11 I have become a fool. You yourselves forced me to do it, for I should have been commended by you. For I lack nothing in comparison to those “super-apostles,” even though I am nothing. 12 Indeed, the signs of an apostle were performed among you with great perseverance by signs and wonders and powerful deeds. 13 For how were you treated worse than the other churches, except that I myself was not a burden to you? Forgive me this injustice! 14 Look, for the third time I am ready to come to you, and I will not be a burden to you, because I do not want your possessions, but you. For children should not have to save up for their parents, but parents for their children. 15 Now I will most gladly spend and be spent for your lives! If I love you more, am I to be loved less? 16 But be that as it may, I have not burdened you. Yet because I was a crafty person, I took you in by deceit! 17 I have not taken advantage of you through anyone I have sent to you, have I? 18 I urged Titus to visit you, and I sent our brother along with him. Titus did not take advantage of you, did he? Did we not conduct ourselves in the same spirit? Did we not behave in the same way? 19 Have you been thinking all this time that we have been defending ourselves to you? We are speaking in Christ before God, and everything we do, dear friends, is to build you up. 20 For I am afraid that somehow when I come I will not find you what I wish, and you will find me not what you wish. I am afraid that somehow there may be quarreling, jealousy, intense anger, selfish ambition, slander, gossip, arrogance, and disorder. 21 I am afraid that when I come again, my God may humiliate me before you, and I will grieve for many of those who previously sinned and have not repented of the impurity, sexual immorality, and licentiousness that they have practiced.
REFLECTIONS
Written by Stephen Shead
Relationships can be so messy sometimes, even in the church. As I reflected on what went wrong in Paul’s relationship with the Corinthians, I realised there were at least two things that contributed to the breakdown.
First, the Corinthians were misinterpreting Paul’s motives. Some of the other churches Paul had founded gave him financial support, and it seems Paul expected or asked them to. But with the Corinthians, he didn’t want to burden them with that cost. He did that out of love – he was never interested in financial gain or taking advantage of people, he just wanted to see Christ formed in them. But there were false teachers in the church who were saying that, because Paul didn’t charge a fee, it showed that he didn’t really care about them – he must be giving them second-rate service.
I can only imagine how hurtful that must have been for Paul. But the devil still uses that strategy to try to damage the oneness of Christ’s people – he tempts us to make harsh assumptions about each other’s motives.
The second factor in the breakdown was the fact that Paul had had to rebuke the Corinthian church for tolerating sexual immorality. I suspect that made them feel resentful towards him. This part really hit home for me. When I’m rebuked, I often let my bruised ego get in the way of receiving it well.
Pray that God would constantly transform our hearts by his Spirit in our relationships with each other. Pray that, whenever we’re tempted to think badly of a brother or sister, we’ll look for the most generous way of interpreting what they’re saying or doing. And pray that, when we are rebuked for an ungodly attitude, we will receive the rebuke with thankfulness and humility.