bit of a deep dive on this. I hope that you're enjoying these I hope that you check out this book for yourself at some point. If this is something that you'd like to get in on yourself and just participate with me on then and a couple of others then feel free to reach out to Brandon as spiritual dope.co Take it easy

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