Split Tales

In this reflective episode, we revisit Chantelle's tale, unpacking the lessons learned and the themes that resonate with many facing similar situations including:

Uncovering Infidelity and Abuse: A deeper look into the societal and psychological factors that contribute to the underreporting and misunderstanding of domestic violence with Jacinta.

Financial Independence: Kerry Sainsbury brings invaluable insights into the importance of financial literacy and independence, sharing strategies to safeguard one's financial future.

Healing and Recovery: Jacinta returns and discusses the concept of radical acceptance and the path to healing post-separation. The journey towards self-discovery and empowerment post-trauma

 Remember, every tale, including yours, is worth telling.

We're joined by 

Jacinta Black. She can be found at (1) Medusa’s Sanctuary | Facebook

You can reach out to Kerry Sainbury at www.creditsuccess.com.au and Credit Success Pty Ltd (@creditsuccessau) • Instagram photos and videos

Resources for this episode are as follows:

• For domestic, family and sexual violence counselling, information and support service support reach out to 1800RESPECT via phone on 1800 737 732 and online at www.1800respect.org.au  

Split Tales is intended for a mature audience. Episodes discuss topics that can be disturbing including graphic depictions of domestic violence, including emotional, physical and sexual violence, discussions of mental health, addictions and suicide. There is also course language. In some episodes, names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals. The host is not a therapist, doctor or lawyer and opinions expressed from guests on the show are their own and don't necessarily represent Leah’s views or the views of Split Tales.

This episode focuses on the tale of Chantelle

As she finds herself entangled in a web of infidelity and manipulation. Despite her fierce self-sufficiency, Chantelle's journey reveals that anyone can become a victim of an abusive relationship.

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Resources for this episode are as follows:

• For domestic, family and sexual violence counselling, information and support service support reach out to 1800RESPECT via phone on 1800 737 732 and online at www.1800respect.org.au  

Source material used in this episode includes:

• Dopamine Nation, Dr Anne Lembke, 2021, Headline Publishing Group 

• This study stated “note that poor impulse control may underpin both the development of gambling disorders and Intimate Partner Violence” 

• This study stated, “Low conscientiousness and low agreeableness share the common component of impulsivity and inability to delay gratification and are robust predictors of infidelities.” 

• Gambling has been defined in a variety of ways but can be best described as “putting something of value at risk on an outcome that is due to chance. 

• Our results indicated a threefold increase in the likelihood that a person will engage in infidelity if they already have a history of engaging in ESI... 

• Alcohol affects dopamine release in the NAc, not only through its associated gustatory stimuli but also through its direct actions on the brain 

• “Problems in the brain’s self-control network can also lead a person to cheat on their significant other”

• "Globally, gambling has expanded at a rapid pace in recent decades with new technologies and emerging products, and related harms are an increasing concern. The betting sector in Australia is among the most profitable worldwide. The average annual income through betting is roughly $5 billion every year. Most casinos are intended to entice visitors, generating an estimated $4,900 for the Australian betting sector"

• "Although the legal gambling age is set at 18, betting has become increasingly frequent among adolescents in recent years. Shockingly, one out of five individuals who have an issue with compulsive gambling began placing bets before they reached their eighteenth birthday" 

Split Tales is intended for a mature audience. Episodes discuss topics that can be disturbing including graphic depictions of domestic violence, including emotional, physical and sexual violence, discussions of mental health, addictions and suicide. There is also course language. In some episodes, names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals. The host is not a therapist, doctor or lawyer and opinions expressed from guests on the show are their own and don't necessarily represent Leah’s views or the views of Split Tales.

This episode is Part 2 of 2 of Hannah’s Tale’s postmortem where we delve into deeper and more technical topics of coercive control legislation, protective orders and considerations for individuals contemplating leaving a controlling relationship.

Through experiences and examples, our experts cover a range of aspects including evidence documentation, financial planning, understanding abusive patterns and the importance of seeking professional advice.  

We hear from experts; Jacinta Black, a counsellor and Desley Dunn, a lawyer.   

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Resources for this episode are as follows:  

• For domestic, family and sexual violence counselling, information and support service support reach out to 1800RESPECT via phone on 1800 737 732 and online at www.1800respect.org.au 

Reach out to our experts via 

• Jacinta’s facebook group Medusa's Sanctuary

Split Tales is intended for a mature audience. Episodes discuss topics that can be disturbing including graphic depictions of domestic violence, including emotional, physical and sexual violence, discussions of mental health, addictions and suicide. There is also course language. In some episodes, names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals. The host is not a therapist, doctor or lawyer and opinions expressed by guests on the show are their own and don't necessarily represent Leah’s views or the views of Split Tales.

This episode is Part 1 of 2 of Hannah’s Tale’s postmortem.

We discuss and dissect the learnings from Hannah's experience. And we hear from experts; Jacinta Black, a counsellor. Amber Simpson, a financial planner and Desley Dunn, a lawyer.  

Together they form the trinity of separation support. Mind, financial and legal. The pillars that can uphold us when we tread the murky waters of separation. 

The topics tackled in this episode, are the behaviours and the challenges that Hannah battled in her tale.  

The underlying issues of sexual coercion, financial abuse, and co-parenting with child support challenges.

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Resources for this episode are as follows:  

• For domestic, family and sexual violence counselling, information and support service support reach out to 1800RESPECT via phone on 1800 737 732 and online at www.1800respect.org.au  

• If you are someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts or in need of psychological support reach out to LifeLine on 13 11 44 or visit www.lifeline.org.au 

Source material used in this episode includes:  

• “Impact of Sexual Coercion on Romantic Experiences of Adolescents and Young Adults.” C. Collibee and W. Furman (2014) https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4130799/ 

Split Tales is intended for a mature audience. Episodes discuss topics that can be disturbing including graphic depictions of domestic violence, including emotional, physical and sexual violence, discussions of mental health, addictions and suicide. There is also course language. In some episodes, names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals. The host is not a therapist, doctor or lawyer and opinions expressed from guests on the show are their own and don't necessarily represent Leah’s views or the views of Split Tales.

This episode focuses on the tale of Hannah who navigates through an emotionally abusive relationship, its end and the aftermath from her perspective. The podcast episode includes psychological concepts and societal issues such as love bombing, emotional manipulation, financial control and the importance of self-reflection. Hannah discusses the disturbing practices within her relationship, figuring out how to leave, navigating her financial situation, coping with the single parenthood aftermath and learning from a subsequent troubled relationship. 

Follow us at www.splittales.com.au 

Facebook: Split Tales

Instagram: Split Tales

Tiktok: Split Tales

Resources for this episode are as follows:  

• For domestic, family and sexual violence counselling, information and support service support reach out to 1800RESPECT via phone on 1800 737 732 and online at www.1800respect.org.au  

Source material used in this episode includes:  

• “Why Does He Do That? Inside the Mind of Angry and Controlling Men” By Lundy Bancroft (2003 edition) available on Amazon.com 

Split Tales is intended for a mature audience. Episodes discuss topics that can be disturbing including graphic depictions of domestic violence, including emotional, physical and sexual violence, discussions of mental health, addictions and suicide. There is also course language. In some episodes, names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals. The host is not a therapist, doctor or lawyer and opinions expressed from guests on the show are their own and don't necessarily represent Leah’s views or the views of Split Tales.

Real separation stories, told by real people. 

You can expect a kind of "What to Expect When You're Separating" vibe with the quirkiness that comes from relationship breakdowns.

We cover catalyst events that end relationships, child care arrangements & property settlements as well as Do's and Don'ts from those who've navigated a separation before.

Each Tale is followed by a postmortem episode to explore the moral of the story.