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  • #18: The Only 3 Ways to Handle Any Problem (and the Mistakes Keeping You Stuck)

    Ever feel like no matter how much you think about a problem… it just doesn’t go away?

    Like you’re analyzing it, stressing over it, trying to figure it out…
    …but somehow, you’re still in the same place?

    Here’s the truth most people don’t realize:
    It’s not the problem that’s keeping you stuck…it’s how you’re approaching it.

    In this episode, we’re breaking down a powerful shift that will completely change the way you handle challenges in your life, business, and mindset.

    Because there are really only three ways to handle any problem…
    and most people are unknowingly choosing the ones that keep them looping in frustration, overthinking, or avoidance.

    If you’ve ever felt stuck in your head, unsure what to do next, or like you’re not making progress even though you want more—this episode is going to hit home.

    We’re also diving into the subtle mistakes that feel productive in the moment…
    but are actually keeping you exactly where you are.

    This is about taking your power back, getting out of mental loops, and finally moving forward with clarity and confidence.

    • What You’ll Start to See Differently:
    • Why the way you’ve been handling problems might be the real issue
    • The hidden patterns that keep you stuck in overthinking or inaction
    • How to shift from feeling overwhelmed… to feeling in control
    • A simple but powerful framework to move forward (without overcomplicating it)
    • 02:59 Why Problems Stress Us
      04:36 Your Brain On Autopilot
      08:33 Take Off Your Doom Goggles
      09:36 Albert Einstein's Advice
      12:24 Get Out of the Problem
      14:52 Don't Let Problems Grow Roots
      18:13 How Complaining Reinforces
      20:51 I Made All the Mistakes
      25:18 Problems Are Growth
      26:39 Three Options Overview
      27:50 What Can You Do About It
      29:50 Create Space
      31:35 Time to Let Go

      Music by: https://laceybortvit.com/

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      YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarlitSuccess

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      34 min
    • #17: The 12 Universal Laws That Will Change How You Experience Life

      What if the reason your life doesn’t feel as aligned, fulfilling, or “easy” as you want… isn’t because you’re doing something wrong, but because you’re missing something foundational?

      In this episode, we’re diving into a powerful concept that completely shifted how I see life, success, and even everyday experiences. These aren’t things most of us were ever taught, but once you become aware of them, you start to see patterns everywhere.

      If you’ve ever felt like:

      • You’re doing everything "right", but something still feels off
      • You want more ease, clarity, or flow in your life
      • You’re ready to grow, but not sure what’s missing
      • You feel like there’s a better way to experience life… but you can’t quite put your finger on it
      • This episode is going to open your eyes in a whole new way.

        We’re talking about the unseen principles that are always at play -whether you’re aware of them or not- and how understanding them can shift your mindset, your energy, and the results you’re creating.

        Because when you start to see how things actually work beneath the surface…
        You stop feeling like life is happening to you, and start realizing how much power you really have.

        Inside this episode, you’ll discover:

        • Why life can sometimes feel out of sync (even when things look “fine” on the outside)
        • The hidden patterns influencing your thoughts, actions, and outcomes
        • How small internal shifts can completely change your external reality
        • A new perspective that can bring more clarity, ease, and intention into your everyday life
        • This isn’t about doing more.
          It’s about understanding more so you can move differently.

          If you’re ready to elevate how you experience your life… this one is for you.

          00:30 Why Universal Laws Matter
          04:36 Law of Divine Oneness
          08:44 Law of Vibration
          14:55 Law of Correspondence
          18:02 Law of Attraction
          21:14 Law of Inspired Action
          25:21 Transmuting Negative Energy
          28:54 Karma Cause And Effect
          31:51 Rewards And Compensation
          34:29 Perspective And Relativity
          36:33 Opposites Create Contrast
          38:28 Respect Your Natural Rhythm
          42:24 Law of Gender
          45:46 Applying The 12 Laws
          46:33 Final Thoughts

          Music by: https://laceybortvit.com/

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          YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarlitSuccess

          Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starlitsuccess/?hl=en

          48 min
        • #16: How to Stop Overthinking and Finally Take Action

          Do you ever feel like you want more out of life… but somehow you keep ending up in the same place?

          You tell yourself you’ll start next week.
          When things calm down.
          When you feel more ready.
          When you have more time, energy, or clarity.

          But deep down… you know something’s off.

          In this episode, we talk about what’s really keeping you stuck and why it’s not what you think.

          Because it’s not a lack of time.
          It’s not your circumstances.
          And it’s definitely not because you’re not capable.

          It’s something much more subtle… and once you see it, you won’t be able to unsee it.

          If you’ve been:

          • Feeling stuck in the same patterns
          • Constantly overthinking your next move
          • Starting and stopping without real progress
          • Telling yourself “I’ll do it later”… but later never comes
          • This episode is going to shift something for you.

            We’re talking about the mindset shift that moves you from thinking about change… to actually creating it.

            Because your next level isn’t about having everything figured out...
            it’s about becoming the kind of person who knows how to move despite that.

            If you’re ready to stop waiting and finally start showing up for your dream life...

            Press play.

            04:55 But Not Until Everything is Perfect
            07:35 It's Not That Serious
            12:08 You Can Learn Anything
            13:20 Photoshop Transformation Story
            15:18 What You Create is Your Baby
            19:09 Walt Disney Knew What To Do
            21:58 Build Confidence Through Obstacles
            24:21 Questions To Ask Yourself
            25:16 Ready Fire Aim
            26:55 Wrap Up And Call To Action

            Music by: https://laceybortvit.com/

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            • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarlitSuccess
            • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starlitsuccess/?hl=en
            • 28 min
            • #15: Feeling Unfulfilled? 7 Signs You're Meant for More

              Feeling stuck or restless lately? It might not be burnout, it could be a sign you're being called to something bigger.

              Sometimes the signs that it's time to follow your purpose are subtle. Other times they're impossible to ignore.

              In this episode of the Starlit Success podcast, we explore 7 powerful signs that life may be calling you toward something bigger, and why so many people hesitate when those signs appear.

              If you've been feeling the pull toward a new direction, a new mission, or a more meaningful life, this conversation may help you recognize what's really happening beneath the surface.

              In this episode you'll discover:

              • The surprising reason many women feel unfulfilled even when life looks successful
              • Why external changes (new jobs, new goals, new things) rarely fix the deeper feeling
              • The subtle signs that your soul may be calling you to something bigger
              • How recognizing these signs can help you move from autopilot living to intentional living
              • Why feeling “off” might actually be the beginning of a powerful transformation

              Your purpose rarely arrives with a perfectly clear roadmap. It often begins with a whisper, a quiet sense that you're meant for something more.

              The question is: are you listening?


              04:28 The Mistake Most People Make When Life Feels Off
              11:36 The Wake-Up Call
              15:07 The Hidden Signs Your Life Is About to Change
              15:44 When You Start Questioning Everything
              18:19 The Quiet Voice You Can’t Ignore
              19:19 What Happens When You Start Waking Up
              24:34 The Moment Your Vision Starts Expanding
              26:09 The Shift From Autopilot to Intention
              29:42 What To Do If These Signs Sound Familiar

              Music by: https://laceybortvit.com/

              Connect with me!

              YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarlitSuccess

              Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starlitsuccess/?hl=en

              33 min
            • #14: Masculine vs Feminine Energy - Why Your Life Feels Out of Balance

              Do you ever feel like you're constantly in hustle mode… juggling work, responsibilities, relationships, and an endless to-do list?

              Or maybe you’re in the opposite season of life—feeling stuck, uncertain, or unable to take action, even though you know you want something more.

              Most of us experience one of these two extremes at some point:
              • Burned out from constantly pushing and doing
              • Stuck and unsure how to move forward

              What most people don’t realize is that both of these experiences often come from the same root cause.

              In this episode of the Starlit Success Podcast, we’re exploring the two powerful energies that influence every area of your life—your productivity, relationships, emotions, intuition, and ability to move forward.

              When these energies are out of balance, life can feel like you're either:

              • constantly pushing, striving, and overwhelmed

              or

              • waiting, hesitating, and struggling to take the next step

              But when these energies come back into alignment, you move from:

              • Burnout to Balance
              • Chaos to Clarity
              • Stuck to Starting
              • If you feel like you’re always doing everything for everyone else… or you’re in a season where you feel called to something more but don’t know how to start, this episode may help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.

                Inside this episode, we explore:

                • The two hidden energies that secretly shape your daily life
                • Why so many high-achievers get stuck in constant hustle mode
                • Why some of us feel stuck or unable to move forward
                • How imbalance can lead to burnout, stress, or lack of direction
                • The subtle shift that helps you move from overwhelm or stagnation into alignment

                When you begin to understand how these energies work - and how to balance them - you may start to see your life, your patterns, and even your relationships in a completely new way.

                Because sometimes the reason you feel burned out… or stuck… isn’t a lack of effort.

                It’s simply that your energy is out of balance.

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                • 01:32 My Old Misconceptions
                  03:30 Why This Matters
                  06:54 Masculinity Versus Masculine Energy
                  07:54 Toxic Myths
                  11:57 Feminine Stereotypes
                  18:05 Healthy Masculine Energy
                  21:54 Feminine Energy Explained
                  25:30 Yin Yang Balance
                  28:10 When Energies Clash
                  29:15 Balancing for Growth
                  33:12 How To Balance Daily
                  36:45 Final Takeaways

                  Music by: https://laceybortvit.com/

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                  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarlitSuccess

                  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starlitsuccess/?hl=en

                  38 min
                • #13: Why Your Backup Plan Is a Plan to Hold You Back - Here's What You Actually Need

                  You’ve been told having a Plan B is smart… but what if it’s keeping you stuck and subconsciously preparing you to fail?

                  In this episode of the Starlit Success Podcast, we challenge the “safety net” mindset and reveal why your backup plan might be secretly sabotaging your biggest goals. We’ll explore a mindset shift that could change everything about how you chase your dreams and why going all in on your Plan A could be the key to real success.

                  If you’ve ever felt stuck, unsure, or like something is holding you back from achieving your dreams, this episode will make you rethink everything you thought you knew about planning for success.

                  01:14 Why Plan B Hurts
                  04:11 The Plan B Effect
                  05:11 Celebrities Go All In
                  07:16 Burn the Boats Mindset
                  09:03 Replace Plan B With Alignment
                  13:28 Backup Strategies Not Backup Plans
                  14:14 Detour Story Lesson
                  18:01 How to Live Plan A Only

                  Music by: https://laceybortvit.com/

                  Connect with me!

                  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarlitSuccess

                  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starlitsuccess/?hl=en

                  22 min
                • #12: 5 Reasons Your Goals Keep Stalling (and What to Do Instead)

                  You don’t lack motivation or discipline.
                  And you’re definitely not lazy.

                  So why do you keep setting goals… just to lose momentum?

                  If you’ve ever felt excited in the beginning, only to procrastinate, feel overwhelmed, or just give up a few weeks later - this episode is for you.

                  The truth is, most people aren’t failing because they don't want their goals bad enough.

                  They’re failing because of how they’re going after them.

                  In this episode, we break down the 5 subtle goal-setting mistakes that keep you stuck, spinning your wheels, and wondering what’s wrong with you - even when you genuinely want the result.

                  We’re talking about:

                  • Why you might be making progress harder than it needs to be
                  • The hidden reason you feel busy but not fulfilled
                  • The mindset shift that makes consistency feel easier
                  • And what actually creates lasting momentum
                  • If you’re tired of starting over…
                    If you’re done living on autopilot…
                    If you’re ready to make real progress instead of just planning it…

                    Listen to this episode.Your future self will thank you.

                    03:00 The Vacation Analogy: Why Clarity Creates Momentum
                    07:59 Goal Setting Tips & Tricks
                    11:45 Why Multitasking Kills Progress
                    20:02 Find Your One Domino Goal
                    25:07 Build Your Backwards Process
                    30:22 There is Never a Perfect Time
                    33:30 Consistency Over Comfort
                    40:36 Chasing Money vs Meaning

                    Music by: https://laceybortvit.com/

                    Connect with me!

                    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarlitSuccess

                    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starlitsuccess/?hl=en

                    49 min
                  • #11: How To Be A Successful Quitter (and Stop Forcing What Isn't Meant for You)

                    What if quitting isn’t failure… but a necessary path to alignment?

                    In this episode of the Starlit Success Podcast, we reframe what it really means to quit, and why walking away from the wrong path might be the most powerful move you ever make.

                    So many of us are stuck living on autopilot.
                    Staying in careers that drain us.
                    Chasing goals that don’t excite us.
                    Holding onto identities that no longer fit.

                    Not because we love them, but because we’re afraid to look like quitters.

                    But here’s the truth: you don’t build a life of purpose by forcing what isn’t meant for you.

                    You build it by getting honest about what feels aligned… and having the courage to release what doesn’t.

                    In this episode, I share my personal journey of quitting - from childhood activities to career paths to business ventures, and how each pivot brought me closer to clarity, confidence, and my calling.

                    We talk about:

                    • The difference between quitting and giving up
                    • How to know when something is misaligned vs. just challenging
                    • Why the sunk cost fallacy keeps you stuck
                    • How your intuition acts as an internal GPS
                    • Why alignment creates momentum
                    • How letting go creates space for purpose
                    • Even people like Steve Jobs and Oprah Winfrey quit roles that didn’t align with who they were becoming. They didn’t quit their dreams, they quit the wrong path.

                      If you’ve been feeling drained, forced, or disconnected from your work and your life, this episode will challenge you to ask a powerful question:

                      Am I persevering… or am I settling?

                      You don’t quit your dream, you quit what’s blocking it.

                      If you’re ready to stop forcing and start living in alignment, this is the episode for you.

                      03:07 When It’s Worth Walking Away
                      09:56 Fear, Reputation, and Making Space for Better Opportunities
                      13:26 Your Internal GPS: Negative Emotions as Rerouting Signals
                      15:24 Don’t Quit Because It’s Hard Quit What’s Misaligned (Mic/Podcast Example)
                      20:11 “Life’s Tuition”: How Quitting Teaches You What You Actually Want
                      25:50 The ‘Professional Quitter’ Era: Trying Everything
                      30:59 Quitting vs. Failure: What You Love, You Push Through
                      31:57 My Anti-Quit Formula Discovery
                      37:21 Clearing Space & Listening to Your Body’s Knowing
                      39:19 Signs It’s Time to Quit
                      44:37 Final Takeaways: You’re Not Behind + Questions to Ask Yourself

                      Music by: https://laceybortvit.com/

                      Connect with me!

                      YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarlitSuccess

                      Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starlitsuccess/?hl=en

                      47 min
                    • #10: Master the Art of Saying NO (How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Selfish)

                      If you’ve ever said yes when every part of you wanted to say no…
                      This episode is for you.

                      If you feel stretched thin, emotionally drained, resentful, or like everyone else’s needs come before your own…
                      This episode is ESPECIALLY for you.

                      So many of us are living on autopilot. We constantly say yes out of habit, guilt, fear of disappointing others, or fear of being judged and then wonder why we’re exhausted, burned out, and disconnected from ourselves.

                      In this episode, we break down why saying no feels so hard, why it triggers guilt for so many of us, and how learning to set boundaries is one of the most powerful life skills you can develop. Not just for your time and energy, but for your self-worth, confidence, and overall fulfillment.

                      We talk about:

                      • How people-pleasing tends to be a survival or approval strategy
                      • How constantly saying yes trains others to overlook your needs
                      • The emotional and energetic cost of weak or nonexistent boundaries
                      • Why saying no is actually a form of self-respect
                      • How resentment builds when your boundaries aren’t honored (even if you never say it out loud)
                      • And how learning to say no actually improves your relationships instead of damaging them
                      • We also talk about practical mindset shifts and real-life examples to help you start setting boundaries without being harsh, cold, or defensive, especially if you’re someone who wants to be kind, helpful, and supportive.

                        This isn’t about becoming rude or unavailable.
                        It’s about becoming intentional.

                        Because when you don’t consciously choose how your time, energy, and attention are spent, your life starts running on autopilot, giving power to other people’s expectations instead of your own values.

                        If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, underappreciated, or like you’re losing yourself trying to keep everyone else happy, this episode will give you new tools, language, and perspective to start reclaiming your power with one honest “no” at a time.

                        Press play and learn how boundaries aren’t walls, they’re the foundation for a life that actually feels like yours.

                        01:43 Consequences of Always Saying Yes
                        05:05 Saying No to Yourself
                        06:21 Financial Impacts of Being Agreeable
                        09:20 Personal Experience with Saying No
                        12:21 Respecting Your Time and Setting Boundaries
                        14:59 Effects of Overcommitting
                        19:18 Helping Others by Saying No
                        25:14 Practical Ways to Say No
                        27:17 Aligning Decisions with Values
                        40:05 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

                        Music by: https://laceybortvit.com/

                        Connect with me!

                        YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarlitSuccess

                        Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starlitsuccess/?hl=en

                        41 min
                      • #9: Watch Your Mouth: 5 Ways Your Words Are Blocking Your Dream Life

                        Have you ever stopped to really listen to the way you talk?

                        Not just what you say out loud to other people, but everything. The little comments, jokes, the offhand remarks, and things you repeat so often they feel like facts.

                        The truth is, your words are doing a lot more than you think. In this episode, we talk about five common ways your language might be working against you. How it shapes your mindset, reinforces old patterns, and keeps you stuck in ruts you’re trying to break. And the crazy part is most of us don’t even realize we’re doing it.

                        We get into things like:

                        • How statements like "“I’m just bad at…” program your brain to stop trying
                        • Why joking about being broke or too busy isn’t as harmless as it feels
                        • The sneaky power of “I have to” vs. “I choose to”
                        • How constantly speaking in the past or future disconnects you from change in the present
                        • And why your subconscious takes everything you say seriously, even if you don’t
                        • This episode isn’t about watching your every word or being unrealistically positive. It’s really about having awareness. Once you start noticing how you speak, you start noticing why certain patterns keep repeating. Things like your confidence, your energy, your money, and your sense of possibility.

                          We talk about simple ways to start shifting your language without forcing affirmations that don’t feel true. How you can start with small, intentional tweaks that create powerful momentum over time. If you’ve been doing “all the right things” but still feel stuck… If you feel like your mindset work isn’t fully landing… Or if you’re ready to stop accidentally talking yourself out of the life you want… This conversation will hit home. Listen with curiosity, and start paying attention, because your words might be telling a bigger story than you realize.

                          00:50 The Impact of Words on Your Subconscious
                          03:40 Language and Your Identity
                          09:42 The Need for Empowerment
                          13:52 What Do You Even Want
                          18:09 Stop Sending Mixed Signals
                          23:09 You Are More Than Capable
                          32:24 What Stories Are You Telling?

                          Music by: https://laceybortvit.com/

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                          YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarlitSuccess

                          Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starlitsuccess/?hl=en

                           

                          35 min

                        About Starlit Success

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                        The Starlit Success podcast is a show designed for those feeling unfulfilled with the daily grind of life. Hosted by Certified NLP and Success Coach, Jessica Gaines blends practical self-development tools, mindset shifts and spiritual principles to help you recognize your limitless potential, discover your true purpose and align with your passion to create your ultimate dream life.