We have all been there- either as parents or as bystanders- the "public meltdown"... (enter horror movie music)...

Especially if you come from a trauma background yourself, you are fighting a double battle when your kid flips out in front of others.

We hear "it takes a Village"- what "Village"?? 

Cycle-breaking can feel like you are up against everyone else in the room the thing is happening in (including our own conditioned thoughts).

An amazing thing happened this weekend that showed me we maybe don't need the "Village" as we might picture it...

And what absolutely did make a HUGE difference.

Where my Hermits at?? (OR those who would love to be but feel they "can't"? )

Before Awakening and healing I LOVED being alone...

And after healing I STILL do! 

To some, that may sound anti-social or "mean", but there is MAJOR difference between the unhealed and healed versions of it...

We want something to work so badly that we try to convince ourselves that it's something that it really isn't.

As humans we've all done it at some point- relationships, friendships, jobs...

Sometimes the idea of seeing the truth of the situation is too painful to face so we ignore red flags.

Spirit had to literally close a place to stop me from ignoring what I already knew....

All parents understand this, but even if you're NOT a parent- 

If you have ever tried to tell someone they are doing "something wrong" in front of others...

HOW you approach someone will determine if they TRULY hear you and will show if either (or both!) of you are being led by your heart or drug around by the ego...

What started as a silly battle for the remote between my kid and a family member, turned into such a bigger lesson.

So many of us were raised with people that could "talk the talk" but "walking the walk" was a different story.

Requests to kids are "easy" to do, but can YOU do the thing you are asking for?

And what to do when our reactions get ahead of our awareness (because we're human and it happens!).

We don't get this ONE thing we wanted or thought we needed...

Something TERRIBLE happens to us...

It doesn't feel good at the moment I know, but what if you always knew it was blessing that we don't know why yet.

An amazing story of how something "terrible" happening was a blessing that resulted in a literal miracle....

Selfless, sacrificing, gives her all to her family...

There was something I was looking forward to for a long time and then something "came up" for my husband...

I had to choose who I was going to take care of, and it wasn't easy.

Try this visualization technique if you have trouble choosing yourself too.

A trip to the movie theater with my kid and his friend went sideways omg...

You will never know the depth of your healing in calm waters...

Why keeping up with your healing is so important for when the shit hits the fan, because as humans it will.